you
so one day one of my colleague came to
my office with a gift it was wonderfully
wrapped in a beautiful piece of paper
and inside it he was wrapped again with
a little note saying exciting right and
in there
I finally found well it’s kind of shaky
but my name in chocolate letters so I go
wow I love it that’s so kind of you what
did I do to deserve this
well Matilda has been eight months now
that you’re in the company and uh I know
that you’re feeling like so here is
a chocolate letter for every month of
your intense trouble well thank you so
kind didn’t really know how to take this
anymore
and the saddest part is that this isn’t
just a introduction that I made
it to be catchy this is actually a true
story and what this chocolate bar
already did
despite lowering the age all suffer from
diabetes or any other kind of sugar
overload related disorder is that it
made me deeply reflect on how did I even
get here to this point of low self
esteem a feeling of being inadequate
giving 600 percent of myself for reasons
I have anymore and filling fooled and
deluded about everything that had been
taught to me so far
so let’s rebound to my childhood to
understand the source of this entire
situation my parents grew up with a much
more positive and smoother life
experience than the one of my
grandparents so they raised me with a
sense of optimism and infinite
possibilities telling me that I was
special and that I could do whatever I
wanted to do never actually warning me
that at least at some point I would need
to
in the effort I also grew up in a world
of instant gratification this is what I
do if I want to eat sushi learn Dutch
buy socks talk to my Mexican friend
check how much money I have left on my
bank account or even if I want to date
for tonight it’s a world of constant
access I do not even know what this
trans word even mean patience that
sounds so old-fashioned
and even at school I’ve been told I just
need to work for my exams have a good
grades that will get me to a good job
and a great career easy this also I can
do so my tragus ambition with being a
little bit mistaken about my own
self-worth leaves me with completely
unrealistic wishes about my future
career I am not dreaming about a secure
career like our parents did I’m dreaming
about international mobility free coffee
and hot chocolate bean bags fruit
baskets the possibility to gain my own
hours
I want to learn new skills of the time
be given responsibilities feel
autonomous no micromanagement all this
and I actually realized that this is
might be not completely possible but I
don’t know this yet anyways so I study
and I get ready for the workplace with
high expectations high self-esteem and
the very deep certainty that everything
would be given to me in a second has it
always been and then I face reality I
step in a corporate world that I wasn’t
prepared for in an environment that
cares more
about numbers then about the long life
fulfillment of its people I realized
that I’m not special anymore that I’m
just one among others and that actually
a great career takes time patience
effort and long years of sweat and tears
to build great how do I get there I
finally feel with my low self-esteem
without feeling of being inadequate and
I realize that I studied all these years
to bring to the workplace a toolbox that
is actually full of the wrong tools
because our school system has been
designed during the industrial
revolution so it does a wonderful job
creating people for the jobs of the 20th
century there’s just one big problem we
do not need those kind of people anymore
also my generation let’s say our
generation doesn’t learn the way our
parents did we use technological tools
as an extension of our brain we find
empowerment discovering things on our
own what we want from a teacher is
actually just to know what do you want
us to know and when do you want us to
know it
we will share explore and investigate
far more terrified than any teacher
would require us to do so just kick us
out of the classroom with a problem to
solve and we will come back saying we
tried and we appeal II failed and just
help us understand why we’re not coming
to university anymore to get a degree we
want to add value to it we do not want
to walk out of the classroom knowing
facts from someone who doesn’t know
better than Google so
I think now we need school systems that
value problem-solving and autonomy as
much as it values the ability to absorb
and regurgitate information fortunately
I do not want you to walk out of this
place feeling that you’re going to fail
your career no matter what you do
because every school system has an
evolved fast enough let’s kind of be
alright but I rather want you to leave
with some insights on how you generation
of self learner can teach yourself some
of the skills that you only learn the
very existence of when you too badly
need them so I made a list of five that
for me are quite important and that you
should really think of the first one is
self-awareness someone who’s self-aware
is very able to understand his own
strengths and weaknesses his personal
feelings and emotions his limitations
someone who’s self-aware is also better
able to handle and to learn from
constructive criticism someone who’s
self-aware is also variable to take very
important decision because he can base
his understanding of the situation on
his gut such big life-changing choices
such as which job to pursue or which
partner you want to build a life with so
how can you teach yourself this you have
to train yourself on figuring out how
you feel throughout the day what I did
is that I put a little alarm clock at
four different times during the day and
when it rings I pause and I try to
understand how I feel at that very fist
specific moment and sometimes I put the
finger on doubts on frustrations on
disappointments that I hadn’t even
noticed so I can start figuring out
where does this come from and I can
start acting on it good thing
second skill how to fail at school we
have been trained for success failure
it’s bad it’s wrong it’s a shame you’re
an idiot you won’t pass but we’re never
being taught that actually failure is an
opportunity for learning and for growth
so how can you teach yourself this well
the best way is to actually force
yourself to picture the bigger picture
the bigger objective so that every
failure that comes on the way makes you
actually stronger for when you reach it
and every time you fail ask yourself
these questions what can I learn from
this what’s the lesson here
and remember that the people who’ve
reached the most success are the one who
knows how to fail rephrase and bounce
back ready for the next challenge third
skill is how to network we have been
told that networking is the ability to
form connections with people in order to
use them in the future
well great that’s not at all networking
is also about making connections with
people that can challenge you and that
can inspire you and that can also push
you to the next level
and it’s a mutually beneficial
relationship so whenever possible you
should give first because you’ll realize
that you will get back far more than
what you would have expected from the
beginning how can you teach yourself as
well you can go to events that are
related or not to your personal interest
or your professional field and meet
people people that are passionate that
are inspiring and don’t be afraid to ask
for ideas for inputs for questions
they’ll be happy to help and remember
that being a connector is as important
as forging connections for yourself
fourth
time management we only know from school
that it starts at eight it finishes at
five every fifty-five minutes there is a
bill that says that you need to move
from run room to the other going from
the Battle of Napoleon to the
mitochondria is the power of the sale
but what about the 65 other percent of
your time we don’t know how to manage
this and trust me if you end up writing
your final paper during these three days
of intense blockers you have set before
the deadline it’s because you had a
little issue managing the 15 previous
weeks how can you teach yourself this
well every Sunday you can sit down for
half an hour and set yourself goals for
the weeks to come
this week I want to have done twice to
the gym repaired my bicycle called my
grandmother but a gift for my cousin’s
birthday okay and scheduled them so that
you have to do them as much as you have
to go to your mathematic class and you
don’t end up next Sunday with the
equivalent of 15 hours required to do
your activity and two remaining options
skipping or postponing and then the
fifth skill and the one I know the most
about how to avoid a burnout we are told
that we need to work ourselves to the
bone don’t fall into this job being able
to take a step back and to rest is as
important than to know when you have to
push yourself and to work hard how do
you teach yourself is well the best way
to relieve some pressure is actually to
take ten minutes of meditation a day
because it’s the best way to cut
yourself the information of a load that
we get also sometimes switch your phone
off or just leaving behind
world one hand I promise so to end what
I want you to take away from this is
that our world is full of opportunity
for ambitious people we will be always
facing situations that we’ve never been
confronted to the real skill is now to
adapt because the one who can adapt can
evolve along with the changes so the way
might be and clear but just dive in
somewhere and teach yourself on the way
thank you
[Applause]
you
so one day one of my colleague came to
my office with a gift it was wonderfully
wrapped in a beautiful piece of paper
and inside it he was wrapped again with
a little note saying exciting right and
in there
I finally found well it’s kind of shaky
but my name in chocolate letters so I go
wow I love it that’s so kind of you what
did I do to deserve this
well Matilda has been eight months now
that you’re in the company and uh I know
that you’re feeling like so here is
a chocolate letter for every month of
your intense trouble well thank you so
kind didn’t really know how to take this
anymore
and the saddest part is that this isn’t
just a introduction that I made
it to be catchy this is actually a true
story and what this chocolate bar
already did
despite lowering the age all suffer from
diabetes or any other kind of sugar
overload related disorder is that it
made me deeply reflect on how did I even
get here to this point of low self
esteem a feeling of being inadequate
giving 600 percent of myself for reasons
I have anymore and filling fooled and
deluded about everything that had been
taught to me so far
so let’s rebound to my childhood to
understand the source of this entire
situation my parents grew up with a much
more positive and smoother life
experience than the one of my
grandparents so they raised me with a
sense of optimism and infinite
possibilities telling me that I was
special and that I could do whatever I
wanted to do never actually warning me
that at least at some point I would need
to
in the effort I also grew up in a world
of instant gratification this is what I
do if I want to eat sushi learn Dutch
buy socks talk to my Mexican friend
check how much money I have left on my
bank account or even if I want to date
for tonight it’s a world of constant
access I do not even know what this
trans word even mean patience that
sounds so old-fashioned
and even at school I’ve been told I just
need to work for my exams have a good
grades that will get me to a good job
and a great career easy this also I can
do so my tragus ambition with being a
little bit mistaken about my own
self-worth leaves me with completely
unrealistic wishes about my future
career I am not dreaming about a secure
career like our parents did I’m dreaming
about international mobility free coffee
and hot chocolate bean bags fruit
baskets the possibility to gain my own
hours
I want to learn new skills of the time
be given responsibilities feel
autonomous no micromanagement all this
and I actually realized that this is
might be not completely possible but I
don’t know this yet anyways so I study
and I get ready for the workplace with
high expectations high self-esteem and
the very deep certainty that everything
would be given to me in a second has it
always been and then I face reality I
step in a corporate world that I wasn’t
prepared for in an environment that
cares more
about numbers then about the long life
fulfillment of its people I realized
that I’m not special anymore that I’m
just one among others and that actually
a great career takes time patience
effort and long years of sweat and tears
to build great how do I get there I
finally feel with my low self-esteem
without feeling of being inadequate and
I realize that I studied all these years
to bring to the workplace a toolbox that
is actually full of the wrong tools
because our school system has been
designed during the industrial
revolution so it does a wonderful job
creating people for the jobs of the 20th
century there’s just one big problem we
do not need those kind of people anymore
also my generation let’s say our
generation doesn’t learn the way our
parents did we use technological tools
as an extension of our brain we find
empowerment discovering things on our
own what we want from a teacher is
actually just to know what do you want
us to know and when do you want us to
know it
we will share explore and investigate
far more terrified than any teacher
would require us to do so just kick us
out of the classroom with a problem to
solve and we will come back saying we
tried and we appeal II failed and just
help us understand why we’re not coming
to university anymore to get a degree we
want to add value to it we do not want
to walk out of the classroom knowing
facts from someone who doesn’t know
better than Google so
I think now we need school systems that
value problem-solving and autonomy as
much as it values the ability to absorb
and regurgitate information fortunately
I do not want you to walk out of this
place feeling that you’re going to fail
your career no matter what you do
because every school system has an
evolved fast enough let’s kind of be
alright but I rather want you to leave
with some insights on how you generation
of self learner can teach yourself some
of the skills that you only learn the
very existence of when you too badly
need them so I made a list of five that
for me are quite important and that you
should really think of the first one is
self-awareness someone who’s self-aware
is very able to understand his own
strengths and weaknesses his personal
feelings and emotions his limitations
someone who’s self-aware is also better
able to handle and to learn from
constructive criticism someone who’s
self-aware is also variable to take very
important decision because he can base
his understanding of the situation on
his gut such big life-changing choices
such as which job to pursue or which
partner you want to build a life with so
how can you teach yourself this you have
to train yourself on figuring out how
you feel throughout the day what I did
is that I put a little alarm clock at
four different times during the day and
when it rings I pause and I try to
understand how I feel at that very fist
specific moment and sometimes I put the
finger on doubts on frustrations on
disappointments that I hadn’t even
noticed so I can start figuring out
where does this come from and I can
start acting on it good thing
second skill how to fail at school we
have been trained for success failure
it’s bad it’s wrong it’s a shame you’re
an idiot you won’t pass but we’re never
being taught that actually failure is an
opportunity for learning and for growth
so how can you teach yourself this well
the best way is to actually force
yourself to picture the bigger picture
the bigger objective so that every
failure that comes on the way makes you
actually stronger for when you reach it
and every time you fail ask yourself
these questions what can I learn from
this what’s the lesson here
and remember that the people who’ve
reached the most success are the one who
knows how to fail rephrase and bounce
back ready for the next challenge third
skill is how to network we have been
told that networking is the ability to
form connections with people in order to
use them in the future
well great that’s not at all networking
is also about making connections with
people that can challenge you and that
can inspire you and that can also push
you to the next level
and it’s a mutually beneficial
relationship so whenever possible you
should give first because you’ll realize
that you will get back far more than
what you would have expected from the
beginning how can you teach yourself as
well you can go to events that are
related or not to your personal interest
or your professional field and meet
people people that are passionate that
are inspiring and don’t be afraid to ask
for ideas for inputs for questions
they’ll be happy to help and remember
that being a connector is as important
as forging connections for yourself
fourth
time management we only know from school
that it starts at eight it finishes at
five every fifty-five minutes there is a
bill that says that you need to move
from run room to the other going from
the Battle of Napoleon to the
mitochondria is the power of the sale
but what about the 65 other percent of
your time we don’t know how to manage
this and trust me if you end up writing
your final paper during these three days
of intense blockers you have set before
the deadline it’s because you had a
little issue managing the 15 previous
weeks how can you teach yourself this
well every Sunday you can sit down for
half an hour and set yourself goals for
the weeks to come
this week I want to have done twice to
the gym repaired my bicycle called my
grandmother but a gift for my cousin’s
birthday okay and scheduled them so that
you have to do them as much as you have
to go to your mathematic class and you
don’t end up next Sunday with the
equivalent of 15 hours required to do
your activity and two remaining options
skipping or postponing and then the
fifth skill and the one I know the most
about how to avoid a burnout we are told
that we need to work ourselves to the
bone don’t fall into this job being able
to take a step back and to rest is as
important than to know when you have to
push yourself and to work hard how do
you teach yourself is well the best way
to relieve some pressure is actually to
take ten minutes of meditation a day
because it’s the best way to cut
yourself the information of a load that
we get also sometimes switch your phone
off or just leaving behind
world one hand I promise so to end what
I want you to take away from this is
that our world is full of opportunity
for ambitious people we will be always
facing situations that we’ve never been
confronted to the real skill is now to
adapt because the one who can adapt can
evolve along with the changes so the way
might be and clear but just dive in
somewhere and teach yourself on the way
thank you
[Applause]
you
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