Translator: Mohamed Alzahaf Auditor: Riyad Almubarak
Hello all,
I’m really happy to be here today to talk to you on the subject of
You already know more than anyone else on the planet
I will talk about you.
I will talk about each person in this room
I will talk about each of listening to this program.
Let me give you a glimpse into what you We will keep.
We have been working, in the sense that we were conducting research
For almost six decades
With 200 thousand to 300 thousand people
Now on every continent, except Antarctica
In the context of doing this work,
We have learned key lessons about what we are as human beings.
I want you to think about yourself
The most important people for you
What I am saying ..
Does not constitute a difference of you
In terms of race, sex, language, and other types of differentiation
We’re talking now about what we are as human beings.
We have learned basic lessons
Within six decades of work with people everywhere on our planet.
OK.
The first lesson we learned is you and I
We understand ourselves that we care about or do not care about
By the people most important to us in the same four methods.
I will invite you to think about yourself in the moment
From where you continue
In your relationship person or persons most important for you
In your life or your business, such as parents and others.
The second main lesson we learned
Is that depending on where you soak it on this ongoing care of the chain,
Desirable, destined, lovable, whatever the word used –
We call acceptance –
People tend to respond exactly the same way,
Everywhere in the world.
So far we did not find any exceptions in any of the world’s population ..
There are some individuals who are exceptions but not the population.
Now, think of someone really important in your life
One parent, an intimate partner, someone make a difference
In the sense of you and in your feelings about yourself.
Put yourself on this series.
We do not accept or reject
But we all fall somewhere along the dimension
From being more or less in the acceptance or rejection.
Acceptable:
Warmth and love which offer, let’s say, your partner
Intimate partner?
How much warmth and affection that you see in this person as a human being?
Or the warmth and affection from your parents
When I was a kid growing up at home?
Instead, coldness and alienation?
Hostility and violence this person to you
And your feelings about it?
Is indifference or neglect of this person you?
And your feelings about the rejection of what we call non-differentiated
Do you feel that this is a person who is very important in your life
Not really respects you, wants you, cares for you, loves you
Whatever this feeling, this means that, from our point of view
We call that feelings of rejection.
Think of this person now.
What we found:
Responds to people everywhere on the planet exactly the same way
There are some as population of individuals who disagree somewhat
They are more capable of dealing with others
Respond exactly the same way to the feelings of rejection:
Worry, we feel insecure.
Then we start to anger
This specific group of things that I am on the screen from the rear
It begins to happen to us
It is about all other species
If we felt rejected by someone
Especially for children who grow up in a family do not feel the desire and appreciation
And love, and so –
It is about all other species
Such as topics of depression, and suicidal thoughts
Drug addiction, and problems in school, Estmrhma, and so on.
Since years
There was a special colleague a few years ago
He said: “Ron These are just the feelings of the people
It is not real, but not important
Hurt feelings, and what it? rid of it.”
What we have learned in recent years, with the development of neuroscience
Neuropsychology, neuroscience, biochemistry, and so forth
This is not simply the phenomenon of casual
This is not just something transient.
In fact, it affects the structure of the brain.
Feelings of rejection, by this very influential person in our lives
Light up the same part of the brain that Biih physical pain.
Imagine that you’ve entered your thumb in a car door
Or anything else really hurts.
That hurts!
Three weeks later, remember
“The boy who hurt you”
But you will not feel pain.
With rejection, when you remember
It will illuminate the brain
The same way you do when you encounter it for the first time
Or it can do so.
More importantly, perhaps in some respects
Children who grow up in families dominated by rejection –
With abuse, neglect, and other forms of psychological rejection, and so forth
It actually changes the structure of the brain.
Brain structure and function are two different things,
Significantly different, for children who have suffered from rejection.
Areas of the brain that are necessary for learning
Memory, emotional control, and a full range of things
Affected by the process of rejection.
Some of us –
There are about 100 people in the room now, as I think
I know that there are at least seven to ten of you
Who have suffered, severe pain, these things I am talking about.
In the United States, usually in the range of seven to ten percent
Of each sample, all the people who worked with them
They suffered a very serious manner.
The good side of that is that you know that 90 percent or more of us
They grew up with a love more or less in our families.
But many of us know people who have suffered from these kinds of things
Things, anger, and emotional Allastjabh
Emotional instability, and so forth, which revolve in these other directions.
Now, with the structure of the brain,
With neurological effects of biological, psychological neurological effects
It also tends to continue throughout their lives.
So far in adulthood, those who refused us as children
There are things that I talked about
In terms of personal things, psychological adjustment and public
Some neurological effects of biological, psychological nerve
The process of rejection, it extends into adulthood
And it makes us more vulnerable and affected
A full range of vital medical matters
More prone to cancers, diabetes, and sensitivity of one kind or another
The list of things to occur, and may also affect the age.
Some of these things, of course, do not know about them completely.
So, clearly we’re talking about something that, in fact, during the six Acode
Read psychological development literature
And the study of people all over the world
I have not yet personally find anything that affects this consistently
Over a long period of time in the lives of people everywhere
Regardless of differences in race, language, culture, gender, etc.
As this experience of feeling worthwhile or not.
Now, some people deny, “I do not need to care about me.”
I do not need to love me one, and I need to hug. “
Well, this is –
For people who refused, and this is not familiar
This is an issue we call “defensive independence”:
It hurts so much, that they have suffered too much harm.
By the way, we’re not sick people to talk to them about this:
These are the consequences of unexpected natural
Of the rejection process
It is all tend to experience.
We need to understand that these are normal reactions
That human beings Taatmlkna
To understand ourselves to care about the same way or not
And to respond in the same way
When we feel that these basic needs we have
Care, support and love are not fulfilled.
right Now
I do not want to Ohznkm completely,
So let me talk a little
Just about the benefits of feeling worthwhile
Acceptance, love, appreciation, and desire.
It serves as a significant barrier against all these negative effects
And many others that I have not mentioned to you –
The effects of rejection ..
It is a barrier against it, and develop it.
But the feeling of attention
For children who grow up in families where they feel loved
It has influence in itself.
This means, for example
Children who grow up in loving families tend to be more social,
They tend to be some assistants
They tend more towards being –
A full range of things that we parents want them in our children.
So it’s not only a barrier against the effects of rejection
But it has all the advantages in itself.
Then recently, we found something that is really interesting for me,
I think probably you.
I have thought of all of you, I hope, now
Everyone listens to this offer
About the personal relationship to your
With that person or other people who are very important for you
Where to put yourself
On these dimensions of warmth and affection on the one hand
Some of these things from the psychological adjustment
And personal behavior on the other.
We need a basic
The positive response from important people to us;
We are social animals in the solid foundations of our evolutionary biological
What we are as human beings ..
Seemingly.
Otherwise, why do not we find exceptions in any population in the world?
What I want to do is, as a catalyst for change
In a very troubled world we all know about
I want at this moment that ..
I forgot to say
So what we have learned is to be able to give affection
It has more than the benefits of getting affection.
So most of my work in the past six decades:
“What happens to us when we receive love, or not?”
But we discover recently
Because the work of other people like (Corey Floyd) and its partners
To be able to give affection
It has more than the benefits of receiving the benefits of affection.
health benefits
Psychological benefits, and others.
With this thought I want to be a catalyst for change
By inviting everyone: Please stand and Incubate the person next to you.
(Laughter)
Please, stand next to you and hugged the person.
(chat)
Is someone like Maangta?
I want to hug.
thank you.
(Laughter)
For those of you who want more information about this,
Please visit our web site.
And continue as such;
It takes about full separation or more semester to go through the details.
So, thank you very much for being a wonderful audience.
(clap)
Hello all,
I’m really happy to be here today to talk to you on the subject of
You already know more than anyone else on the planet
I will talk about you.
I will talk about each person in this room
I will talk about each of listening to this program.
Let me give you a glimpse into what you We will keep.
We have been working, in the sense that we were conducting research
For almost six decades
With 200 thousand to 300 thousand people
Now on every continent, except Antarctica
In the context of doing this work,
We have learned key lessons about what we are as human beings.
I want you to think about yourself
The most important people for you
What I am saying ..
Does not constitute a difference of you
In terms of race, sex, language, and other types of differentiation
We’re talking now about what we are as human beings.
We have learned basic lessons
Within six decades of work with people everywhere on our planet.
OK.
The first lesson we learned is you and I
We understand ourselves that we care about or do not care about
By the people most important to us in the same four methods.
I will invite you to think about yourself in the moment
From where you continue
In your relationship person or persons most important for you
In your life or your business, such as parents and others.
The second main lesson we learned
Is that depending on where you soak it on this ongoing care of the chain,
Desirable, destined, lovable, whatever the word used –
We call acceptance –
People tend to respond exactly the same way,
Everywhere in the world.
So far we did not find any exceptions in any of the world’s population ..
There are some individuals who are exceptions but not the population.
Now, think of someone really important in your life
One parent, an intimate partner, someone make a difference
In the sense of you and in your feelings about yourself.
Put yourself on this series.
We do not accept or reject
But we all fall somewhere along the dimension
From being more or less in the acceptance or rejection.
Acceptable:
Warmth and love which offer, let’s say, your partner
Intimate partner?
How much warmth and affection that you see in this person as a human being?
Or the warmth and affection from your parents
When I was a kid growing up at home?
Instead, coldness and alienation?
Hostility and violence this person to you
And your feelings about it?
Is indifference or neglect of this person you?
And your feelings about the rejection of what we call non-differentiated
Do you feel that this is a person who is very important in your life
Not really respects you, wants you, cares for you, loves you
Whatever this feeling, this means that, from our point of view
We call that feelings of rejection.
Think of this person now.
What we found:
Responds to people everywhere on the planet exactly the same way
There are some as population of individuals who disagree somewhat
They are more capable of dealing with others
Respond exactly the same way to the feelings of rejection:
Worry, we feel insecure.
Then we start to anger
This specific group of things that I am on the screen from the rear
It begins to happen to us
It is about all other species
If we felt rejected by someone
Especially for children who grow up in a family do not feel the desire and appreciation
And love, and so –
It is about all other species
Such as topics of depression, and suicidal thoughts
Drug addiction, and problems in school, Estmrhma, and so on.
Since years
There was a special colleague a few years ago
He said: “Ron These are just the feelings of the people
It is not real, but not important
Hurt feelings, and what it? rid of it.”
What we have learned in recent years, with the development of neuroscience
Neuropsychology, neuroscience, biochemistry, and so forth
This is not simply the phenomenon of casual
This is not just something transient.
In fact, it affects the structure of the brain.
Feelings of rejection, by this very influential person in our lives
Light up the same part of the brain that Biih physical pain.
Imagine that you’ve entered your thumb in a car door
Or anything else really hurts.
That hurts!
Three weeks later, remember
“The boy who hurt you”
But you will not feel pain.
With rejection, when you remember
It will illuminate the brain
The same way you do when you encounter it for the first time
Or it can do so.
More importantly, perhaps in some respects
Children who grow up in families dominated by rejection –
With abuse, neglect, and other forms of psychological rejection, and so forth
It actually changes the structure of the brain.
Brain structure and function are two different things,
Significantly different, for children who have suffered from rejection.
Areas of the brain that are necessary for learning
Memory, emotional control, and a full range of things
Affected by the process of rejection.
Some of us –
There are about 100 people in the room now, as I think
I know that there are at least seven to ten of you
Who have suffered, severe pain, these things I am talking about.
In the United States, usually in the range of seven to ten percent
Of each sample, all the people who worked with them
They suffered a very serious manner.
The good side of that is that you know that 90 percent or more of us
They grew up with a love more or less in our families.
But many of us know people who have suffered from these kinds of things
Things, anger, and emotional Allastjabh
Emotional instability, and so forth, which revolve in these other directions.
Now, with the structure of the brain,
With neurological effects of biological, psychological neurological effects
It also tends to continue throughout their lives.
So far in adulthood, those who refused us as children
There are things that I talked about
In terms of personal things, psychological adjustment and public
Some neurological effects of biological, psychological nerve
The process of rejection, it extends into adulthood
And it makes us more vulnerable and affected
A full range of vital medical matters
More prone to cancers, diabetes, and sensitivity of one kind or another
The list of things to occur, and may also affect the age.
Some of these things, of course, do not know about them completely.
So, clearly we’re talking about something that, in fact, during the six Acode
Read psychological development literature
And the study of people all over the world
I have not yet personally find anything that affects this consistently
Over a long period of time in the lives of people everywhere
Regardless of differences in race, language, culture, gender, etc.
As this experience of feeling worthwhile or not.
Now, some people deny, “I do not need to care about me.”
I do not need to love me one, and I need to hug. “
Well, this is –
For people who refused, and this is not familiar
This is an issue we call “defensive independence”:
It hurts so much, that they have suffered too much harm.
By the way, we’re not sick people to talk to them about this:
These are the consequences of unexpected natural
Of the rejection process
It is all tend to experience.
We need to understand that these are normal reactions
That human beings Taatmlkna
To understand ourselves to care about the same way or not
And to respond in the same way
When we feel that these basic needs we have
Care, support and love are not fulfilled.
right Now
I do not want to Ohznkm completely,
So let me talk a little
Just about the benefits of feeling worthwhile
Acceptance, love, appreciation, and desire.
It serves as a significant barrier against all these negative effects
And many others that I have not mentioned to you –
The effects of rejection ..
It is a barrier against it, and develop it.
But the feeling of attention
For children who grow up in families where they feel loved
It has influence in itself.
This means, for example
Children who grow up in loving families tend to be more social,
They tend to be some assistants
They tend more towards being –
A full range of things that we parents want them in our children.
So it’s not only a barrier against the effects of rejection
But it has all the advantages in itself.
Then recently, we found something that is really interesting for me,
I think probably you.
I have thought of all of you, I hope, now
Everyone listens to this offer
About the personal relationship to your
With that person or other people who are very important for you
Where to put yourself
On these dimensions of warmth and affection on the one hand
Some of these things from the psychological adjustment
And personal behavior on the other.
We need a basic
The positive response from important people to us;
We are social animals in the solid foundations of our evolutionary biological
What we are as human beings ..
Seemingly.
Otherwise, why do not we find exceptions in any population in the world?
What I want to do is, as a catalyst for change
In a very troubled world we all know about
I want at this moment that ..
I forgot to say
So what we have learned is to be able to give affection
It has more than the benefits of getting affection.
So most of my work in the past six decades:
“What happens to us when we receive love, or not?”
But we discover recently
Because the work of other people like (Corey Floyd) and its partners
To be able to give affection
It has more than the benefits of receiving the benefits of affection.
health benefits
Psychological benefits, and others.
With this thought I want to be a catalyst for change
By inviting everyone: Please stand and Incubate the person next to you.
(Laughter)
Please, stand next to you and hugged the person.
(chat)
Is someone like Maangta?
I want to hug.
thank you.
(Laughter)
For those of you who want more information about this,
Please visit our web site.
And continue as such;
It takes about full separation or more semester to go through the details.
So, thank you very much for being a wonderful audience.
(clap)
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