dreams I want to talk to you about
dreams not the ones you see when you
fall asleep but the ones that won’t let
you sleep those ones
so I once had this minor surgery done
and the anaesthesia did not work there
were some complications and the doctor
said to me hold on to a nice start like
a beach or something I actually held on
to my craziest wildest dreams and while
they were operating and I was feeling
the cuts and pain I was smiling
something the surgeons still remember to
date and time a young patient on a
surgical table no anaesthesia smiling
away the dreams are very powerful and we
got to talk about it today my dreams
your dreams our dreams but first let me
tell you about this 12 year old girl
that I know she lives in an emerging
economy in a small one-bedroom apartment
they have no air conditioning and the
temperature sometimes goes up to 48
degrees with beads of sweat running down
her back her mother catches this
overcrowded public bus every day to go
and teach in a nearby high school to pay
their rent and bills and other things
it’s not easy to live in middle class
and in developing region the concerns
are many right from safety and security
to even basic health care this girl’s
friends they’re talking about getting
right jobs after school some of them are
talking about the right man but not her
she spends all her time using her slow
internet connection to look at NASA
she’s dreaming of becoming an astronaut
she wants to visit Disneyland she’s
inspired by Martin Luther King she
actually wants to go to Stanford here is
a reality this girl will never make it
to Stanford she will never become an
astronaut she will lose her father and
most of her family even before she
becomes an adult and she won’t even be
diagnosed for a dyslexia for another 15
years of her life cut to a little over
18 years later imagine seeing the same
girl she’s slightly over 30 she
definitely did not become an astronaut
didn’t make it to Stanford she did
travel across the world
she held tech jobs in a lot of different
companies she did visit Disneyland more
than once actually she became a serial
entrepreneur and the space is one of her
first customers maybe some of you
guessed I’m talking about myself but
none of this was easy it was a really
hard journey even the smallest step was
difficult for instance to manage and
fund my international degree I had to
secure a loan and I had no assets to
pledge
so obviously Loan managers turned me
down so I literally quit my full-time
job
I know huge risk if that’s what you’re
thinking and I almost camped outside a
certain Bank for six months until the
table boss made an exception for me
still not enough good news because that
barely paid for my tuition supplied to a
ton of other scholarships to manage the
rest of the tuition fee what what
happens to food and rent went down to
crowdfund failed went on to crowdfund
informally six nice people pitched in
and that’s how I made it
well midway through my degree as it so
happens in these situations one of my
personal grants did not come true and
that was the time and everyone in my
degree was enjoying a really good time
it was a bit of a break so they were
traveling and holidaying and doing all
kinds of fun things and I was on one
meal a day for three weeks and I was so
embarrassed I didn’t tell anybody in the
class about this in fact no one knows
even till date and time this might be a
revelation for many people who watch
this today how did I go through that
time with equal if not my more than
usual share of energy it’s because of my
dreams I would just close my eyes and
find this place in my heart where I
still hold on to my dream and that was
all it took for me to get through the
time but not just dignity but what I
danced through it it was awesome so if
you know me but if you don’t know my
dreams you don’t know me entirely
you kind of know me but you don’t know
my future and you definitely cannot
predict what I’m capable of and I
believe this is
true for all of us here and that’s what
I want to talk to you about if you are
trying to define yourself but you’re not
accounting for your dreams you are an
incomplete life and that’s what you’re
feeling so lately if you haven’t felt
the true passion of who you really are
chances are you have brushed your dreams
under the carpet for too long and if
you’re trying to use that half a
definition of you to feel passionate and
feel complete and feel yourself it’s not
going to happen because you are missing
an essential ingredient of who you
really are now a lot of people will
actually disagree many life coaches and
mentors these days are saying
dreama’s aren’t doors you know doors
just go out and get stuff done dreamers
not so much I strongly disagree
I think doers are extreme dreamers it
first happens here in their mind in
their mental energy and then it spills
over to their hands and legs and body
and becomes physical energy thoughts
become things but it is dreaming that
transforms that take for example Martin
Luther King a man who’s been put in
prison over 20 times assaulted over five
times and yet he believed enough in his
dreams to go up on stage and make an
iconic speech to mobilize generations to
come I have a dream now was he a doer
I leave that to you to figure it out you
see dreams have real neurological basis
when you’re trying to create a positive
affirmative vision of you in the future
you’re actually a self-sustaining engine
that’s creating hope for itself and that
frees you from the recency effect the
recency effect is a real cognitive bias
if you show a person equal number of red
and blue cars while they’re driving
through a highway but they’ve seen blue
cars towards the end of the journey if
you ask them what did they see the most
they tend to say blue cars we always
over blowed the recent indicators of our
past and if you use that to try and
imagine your future that’s really
limited but when you’re trying to dream
you’re creating this clear ambitious
wish
a few in the future free of these
effects dreams are the yin to your yang
when you’re doing you get strength and
stamina but when you go back home
everyday and find time to proactively
dream the softness in your heart is
still alive if you’re just a doer the
fight will leave you very cold you
become a bitter harsh solider of reality
going out getting stuff done but there’s
no softness in you there’s no mellowness
and everyone around you will feel the
quality of you as a person including
your relationships so it’s really
important to not just be a door but also
a dreamer you know the most amazing
thing about dreams is the power they
have not just on you
but how unconsciously you give
permission to others to pursue their
dreams because of you let me explain
so when I say dreams the qualifying
board is my dreams it’s a dream for me
but it’s a concept for you okay it’s a
dream only for the dreamer for everyone
else it’s an idea but if I can share my
dream successfully and bring you into it
amazing magical things happen what
really is a relationship called think
about it
accept a shared dream amongst two
individuals what really is a company
accept a shared dream amongst a group of
individuals what is a election what is a
nation a large shared dream amongst a
large group of individuals what is this
talk accept a shared dream that we want
to experience more what is anything
meaningful in life accept a shared
genuine dream and I find a lot of those
people in my life for borrowing pieces
from my dream adding to it expanding and
making it bigger by enabling themselves
from my dreams so I had an email the
other day from a girl that I haven’t met
in over 15 years this girl has been in a
domestic abuse situation for over ten
years and she wrote to me and said that
she finally spoke up last month because
she has been following my posts on
social media and she thought here’s this
girl from school she’s fighting for her
dreams I’m gonna do it I’m finally gonna
do it and she wrote to me that she did
there’s another woman who wrote to me
last month she lives in Indonesia I’ve
never met with her she’s never met with
me but she knows someone who shared an
apartment with me and she hears my
stories from this person regular updates
about where I’m with live what am i
doing and she wrote to me and said joie
de Bie pursuing your dreams know that
you have given me encouragement to go
and pursue mine and that’s why they are
so powerful you should pursue them not
just because they’re great for you but
because you will be creating this aura
of power for a lot of people around you
who know you or in my case some of them
I do not even know now I want to share
something with you it’s going to be
interesting because it’s going to be
shared for the first time in this world
and the people who’ve participated in
this don’t even know so why to months
ago I announced in social media to a
bunch of people I think a total of
hundred people participated in 99 100 I
said give me three words that come to
your mind when you think about me and
people who know me for 10 years 10 days
they all participated hundred people
being a data scientist I did some basic
clustering and family of words and this
is what I found they said well these are
all nice things obviously because they
were not anonymously pulling but kind of
I would like to point out the last word
here this is what they said do or yeah
those are all glimpses of my life now I
want to share with you
I had actually repeated this experiment
seven years ago and these people did not
know that a lot of them even forgot even
though they’d participated because the
experiment was not on social media I had
gone around to 50 people and asked them
7 years ago what are the top 3 words
they think about me when they you know
think about me and this is what that
said unhealthy basically another word
for fat I was pretty pretty much their
needy
insensitive over-ambitious dreamer kind
of just see the transition dreamer to
tour seven years ago people thought I’m
a dreamer
two months ago this said I’m a doer this
is not me this is people up there who
said it okay so dreamer to door is a
real transition I want to tell you how
that enabled me to make a lot of these
transitions
back to fit is a real thing I struggled
with I lost over 1200 and I have to say
I was a super nerdy geeky kid I had
never done any kind of sporting
activities and I’m currently training to
be a deep-sea diver this is a person who
didn’t even know how to swim until the
age of 28 insensitive to kind
over-ambitious to bold now these are
things I need to explain a little bit
because they all come from one deep
transformation so about six years ago I
was dumped at the altar had happened and
I was thoroughly depressed it took me
six months to get out of my bed and when
I did I wanted to understand what is it
in a human that makes them so dependent
what makes them so vulnerable what
happens to our inner strength and that’s
when I took to yoga and meditation and a
lifestyle change in a big way and found
my inner strength and obviously once you
find your inner strength the rest of
these tough transitions are easier to do
empathy comes naturally you know where
others are coming from both independent
they’re all related to that and those
were all very tough changes and I can
tell you the only reason I could do that
is again my old wreck very old trick
just close my eyes go into that space
happy spot where I still have my dreams
and no matter how hard they our entire
world crumbling around me I go on I go
on and get them so Who am I now work in
progress I am an entrepreneur I have an
AI company in London this is my third
startup I have one successful venture in
the past one unsuccessful venture and
I’m brown I’m a techie I’m a woman and
I’m an entrepreneur all of these make me
different and that is not always a good
thing when people judge the performance
of my company they don’t take into
account the number of extra hours I have
to spend with my accountant figuring out
my domicile status or when they look at
the balance sheet they don’t try to
account for the number of times the bank
automated voice software says I cannot
detect your accent they subject me to
the exact same yardstick the subject
everyone else my extra struggles are not
taken into account so it’s pretty hard I
get rejected a lot every day I wake up I
get rejected by customers investors
employees X employees you name it but
still I wake up every day and I fight
again and again and again and again
my resiliency comes from my dreams you
know 40 VCS
eight angel investors and five family
offices turned me down before I raised
my first seed funding it took me 178
meetings but I still ended up raising a
million dollars that happened over two
years ago and fund raising again as I
speak and the story is not so different
but you know I’m confident that I’ll
somehow make it how do I know that
that’s because what I’m about to share
with you I want you to know that the
power of believing in your own dreams
has something very amazing what it does
is it helps you attract the right people
you need to make your dreams come true
to learn the skill sets that you need to
make them come true so think about me
I’ve went from being a girl with a
laptop some cool ideas not even enough
funds to get a return ticket home
a bunch of liabilities and a truckload
of attitude to being Who I am
in three years and that happened because
I attracted the right business partners
the right mentors the coaches the
employees just kissed a lot of frogs as
well but then you know a lot of it also
worked out so I attracted all of them
because they had to believe in me and
they believed in me because because I
believed in myself first no matter what
was happening around me I have the
twinkle in my eye the universe could be
falling apart but I was like no I’m
gonna do it are you with me or not so
believing in your dreams helps you
attract the right people who will come
and join you to make that happen so what
do I dream of now yeah I dream of making
a valuable company and a valuable group
of people but above all what I dream of
is enabling others like me
to dream you can come from wherever and
you can be at any stage in your life and
you can be at any age and you can still
choose to be who you want to be and you
can make that entire transition on the
back of the power of your dreams my
favorite author Paulo Coelho he says
something amazing
he says going after a dream has a price
it may mean abandoning our habits it may
make us go through hardships or it may
lead us to disappointments but however
costly it may be it is never as high as
the price paid by people who don’t live
because one day they will look back and
hear their own heart say I wasted my
life so you know to be an intense doer
be an intense dreamer don’t shy away for
dreaming don’t hide don’t suppress don’t
forget don’t brush under the carpet
don’t nothing dream crazily intensely
unconditionally and it will lead you to
action I promise you that thank you
you
[Applause]
dreams not the ones you see when you
fall asleep but the ones that won’t let
you sleep those ones
so I once had this minor surgery done
and the anaesthesia did not work there
were some complications and the doctor
said to me hold on to a nice start like
a beach or something I actually held on
to my craziest wildest dreams and while
they were operating and I was feeling
the cuts and pain I was smiling
something the surgeons still remember to
date and time a young patient on a
surgical table no anaesthesia smiling
away the dreams are very powerful and we
got to talk about it today my dreams
your dreams our dreams but first let me
tell you about this 12 year old girl
that I know she lives in an emerging
economy in a small one-bedroom apartment
they have no air conditioning and the
temperature sometimes goes up to 48
degrees with beads of sweat running down
her back her mother catches this
overcrowded public bus every day to go
and teach in a nearby high school to pay
their rent and bills and other things
it’s not easy to live in middle class
and in developing region the concerns
are many right from safety and security
to even basic health care this girl’s
friends they’re talking about getting
right jobs after school some of them are
talking about the right man but not her
she spends all her time using her slow
internet connection to look at NASA
she’s dreaming of becoming an astronaut
she wants to visit Disneyland she’s
inspired by Martin Luther King she
actually wants to go to Stanford here is
a reality this girl will never make it
to Stanford she will never become an
astronaut she will lose her father and
most of her family even before she
becomes an adult and she won’t even be
diagnosed for a dyslexia for another 15
years of her life cut to a little over
18 years later imagine seeing the same
girl she’s slightly over 30 she
definitely did not become an astronaut
didn’t make it to Stanford she did
travel across the world
she held tech jobs in a lot of different
companies she did visit Disneyland more
than once actually she became a serial
entrepreneur and the space is one of her
first customers maybe some of you
guessed I’m talking about myself but
none of this was easy it was a really
hard journey even the smallest step was
difficult for instance to manage and
fund my international degree I had to
secure a loan and I had no assets to
pledge
so obviously Loan managers turned me
down so I literally quit my full-time
job
I know huge risk if that’s what you’re
thinking and I almost camped outside a
certain Bank for six months until the
table boss made an exception for me
still not enough good news because that
barely paid for my tuition supplied to a
ton of other scholarships to manage the
rest of the tuition fee what what
happens to food and rent went down to
crowdfund failed went on to crowdfund
informally six nice people pitched in
and that’s how I made it
well midway through my degree as it so
happens in these situations one of my
personal grants did not come true and
that was the time and everyone in my
degree was enjoying a really good time
it was a bit of a break so they were
traveling and holidaying and doing all
kinds of fun things and I was on one
meal a day for three weeks and I was so
embarrassed I didn’t tell anybody in the
class about this in fact no one knows
even till date and time this might be a
revelation for many people who watch
this today how did I go through that
time with equal if not my more than
usual share of energy it’s because of my
dreams I would just close my eyes and
find this place in my heart where I
still hold on to my dream and that was
all it took for me to get through the
time but not just dignity but what I
danced through it it was awesome so if
you know me but if you don’t know my
dreams you don’t know me entirely
you kind of know me but you don’t know
my future and you definitely cannot
predict what I’m capable of and I
believe this is
true for all of us here and that’s what
I want to talk to you about if you are
trying to define yourself but you’re not
accounting for your dreams you are an
incomplete life and that’s what you’re
feeling so lately if you haven’t felt
the true passion of who you really are
chances are you have brushed your dreams
under the carpet for too long and if
you’re trying to use that half a
definition of you to feel passionate and
feel complete and feel yourself it’s not
going to happen because you are missing
an essential ingredient of who you
really are now a lot of people will
actually disagree many life coaches and
mentors these days are saying
dreama’s aren’t doors you know doors
just go out and get stuff done dreamers
not so much I strongly disagree
I think doers are extreme dreamers it
first happens here in their mind in
their mental energy and then it spills
over to their hands and legs and body
and becomes physical energy thoughts
become things but it is dreaming that
transforms that take for example Martin
Luther King a man who’s been put in
prison over 20 times assaulted over five
times and yet he believed enough in his
dreams to go up on stage and make an
iconic speech to mobilize generations to
come I have a dream now was he a doer
I leave that to you to figure it out you
see dreams have real neurological basis
when you’re trying to create a positive
affirmative vision of you in the future
you’re actually a self-sustaining engine
that’s creating hope for itself and that
frees you from the recency effect the
recency effect is a real cognitive bias
if you show a person equal number of red
and blue cars while they’re driving
through a highway but they’ve seen blue
cars towards the end of the journey if
you ask them what did they see the most
they tend to say blue cars we always
over blowed the recent indicators of our
past and if you use that to try and
imagine your future that’s really
limited but when you’re trying to dream
you’re creating this clear ambitious
wish
a few in the future free of these
effects dreams are the yin to your yang
when you’re doing you get strength and
stamina but when you go back home
everyday and find time to proactively
dream the softness in your heart is
still alive if you’re just a doer the
fight will leave you very cold you
become a bitter harsh solider of reality
going out getting stuff done but there’s
no softness in you there’s no mellowness
and everyone around you will feel the
quality of you as a person including
your relationships so it’s really
important to not just be a door but also
a dreamer you know the most amazing
thing about dreams is the power they
have not just on you
but how unconsciously you give
permission to others to pursue their
dreams because of you let me explain
so when I say dreams the qualifying
board is my dreams it’s a dream for me
but it’s a concept for you okay it’s a
dream only for the dreamer for everyone
else it’s an idea but if I can share my
dream successfully and bring you into it
amazing magical things happen what
really is a relationship called think
about it
accept a shared dream amongst two
individuals what really is a company
accept a shared dream amongst a group of
individuals what is a election what is a
nation a large shared dream amongst a
large group of individuals what is this
talk accept a shared dream that we want
to experience more what is anything
meaningful in life accept a shared
genuine dream and I find a lot of those
people in my life for borrowing pieces
from my dream adding to it expanding and
making it bigger by enabling themselves
from my dreams so I had an email the
other day from a girl that I haven’t met
in over 15 years this girl has been in a
domestic abuse situation for over ten
years and she wrote to me and said that
she finally spoke up last month because
she has been following my posts on
social media and she thought here’s this
girl from school she’s fighting for her
dreams I’m gonna do it I’m finally gonna
do it and she wrote to me that she did
there’s another woman who wrote to me
last month she lives in Indonesia I’ve
never met with her she’s never met with
me but she knows someone who shared an
apartment with me and she hears my
stories from this person regular updates
about where I’m with live what am i
doing and she wrote to me and said joie
de Bie pursuing your dreams know that
you have given me encouragement to go
and pursue mine and that’s why they are
so powerful you should pursue them not
just because they’re great for you but
because you will be creating this aura
of power for a lot of people around you
who know you or in my case some of them
I do not even know now I want to share
something with you it’s going to be
interesting because it’s going to be
shared for the first time in this world
and the people who’ve participated in
this don’t even know so why to months
ago I announced in social media to a
bunch of people I think a total of
hundred people participated in 99 100 I
said give me three words that come to
your mind when you think about me and
people who know me for 10 years 10 days
they all participated hundred people
being a data scientist I did some basic
clustering and family of words and this
is what I found they said well these are
all nice things obviously because they
were not anonymously pulling but kind of
I would like to point out the last word
here this is what they said do or yeah
those are all glimpses of my life now I
want to share with you
I had actually repeated this experiment
seven years ago and these people did not
know that a lot of them even forgot even
though they’d participated because the
experiment was not on social media I had
gone around to 50 people and asked them
7 years ago what are the top 3 words
they think about me when they you know
think about me and this is what that
said unhealthy basically another word
for fat I was pretty pretty much their
needy
insensitive over-ambitious dreamer kind
of just see the transition dreamer to
tour seven years ago people thought I’m
a dreamer
two months ago this said I’m a doer this
is not me this is people up there who
said it okay so dreamer to door is a
real transition I want to tell you how
that enabled me to make a lot of these
transitions
back to fit is a real thing I struggled
with I lost over 1200 and I have to say
I was a super nerdy geeky kid I had
never done any kind of sporting
activities and I’m currently training to
be a deep-sea diver this is a person who
didn’t even know how to swim until the
age of 28 insensitive to kind
over-ambitious to bold now these are
things I need to explain a little bit
because they all come from one deep
transformation so about six years ago I
was dumped at the altar had happened and
I was thoroughly depressed it took me
six months to get out of my bed and when
I did I wanted to understand what is it
in a human that makes them so dependent
what makes them so vulnerable what
happens to our inner strength and that’s
when I took to yoga and meditation and a
lifestyle change in a big way and found
my inner strength and obviously once you
find your inner strength the rest of
these tough transitions are easier to do
empathy comes naturally you know where
others are coming from both independent
they’re all related to that and those
were all very tough changes and I can
tell you the only reason I could do that
is again my old wreck very old trick
just close my eyes go into that space
happy spot where I still have my dreams
and no matter how hard they our entire
world crumbling around me I go on I go
on and get them so Who am I now work in
progress I am an entrepreneur I have an
AI company in London this is my third
startup I have one successful venture in
the past one unsuccessful venture and
I’m brown I’m a techie I’m a woman and
I’m an entrepreneur all of these make me
different and that is not always a good
thing when people judge the performance
of my company they don’t take into
account the number of extra hours I have
to spend with my accountant figuring out
my domicile status or when they look at
the balance sheet they don’t try to
account for the number of times the bank
automated voice software says I cannot
detect your accent they subject me to
the exact same yardstick the subject
everyone else my extra struggles are not
taken into account so it’s pretty hard I
get rejected a lot every day I wake up I
get rejected by customers investors
employees X employees you name it but
still I wake up every day and I fight
again and again and again and again
my resiliency comes from my dreams you
know 40 VCS
eight angel investors and five family
offices turned me down before I raised
my first seed funding it took me 178
meetings but I still ended up raising a
million dollars that happened over two
years ago and fund raising again as I
speak and the story is not so different
but you know I’m confident that I’ll
somehow make it how do I know that
that’s because what I’m about to share
with you I want you to know that the
power of believing in your own dreams
has something very amazing what it does
is it helps you attract the right people
you need to make your dreams come true
to learn the skill sets that you need to
make them come true so think about me
I’ve went from being a girl with a
laptop some cool ideas not even enough
funds to get a return ticket home
a bunch of liabilities and a truckload
of attitude to being Who I am
in three years and that happened because
I attracted the right business partners
the right mentors the coaches the
employees just kissed a lot of frogs as
well but then you know a lot of it also
worked out so I attracted all of them
because they had to believe in me and
they believed in me because because I
believed in myself first no matter what
was happening around me I have the
twinkle in my eye the universe could be
falling apart but I was like no I’m
gonna do it are you with me or not so
believing in your dreams helps you
attract the right people who will come
and join you to make that happen so what
do I dream of now yeah I dream of making
a valuable company and a valuable group
of people but above all what I dream of
is enabling others like me
to dream you can come from wherever and
you can be at any stage in your life and
you can be at any age and you can still
choose to be who you want to be and you
can make that entire transition on the
back of the power of your dreams my
favorite author Paulo Coelho he says
something amazing
he says going after a dream has a price
it may mean abandoning our habits it may
make us go through hardships or it may
lead us to disappointments but however
costly it may be it is never as high as
the price paid by people who don’t live
because one day they will look back and
hear their own heart say I wasted my
life so you know to be an intense doer
be an intense dreamer don’t shy away for
dreaming don’t hide don’t suppress don’t
forget don’t brush under the carpet
don’t nothing dream crazily intensely
unconditionally and it will lead you to
action I promise you that thank you
you
[Applause]
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