also let’s that I’m really tired of
having the stock I’ve given this talk in
so many forms to so many people that I’m
standing here and I feel this utter
sense of deja vu like we’re gonna go
over the same points again and again and
again I’ve had this talk with my father
last night I had this talk with my best
friend last week
I had this talk with the last man I
dated I had this talk of my cousin’s I
had to stop with the uber driver whose
cat I was sitting in some time ago so
you know every time I stand here and I
talk about this I’m just like oh god not
again but here I am on my crusade to
recruit men into the cause of gender
equality I am here to talk to you about
the big f word feminism now Albert
Einstein once said the definition of
insanity is doing something again and
again and again expecting a different
result
some people have called me insane for
doing this so often but I don’t think I
am because results are showing women’s
issues are coming up on the forefront
and that has opened a door for various
minority issues – it’s coming to a point
where we are talking about things we
have realized that stakeholder patterns
exist and that the manifestation of
inequality is very different from the
causes of it so we’re smart we’re
smarter than the people before us right
and that’s awesome because that’s hope
hope brings change hope brings ability
hope fix ability to impact hope brings
ability to think of a better future and
today I’m talking about a bit more of
hope the hope that men actively join
feminism so why would I want men to
actively contribute to
movement that has been identified as we
maintain space and men sealing it why
would men want to do that so that’s what
we’re going to be doing here today
now you know this is a point I have a
lot of trouble communicating to people
men see
Oh gender equality means women get
rights that’s right they say Oh feminism
is all about women because it has the
word per minute that’s right to an
extent but what men don’t realize is
that feminism is not men versus women
it’s not like you know man was his wife
man was his right woman
it is us versus the patriarchy now the
big P word like this is this is my
trigger word I hear the word patriarchy
and I’m just like I don’t like it
patriarchy is not a sword that men we
use against the world and molohia
I’m not pressing you patriarchy impacts
men too and very negatively at that men
don’t realize it but patriarchy has been
training you to be incapable of
communicating with your own
vulnerabilities your own emotions it’s
come to a point where men don’t even
realize what they are missing out on
because they’ve been conditioned for so
long now you know what kind of
conditioning are we talking about let’s
start with the fact that when a child is
born we decide to tell the world about
its gender through clothing you know you
start from that step point and then you
go ahead and tell boys you cannot cry
you cannot be vulnerable you can no you
do not have a feminine side and hence
you must actively tamp it down that
sounds little problematic to me if you
ask me and that is teittleman the law of
the land is very much against you today
so some time ago a month ago there was a
can rape case in the Banaras Hindu
University which are the most premier
universities
country right now so according to the
criminal law Amendment Act of 2013 the
legal recourse for add gangway
is punishment minimum twenty years to
life and financial repatriation that
takes care to victims five you know
medical needs as well as rehabilitation
needs unfortunately this time the victim
was a man the laws of this country are
not gender neutral the laws of this
country are not gender neutral hence he
does not get this Rico’s thanks the
biggest case he can file is physical
assault it does not take into account
the trauma of sexual assault which has
been categorically considered and has
been put across in the media now why
does that happen
why are the laws not gender neutral they
are not gender neutral because we
believe that men cannot be victims why
can’t men not be victims because the
patriarchy states that men are only
aggressors now you and I were very very
privileged women why are we privileged
because we have the power to observe we
have the capability to observe we have
the capability to distill those
observations into something concrete
when I talk to you here I do not just
talk to students and teachers I talk to
policymakers educationalists people in
the media people who will go into the
future I talk to people who change
perceptions you understand what’s
happening right you understand that
these stakeholder patterns exist hence
it’s your duty to take them forward to
push them forward and to create a sense
of education amongst people now you know
in 2014 there was a world serving the
world survey was on suicide rates India
has the largest number of suicides in
the world in 2015 the same data was dug
up a little deeper and 21 percent of
those suicides were men who was told
we’ve trained our men very very well
we’ve trained them to be quiet and to
take everything that they can we’ve
trained them to believe that they are
not while you’re away
we’ve trained them well enough that they
literally die before they get a chance
to speak so why this is the form of
repression right and this is very active
oppression why do we not consider it so
is it because it doesn’t look like
oppression is it because you know we
look at things at face value and say of
course a man can’t do your breast is it
because it’s difficult to shake status
quo up you know what I think it’s the
problem that once you start questioning
something as basic as this you’re going
to open up a Pandora’s box of questions
and you’re going to have to actively
look at the repercussions of what’s been
happening you know what is the most
interesting side effects of feminism
this was a study done in Wisconsin
recently and it shows that men who live
in a feminist powered environment have
shown a steady increase in their
happiness now before you say that okay
that means feminist women aren’t happy
feminist women have actively that higher
on that happiness index since 2012 when
the researchers started being conducted
feminism neutrally means that people are
generally happier because people are now
exploring new things they’re trying out
new chicks they are not affected by
antiquated gender roles are not fettered
by expectations feminism and it’s very
crux is about ability it’s about giving
choice to people and the ability to
create good wise choices this is an
education unto itself learning how to
involve feminism in your life is an
education you give to yourself you know
the facts are very simple feminism looks
at men stakeholders
feminism does not look at men only as
the allies it looks at them as active
beneficiaries of the entire movement we
believe that men are beyond their base
abilities we believe that men are beyond
their you know caves man like natural
masculinity that has been so toxic to
them over so many years we believe that
men can be vulnerable we believe that
men can be broken by accepting that a
man has feelings that can be hurt by
accepting that systematic degradation of
men occurs – we are opening up doors to
healing no world order can change until
it’s shaken and broken no seed can
germinate until it cracks open a little
and it allows water and sunshine to pour
in it’s not an easy thing to do you know
when you look at changing the status quo
that has supported you for so long in
ways that are very obvious we understand
the fear which is why it’s not about you
just sealing space in public matters
it’s also about you entering the private
sphere we don’t ask you to simply leave
power out we asked you to share it we
ask you to explore a plethora of
experiences you never thought you had in
you to see so you know at the end of the
day this was my recruitment call this
was a clarion call if you do not call
yourself a feminist think of the fact
that when you do you are gunning for a
better softer kinder world where we all
grow into each other not away from each
other so I really do hope when you go
away from you know you maybe open up the
internet and you look up mail feminism
maybe you look up how to be a good Ally
maybe you look up am I dressed because
that would you be finally a point where
you realize that yes you have the
ability to be a kind of
just think about it that’s all I ask of
you thank you
[Applause]
having the stock I’ve given this talk in
so many forms to so many people that I’m
standing here and I feel this utter
sense of deja vu like we’re gonna go
over the same points again and again and
again I’ve had this talk with my father
last night I had this talk with my best
friend last week
I had this talk with the last man I
dated I had this talk of my cousin’s I
had to stop with the uber driver whose
cat I was sitting in some time ago so
you know every time I stand here and I
talk about this I’m just like oh god not
again but here I am on my crusade to
recruit men into the cause of gender
equality I am here to talk to you about
the big f word feminism now Albert
Einstein once said the definition of
insanity is doing something again and
again and again expecting a different
result
some people have called me insane for
doing this so often but I don’t think I
am because results are showing women’s
issues are coming up on the forefront
and that has opened a door for various
minority issues – it’s coming to a point
where we are talking about things we
have realized that stakeholder patterns
exist and that the manifestation of
inequality is very different from the
causes of it so we’re smart we’re
smarter than the people before us right
and that’s awesome because that’s hope
hope brings change hope brings ability
hope fix ability to impact hope brings
ability to think of a better future and
today I’m talking about a bit more of
hope the hope that men actively join
feminism so why would I want men to
actively contribute to
movement that has been identified as we
maintain space and men sealing it why
would men want to do that so that’s what
we’re going to be doing here today
now you know this is a point I have a
lot of trouble communicating to people
men see
Oh gender equality means women get
rights that’s right they say Oh feminism
is all about women because it has the
word per minute that’s right to an
extent but what men don’t realize is
that feminism is not men versus women
it’s not like you know man was his wife
man was his right woman
it is us versus the patriarchy now the
big P word like this is this is my
trigger word I hear the word patriarchy
and I’m just like I don’t like it
patriarchy is not a sword that men we
use against the world and molohia
I’m not pressing you patriarchy impacts
men too and very negatively at that men
don’t realize it but patriarchy has been
training you to be incapable of
communicating with your own
vulnerabilities your own emotions it’s
come to a point where men don’t even
realize what they are missing out on
because they’ve been conditioned for so
long now you know what kind of
conditioning are we talking about let’s
start with the fact that when a child is
born we decide to tell the world about
its gender through clothing you know you
start from that step point and then you
go ahead and tell boys you cannot cry
you cannot be vulnerable you can no you
do not have a feminine side and hence
you must actively tamp it down that
sounds little problematic to me if you
ask me and that is teittleman the law of
the land is very much against you today
so some time ago a month ago there was a
can rape case in the Banaras Hindu
University which are the most premier
universities
country right now so according to the
criminal law Amendment Act of 2013 the
legal recourse for add gangway
is punishment minimum twenty years to
life and financial repatriation that
takes care to victims five you know
medical needs as well as rehabilitation
needs unfortunately this time the victim
was a man the laws of this country are
not gender neutral the laws of this
country are not gender neutral hence he
does not get this Rico’s thanks the
biggest case he can file is physical
assault it does not take into account
the trauma of sexual assault which has
been categorically considered and has
been put across in the media now why
does that happen
why are the laws not gender neutral they
are not gender neutral because we
believe that men cannot be victims why
can’t men not be victims because the
patriarchy states that men are only
aggressors now you and I were very very
privileged women why are we privileged
because we have the power to observe we
have the capability to observe we have
the capability to distill those
observations into something concrete
when I talk to you here I do not just
talk to students and teachers I talk to
policymakers educationalists people in
the media people who will go into the
future I talk to people who change
perceptions you understand what’s
happening right you understand that
these stakeholder patterns exist hence
it’s your duty to take them forward to
push them forward and to create a sense
of education amongst people now you know
in 2014 there was a world serving the
world survey was on suicide rates India
has the largest number of suicides in
the world in 2015 the same data was dug
up a little deeper and 21 percent of
those suicides were men who was told
we’ve trained our men very very well
we’ve trained them to be quiet and to
take everything that they can we’ve
trained them to believe that they are
not while you’re away
we’ve trained them well enough that they
literally die before they get a chance
to speak so why this is the form of
repression right and this is very active
oppression why do we not consider it so
is it because it doesn’t look like
oppression is it because you know we
look at things at face value and say of
course a man can’t do your breast is it
because it’s difficult to shake status
quo up you know what I think it’s the
problem that once you start questioning
something as basic as this you’re going
to open up a Pandora’s box of questions
and you’re going to have to actively
look at the repercussions of what’s been
happening you know what is the most
interesting side effects of feminism
this was a study done in Wisconsin
recently and it shows that men who live
in a feminist powered environment have
shown a steady increase in their
happiness now before you say that okay
that means feminist women aren’t happy
feminist women have actively that higher
on that happiness index since 2012 when
the researchers started being conducted
feminism neutrally means that people are
generally happier because people are now
exploring new things they’re trying out
new chicks they are not affected by
antiquated gender roles are not fettered
by expectations feminism and it’s very
crux is about ability it’s about giving
choice to people and the ability to
create good wise choices this is an
education unto itself learning how to
involve feminism in your life is an
education you give to yourself you know
the facts are very simple feminism looks
at men stakeholders
feminism does not look at men only as
the allies it looks at them as active
beneficiaries of the entire movement we
believe that men are beyond their base
abilities we believe that men are beyond
their you know caves man like natural
masculinity that has been so toxic to
them over so many years we believe that
men can be vulnerable we believe that
men can be broken by accepting that a
man has feelings that can be hurt by
accepting that systematic degradation of
men occurs – we are opening up doors to
healing no world order can change until
it’s shaken and broken no seed can
germinate until it cracks open a little
and it allows water and sunshine to pour
in it’s not an easy thing to do you know
when you look at changing the status quo
that has supported you for so long in
ways that are very obvious we understand
the fear which is why it’s not about you
just sealing space in public matters
it’s also about you entering the private
sphere we don’t ask you to simply leave
power out we asked you to share it we
ask you to explore a plethora of
experiences you never thought you had in
you to see so you know at the end of the
day this was my recruitment call this
was a clarion call if you do not call
yourself a feminist think of the fact
that when you do you are gunning for a
better softer kinder world where we all
grow into each other not away from each
other so I really do hope when you go
away from you know you maybe open up the
internet and you look up mail feminism
maybe you look up how to be a good Ally
maybe you look up am I dressed because
that would you be finally a point where
you realize that yes you have the
ability to be a kind of
just think about it that’s all I ask of
you thank you
[Applause]
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