[Applause]
thank you so I’ve been in Fairbanks
about a couple years now and I’ve
learned in that time I have a very
common Fairbanks story I came here
expecting to stay a short amount of time
and I’m still here and I think I thought
a lot about like what is it about this
place that really draws us in because my
story is not unique
you know whenever anyone asks me I
always say well it’s the people here
they’re really nice but really what it
is is the people the way that we show up
for one another
the way that we take care of each other
here and I’ve seen that in so many
different ways the first time I saw that
was when my car broke down on the
Johanson and people stopped I’ve had a
moment of panic but people stopped and
helped me push it off the road and I see
it excuse me when tragedy happens and we
show up we fundraise we bring food we
show up for our neighbors and that’s
been really important for me here
because I’m so far from my family in
Scotland and it makes me feel safe here
I know if I go on a ditch and it’s 40
below
probably someone will help me I know
that if my house burns down like people
will show up for me in whatever way they
can it’s just what we do here and so
it’s been a really hard truth for me to
sit in that not everyone is safe here
that there are people being hurt you
know whether we’ve seen statistics that
tell us that the rate of domestic
violence and sexual assault in Alaska is
the highest in the nation whether we
have watched the news and seeing that
there have been several domestic
violence homicides in Fairbanks in the
last six months whether it’s affected
people we know and we love it’s here and
so I know this community is made up of
good people who want to do something
about that we all want to be safe we
want our name
to be safe and so doing something about
that can seem completely overwhelming
can seem like that’s the job of other
people but the reality is that there are
people working tirelessly Anor shelters
and our law enforcement in our legal
system in our counseling centers they’re
working tirelessly to address this
problem and they can’t do it alone if
they could do it alone it would be done
I know they need us to pitch in and so
that’s why I want to talk about today is
ways that we can do that but first I
want to acknowledge that it’s hard it
can be hard to address violence in our
community there are things that stop us
and I’m going to call them barriers
hopefully my clicker works I’m going to
call them barriers but really they are
our personal boundaries they are things
that stop us intervening so for personal
safety
you know I if I’m not safe intervening
and violence and I’m probably not going
to if you know maybe I’m not sure what
I’m seeing maybe I’m not sure if it’s my
place to intervene in violence maybe I’m
not sure if you know maybe it’s not my
business to intervene I don’t know so
things we come up against things you
know when we get that feeling in our gut
that tells us something is not right
here
there are things that stop us so we
really want to have tools to address
violence when we see it and so I’m going
to talk about these tools I’m going to
call on the 3ds which I apologize for
the slides here but there are three DS
and they’re the three DS are distract
delegate and direct and so they’re tools
for when you see violence and you want
to do something what are you going to do
and so direct it’s going to be I’m going
to directly intervene maybe I see
something I’m
and about and I’m gonna go over and say
like you know this making me
uncomfortable or I’m gonna go over to a
person I’m worried about and say just
check in with them I’m gonna say do you
need help
but maybe I’m that’s not appropriate for
me at that time so I’m gonna delegate
and delegate is when I’m gonna ask for
someone else to help me you know we can
call 9-1-1 that’s a good delegate but we
can also call law enforcement to check
on someone we can also you know ask your
pastor
to check on someone for you you can also
ask your neighbor or you know a
bartender
someone who might be able to intervene
when you can or it’s not safe
there’s also distract so distract is a
way that we can address violence without
really acknowledging it so perhaps I’m
going to start a completely unrelated
conversation when I see something
perhaps I’m going to come in my car and
I see something happening I could honk
my horn really loudly something that
just interrupts that moment of violence
or potential violence when I see it and
so these are going to be our reactive
tools that we can equip herself with
these tools to help keep our community
safe but it’s not really enough you know
we need to be addressing violence before
it’s in front of us we need to really be
proactive about addressing violence
because when we’re proactive we’re
telling the people around us that we
don’t tolerate violence here and we get
everyone to do their part so I’m going
to throw out some ideas for ways that
you can be involved in proactively
addressing violence and I’m going to be
outside during the break so please come
talk to me about it if you want to
follow up on any of these so we can
start talking about violence normalize
that conversation we can talk to our
kids about healthy boundaries we can
talk to our partners we can look at our
own relationships and see if they’re
healthy and if they’re not there are
ways we can find out how
to make them healthy we can get involved
in violence prevention work there’s
really cool things happening in this
community that keep us safe get involved
do something it gave you kind of a taste
a little taste with our tools but take a
greendot training there are ways that we
can really look at those tools and how
we’re going to intervene when we have an
opportunity to do that come as a
workplace come as a family you can come
to community events there’s some really
fun awareness events that your
participation really shows the people
around you that you that this matters to
you and that you’re going to be a part
of the solution in whatever way that you
can you can know your resources that
keep people safe in this community you
can bring them with you bring them to
your workplace bring them to your gym
put them in the bathroom or the locker
room at your gym so that people can ask
for help if they need it
no matter what you do make a personal
commitment to do something because this
work is going to take all of us it’s
going to take me it’s going to take you
so just do something whatever that makes
sense for you thank
[Applause]
you
[Applause]
thank you so I’ve been in Fairbanks
about a couple years now and I’ve
learned in that time I have a very
common Fairbanks story I came here
expecting to stay a short amount of time
and I’m still here and I think I thought
a lot about like what is it about this
place that really draws us in because my
story is not unique
you know whenever anyone asks me I
always say well it’s the people here
they’re really nice but really what it
is is the people the way that we show up
for one another
the way that we take care of each other
here and I’ve seen that in so many
different ways the first time I saw that
was when my car broke down on the
Johanson and people stopped I’ve had a
moment of panic but people stopped and
helped me push it off the road and I see
it excuse me when tragedy happens and we
show up we fundraise we bring food we
show up for our neighbors and that’s
been really important for me here
because I’m so far from my family in
Scotland and it makes me feel safe here
I know if I go on a ditch and it’s 40
below
probably someone will help me I know
that if my house burns down like people
will show up for me in whatever way they
can it’s just what we do here and so
it’s been a really hard truth for me to
sit in that not everyone is safe here
that there are people being hurt you
know whether we’ve seen statistics that
tell us that the rate of domestic
violence and sexual assault in Alaska is
the highest in the nation whether we
have watched the news and seeing that
there have been several domestic
violence homicides in Fairbanks in the
last six months whether it’s affected
people we know and we love it’s here and
so I know this community is made up of
good people who want to do something
about that we all want to be safe we
want our name
to be safe and so doing something about
that can seem completely overwhelming
can seem like that’s the job of other
people but the reality is that there are
people working tirelessly Anor shelters
and our law enforcement in our legal
system in our counseling centers they’re
working tirelessly to address this
problem and they can’t do it alone if
they could do it alone it would be done
I know they need us to pitch in and so
that’s why I want to talk about today is
ways that we can do that but first I
want to acknowledge that it’s hard it
can be hard to address violence in our
community there are things that stop us
and I’m going to call them barriers
hopefully my clicker works I’m going to
call them barriers but really they are
our personal boundaries they are things
that stop us intervening so for personal
safety
you know I if I’m not safe intervening
and violence and I’m probably not going
to if you know maybe I’m not sure what
I’m seeing maybe I’m not sure if it’s my
place to intervene in violence maybe I’m
not sure if you know maybe it’s not my
business to intervene I don’t know so
things we come up against things you
know when we get that feeling in our gut
that tells us something is not right
here
there are things that stop us so we
really want to have tools to address
violence when we see it and so I’m going
to talk about these tools I’m going to
call on the 3ds which I apologize for
the slides here but there are three DS
and they’re the three DS are distract
delegate and direct and so they’re tools
for when you see violence and you want
to do something what are you going to do
and so direct it’s going to be I’m going
to directly intervene maybe I see
something I’m
and about and I’m gonna go over and say
like you know this making me
uncomfortable or I’m gonna go over to a
person I’m worried about and say just
check in with them I’m gonna say do you
need help
but maybe I’m that’s not appropriate for
me at that time so I’m gonna delegate
and delegate is when I’m gonna ask for
someone else to help me you know we can
call 9-1-1 that’s a good delegate but we
can also call law enforcement to check
on someone we can also you know ask your
pastor
to check on someone for you you can also
ask your neighbor or you know a
bartender
someone who might be able to intervene
when you can or it’s not safe
there’s also distract so distract is a
way that we can address violence without
really acknowledging it so perhaps I’m
going to start a completely unrelated
conversation when I see something
perhaps I’m going to come in my car and
I see something happening I could honk
my horn really loudly something that
just interrupts that moment of violence
or potential violence when I see it and
so these are going to be our reactive
tools that we can equip herself with
these tools to help keep our community
safe but it’s not really enough you know
we need to be addressing violence before
it’s in front of us we need to really be
proactive about addressing violence
because when we’re proactive we’re
telling the people around us that we
don’t tolerate violence here and we get
everyone to do their part so I’m going
to throw out some ideas for ways that
you can be involved in proactively
addressing violence and I’m going to be
outside during the break so please come
talk to me about it if you want to
follow up on any of these so we can
start talking about violence normalize
that conversation we can talk to our
kids about healthy boundaries we can
talk to our partners we can look at our
own relationships and see if they’re
healthy and if they’re not there are
ways we can find out how
to make them healthy we can get involved
in violence prevention work there’s
really cool things happening in this
community that keep us safe get involved
do something it gave you kind of a taste
a little taste with our tools but take a
greendot training there are ways that we
can really look at those tools and how
we’re going to intervene when we have an
opportunity to do that come as a
workplace come as a family you can come
to community events there’s some really
fun awareness events that your
participation really shows the people
around you that you that this matters to
you and that you’re going to be a part
of the solution in whatever way that you
can you can know your resources that
keep people safe in this community you
can bring them with you bring them to
your workplace bring them to your gym
put them in the bathroom or the locker
room at your gym so that people can ask
for help if they need it
no matter what you do make a personal
commitment to do something because this
work is going to take all of us it’s
going to take me it’s going to take you
so just do something whatever that makes
sense for you thank
[Applause]
you
[Applause]
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