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The Value of Mental Toughness | Shakinar Mutulili | TEDxYouth@BrookhouseSchool


there will come a point in your life
either during your later life or your
teenage where your box of life starts to
feel as if it is closing where suddenly
you’re claustrophobic and the walls are
tightening around you and instantly your
box of life starts to fill up with water
first to your knees then to your chest
and in the blink of an eye it is about
to engulf you from the crown of your
hair to the sole of your feet but it is
at this point where you decide either to
allow yourself to drown or to take that
last deep breath of air swim to the
bottom of your box
cut water at its source and push back on
the walls to me that is mental toughness
do you know that the number one
contributor to success is not beauty nor
strength
it’s not even IQ it is mental toughness
the thing is life is not and will not be
easy the journey of life is not this
straight smooth roll that leaves you
right to the sunny beaches no we aren’t
told the cold hard truth that life will
stretch you bend you and try to break
you but that is to form you as a final
product take carbon for example and it’s
simple natural state can refer to the
dirty black substance coal now look at
diamonds it’s hard to associate the two
right but coal had to undergo immense
pressure and heat had to be compressed
and pressed in order for this beautiful
the line structure that we value today
to be formed life will do that to you
life will put you underneath a furnace
of problems and challenges but if you
choose to persevere you will be molded
into the strong impactful individual you
see mental toughness is a measure of
your individual confidence perseverance
and resilience it is your ability to
adapt to highly adverse situations even
when encountering social discommode
”tis it is refusing to quit when
everything says quit as students we face
challenges like failing multiple
subjects even when putting in time and
effort we face bullying and feeling as
if we’re not good enough or good-looking
we face getting let down and discouraged
almost a point of despair because we
work too hard to make the cuts but we
don’t and the place where we should feel
the safest our homes is not life is
throwing every single obstacle in our
way trying to bring us down or Dimas
worthless and not good enough you see
without mental toughness we tend to
submit to negative emotions and sink to
self-destruction our dreams fizzle into
ashes were you aware that suicide is the
highest leading cause of death among
teenagers that it kills more than cancer
AIDS influenza strokes and pneumonia
combined without mental toughness we
inhibit ourselves from growing our
confidence our set eveness and we lose
our ability to see possibilities so when
you’re at this point you need to bring
out your best arsenal mental toughness
last year around this
time I sustained an injury where I
fractured the lower region of my spine I
could not sit nor sleep because I was an
excruciating pain and apart from being a
student I was going through my final
stages of training to become a Model
United Nations junior chair and I was
preparing for the Yale world Scholars
cup tournament of champions and I really
wanted to quit it seemed like the safest
thing to do at that point because I
cannot carry my own bag and had to have
somebody following me around doing it
for me so quitting was what I really
wanted to do but I’m glad that I did not
I am glad that on the day of my exam I
took my medication and I thought my exam
standing up I am glad that I refused to
succumb to the daunting thoughts of
giving up and this is how I did it
acceptance knowing the situation you’re
in you cannot control an attitude of
gratitude it could have been worse
hey I could have been paralyzed tenacity
and endurance in times of failure keep
pushing and as much as the phrase never
give up as repeated I believe it is a
fundamental key to life Robert Schuller
once said most people who seem to
succeed in the face of seemingly
impossible conditions are those who
simply just don’t know how to quit thank
you
you
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