[Music]
[Music]
[Music]
okay please so in case you might dream
that is Michael to Jasmine
[Music]
so she verse 7 for 17 and also beautiful
modernist of young daughters
oh that’s 82 these wife understand what
it is that I mean when I say that I love
trust me and together we have brother
Jason who is three years older one of
the reasons why not judge the other way
I do is because she laughed with me that
she can terrorize me and that having to
do I think she thinks everything that I
think that’s all that I’ve shared with
you was a call that I received from her
about she needs to go
I had troubles and like any pilot and
sometimes travels a little too I witness
even when it’s a lot of back to back
trouble I had decided to get for her
some chocolates so that I could train a
piece and the couple of times I had no
way she last imagery chocolates and
particularly last is apartment were many
cans and so we had negotiated an outcome
because I know my daughter very well I
know have her person she to eat each
other let’s chicken actually take a hold
of all 12 the box up top and consider it
all in one go so we had negotiated an
outcome where she needs one topic by the
age if she didn’t do that then anything
donut over them I threatened have a
visit of Adventists have you dentist for
that angry who I have to say of one of
our favorite people in the world so we
have agreed but as I can see two days
later she had finished her question for
the day that in the reason I got that
call and she was
she’s happy her eyes family six
patentable that she had and I think I’ll
just turn it between my deletions
imagine how that call ended not my
children bring a little joy they bring a
lot of joy and give meaning to the work
that I do in my everyday life I was born
in a very humble background and when I
look at my life to be in half by half
calm I feel truly blessed and very
privileged because even when I was young
the dreams that my parents had for me
and even degrees that I had for myself I
never realized that I’d be able to come
as far as I have come yet what I have
often found that the many news teams
that were to take it for me were my
parents my parents what we have in our
food
my dad worked in the government are the
civil servants and my money when I was
busy pursuing those things I discovered
that in the general assistive life even
while and I put opportunities to be able
to accelerate me with things that we
thought were important then I haven’t
found myself actually I was leading a
glorious life a life that sometimes
people were gonna school me
I ended and they often came to talk to
me and asked me to find find for them
which is that success for me Lana
I was really not the glory but it was a
toil
it was a toy and an internal struggle
that was within me it was boiling within
me and I could not be able to express it
because outwardly everybody celebrated
the person that I was and the woman that
I was the marketplace leader that I was
they celebrated me they applauded me
but inside I was struggling to find the
meaning and this internal struggle
landed me in a hospital bed six seven
years ago I was burning out my engines
were running
at full gear I needed to go through
surgery and that surgery was required to
reset the equilibrium in a life that was
going too fast that was becoming a bit
chaotic and I just needed a research so
as I lay there and I pondered about my
life it was on a cold day in Joburg and
I was a bit frightened and a bit
terrified
not because I scare easily but because
of the fact that I was feeling pretty
helpless lying on that hospital bed I
had just been given a dose of anesthesia
so it was all looking very fuzzy to me
and I was just staring into the theater
lights and there are all now beginning
to fade into the background of my mind
but as I laid there and I contemplated
my life I thought about my daughter who
I had just given birth to a couple of
months before 3 to be exact
who was waiting for me to breastfeed her
and I couldn’t or her brother who was 3
years older he was getting getting ready
for preschool and he needed me at that
particular time and required my
attention but I couldn’t be there so as
I laid there just before the surgery I
thought dropped into the spirit of my
mind and I asked myself was this really
the best version
I wanna go one of my very close
girlfriends lost her dad and I remember
I attended the funeral service it was a
beautiful service full of beautiful
music and there are lots of positive
citations that were said of her dad who
had unlived a very a life that was
highly celebrated based on what was
shared are the pulpits by his family and
his friends and as I sat there and read
the eulogy
I thought dropped in my mind and I let
it sink during that moment and I began
to wonder and ask myself at that
particular point what would become of me
when I was gone because the reality that
we all confronts is that one day we will
be gone I am not really afraid of death
I think I’ve had that conversation with
myself and planned for it but as I sat
there and let that moment just sink into
the depths of my mind it got me thinking
what would be left of me when I was gone
what difference if any would my absence
make would people notice when I left or
did just be the impression that would be
left in my family and friends would that
be any impact would there be any legacy
with their big stories that would be
told just like my girlfriend’s dad of a
story that was well lived my dad has
always inspired me when I was young and
I was growing up and I’m a fast born in
a family of five I could see the
struggle in which he took to invest in
me and take me to a good school educate
me because he wanted me to have the very
best in life the visions of grandeur are
that particular age consisted of me
going to a good school doing well
in my studies are getting a job
preferably with a white manager in it
because then that meant that I have was
a substantive person in that
organization being happily married
possibly having four kids at that
particular time so I only have two now
I’ll probably not achieve that and maybe
owning a home having two calves one for
me one for the hobby that was what was
considered the good life but as I
continued pursuing this and I pursued it
relentlessly I did very well in my
studies I graduated with first-class
honours I’m a scientist by training and
even in my career I’ve pursued it with
all the passion that I had such that I
ended up becoming a director and in my
early thirties in one of the fastest
growing companies in Kenya and which has
not become one of the big companies in
this market but the more they
achievements piled up the less
gratifying
it felt enough for me did not make sense
yet I realized that this disease if I
may call it so was not a disease that
was unique to me because I could see a
lot of young people would come to me and
wanted to have a conversation and ask
how can I get to the place where you
have gotten how can i accelerate my
career as fast as you have what is that
magic formula that you have found and
therefore I began to ask myself could
there be something more than this
because I was ticking all the right
boxes but still I could not find that in
a piece or that depth of meaning that I
wanted to find I began to ask myself
would it be possible for me to find a
bigger purpose a bigger reason to leave
what would be the impact that I would
live in this world would it be possible
for me to begin to write out my own
neurology while I was still alive now I
asked that question to many young people
who come into my office
who say that they want me to coach them
away Beach out there and I ask them can
you draw for me the map of your life
where you have come from your past your
present your future and the legacy that
you want to leave when you are gone I
asked them to write their own eulogy
what would you want to be read when you
leave and typical Africans we are very
superstitious so many people get very
nervous when you ask them that but I
think that conversation forces you to be
able to confront some realities and some
truths about yourself
I enjoyed studying geography as a young
girl and in high school I used to love
books I still love books I love the
smell of books and I really struggled
with having to read my material of
Kindle because I loved the power and
they feel that you actually have when
you’re holding a real book in your hands
one of the books that I really loved
when I was in high school was the Atlas
I don’t know if you can see that the
Atlas a book
I love the Atlas and there isn’t where I
love the addresses because it should be
all the different countries that were
there in the world and the possibilities
that existed in the different cultures
the people and just the desire to want
to travel and go and see all these
places for myself but one of the things
that really amazed me about my geography
class and the Atlas was the fact that
the compass the way it’s operated I
could never really figure it out now no
matter where you are in the world no
matter what your graphical space no
matter what time of day the north will
always be the north the South will
always be myself and it got me thinking
wondering what if life was that
predictable would it be possible for me
as an individual to be able to define
that – not for myself would it be
possible for me Sophia to be able to
know that magnetic note that would
consistently drive me
that will consistently inspire me keep
me grounded in my high seasons and my
low seasons the light through which and
by which I would say yes and no learn
how to do the boundaries in my life the
guide by which I would operate and
organize my otherwise chaotic life there
is a funny Irish proba that I had once
that says that no matter how tall your
grandfather was you have to do your own
growing and that for me while I laughter
– the first time I had it it really sank
deep within me because it made me
realize that I needed to take personal
responsibility for my own life the words
run so true for me and therefore if I
needed to be responsible for creating an
orchestra team the best version of me so
this has been my journey bringing
meaning in the space of time that I’m
currently existing and beginning to
define the legacy that you learn outlive
me in the space of time when I will no
longer be here in physical form losing
me wasn’t me it helped me to find myself
it helped me to find that which I was
living for it helped me to discover my
true north discovering my children or
has actually been a journey about
discovering my purpose and the reason
why I’ve been put on this space of Earth
I have now begun to leave and I’m still
a work in progress with an end in mind
very conscious of the fact that I am
running a race and that race has a
finish line I have been allocated a
certain period of time and within that
time I need to be very clear about what
is the impact that I want to generate in
the lives
the people who are around me in the
community in the place where I have been
asked to serve in the marketplace in the
relationships that I importance to me as
part of this process I did a time audit
of my life and it was interesting and
very surprising for me to find that the
things that I was allocating my time to
the items that I was giving high
attention were not necessarily the
things that were important in shaping my
destiny and helping me write that
geology that I wanted to be known for it
became very clear to me and this is
something that I would like you to
remember that way our purpose is unknown
my greatest assets have been my failures
I have lands to learn from my mistakes
my mistakes have shaped me they have
showed me the paths on which I should
tread and the ones which will bring me
pain I had a friend of mine the other
day who said that wise people normally
learn from the mistakes of others but
fools normally wage to make their own I
therefore chose to learn from my own
mistakes
plus the mistakes that I could see
others making so with time I have learnt
to forgive myself I have learnt to sew
with time I have learned to celebrate
myself the things that I uniquely mean
they are passion that I have where even
still at my young age and I like to call
myself young though many people like to
remind me that I’m getting to fourth Flo
next year those fashions are still my
passions they make me uniquely me I love
dancing I love DJ that’s me and I
celebrate that and I’m not long
apologetic about it with time I have
learnt to make opportunity
for the things that I important I have
learnt to make magic in the
relationships that I have especially the
relationships of my children and the
relationships of the people that are
closest to me we are not more than three
by the way
so you see Jasmine my daughter that alia
tree that I played had actually
identified her purpose in a composition
that she was having with me
she knew the goal that she wanted to
achieve and she applied all her little
smarts in making sure that she was able
to get it
she was negotiating and she was battling
with me so that she could ensure that
she was able to achieve the same now I
know that probably there may be some of
us who are having that challenge then
again maybe you’re all as much one then
I’m the only one who had to go through
that challenge but in going through that
journey which has taken me a couple of
years and which is a journey that I’m
still on I have lunch a couple of things
number one that Pappas gives you
direction that purpose helps you to
define your values and the things that I
important to you that in the journey of
discovering purpose you learn how to say
yes to a bigger vision of yourself you
learn how to define your repete to your
character which leads your reputation
and in that process you ultimately end
up writing your own geology ladies and
gentlemen in this moment in time I
believe we all have the opportunity to
be able to define the way we want to be
defined when we are no longer there to
define ourselves let us not waste
you
[Applause]
[Music]
[Music]
okay please so in case you might dream
that is Michael to Jasmine
[Music]
so she verse 7 for 17 and also beautiful
modernist of young daughters
oh that’s 82 these wife understand what
it is that I mean when I say that I love
trust me and together we have brother
Jason who is three years older one of
the reasons why not judge the other way
I do is because she laughed with me that
she can terrorize me and that having to
do I think she thinks everything that I
think that’s all that I’ve shared with
you was a call that I received from her
about she needs to go
I had troubles and like any pilot and
sometimes travels a little too I witness
even when it’s a lot of back to back
trouble I had decided to get for her
some chocolates so that I could train a
piece and the couple of times I had no
way she last imagery chocolates and
particularly last is apartment were many
cans and so we had negotiated an outcome
because I know my daughter very well I
know have her person she to eat each
other let’s chicken actually take a hold
of all 12 the box up top and consider it
all in one go so we had negotiated an
outcome where she needs one topic by the
age if she didn’t do that then anything
donut over them I threatened have a
visit of Adventists have you dentist for
that angry who I have to say of one of
our favorite people in the world so we
have agreed but as I can see two days
later she had finished her question for
the day that in the reason I got that
call and she was
she’s happy her eyes family six
patentable that she had and I think I’ll
just turn it between my deletions
imagine how that call ended not my
children bring a little joy they bring a
lot of joy and give meaning to the work
that I do in my everyday life I was born
in a very humble background and when I
look at my life to be in half by half
calm I feel truly blessed and very
privileged because even when I was young
the dreams that my parents had for me
and even degrees that I had for myself I
never realized that I’d be able to come
as far as I have come yet what I have
often found that the many news teams
that were to take it for me were my
parents my parents what we have in our
food
my dad worked in the government are the
civil servants and my money when I was
busy pursuing those things I discovered
that in the general assistive life even
while and I put opportunities to be able
to accelerate me with things that we
thought were important then I haven’t
found myself actually I was leading a
glorious life a life that sometimes
people were gonna school me
I ended and they often came to talk to
me and asked me to find find for them
which is that success for me Lana
I was really not the glory but it was a
toil
it was a toy and an internal struggle
that was within me it was boiling within
me and I could not be able to express it
because outwardly everybody celebrated
the person that I was and the woman that
I was the marketplace leader that I was
they celebrated me they applauded me
but inside I was struggling to find the
meaning and this internal struggle
landed me in a hospital bed six seven
years ago I was burning out my engines
were running
at full gear I needed to go through
surgery and that surgery was required to
reset the equilibrium in a life that was
going too fast that was becoming a bit
chaotic and I just needed a research so
as I lay there and I pondered about my
life it was on a cold day in Joburg and
I was a bit frightened and a bit
terrified
not because I scare easily but because
of the fact that I was feeling pretty
helpless lying on that hospital bed I
had just been given a dose of anesthesia
so it was all looking very fuzzy to me
and I was just staring into the theater
lights and there are all now beginning
to fade into the background of my mind
but as I laid there and I contemplated
my life I thought about my daughter who
I had just given birth to a couple of
months before 3 to be exact
who was waiting for me to breastfeed her
and I couldn’t or her brother who was 3
years older he was getting getting ready
for preschool and he needed me at that
particular time and required my
attention but I couldn’t be there so as
I laid there just before the surgery I
thought dropped into the spirit of my
mind and I asked myself was this really
the best version
I wanna go one of my very close
girlfriends lost her dad and I remember
I attended the funeral service it was a
beautiful service full of beautiful
music and there are lots of positive
citations that were said of her dad who
had unlived a very a life that was
highly celebrated based on what was
shared are the pulpits by his family and
his friends and as I sat there and read
the eulogy
I thought dropped in my mind and I let
it sink during that moment and I began
to wonder and ask myself at that
particular point what would become of me
when I was gone because the reality that
we all confronts is that one day we will
be gone I am not really afraid of death
I think I’ve had that conversation with
myself and planned for it but as I sat
there and let that moment just sink into
the depths of my mind it got me thinking
what would be left of me when I was gone
what difference if any would my absence
make would people notice when I left or
did just be the impression that would be
left in my family and friends would that
be any impact would there be any legacy
with their big stories that would be
told just like my girlfriend’s dad of a
story that was well lived my dad has
always inspired me when I was young and
I was growing up and I’m a fast born in
a family of five I could see the
struggle in which he took to invest in
me and take me to a good school educate
me because he wanted me to have the very
best in life the visions of grandeur are
that particular age consisted of me
going to a good school doing well
in my studies are getting a job
preferably with a white manager in it
because then that meant that I have was
a substantive person in that
organization being happily married
possibly having four kids at that
particular time so I only have two now
I’ll probably not achieve that and maybe
owning a home having two calves one for
me one for the hobby that was what was
considered the good life but as I
continued pursuing this and I pursued it
relentlessly I did very well in my
studies I graduated with first-class
honours I’m a scientist by training and
even in my career I’ve pursued it with
all the passion that I had such that I
ended up becoming a director and in my
early thirties in one of the fastest
growing companies in Kenya and which has
not become one of the big companies in
this market but the more they
achievements piled up the less
gratifying
it felt enough for me did not make sense
yet I realized that this disease if I
may call it so was not a disease that
was unique to me because I could see a
lot of young people would come to me and
wanted to have a conversation and ask
how can I get to the place where you
have gotten how can i accelerate my
career as fast as you have what is that
magic formula that you have found and
therefore I began to ask myself could
there be something more than this
because I was ticking all the right
boxes but still I could not find that in
a piece or that depth of meaning that I
wanted to find I began to ask myself
would it be possible for me to find a
bigger purpose a bigger reason to leave
what would be the impact that I would
live in this world would it be possible
for me to begin to write out my own
neurology while I was still alive now I
asked that question to many young people
who come into my office
who say that they want me to coach them
away Beach out there and I ask them can
you draw for me the map of your life
where you have come from your past your
present your future and the legacy that
you want to leave when you are gone I
asked them to write their own eulogy
what would you want to be read when you
leave and typical Africans we are very
superstitious so many people get very
nervous when you ask them that but I
think that conversation forces you to be
able to confront some realities and some
truths about yourself
I enjoyed studying geography as a young
girl and in high school I used to love
books I still love books I love the
smell of books and I really struggled
with having to read my material of
Kindle because I loved the power and
they feel that you actually have when
you’re holding a real book in your hands
one of the books that I really loved
when I was in high school was the Atlas
I don’t know if you can see that the
Atlas a book
I love the Atlas and there isn’t where I
love the addresses because it should be
all the different countries that were
there in the world and the possibilities
that existed in the different cultures
the people and just the desire to want
to travel and go and see all these
places for myself but one of the things
that really amazed me about my geography
class and the Atlas was the fact that
the compass the way it’s operated I
could never really figure it out now no
matter where you are in the world no
matter what your graphical space no
matter what time of day the north will
always be the north the South will
always be myself and it got me thinking
wondering what if life was that
predictable would it be possible for me
as an individual to be able to define
that – not for myself would it be
possible for me Sophia to be able to
know that magnetic note that would
consistently drive me
that will consistently inspire me keep
me grounded in my high seasons and my
low seasons the light through which and
by which I would say yes and no learn
how to do the boundaries in my life the
guide by which I would operate and
organize my otherwise chaotic life there
is a funny Irish proba that I had once
that says that no matter how tall your
grandfather was you have to do your own
growing and that for me while I laughter
– the first time I had it it really sank
deep within me because it made me
realize that I needed to take personal
responsibility for my own life the words
run so true for me and therefore if I
needed to be responsible for creating an
orchestra team the best version of me so
this has been my journey bringing
meaning in the space of time that I’m
currently existing and beginning to
define the legacy that you learn outlive
me in the space of time when I will no
longer be here in physical form losing
me wasn’t me it helped me to find myself
it helped me to find that which I was
living for it helped me to discover my
true north discovering my children or
has actually been a journey about
discovering my purpose and the reason
why I’ve been put on this space of Earth
I have now begun to leave and I’m still
a work in progress with an end in mind
very conscious of the fact that I am
running a race and that race has a
finish line I have been allocated a
certain period of time and within that
time I need to be very clear about what
is the impact that I want to generate in
the lives
the people who are around me in the
community in the place where I have been
asked to serve in the marketplace in the
relationships that I importance to me as
part of this process I did a time audit
of my life and it was interesting and
very surprising for me to find that the
things that I was allocating my time to
the items that I was giving high
attention were not necessarily the
things that were important in shaping my
destiny and helping me write that
geology that I wanted to be known for it
became very clear to me and this is
something that I would like you to
remember that way our purpose is unknown
my greatest assets have been my failures
I have lands to learn from my mistakes
my mistakes have shaped me they have
showed me the paths on which I should
tread and the ones which will bring me
pain I had a friend of mine the other
day who said that wise people normally
learn from the mistakes of others but
fools normally wage to make their own I
therefore chose to learn from my own
mistakes
plus the mistakes that I could see
others making so with time I have learnt
to forgive myself I have learnt to sew
with time I have learned to celebrate
myself the things that I uniquely mean
they are passion that I have where even
still at my young age and I like to call
myself young though many people like to
remind me that I’m getting to fourth Flo
next year those fashions are still my
passions they make me uniquely me I love
dancing I love DJ that’s me and I
celebrate that and I’m not long
apologetic about it with time I have
learnt to make opportunity
for the things that I important I have
learnt to make magic in the
relationships that I have especially the
relationships of my children and the
relationships of the people that are
closest to me we are not more than three
by the way
so you see Jasmine my daughter that alia
tree that I played had actually
identified her purpose in a composition
that she was having with me
she knew the goal that she wanted to
achieve and she applied all her little
smarts in making sure that she was able
to get it
she was negotiating and she was battling
with me so that she could ensure that
she was able to achieve the same now I
know that probably there may be some of
us who are having that challenge then
again maybe you’re all as much one then
I’m the only one who had to go through
that challenge but in going through that
journey which has taken me a couple of
years and which is a journey that I’m
still on I have lunch a couple of things
number one that Pappas gives you
direction that purpose helps you to
define your values and the things that I
important to you that in the journey of
discovering purpose you learn how to say
yes to a bigger vision of yourself you
learn how to define your repete to your
character which leads your reputation
and in that process you ultimately end
up writing your own geology ladies and
gentlemen in this moment in time I
believe we all have the opportunity to
be able to define the way we want to be
defined when we are no longer there to
define ourselves let us not waste
you
[Applause]
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