How to love and be loved – Real meaning of True Love | Will Smith

so me and Jada was reflecting about love
and I asked her I said what does she
think was you know one of the biggest
revelations that she had had about love
she said that you cannot make a person
happy you can make a person smile you
can make a person feel good you can make
a person laugh but whether or not a
person is happy is deeply and totally
and utterly out of your control we came
into this false romantic concept that
somehow when we got married that we
would become one and what we realized is
that we were two completely separate
people on two completely separate
individual journeys and that we were
choosing to walk our separate journeys
together but her happiness was her
responsibility and my happiness was my
responsibility we decided that we were
going to find our individual internal
private separate joy and then we were
going to present ourselves to the
relationship and to each other already
happy is it’s kind of unrealistic and
can be destructive to place the
responsibility for your happiness on anybody other than yourself