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Breaking the spell of loneliness | George Monbiot & Ewan McLennan | TEDxSouthampton


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our dominant ideology is based on a lie

the idea that human beings are

fundamentally selfish some economists

even have a word for this they call us

Homo economicus self-maximizing man

elbowing other people out of the way in

order to enhance our own wealth and

power and it’s certainly true that some

economists behave like that and some

public figures behave like that but it

does not describe the majority of

humankind by a long talk we are in fact

an exceptional species with levels of

altruism and empathy that exceed those

of any other species and and that

capacity for altruism appears to be

innate from the age of 14 months

children will try to help others to

reach something that’s out of their

grasp by the time they’re 2 they will

start to share valued possessions not

just with family members but with

unrelated people something which really

marks us out from the great majority of

animal species by the time they’re three

and they will start establishing moral

norms imposing on their friends and and

and other people they know altruistic

codes don’t behave like that that’s

wrong and all these seem to be innate

and embedded characteristics part of the

normal human psyche but it is quite

exceptional in in in terms of the rest

of the animal kingdom

when it comes to another characteristic

– we are way out ahead of almost all

other species which is our degree of

social interaction the extent to which

we possess social Minds perhaps the only

species which goes further than us is

the naked mole rat but I won’t go into

that today and and these two

characteristics brought together will

create this remarkable moral sense and

an ability to project our moral selves

well beyond our immediate circumstance

and a recent paper in a psychology

Journal points out that Homo economicus

is an excellent description of

chimpanzees and it’s a really bad

description of human beings but the

danger is that if we keep telling

ourselves we’re selfish and greedy and

grasping and we just shove everyone out

the way that that could become a

self-fulfilling claim that we start to

see other people as a social threat we

start to see them as being above all

else competitive in their relations with

us rather than the thing which humans do

better than any other species being

cooperative and I wouldn’t claim that

this is the only thing setting us apart

or the only thing responsible for the

extraordinary levels of loneliness which

that many of the 7 billion people

crowded onto this planet paradoxically

suffer plainly there’s been all sorts of

economic and technological and social

change which have also been responsible

for these horrendous levels of

involuntary social isolation but it’s

bound to be a factor surely if this is

the way that we see other people and we

sense this social threat from other

people that is bound to set us apart and

Ewan and I came together to to challenge

that myth and to challenge the idea

which is completely unscientific that we

are fundamentally as Thomas Hobbes

claimed solitary poor and our lives are

nasty brutish and short they are at

least quite long not nice but to

actually try to stand up to that myth

which had its roots in an understanding

of human evolution which was confined to

the book of Genesis and now what we know

from neurobiology from psychology from

human evolution we know we are not like

that but unfortunately that’s not the

method that’s not the message that often

comes across and what we’ve decided to

do is to use the most powerful medium

human beings have invented for bringing

people together in order to spread that

message and that’s music

we wrote an album called breaking the

spell of loneliness and the first track

laid out our manifesto such a thing of

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we have

it’s working

be together

human

and the glitz that our goal and the

silver shirt we see ourselves in the

image of me have we fought over the

scraps since a very personal

do we really believe

that such a big mess society keeps us

together that makes us human

it’s not to rehearse not how we live in

the depths of the SAS going money too

we lend our hands a stranger’s be mates

we go a mouse or the tremors tenants we

it’s such a big mess society

not me

that’s what Kahneman laughing together

that makes us human

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watch it all weather and the light of

the Sun and the water about meat

United will stand away

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to play

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and I such a big mess Society

and losing their mate it’s black unity

living together that makes us human

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something is plainly going wrong for the

most ultra ultra social of all species

and the sector of our society which

seems to be suffering from it most is

our children childhood should be a time

of lightness and joy but recent

statistics suggest that for many it’s a

time of horrible darkness one figure

that came out well just last week

suggests that children in children here

in Britain girls have increased the rate

of hospitalization for cutting

themselves almost fourfold over the last

ten years there’s something going very

badly wrong here indeed and I think

there are several possible explanations

well what makes this strange is that

parenting seems to have improved almost

beyond recognition in the past 50 years

that that parents are more engaged more

switched on to their children than

perhaps they’ve ever been before fathers

are much more involved and yet all this

really bad stuff is happening at the

same time social media possibly has

something to do with it if it has it’s

great force for bringing us together but

it could also set us apart especially

when it becomes a means of social

comparison and girls for instance using

all these this retouching software to

make themselves look slimmer and

smoother than they really are and the

the potentially devastating impacts that

have has when you’re constantly trying

to compare yourself to this idealized

image which you can’t possibly reach but

I think there’s something else happening

as well and I think it’s got something

to do with one of the greatest and least

documented social changes we’ve

undergone which is children not going

outdoors it is quite remarkable the

extent to which this has taken place for

example in the course of just one

generation 25 years the unaccompanied

home range of children the area that

they roam unsupervised by adults has

reduced by 90% and this not only has

impacts on their physical health just

not getting fit enough not developing

physical skills

not only cuts them off from the natural

world and cuts off the possibility that

those children could turn into the new

generation of people loving and

defending that natural world I think it

also has a devastating impact on their

social skills because when you’re not

being supervised by adults when you’re

running around with a tribe of children

of your own age you have to work it out

for yourself you have to develop those

social skills by yourself you have to

work out what’s a sensible thing to do

and what’s not and you learn so much

better that way when you’re engaged in

your own learning process rather than

being told and you develop the social

skills and very often the friendships

which will carry you through life and

staying indoors staring at a screen by

yourself

well that makes you the subject of our

would stand near our quiets now when

once their anguish shouts and laughter

the songs that echoed through the veil

as children left it followed after

streams that once we jumped and swam the

old oak tree we can the child inside as

philosophy sites the child inside us

asked

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who would stand near love watched me

grow from a child upon my father’s

shoulders me across the bow and smell

the tree as years grew older and I told

Peter Smith I’m afraid

dandelion Club Sun lon

conquers life bugs are neglected even

though words of a winner now

my queen sir leaves the line a collected

Rena Stern

the way

and almost Weaver

a Quisling the mansion built by my son

nor by my daughter

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as busy roads no plane the place to run

and laugh and play together switch I’ll

decide is flat from D far from the sting

and warm weather who woodland lead son

trotting now the Rambo

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Sheldon say does lost me Saints child

and save us bust

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and it’s not just it’s not just children

who have been cut off from the living

world through enclosure over the course

of hundreds of years almost all of us

were shut out by one means or another

from the countryside losing the great

fortifying Commons that provided so much

of our subsistence but also so much of

our social and community and ceremonial

life as well we ended up in the cities

Britain was the first largely urbanized

nation on earth and there we developed a

new Commons the street where so much of

our community life and so much of our

ceremonial life took place but then that

Commons tomb has gradually been taken

away from us in this case by another

force the motor vehicle and the busier

the traffic on the street the less

social connection you have with your

neighbors the fewer of your neighbors

that you know but the good news is that

many people are trying to reverse that

they’re trying to take back that urban

Commons they’re trying to reclaim the

nice fixed fast seven billion lives

alone together upside down

oh love the beat and lay out the tables

and flags and come on that’s – it’s open

the white doors and stand together very

clean in the streets once it to the

streets are raise our children well no

one died unknown windows no doors were

locked

once again let’s make the street

shadowed three streets belong to

everyone

wait then comments that we share from

the box to the playing fields and

benches these streets are more than just

a part of me so we’ll have the beer and

laying out the tables kind of relax and

come on out students open wider doors

and stand together

we reclaim the streets highways that

select the term the father’s Godzilla

laps all right like a nice one day at

least let’s all obey the engines once

again well fill the streets with life we

dance on the pavements here together

take back the road for the kids to play

pull down the billboards and the places

I’m toe up streets in the hallway

we’ll have to be in a layout the tables

hang the flags and among our students

open wider doors and stand together

they really clean the street we reclaim

the street

is our belief that the health of a

political society depends on the ability

of people to come back together that if

we are to see political renewal in this

country or in any other is going to

depend not on angry meetings of people

shouting each other which is what most

people will see the political engagement

is being is going to depend on social

and cultural gatherings of people once

more reasserting community is going to

depend on the recognition that we stand

together or we fall apart thank you

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