True love explained | Abraham Twerski

a young man why are you eating their
fish ISS because I love fish
you love the fish that’s why you took it
out of the water and killed it and
boiled it he said don’t tell me you love
the fish you love yourself and because
the fish tastes good to you
therefore you took it out of the water
and killed it and boiled it so much of
what is love right is fish and so young
couple falls in love young man the young
woman fall in love what does that mean
that means that he saw in this woman
someone who we felt could provide him
with all of his physical emotional needs
and she thought in this man somebody she
feels that she can write that was love
right but each one is looking out for
their own needs it’s not well for the
other the other person becomes a vehicle
for for my gratification too much of
what is called love is fish love an
external love is not on what I’m going
to get but what I’m gonna give we had an
ethicist Rabbi Destler who said the
people make a serious mistake in
thinking that you give to those whom you
love and the answer is the real answer
and this point is if I give something to
you I’ve invested myself in you right
and since self-love is a given
everybody loves themselves now that part
of me has becoming you but there’s part
of me he knew that I loved so true love
is a love of giving not a love of
receiving [Music]