Hello everyone, welcome back to English With Lucy
Today, we have invited a special guest
Welcome Caroline Goyder
Hello everyone
Caroline, can you tell us about yourself?
what are you do for living?
I am a voice trainer, and before that in
Many years of working with English teachers
Briefly, I am very familiar with this area
I remember standing on the stage
Argentina to teach a group of students in the English scene
As the focus being watched makes me feel extremely nervous
Now I teach people is how to handle being a focal point of the
Yes, so what we want to discuss today
Is how calm and confident in a variety of situations
We selected five kinds of situations
Then 11 Share
Caroline will guide you
How to show more confidence
We have this special way to celebrate International Women’s Day
International Women’s Day and support the “courage to change” campaign
Where do you teach English before it?
In Bo Lanxi north Gojav
Is a magical but very unlikely to go places
After you accept Professor of English training
I really like it
Why would you choose it over there?
I saw a poster in school
So I thought, Oh, to have a job in hiring
Then I went to Poland
Is a great experience, I Ai Bolan
everything is fine
I’ve never been to Poland
There are a lot of viewers subscribe to my channel is from Poland
So I guess they should want to hear you say a few Polish
(Polish)
Hey, I also know a word
That word seems to say – (Polish)
Yes, it is the meaning of Cheers
A drink, then say when
Piwo is a word associated with beer
I hope you do not feel I am not behave in Poland
But I guess you would have had a happy there
That is what opens up your voice coaching career of it?
My training as an actress in drama school
But honestly I’m not a bad actor
Ok
I would like to but do not want to be an actor working in theater
So finally I became a voice trainer
Under all odds, I begin my beloved work accident
I started when voice trainer
It is found that this is something I really want to do
And want to do for a lifetime, this is a superb work
Although at first was unintentional
How long do you voice trainer of it?
Almost two decades
Wow, you must have very much experience
Yes, I think I’m getting old
I’ve seen you talk about confidence in the TED talk that part of the movie
Because I know that part of your movie
How did you come into contact with the TED talk of it?
Ah, I think a lot of things will happen
Because of accidental
I was being trained TED x Brixton
Director Stephanie asked me:
You have to talk about what could get out of it?
I said, ah I should have
So I said how I joined TEDx
They accepted, and that is what I do in 2014
Amazingly, during that speech actually three million click-through
Wow, congratulations
Super high CTR
Yah, thank Youtube
Oh yes
So today we are going to talk about
Confident performance in a variety of situations
I chose five scenarios
Included in the party
When appointments, do presentations, interviews
As well as on the phone
I’m looking forward to this video results
Because I received a lot of audience requirements
I hope we can share presentations, public speaking skills as well as an appointment to talk
I find expert today
Through a wealth of experience
Ready to share the recipe for everyone
Let’s say for a party
In the party, people face the first meeting
To show how confident it?
According to first-line access to some of the actors I experience a few years ago
I get a lot of experience
I wrote a book about the front-line actors talk about self-confidence
I visited a lot of front-line actors
Please share how they feel confident
Because I think they are super confident
Results are not
They do not look as confident as we
really?
Yes, one says so
Is Hailunmilan
I was surprised too
Yes ah, such a beautiful woman say
So yeah stable person
Yes
She said: If I need a show after party
Do you know the actors often need
They will be held prior to the opening party
A bunch of similar occasions
She said she felt very nervous
The first look at a skill
First, pay attention to your body
You have to relax the shoulders
Breathe, concentrate your voice
She said: I hate that
Discuss this topic at the International Women’s Day is really good
As women
Nervous when our voices become shrill
And our voices already high
So Hailunmilan said: keep the voice sounds relaxed
Oh
I think this is a very important point
Maintain a relaxed state, shoulders relaxed focus sound
Followed by other techniques
Is 乔治克隆尼 sharing
And not …
You see 乔治克隆尼?
No, although I would like
What a pity
乔治克隆尼 have escaped with Johnny Depp
Ha ha ha ha
乔治克隆尼 that met everyone’s time
He will be thought of as an old friend see
With this thought adjust their behavior with his way of speaking?
Yes
Interesting
You can imagine his face right now
There are two unchecked control of muscle around the eye you
Only when you meet an old friend, will be issued a sincere smile wrinkled
Yes
Such heartfelt smile and a name called Duchenne smiles (Duchenne smile)
Everyone will follow to relax
Duchenne smile is not it?
Give it a try, very effective
So you need to close your eyes? Or should be how to do?
As long as you think you are to meet an old friend
Then you’re chatting with them to renew old friendships
Your brain chemicals naturally trigger all
As long as you’re thinking about talking to an old friend
Imagine how would you smile while chatting with old friends, is the way
Your face will be very relaxed, your voice will relax
Brain chemistry is amazing
magical
I never knew this could also
In addition to just say two third tips
When you walk into a party
You want to think I will stay here for five minutes
This technique is a very introverted person taught me
She is also an actress, she said
I used to go to the party was afraid
Like going to the gym, I was not very comfortable
But if I said to myself, anyway, I’m just waiting for five minutes
I it will be longer than expected
In fact, because a lot of fun
If you say Anyway, I just wait five minutes
To the other side before you have a drink
You start to feel enjoy
Will want to stay longer
Said to myself: even afraid
But I also just waiting for five minutes
Then find someone to chat with old friends like the same dialogue
Always remind myself shoulder to relax
You will do well
To focus on sound
Yes, and do not high-pitched shrill
Is that true, when I face the camera
Will speak with the voice lower than usual
And when I first met with people who speak
Sound seems to be a few degrees higher than usual
Ah, I pay more attention
Well, the next lot of people want to know when the situation is dating
And this question is because I recently posted a date on (date) video
I want to teach you English say about the date of
A lot of people are very excited before the release
Because they thought I would say about dating content (date) of
The results I’m talking about things like numbers, date of
Then how do we behave when dating is very confident it
Especially in the first one or two appointments, but also unfamiliar time
I asked a friend skillful dating expert
I said: So what in the end is the secret?
She said that she was actually with me to learn
I was super surprised because she said:
You taught me the skills that many years ago about the show
I apply it at the time of appointment
The only thing to do
Note that this is a show of skill
You have to tell yourself: I’m beautiful, I’m in love with someone
And I have a secret
A total of three is not it?
Yes, you need three things to say to yourself:
“I’m beautiful” – when you think the eyes will be light
Most people can not all the time eyes are shining light
Thinking, “I’m beautiful” will be able to give you a glowing magic
Think “someone loves me.”
This triggers your brain chemicals
With a warm temperament to show up when you
Thinking “I have a secret” that will make you more shining
Then you really need to have a secret?
Of course, any good
Ah, I want a faster out
WikiLeaks does not need to be secret level it
Point is that you want to appear hidden
Mind some abstract idea
Some naughty thoughts on a trip?
I’d have some kind of thing
That’s enough
So your eyes shining light
The people will kind of style
She said: When I was dating or partying
This technique let me shines
People think I’m a funny person, I would like to close
Many times our minds
Are often some very negative thoughts
Yes yes
Everyone is like this
I’m not very often dating someone
But when I have a date, I look in the mirror before appointment
Always feel not quite right
“Hey, he should think I am boring bar.”
But I guess if I benefit of the doubt should be a bit better
Yes
Here we can link to another show of skill
It was also taught me
If you always worry about are things ring true
Stop this idea
Into thinking: If all goes too well how to do
Imagine if you have a happy dating
You smile, the two sides get along very comfortable
You walked in a more relaxed look
This will start a positive cycle
You think of something positive, optimistic
Only the bright side
This is psychological warfare
About appointment of psychological warfare
I am married, listen to me right
What is that to have a happy dating but also pay attention to it?
I think that you just dating expert friend
She was always a date? But they are still only a few representative?
Ah, it should be said that only a few times but have been very successful
This ah
She may also see
Hey Nikki
The third skill that it?
The third technique is the date when
We thought to have been running on about
But in fact, not
I think the focus is
To ask the question is will
Then listen, imagine
This is introverted people realize Heart
I was a shy person
I do not have a date, but I still need to party
Contact with strangers I do not feel comfortable
So I will “ask questions” to deal with
I also realize from teaching the same experience
I opened the conversation class
The class has some very shy student
But when I asked some want to understand their problems
They feel that I pay attention to them, they want to know
Suddenly began to pour forth
This move is very effective
Especially embarrassing situation have nothing to say against the
This embarrassment on a date or meet new people often have
Ask some intelligent questions, then continues to follow
Problem can be prepared in advance
Not all, have a few spare questions like
Waiting for you to ask questions and listen carefully
You will naturally have a series of successive questions can be asked
For example, someone says: I am super Aisaiweier (Spain Xi Nanbu city)
You can back: Oh dear, where Xavier’s?
Someone might say: There is a fabulous tapas bar
Bar method is kind of how? I have not yet eaten tapas
Dialogue will go on like this
You can continue to carry from their answers
Show that you’re interested to know more about the way
You seriously think their answer is very important
Sometimes when you talk to some people
You can feel their eyes dazed, has been emptied
It was awful
But then bad
There will be no spark
Be sure to listen carefully, to ask good questions and then
Once asked a good question
Dialogue with people and you will feel you pull into the distance
Good advice
Then I would like to ask u tips on public speaking
Or briefing
We have a lot of viewers are still college students
Some office workers need to do presentations
Require the use of non-native speakers to speak to a large group of people
Pressure is very large
I think that’s a very difficult public speaking
Even my mother tongue
Let alone a second, a third foreign language
You can teach it to our audience?
First, it is definitely very difficult
Like you said, public speaking has been horrible enough
You’re not that good but also with language
Say the wrong words can not escape or hide
Is terrible
So I usually say to begin with
If you need to use language not so good
You have to practice more than twice
When I teach my clients to brief rehearsal
I ask them to come up with mobile phone
Find out the functions of the phone recordings of rehearsals and then record your own voice
This is what I practice very thoroughly tips
When I say my second language – when Spanish
I recorded and then listen carefully
Will find a lot I did not notice the error
Said time did not realize
Lean more
Yes
But I found that I truly repulsive practice
So would you do?
Such is human
Why is this so?
We will find trouble I do not want to practice
And not a fun thing
We also do not like to hear their own voice
This feeling now want to force myself a bit like the gym
You should be very clear to the gym,
Go out to run a race
The most difficult step is step out that door
But you want to force yourself,
Press the record button and start rehearsing
Only repeated practice and listen to recorded
You can break the blind spot for errors
Learn and make progress
I said to the customer’s native language briefing
If the presentation is very important, please rehearse three times
As people use a second language
To rehearse it at least six times
Until you think to get started
When you are very skilled
Speak out will be simpler and more natural
I agree with what you say
The second skill that it?
The second trick is to relax your body
Ready control in your stomach fluttering butterflies
How I suddenly tense up
Breathe, hold
Butterflies have to fly to outlaw
We describe the feeling of tension in the English language
Would say that the stomach has butterflies flying
Yes, it is very common to describe
If you are very nervous, kind of strange feeling abdomen
Really a bit like butterflies fly in it
So we have to control the butterfly
Not flying
To uniform, like when performing the same fleet lined up formation
Try to hold these butterflies Flurry
The feeling of tension transformed into a positive force
Yes
For performers who came to power needs
Adrenaline is a good thing
Although I hate that feeling of adrenaline high
For example, before the first date
I really can not cope
Anyway, I was quite confident person
But that extra nervousness
Fluttering butterflies in the stomach feeling, I really do not like
But you say this feeling is a good thing?
Yes
Oh?
And nervous is human nature
Because taut ready to respond
Feel that feeling of abdominal butterflies
Is a source of strength
Because I’m going to play it
It is also an excited expression
Adrenaline is an alert state
Makes you perform better
As long as you do not use, “Oh bad, again” in the mood to look at
Many professional athletes and performers
Have received such training
How to stabilize themselves, how to breathe
So before you play, my suggestion is
Do not busy checking your e-mail
Or playing video
Allows you to do some cool things
Go for a run, swim, or just sit quietly
U like it can be meditation
Let cool in their own state, even though the adrenaline
You’re still cool
Then let the adrenaline you can play a positive role
If you are too impetuous, for example, drank four cups of coffee,
Phone chat with friends,
Busy replying to a message, Whatapp with people
Busy these things, it is not good to let adrenaline into play
So let yourself calm down
From the body begins to steady down and struck even the feeling of tension
Psychology is still calm
You can get good control
well
The third skill that it?
The last tip is that when you walked on stage
Look to the audience
You know them as people
This secret with 乔治克隆尼 just said a bit like
Like when I have to face in the audience
At first I will first spend a little time
Before the official start
I will talk to the audience chat
Find a few people from the inside
They talk about the purpose of today, want to know what
They are interested in those topics
If you do not have time, I will ask the audience directly on stage
Some people have a special question to ask?
I have seen your TED talk video you do
I think it is a very interesting approach
Because I have not seen as others have done
I now know the reason behind the
What do you feel when speaking face the masses?
As an introvert person
Everyone is watching me feeling scares me
Is a very terrible feeling
But if I then I think about the audience
I think I have come to help them
Let them get skills want to know, the focus is no longer on my own
Then I entered the heart flow state flow conditions (refer to the individual activities of some spiritual force fully operational sense)
I began to feel like a chat as easily
Now as we sit here chatting feeling
You will want came to power, too comfortable
The only difference is there are thousands of people looking at you in front of you
Ha ha ha
And if you talk to the audience on the stage some of the chat
You know what they are today in order
You will not have been thinking about their own
You know you have a mission to reach
Rather than just innocently standing on the stage
If you want me myself, I can not be done TED talk in speech
When I stood on the TED podium, I am not thinking of my own
But also how to share some helpful things to the audience
awesome
Really thank you very much
I think these are very helpful to me
Because an increasing number of occasions recently
I need to make presentations or speeches
I once joined a focus group
Then I found that in addition we have a great experience in the
I feel a little hurt
If I knew then these tips
I should be able to better control their tension
Go for a run, what do yoga stretch
It should do so, but I ran a cup of coffee
Do not drink coffee
The next will not
I would choose green tea, or go jogging
Or drink a lot of water
And one more thing
A lot of people in preparation for English certification examination
For a job
If English test
Would be more Haozhaogongzuo
Of course, they have to participate in a job interview
So I am often asked about the interview techniques
What can you share?
Yes, because I also spent a lot of time
Guide people Job Interview Tips
The job interview is very scary right
super
The interviewer is simply the devil
There are some tips to cope
Those who feel being examined
Beginning to know that this is a job interview
So you, indeed, been very carefully reviewed the
Yes, totally
No way
Has always been uncomfortable tight situations
So keep calm calm
By the same token
Prior to the interview room
Tell yourself, focusing on
What kind of people are looking for each other
Besides performing a trick here
When you walk into the interview room
You are helping the interviewer for their lack of language courses, vocational
Find the right person
You are helping them make the right decision
So the purpose is not to pick the person you Ti
And let the interviewer can quickly and clearly screening
When you switched to this as the purpose of the interview that field
It is the interviewer’s expectations, and you empathy them
Such thoughts will help you get rid of “everybody was watching me”
“Everyone I pick Ti ‘idea
So you change your idea
This is really a good idea
Because it is possible that you do not really suitable for the job
It does not matter
Sometimes we just have to accept the fact
So even if they are rejected will not be so bad
I often think if I like someone
But he does not like me
I just thought, well that’s no way
I am not ordained his people
The same idea can also be used on a job interview
Yes this is the same thing
It is also helpful to build their confidence in you
Yes
The second skill it?
Breath is also very important in interview situations
Breathe?
When you are asked a very difficult question
think about it
Someone asks you a really hard question to answer
For me the most difficult question to answer is to say that my own shortcomings
Or similar problems
I hate this question but they love to ask
They just want to see how you respond
You said he needed to breathe?
Awareness of their breathing, how to breathe
Breathing is a very important way
When we suddenly asked tough questions
Our breathing is so
A little exaggeration, but that’s the way thoracic breathing
This does not help breathing
You should use the back to assist breathing
Pay attention to your spine
You feel the spine
If you look at the way you exhale
Like a breath blow out a candle
Then inhale breath
You can feel your spine ups and downs between the breathing
More relaxed
Relatively calm
But also relax your shoulders
Help you relax, look very calm under pressure
Then you get the job good chance
Because you seem to know how to cope with stress
Let your spine to assist your breathing gateway
The secret is to imagine you smell a very sweet taste
Oh
Fortunately, you smell really fragrant, so do not imagine
Haha
thank you for telling me
Although you can not smell, but really smells
The third technique it?
The third technique is very serious
Is on Channel 4 in the BBC
An official program of economic sharing editor
In the morning hours of BBC Channel Four
Worth listening program
He is responsible for editing economics class
His name is Simon Jack
In a book called the Gravitas
In his illustrious CEO visited, he found what qualities
He visited some of the fourth channel
He said: those outstanding CEO have in common
They coherent
When they answer questions
Not directly answer thrown out
Their answers will be like this: this issue can be explained by three points
Oh
They will step by step
The article listed the things to say
Orderly
Yes
Usually stressful times
Will fall to think of the words are thrown out
Try want to know a lot to show the way
But a better way should be categorized
Yes
Layers of advancing
To understanding
Of course, if a very simple question
You do not need this, only when the issue is somewhat complicated
Your head a little crashed
Type of column can force yourself to express the idea of brain tissue
You have to take a deep breath and ponder
Order how to say
So the second skill with techniques to use with third
They complement each other
very interesting
The last situation we are discussing today
In a telephone call
My students think
English Listening to them is very difficult
I’m sure you noticed
I said probably no problem, reading, writing very good
But hearing a bit …
Let them off cards
Can not see each other’s lips, do not see body language
Even the voice on the phone to speak face to face with all different
You want students to express confidence on the phone have any suggestions?
Because it is also important in the Richangshenghuo
Communication by telephone is really hard
I can not see people talking with you
See their reaction
Do not know if they agree with what you say
Is very difficult right
The first technique is also a performing skills
Is named actress Anna Massey said
She has died
She said: When I was talking on the phone with someone
I imagine they are sitting on the sofa
Sitting at home, even though I had not seen them
I also imagine their faces
This is a very useful skill to imagine
Help you shape the other side
You will feel some curiosity on the other side, I do not even talk with customers
I imagine them sitting where
What to wear, what they look like
I imagine a real person
Not just a strange illusion of sound
Figurative meaning of each other’s way
Is the first step
I like
Then you think they call gesture
Imagine Through their voices
For what you say
Behind them is what kind of mood reply
Yes, so you have to be very focused
It is also helpful
You will not miss a message
The second technique is a bit biased presentation skills
I was many years ago
Wu from teaching English experience out
When we speak English
As you just mentioned
Appropriate emphasis also helps the listener to accept the message
Ok
Cadence
Like a poem of the same Hamuleite
When you think of to be or not to be
Is a problem
Like this
Find the rhythm in which the
Other languages do not necessarily have this rhythm
For example, Spanish has a set of different rhythms
When you’re on the phone
Referring important term or action
Those so-called “Keyword”
Strengthen the force
You can hand to assist with the beat
In case you can not see the other side
My name is Caroline, we have to discuss today
Emphatic Usage
When it comes to the focus of my hand and will increase aid
But other end of the phone who can not see
Just remember to open the video when not to do just fine
Yes, be careful when video
I once when video is so
Super embarrassed, I was in a radio show in
I thought it was only broadcast
So I wore a bathrobe
Until I read the email carefully
Video is found
Very ashamed
modern technology
Fortunately, I did not speak hand to the beat
But if I should do just the phone
If you want to just how the phone can be
How can
That last tip it?
Today is the last skill
Today’s final tip
That is, if you feel nervous about talking over the phone
But you must work performance, then you stand up
stand up?
My father always done so yeah
My father is a managing director of class
When he was talking on the phone at home is always paced
I thought he was just knee discomfort
Now I know he may hope more momentum
This is very impressive, but it may actually be knee pain
Stood up and let your voice more powerful channel
When standing strong to be relatively simple speech
Make you sound more powerful, more relaxed
To help breathing
Simply put, is to make what you have better
I found myself talking on the phone when
It is natural to stand up
Went to the window to see what’s
So stand up and really work
Added to that
This is the dubbing will do
When they help the soundtrack
They will coordinate body movements
They are usually standing dub
With exaggerated gestures
Because the gesture will lead all
Tone, etc.
When I give a master, I followed the sound becomes higher
I handle low-level, the sound will be lowered
So stand up, while the ear close to the phone
Hands free to do actions
then
Luanhui but you are not fit to say
Your speech will be more powerful channel
Easier to listen
Very good advice
thank you
If someone wants more in-depth
Learn more Phone English
Caroline has a video course
All about confidence expressed in the phone
And it’s free
Are interested to know if
Link underneath the video information in
Thank you Caroline, very honored to have you come
I think learned a lot
I hope you also learn a lot
If you want to track more dynamic Caroline’s
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You can also watch her TED talk video
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Today, we have invited a special guest
Welcome Caroline Goyder
Hello everyone
Caroline, can you tell us about yourself?
what are you do for living?
I am a voice trainer, and before that in
Many years of working with English teachers
Briefly, I am very familiar with this area
I remember standing on the stage
Argentina to teach a group of students in the English scene
As the focus being watched makes me feel extremely nervous
Now I teach people is how to handle being a focal point of the
Yes, so what we want to discuss today
Is how calm and confident in a variety of situations
We selected five kinds of situations
Then 11 Share
Caroline will guide you
How to show more confidence
We have this special way to celebrate International Women’s Day
International Women’s Day and support the “courage to change” campaign
Where do you teach English before it?
In Bo Lanxi north Gojav
Is a magical but very unlikely to go places
After you accept Professor of English training
I really like it
Why would you choose it over there?
I saw a poster in school
So I thought, Oh, to have a job in hiring
Then I went to Poland
Is a great experience, I Ai Bolan
everything is fine
I’ve never been to Poland
There are a lot of viewers subscribe to my channel is from Poland
So I guess they should want to hear you say a few Polish
(Polish)
Hey, I also know a word
That word seems to say – (Polish)
Yes, it is the meaning of Cheers
A drink, then say when
Piwo is a word associated with beer
I hope you do not feel I am not behave in Poland
But I guess you would have had a happy there
That is what opens up your voice coaching career of it?
My training as an actress in drama school
But honestly I’m not a bad actor
Ok
I would like to but do not want to be an actor working in theater
So finally I became a voice trainer
Under all odds, I begin my beloved work accident
I started when voice trainer
It is found that this is something I really want to do
And want to do for a lifetime, this is a superb work
Although at first was unintentional
How long do you voice trainer of it?
Almost two decades
Wow, you must have very much experience
Yes, I think I’m getting old
I’ve seen you talk about confidence in the TED talk that part of the movie
Because I know that part of your movie
How did you come into contact with the TED talk of it?
Ah, I think a lot of things will happen
Because of accidental
I was being trained TED x Brixton
Director Stephanie asked me:
You have to talk about what could get out of it?
I said, ah I should have
So I said how I joined TEDx
They accepted, and that is what I do in 2014
Amazingly, during that speech actually three million click-through
Wow, congratulations
Super high CTR
Yah, thank Youtube
Oh yes
So today we are going to talk about
Confident performance in a variety of situations
I chose five scenarios
Included in the party
When appointments, do presentations, interviews
As well as on the phone
I’m looking forward to this video results
Because I received a lot of audience requirements
I hope we can share presentations, public speaking skills as well as an appointment to talk
I find expert today
Through a wealth of experience
Ready to share the recipe for everyone
Let’s say for a party
In the party, people face the first meeting
To show how confident it?
According to first-line access to some of the actors I experience a few years ago
I get a lot of experience
I wrote a book about the front-line actors talk about self-confidence
I visited a lot of front-line actors
Please share how they feel confident
Because I think they are super confident
Results are not
They do not look as confident as we
really?
Yes, one says so
Is Hailunmilan
I was surprised too
Yes ah, such a beautiful woman say
So yeah stable person
Yes
She said: If I need a show after party
Do you know the actors often need
They will be held prior to the opening party
A bunch of similar occasions
She said she felt very nervous
The first look at a skill
First, pay attention to your body
You have to relax the shoulders
Breathe, concentrate your voice
She said: I hate that
Discuss this topic at the International Women’s Day is really good
As women
Nervous when our voices become shrill
And our voices already high
So Hailunmilan said: keep the voice sounds relaxed
Oh
I think this is a very important point
Maintain a relaxed state, shoulders relaxed focus sound
Followed by other techniques
Is 乔治克隆尼 sharing
And not …
You see 乔治克隆尼?
No, although I would like
What a pity
乔治克隆尼 have escaped with Johnny Depp
Ha ha ha ha
乔治克隆尼 that met everyone’s time
He will be thought of as an old friend see
With this thought adjust their behavior with his way of speaking?
Yes
Interesting
You can imagine his face right now
There are two unchecked control of muscle around the eye you
Only when you meet an old friend, will be issued a sincere smile wrinkled
Yes
Such heartfelt smile and a name called Duchenne smiles (Duchenne smile)
Everyone will follow to relax
Duchenne smile is not it?
Give it a try, very effective
So you need to close your eyes? Or should be how to do?
As long as you think you are to meet an old friend
Then you’re chatting with them to renew old friendships
Your brain chemicals naturally trigger all
As long as you’re thinking about talking to an old friend
Imagine how would you smile while chatting with old friends, is the way
Your face will be very relaxed, your voice will relax
Brain chemistry is amazing
magical
I never knew this could also
In addition to just say two third tips
When you walk into a party
You want to think I will stay here for five minutes
This technique is a very introverted person taught me
She is also an actress, she said
I used to go to the party was afraid
Like going to the gym, I was not very comfortable
But if I said to myself, anyway, I’m just waiting for five minutes
I it will be longer than expected
In fact, because a lot of fun
If you say Anyway, I just wait five minutes
To the other side before you have a drink
You start to feel enjoy
Will want to stay longer
Said to myself: even afraid
But I also just waiting for five minutes
Then find someone to chat with old friends like the same dialogue
Always remind myself shoulder to relax
You will do well
To focus on sound
Yes, and do not high-pitched shrill
Is that true, when I face the camera
Will speak with the voice lower than usual
And when I first met with people who speak
Sound seems to be a few degrees higher than usual
Ah, I pay more attention
Well, the next lot of people want to know when the situation is dating
And this question is because I recently posted a date on (date) video
I want to teach you English say about the date of
A lot of people are very excited before the release
Because they thought I would say about dating content (date) of
The results I’m talking about things like numbers, date of
Then how do we behave when dating is very confident it
Especially in the first one or two appointments, but also unfamiliar time
I asked a friend skillful dating expert
I said: So what in the end is the secret?
She said that she was actually with me to learn
I was super surprised because she said:
You taught me the skills that many years ago about the show
I apply it at the time of appointment
The only thing to do
Note that this is a show of skill
You have to tell yourself: I’m beautiful, I’m in love with someone
And I have a secret
A total of three is not it?
Yes, you need three things to say to yourself:
“I’m beautiful” – when you think the eyes will be light
Most people can not all the time eyes are shining light
Thinking, “I’m beautiful” will be able to give you a glowing magic
Think “someone loves me.”
This triggers your brain chemicals
With a warm temperament to show up when you
Thinking “I have a secret” that will make you more shining
Then you really need to have a secret?
Of course, any good
Ah, I want a faster out
WikiLeaks does not need to be secret level it
Point is that you want to appear hidden
Mind some abstract idea
Some naughty thoughts on a trip?
I’d have some kind of thing
That’s enough
So your eyes shining light
The people will kind of style
She said: When I was dating or partying
This technique let me shines
People think I’m a funny person, I would like to close
Many times our minds
Are often some very negative thoughts
Yes yes
Everyone is like this
I’m not very often dating someone
But when I have a date, I look in the mirror before appointment
Always feel not quite right
“Hey, he should think I am boring bar.”
But I guess if I benefit of the doubt should be a bit better
Yes
Here we can link to another show of skill
It was also taught me
If you always worry about are things ring true
Stop this idea
Into thinking: If all goes too well how to do
Imagine if you have a happy dating
You smile, the two sides get along very comfortable
You walked in a more relaxed look
This will start a positive cycle
You think of something positive, optimistic
Only the bright side
This is psychological warfare
About appointment of psychological warfare
I am married, listen to me right
What is that to have a happy dating but also pay attention to it?
I think that you just dating expert friend
She was always a date? But they are still only a few representative?
Ah, it should be said that only a few times but have been very successful
This ah
She may also see
Hey Nikki
The third skill that it?
The third technique is the date when
We thought to have been running on about
But in fact, not
I think the focus is
To ask the question is will
Then listen, imagine
This is introverted people realize Heart
I was a shy person
I do not have a date, but I still need to party
Contact with strangers I do not feel comfortable
So I will “ask questions” to deal with
I also realize from teaching the same experience
I opened the conversation class
The class has some very shy student
But when I asked some want to understand their problems
They feel that I pay attention to them, they want to know
Suddenly began to pour forth
This move is very effective
Especially embarrassing situation have nothing to say against the
This embarrassment on a date or meet new people often have
Ask some intelligent questions, then continues to follow
Problem can be prepared in advance
Not all, have a few spare questions like
Waiting for you to ask questions and listen carefully
You will naturally have a series of successive questions can be asked
For example, someone says: I am super Aisaiweier (Spain Xi Nanbu city)
You can back: Oh dear, where Xavier’s?
Someone might say: There is a fabulous tapas bar
Bar method is kind of how? I have not yet eaten tapas
Dialogue will go on like this
You can continue to carry from their answers
Show that you’re interested to know more about the way
You seriously think their answer is very important
Sometimes when you talk to some people
You can feel their eyes dazed, has been emptied
It was awful
But then bad
There will be no spark
Be sure to listen carefully, to ask good questions and then
Once asked a good question
Dialogue with people and you will feel you pull into the distance
Good advice
Then I would like to ask u tips on public speaking
Or briefing
We have a lot of viewers are still college students
Some office workers need to do presentations
Require the use of non-native speakers to speak to a large group of people
Pressure is very large
I think that’s a very difficult public speaking
Even my mother tongue
Let alone a second, a third foreign language
You can teach it to our audience?
First, it is definitely very difficult
Like you said, public speaking has been horrible enough
You’re not that good but also with language
Say the wrong words can not escape or hide
Is terrible
So I usually say to begin with
If you need to use language not so good
You have to practice more than twice
When I teach my clients to brief rehearsal
I ask them to come up with mobile phone
Find out the functions of the phone recordings of rehearsals and then record your own voice
This is what I practice very thoroughly tips
When I say my second language – when Spanish
I recorded and then listen carefully
Will find a lot I did not notice the error
Said time did not realize
Lean more
Yes
But I found that I truly repulsive practice
So would you do?
Such is human
Why is this so?
We will find trouble I do not want to practice
And not a fun thing
We also do not like to hear their own voice
This feeling now want to force myself a bit like the gym
You should be very clear to the gym,
Go out to run a race
The most difficult step is step out that door
But you want to force yourself,
Press the record button and start rehearsing
Only repeated practice and listen to recorded
You can break the blind spot for errors
Learn and make progress
I said to the customer’s native language briefing
If the presentation is very important, please rehearse three times
As people use a second language
To rehearse it at least six times
Until you think to get started
When you are very skilled
Speak out will be simpler and more natural
I agree with what you say
The second skill that it?
The second trick is to relax your body
Ready control in your stomach fluttering butterflies
How I suddenly tense up
Breathe, hold
Butterflies have to fly to outlaw
We describe the feeling of tension in the English language
Would say that the stomach has butterflies flying
Yes, it is very common to describe
If you are very nervous, kind of strange feeling abdomen
Really a bit like butterflies fly in it
So we have to control the butterfly
Not flying
To uniform, like when performing the same fleet lined up formation
Try to hold these butterflies Flurry
The feeling of tension transformed into a positive force
Yes
For performers who came to power needs
Adrenaline is a good thing
Although I hate that feeling of adrenaline high
For example, before the first date
I really can not cope
Anyway, I was quite confident person
But that extra nervousness
Fluttering butterflies in the stomach feeling, I really do not like
But you say this feeling is a good thing?
Yes
Oh?
And nervous is human nature
Because taut ready to respond
Feel that feeling of abdominal butterflies
Is a source of strength
Because I’m going to play it
It is also an excited expression
Adrenaline is an alert state
Makes you perform better
As long as you do not use, “Oh bad, again” in the mood to look at
Many professional athletes and performers
Have received such training
How to stabilize themselves, how to breathe
So before you play, my suggestion is
Do not busy checking your e-mail
Or playing video
Allows you to do some cool things
Go for a run, swim, or just sit quietly
U like it can be meditation
Let cool in their own state, even though the adrenaline
You’re still cool
Then let the adrenaline you can play a positive role
If you are too impetuous, for example, drank four cups of coffee,
Phone chat with friends,
Busy replying to a message, Whatapp with people
Busy these things, it is not good to let adrenaline into play
So let yourself calm down
From the body begins to steady down and struck even the feeling of tension
Psychology is still calm
You can get good control
well
The third skill that it?
The last tip is that when you walked on stage
Look to the audience
You know them as people
This secret with 乔治克隆尼 just said a bit like
Like when I have to face in the audience
At first I will first spend a little time
Before the official start
I will talk to the audience chat
Find a few people from the inside
They talk about the purpose of today, want to know what
They are interested in those topics
If you do not have time, I will ask the audience directly on stage
Some people have a special question to ask?
I have seen your TED talk video you do
I think it is a very interesting approach
Because I have not seen as others have done
I now know the reason behind the
What do you feel when speaking face the masses?
As an introvert person
Everyone is watching me feeling scares me
Is a very terrible feeling
But if I then I think about the audience
I think I have come to help them
Let them get skills want to know, the focus is no longer on my own
Then I entered the heart flow state flow conditions (refer to the individual activities of some spiritual force fully operational sense)
I began to feel like a chat as easily
Now as we sit here chatting feeling
You will want came to power, too comfortable
The only difference is there are thousands of people looking at you in front of you
Ha ha ha
And if you talk to the audience on the stage some of the chat
You know what they are today in order
You will not have been thinking about their own
You know you have a mission to reach
Rather than just innocently standing on the stage
If you want me myself, I can not be done TED talk in speech
When I stood on the TED podium, I am not thinking of my own
But also how to share some helpful things to the audience
awesome
Really thank you very much
I think these are very helpful to me
Because an increasing number of occasions recently
I need to make presentations or speeches
I once joined a focus group
Then I found that in addition we have a great experience in the
I feel a little hurt
If I knew then these tips
I should be able to better control their tension
Go for a run, what do yoga stretch
It should do so, but I ran a cup of coffee
Do not drink coffee
The next will not
I would choose green tea, or go jogging
Or drink a lot of water
And one more thing
A lot of people in preparation for English certification examination
For a job
If English test
Would be more Haozhaogongzuo
Of course, they have to participate in a job interview
So I am often asked about the interview techniques
What can you share?
Yes, because I also spent a lot of time
Guide people Job Interview Tips
The job interview is very scary right
super
The interviewer is simply the devil
There are some tips to cope
Those who feel being examined
Beginning to know that this is a job interview
So you, indeed, been very carefully reviewed the
Yes, totally
No way
Has always been uncomfortable tight situations
So keep calm calm
By the same token
Prior to the interview room
Tell yourself, focusing on
What kind of people are looking for each other
Besides performing a trick here
When you walk into the interview room
You are helping the interviewer for their lack of language courses, vocational
Find the right person
You are helping them make the right decision
So the purpose is not to pick the person you Ti
And let the interviewer can quickly and clearly screening
When you switched to this as the purpose of the interview that field
It is the interviewer’s expectations, and you empathy them
Such thoughts will help you get rid of “everybody was watching me”
“Everyone I pick Ti ‘idea
So you change your idea
This is really a good idea
Because it is possible that you do not really suitable for the job
It does not matter
Sometimes we just have to accept the fact
So even if they are rejected will not be so bad
I often think if I like someone
But he does not like me
I just thought, well that’s no way
I am not ordained his people
The same idea can also be used on a job interview
Yes this is the same thing
It is also helpful to build their confidence in you
Yes
The second skill it?
Breath is also very important in interview situations
Breathe?
When you are asked a very difficult question
think about it
Someone asks you a really hard question to answer
For me the most difficult question to answer is to say that my own shortcomings
Or similar problems
I hate this question but they love to ask
They just want to see how you respond
You said he needed to breathe?
Awareness of their breathing, how to breathe
Breathing is a very important way
When we suddenly asked tough questions
Our breathing is so
A little exaggeration, but that’s the way thoracic breathing
This does not help breathing
You should use the back to assist breathing
Pay attention to your spine
You feel the spine
If you look at the way you exhale
Like a breath blow out a candle
Then inhale breath
You can feel your spine ups and downs between the breathing
More relaxed
Relatively calm
But also relax your shoulders
Help you relax, look very calm under pressure
Then you get the job good chance
Because you seem to know how to cope with stress
Let your spine to assist your breathing gateway
The secret is to imagine you smell a very sweet taste
Oh
Fortunately, you smell really fragrant, so do not imagine
Haha
thank you for telling me
Although you can not smell, but really smells
The third technique it?
The third technique is very serious
Is on Channel 4 in the BBC
An official program of economic sharing editor
In the morning hours of BBC Channel Four
Worth listening program
He is responsible for editing economics class
His name is Simon Jack
In a book called the Gravitas
In his illustrious CEO visited, he found what qualities
He visited some of the fourth channel
He said: those outstanding CEO have in common
They coherent
When they answer questions
Not directly answer thrown out
Their answers will be like this: this issue can be explained by three points
Oh
They will step by step
The article listed the things to say
Orderly
Yes
Usually stressful times
Will fall to think of the words are thrown out
Try want to know a lot to show the way
But a better way should be categorized
Yes
Layers of advancing
To understanding
Of course, if a very simple question
You do not need this, only when the issue is somewhat complicated
Your head a little crashed
Type of column can force yourself to express the idea of brain tissue
You have to take a deep breath and ponder
Order how to say
So the second skill with techniques to use with third
They complement each other
very interesting
The last situation we are discussing today
In a telephone call
My students think
English Listening to them is very difficult
I’m sure you noticed
I said probably no problem, reading, writing very good
But hearing a bit …
Let them off cards
Can not see each other’s lips, do not see body language
Even the voice on the phone to speak face to face with all different
You want students to express confidence on the phone have any suggestions?
Because it is also important in the Richangshenghuo
Communication by telephone is really hard
I can not see people talking with you
See their reaction
Do not know if they agree with what you say
Is very difficult right
The first technique is also a performing skills
Is named actress Anna Massey said
She has died
She said: When I was talking on the phone with someone
I imagine they are sitting on the sofa
Sitting at home, even though I had not seen them
I also imagine their faces
This is a very useful skill to imagine
Help you shape the other side
You will feel some curiosity on the other side, I do not even talk with customers
I imagine them sitting where
What to wear, what they look like
I imagine a real person
Not just a strange illusion of sound
Figurative meaning of each other’s way
Is the first step
I like
Then you think they call gesture
Imagine Through their voices
For what you say
Behind them is what kind of mood reply
Yes, so you have to be very focused
It is also helpful
You will not miss a message
The second technique is a bit biased presentation skills
I was many years ago
Wu from teaching English experience out
When we speak English
As you just mentioned
Appropriate emphasis also helps the listener to accept the message
Ok
Cadence
Like a poem of the same Hamuleite
When you think of to be or not to be
Is a problem
Like this
Find the rhythm in which the
Other languages do not necessarily have this rhythm
For example, Spanish has a set of different rhythms
When you’re on the phone
Referring important term or action
Those so-called “Keyword”
Strengthen the force
You can hand to assist with the beat
In case you can not see the other side
My name is Caroline, we have to discuss today
Emphatic Usage
When it comes to the focus of my hand and will increase aid
But other end of the phone who can not see
Just remember to open the video when not to do just fine
Yes, be careful when video
I once when video is so
Super embarrassed, I was in a radio show in
I thought it was only broadcast
So I wore a bathrobe
Until I read the email carefully
Video is found
Very ashamed
modern technology
Fortunately, I did not speak hand to the beat
But if I should do just the phone
If you want to just how the phone can be
How can
That last tip it?
Today is the last skill
Today’s final tip
That is, if you feel nervous about talking over the phone
But you must work performance, then you stand up
stand up?
My father always done so yeah
My father is a managing director of class
When he was talking on the phone at home is always paced
I thought he was just knee discomfort
Now I know he may hope more momentum
This is very impressive, but it may actually be knee pain
Stood up and let your voice more powerful channel
When standing strong to be relatively simple speech
Make you sound more powerful, more relaxed
To help breathing
Simply put, is to make what you have better
I found myself talking on the phone when
It is natural to stand up
Went to the window to see what’s
So stand up and really work
Added to that
This is the dubbing will do
When they help the soundtrack
They will coordinate body movements
They are usually standing dub
With exaggerated gestures
Because the gesture will lead all
Tone, etc.
When I give a master, I followed the sound becomes higher
I handle low-level, the sound will be lowered
So stand up, while the ear close to the phone
Hands free to do actions
then
Luanhui but you are not fit to say
Your speech will be more powerful channel
Easier to listen
Very good advice
thank you
If someone wants more in-depth
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Caroline has a video course
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