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“It’s Time to Transfer” | Andrew Descourouez | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity


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can we also do a real quick on a jump
out of the light here too to highlight
our subliminal messaging why it’s a
little bit bigger than the rest why are
you here this this was very intentional
this was very intentional what are you
doing why are you here we think Jimmy
also wanted to do a quick thank you
right at the top Santa Clara TEDx Santa
Clara University thank you for making us
all possible rock and roll rock and roll
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ideas worth spreading I love this energy
I love it I love it but to jump right
into the the elephant in the room it’s
time to transfer folks this was nice
this was great but can I get a quick
show of hands how many people here have
ever considered transferring from
anything job relationship school anyone
whoo good stuff I love the folks in
there not raising their hand like nope
my life is great my life is excellent
thank you
good Congrats bye-bye no no kidding
kidding but I think we can all say we’ve
been somewhere like that that
uncomfortable feeling of is this right
is something wrong
could something be better and I don’t
know about you but in those moments
those kind of questions I start to feel
a little bit like this
this is Edward Edvard Munch’s 1893
painting titled the scream my parents
and I have affectionately retitled it
the College Board I’m kidding they are
good people doing bad things no also
kidding kidding again but in moments
like this in moments of crisis I start
to look for things that feel good a way
to not feel like this so naturally
mm-hmm my sister is a great human being
excellent cook one wrinkle dink although
during the application process
thank you folks it’s a fun phrase she
replaced the salt and the sugar so when
the recipe called for sugar she actually
put in salt four dozen cookies later she
tries one was like whoa
no I however in this state tried one and
thought he owed to the ocean hmm
maybe maybe needs a little bit more
chocolate chips I’ll try another one try
to another 36 cookies later I kind of
got the point and called it a night
unfortunately with enough of a sodium
spike that I actually passed out that
night yep and realized a very important
lesson that in moments of crisis in
confusion in lack of purpose or clarity
we look to defend and to satisfy
ourselves right in moments of crisis we
defend numero uno which is an excellent
evolutionary trait but very difficult
and challenging when we’re trying to
innovate inspire and grow right little
precursor I tell this story I tell this
story because I found that I started to
do that same thinking process when I
came to Santa Clara I got to Santa Clara
and something felt off something felt a
little salty if you will and I was told
time and again that the opportunities
you were great that I could make it
happen that I could be happy that I
could make it home if I just if I did
enough so I added activities
relationships friends clubs sports I
kept adding eating consuming assuming
that it would make me happier until like
we saw my college experience started to
look a lot like this welcome to Santa
Clara University home of Drew’s needs
home of Drew’s needs concerns anxieties
lack of purpose lack of clarity and I
realized that this wasn’t satisfying so
it was in this state that I started
reading the work of Buddhist monk tick
not Han who talks about doing whatever
is that you’re doing do it if you’re
washing dishes wash dishes
right right if you’re talking to a
friend talk to your friend if you’re
going to the bathroom go to the bathroom
if you’re eating a peanut butter and
jelly sandwich eat a peanut butter and
jelly sandwich I don’t know if you know
but the sandwiches at Lucas Hall are
spectacular I grabbed one i sat down and
I decided eat it as slow as I could
oh my gosh have you ever thought about
how the tangy sweetness of strawberry
jelly complements perfectly the nutty
creaminess of peanut butter how the
texture of the strawberry seeds is
accentuated by the butteriness of the
peanut butter oh my gosh I was sitting
in Lucas Hall blown away by the sandwich
I love the other business students
walking by that I go out half past 9:00
he’s already high like no no no I’m not
high I’m not high it’s a sandwich it’s a
sandwich no no slow
yeah listen he was a good day real good
day um but I realized it wasn’t just a
sandwich I had tasted reality whoo I
promise not high again but I had tasted
reality a quick question which one is
real the individual or the forest you
guys are so smart trick question they’re
both real but this is where the 8th
grade student starts starts learning
about the individual tree and how xylem
and phloem work together to bring solar
energy from a giant ball of gas that was
spinning around somehow takes that
energy and mixes it with water and dirt
stuff a technical term use it carefully
mix is it to make life oh my gosh and
yet somehow when we begin to multiply it
when it doesn’t offer Ethernet or Wi-Fi
it suddenly becomes less important and
in economics we would understand that is
something increases in abundance the
individual value decreases that works on
an economic scale but it’s not true of
reality it’s not true of reality
someone that has a great pulse on
reality is louis c.k who talks about
people that come to him complaining
about their airplane flights oh my gosh
Louie
we waited forever it was 20 minutes in
the terminal and 40 minutes on the
tarmac and then and then what and then
did you fly the air like a bird did you
participate in the miracle that is
powered flight you’re in a chair in in
the sky you non-contributing zero that
was sorry that was Louie that was not me
you’re a great audience I love you all
but isn’t he right everyone in the plane
should be sitting there going oh my gosh
put your hands up oh it’s happening it’s
happening right but they call you
because you’re high again no no it’s
reality it’s reality
seeking reality and still feeling
confused I spent four days on my own in
silence in the woods near our home also
again not high I promise I don’t none of
that but I was curious that if life is
like this what does it look like to sit
with reality to explore to experience in
to feel I actually climbed a tree at
sunrise and I sat there for the whole
day I climbed down at sunset and while I
was sitting there I found that if you
have to pay attention to parts of your
body you have enough nerve cells to
recognize your own heartbeat you can
recognize your own heartbeat in
different parts of your body and you can
let that awareness move from your feet
up through your body your core your
chest your arms up to the the carotid
artery pulsing pumping life up to your
head it’s amazing and if you allow it to
expand even further you realize that
your body is constantly pulsing and it’s
amazing and I got bored
I started to think about my family and I
started to look forward to being home to
fix the things that seemed off to to
give and to reconnect and to do the
things that matter and I loved sitting
in the tree but it felt like life life
was more and this concept is captured by
a gentleman named Wallace J Nichols who
who wanted to study the fact that why is
it that unless you’ve had a traumatic
experience the vast majority of people
love the ocean feel good near the ocean
statistically that’s pretty remarkable
so he studied the physiology and found
that the human reaction to aw to the
ocean does something bigger than
ourselves the human instinct in these
moments is gratitude which leads to self
gift we as human beings recognize on a
physiological level that in moments of
awe in moments of gratitude we want to
give ourselves away and this is not just
true in nature I got off the phone with
my sister after forgiving her for the
cookies and I got off the phone I was
getting ready for class and I jump in
the shower and I and I start to cry just
overwhelmed we’re very close and
overwhelmed by the privilege it is to be
her brother to have the relationship
that we do and and as I’m thinking about
this the crying is getting worse and and
there’s shampoo and there’s snot and it
gets to that you know that gross cry
that none of us admits to do but it’s
just everywhere right my poor roommates
you know it’s not a loud shower I can’t
imagine what they were hearing but but
it’s a moments like that that are not
just it’s a disgusting kind of beauty it
is a disgusting kind of beauty and also
something level I like to call an in
articulation indication those moments
when words don’t seem to fit what we
feel don’t seem to capture the gratitude
that is expanding outward that is in
articulation and in articulation
indication that we’re getting close to
the good stuff
right and in this world this age of the
individual we run the risk we gamble the
right to feel small
we run the risk of losing opportunities
to put ourselves in positions in
opportunities in spaces that remind us
that our reality is insignificant that
our reality is small that it can Humble
us and delight us and put us in some of
the most creative space as possible
because I think we can all agree it’s in
those moments those moments of sobbing
of odd that we are our most creative we
are entitled to nothing humbled by all
and we walked the world as if we owed it
something eager eager to pay our debt
how unusual is that and how profound in
book 4 of the prelude William Wordsworth
writes to his friend about a sunrise he
writes to his friend ah
exclamation point I love that moment in
poetry our exclamation point that sound
that in articulation indication of the
good stuff ah need I say dear friend the
to the brim my heart was full I made no
vows but vows were then made for me that
I should be else sinning greatly a
dedicated spirit ah I walked in thankful
blessedness which yet survives I was
also not supposed to make that sound but
it’s true it’s real it’s life it’s
reality so what do we do in these
moments of gratitude these profound
opportunities to feel good I would like
to propose that we move from me to we
how do we sustain this sensation of
reality of gratitude we expand our
perspective and our priorities we say
that the purpose of our life is not just
our own satisfaction that’s not enough
that’s not realistic we can do more than
that this concept this rhyming phrase
that I love actually is not my own it
comes from it comes from this young man
here at 12 years old Craig Kielburger
read about this young man here Iqbal
Massey in Pakistan Iqbal was a child
labourer that was freed and traveled the
world telling everyone the children
should have
pens in their hands and not tools his
message was so clear and so successful
that it damaged carpet sales so that
when he was back in his home country
Iqbal was shot and killed by the carpet
mafia at 12 Craig was appalled that this
happened in the world suite so he tore
out the paper and he came to class and
said I don’t know I don’t I don’t know I
don’t know and in articulation
indication of the important stuff I
don’t know I don’t I don’t know what to
do but I know we need to do something
who will who will help 11 hands went up
and that group of 12 12 year olds 30
years later has become the largest
organization of youth helping youth
through education if some of you have
heard of me day this is the genesis
story this is an idea that we can do
more than serve ourselves this idea that
we want to fight fight for the freedom
from disease poverty exploitation
absolutely but also fight for the
freedom from the idea that our own
personal satisfaction is fulfilling or
is enough I’m a big passion I am very
passionate about practicality so how do
we live like this on a day to day basis
I would like to borrow a theory from
19th century Constantin Stanislavski
it’s such a fun name Constantin
Stanislavski had this theory to create
character to enhance who we are and what
we are we have to be very intentional
about our objectives he said don’t don’t
try to make up emotion when you’re
creating a character on stage don’t try
to make up emotion pick attainable and
specific objectives that you can achieve
and allow the pursuit the desire the
fight to achieve them that will give
rise to emotion that will give rise to
your character but it’s it’s very very
important that you make the moment the
scene specific and layered so that at
any time on stage you can you can slice
through the objectives like an objective
cake and say in this scene I am trying
to achieve this because it influences
what I’m trying to achieve in the act
which is what I’m trying to achieve in
the play in the life and in the world of
this character this system can be
applied directly to our life
unfortunately we are
even exist operate and achieve
objectives at this level moment hour and
week taxes homework if when I can’t get
acne and I can achieve this objective in
this moment I can get to the end of the
hour which means I can get to the end of
the weekend yes if I do weekend’s right
I can get a vacation at the end of the
year so these these four here if we
continue to operate at this level of
objectives this system means that our
lives will be defined by our weekends
and our vacations and maybe if we’re
lucky by our retirement we all have
these people in our life that seem a
little bit vague the symptoms include
leading this anxiety too many cookies
people that operate at these levels the
lower levels of objectives that have not
clarified what they are doing in their
life and for the world but it is those
that do they clarify why the moment
matters to their life objective those
people inspire those are the people that
make history because they have decided
that the things they do from moment to
moment matter on a practical level
filling up the gas tank a bit of a chore
if we were to reorient it and say I’m
filling up the gas tank so that I can
leave the car in the parking lot for my
partner so that they can arrive on work
to work on time it’s a small small
reevaluation of reality that reinforce
why we do the things that we do suddenly
I’ve become the spouse the partner that
I want to be by doing the same activity
with a clearer sense of purpose don’t
don’t be Keanu Reeves a good man works
very hard then as many shows with vague
objectives right we’ve seen the movies
where he’s just it’s what what is going
on
we meet people in our lives like that
what what is going on why why so many
cookies do you need help little man
don’t be a Keanu Reeves not just because
it’s more satisfying to not be but
because the world needs you to be more
the world needs you to be a legend mr.
Wayne Liam Neeson tells Bruce Wayne that
if you dedicate yourself to an ideal you
become more than a man he become more
than who you are I’m gonna end with a
confession last night a friend of mine
found out that I was I was giving the
talk today and and he said this is about
to get a little offensive and I’m good
good start excellent thank you he said
you know what they used to just have
experts the quality is really kind of
it’s decreasing and I was like what’s
that he’s like well I mean you’re you’re
you’re giving a talk all right bud
Thanks excellent have a great day love
ya good good but he’s right I am NOT an
expert not at all
I’ve eaten too many cookies made far too
many more significant mistakes to
pretend that I have earned any rights to
stand here and to speak but what does
excite me is that you can be that expert
that legend in regardless of where you
stand or sit to move on the political
spectrum I think we can all agree it’s
very very hard for us to trust people
right now because it seems like most of
the people we know most of the people
that were supposed to admire are
pursuing their own objectives their own
agendas and that’s not what inspires us
that’s not what would build our nation
our country or hope we love people that
work for something bigger than
themselves we love people that are
infected and contagious and inspired by
a reason and a purpose bigger than
themselves I’m excited because
regardless of where you are in life or
in school that can be us we can make
that decision too
be those kind of people so let’s Butz
finally address it wherever you are in
life let’s do it right now let’s
transfer thank you thank you very much
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