[Music]
[Applause]
[Music]
Hello, girls, first, thank the
team I’m really excited
for being here today I am going to talk about a
topic that is super important that is
urgently for this I want to ask you
please close all eyes and
I’m watching them just in case they close
the eyes and I want you to go to a moment
very specific I want you to go to a
moment with your ex partner with your partner
present a moment of quarrel
I want you to remember that moment
that they live it they feel that is the role
of that pain we have when we fight
I want you to remember that if any
have once forgiven something for love
remember that also
remember if you have ever been
willing to give up something for love
maybe they have done it maybe they have left
friends have left the family have
left a job for love
I ask you to open your eyes
have that very very present feeling
throughout the talk because today they
I’m going to talk about why that feeling
that we have linked to the love that we have
basically linked as a synonym of love
it is not natural and much less can
be called love
for a long time and obviously based
in my personal experiences I have
put to think about why
and from where also comes this idea that
love is suffering we live like this
personally our experiences of
couple there is usually a real link
with suffering during that process
to find out what happened and why and
where does a concept come from?
fundamental that has helped me guide
a series of reflections that have
derived in that it is basically
feminist
this is the romantic love concept but
you will wonder what love is
romantic is a concept that is
basically this what we have been told
what is the romantic love that is that you
boy you open the door you give away
Flowers that make you a surprise
etcetera etcetera etcetera then not the
romantic love apparently and not at
seem in fact it’s actually a
model of love to be a model of love
it means that obviously there are others
models not this model of love what
basically it does is show us and
teach us culturally and
historically also
that certain behaviors that
we have in a couple relationship and that
we have collectively in front of
love are basically something natural and that
besides these behaviors are something
repetitive is why so many of
our relationships are going to have certain
very similar situations throughout
your process
romantic love is based on
an idea or something that as a society
we have also created that is super
important that are the myths
the myths that are basically the way
in which as human beings we explain
the things we feel or do not
we understand how love
they are taking root in our
personal and collective thoughts
as
they suddenly make these feelings
that we do not understand can be understood
as natural an example of the case is
that this idea that love everything
can love forgive everything and
besides this idea that love is something
natural equal
these myths are getting into our
head and generate collective ideas that
basically they make us understand that the
love is something natural but not love not
It is natural
makes romantic love to get in
our thoughts I have found another
concept
romantic love basically
gets in our ours
thoughts through products
cultural
what is a cultural product?
cultural products are basically
all this material that we’re going
consuming throughout our life
consume in what sense for example
we see novels I bet that the
most have seen novels we watch movies
we have music we have art
we have literature all these
materials make us
Let us legitimize certain ideas of
behavior in our daily lives
then to explain well what is a
cultural product I prepared a couple of
examples I want you to look good that
image
in this image is an image of a
novel a Mexican novel called
marimar because it’s like marimar because I
I feel and it is clearly evidenced that
as young people or at least the
generations that we are sitting here
we have consumed many Mexican novels
Obviously this is not something just
the Mexican novels are the
Brazilians are the Turks are in a
heap this scene that is a scene
complicated I would like to tell you funny
but it seems complicated to me basically what
I’m going to tell you what happens
It was a girl in poverty
in marimar obviously
is on the beach is at home
etcetera the typical bad girl appears
because remember that there is always a
bad girl popping a horse and of
suddenly it says good
he starts chatting and says marin
marquez blah blah blah that’s happened
that jose antonio I’m inventing the
name just in case I have not seen it
completely marimar novel that this
passing the NCHR speak and tells you a
very specific phrase if you want
really to josé miguel you are going to pick up
this necklace or this mania I do not remember
well that is of soil and mud
marimar clear that yes like all of us
and we in a very detached act of
love is thrown with the mouth into the mud and what
lift
I have stayed that way because the
reflection of this is that basically no
it matters that it does not matter how far
that we are willing to spend a series
of conflicts and suffering on behalf of
that of love because they have not
taught
another example
I’ll go to the movies is
disney are not the only movies that
legitimize romantic love this image
it’s a terrible same little mermaid resignation
renunciation makes its nature to be
with another person for being in addition with a
specific model of person who already
I will speak well of the
expectations another cultural product
it’s definitely music
I’m going to read them I like older
of those who call gentlemen of those who
They open the door clear and they send you flowers
and I know that with me you’re better all
guti or christian dior I’ll take you
chocolates a baby flower I make you the
sex and love remember this and of
these phrases because they are basically what
that we sing in the clubs in all
the bowling alleys and if they are not in their
spotify playlist remember well
because these are basically the models
that we are following and this is what
we search if we look for a boy that is
super good in bed if we look for a
boy that is super supplier that we
is paying the bills and of course if
the girls implicitly or the boys
they are really looking for girls
that meet the stereotype of
beauty and with other conditions more
Remember this because because
cultural products basically what
what they do is legitimize something that also
is subconsciously regulating us
what are the expectations what role
they play the expectations within love
one very a very very important clear the
expectations basically condition
our behaviors our duty
to be in front of another person and the duty to be
of the other person in front of us what
What we do in a relationship is
basically take us by the hand decide
walk through life and we create a
huge bubble this huge bubble has
a series of cultural charges there
we put all the expectations of him of
me from me to him and the collective and
we generate such a symbiosis
that we basically become people
marginal in this process we renounce
absolutely everything we renounce something
which is transcendental to have a
relationship and is the idea that
basically we have to deliver
50-50 in a couple and we decided
through myths legitimize what is
normal that we deliver more than
our partner and that this also
we can call love but the scenario
It can be a little more complex where
I want to get through this
we as young people are
unfolding us in new areas of
relationship the main clear that
yes they are social networks
how networks are working
social now in romantic love or
how romantic love works in the
social networks
it works in two ways the first is
that basically social networks are
become a legitimator and
amplifier of expectations
then we have people going up the
typical gym photo for example to
boy who uploads the typical photo of the
gym that may not even be his
but if you have to show that you are
loading at least about 45 kilos
have super strong arms remember
what we have to do and the girls
on the other side we are going up
images also already a little more than
our bodies legitimizing the model
of beauty that we have to continue to
make good women within a
relationship of couple
the digital platforms not only
remain in this in this being a new
showcase to reinforce expectations
they go a little further and they’re
strengthening that are possible
different types of violence then
It’s going to be suddenly very normal that the
guys take pictures without consent to
the girls that they have slept with and
send them to your whatsapp groups for
that to legitimize a behavior that
is part of this ideal of love
romantic in this case the virility is going to
it’s very normal for you to have guys that
these girls also that are you
harassing on social networks in the name of
love you have people who are basically
able to lie down capable of blackmailing
you with your nude photos capable of
paralyze your nude photos
suddenly social networks are being
becoming an amplifier
violence
this scenario is complex is complex
from expectations because what happens
when when we really are with a
couple then suddenly we are with a
couple we have believed in all the
expectations pass about three or four
months where you really know yourself and
you know a little more in depth what
is the other person and you hit a hit
so hard that you start to link
the love of suffering
you hit a blow so hard because because
we are complex beings because we are beings
different complexes and not in any
moment we are going to comply with the
expectations that this model of love
has taught that we should seek and by the
other side social networks even
are beginning to become a
space in which we propose to promote
hate speech, that is, we do not stay
it’s not enough for us to grab and
share the naked images of
our girl but we started a
wave of speeches layers we created a
page or something like that to
really give you hard this is not part of
a situation and a logic of
violence a logic of violence that
is being more fluid through networks
social and that can lead to many
cases even in the death of a
person do not forget and remember well
that many of the feminicides in
Bolivia are justified by jealousy
and the jealousy that comes from this idea
dumb
that jealousy is a form of love
I do not want to leave you with this
such a complex scenario and with this
despair that we sometimes feel because
that feels when one understands these
themes hopelessness is this is how
desolation I feel permanently
What I’ve been thinking about is that
it can be done that we can do as
young people to change this situation
a word basically condenses what
I think we can do and in resistance
but resistance that resistance all
clear resistance to the models that we
have imposed resistance to understand that
we have to live under expectations
remember love is something taught and
these expectations clear that yes they have
to be rebuilt resistance to
promote new forms of violence in
digital platforms
the resistance can be made digital
also resistance to believe that love
it’s something natural love is something
learned let’s start through
small actions to change
we resignified the concept of love
understanding it as a weapon of
resistance because if you guys
there’s definitely something I think
love can turn the
thank you system
[Applause]
[Applause]
[Music]
Hello, girls, first, thank the
team I’m really excited
for being here today I am going to talk about a
topic that is super important that is
urgently for this I want to ask you
please close all eyes and
I’m watching them just in case they close
the eyes and I want you to go to a moment
very specific I want you to go to a
moment with your ex partner with your partner
present a moment of quarrel
I want you to remember that moment
that they live it they feel that is the role
of that pain we have when we fight
I want you to remember that if any
have once forgiven something for love
remember that also
remember if you have ever been
willing to give up something for love
maybe they have done it maybe they have left
friends have left the family have
left a job for love
I ask you to open your eyes
have that very very present feeling
throughout the talk because today they
I’m going to talk about why that feeling
that we have linked to the love that we have
basically linked as a synonym of love
it is not natural and much less can
be called love
for a long time and obviously based
in my personal experiences I have
put to think about why
and from where also comes this idea that
love is suffering we live like this
personally our experiences of
couple there is usually a real link
with suffering during that process
to find out what happened and why and
where does a concept come from?
fundamental that has helped me guide
a series of reflections that have
derived in that it is basically
feminist
this is the romantic love concept but
you will wonder what love is
romantic is a concept that is
basically this what we have been told
what is the romantic love that is that you
boy you open the door you give away
Flowers that make you a surprise
etcetera etcetera etcetera then not the
romantic love apparently and not at
seem in fact it’s actually a
model of love to be a model of love
it means that obviously there are others
models not this model of love what
basically it does is show us and
teach us culturally and
historically also
that certain behaviors that
we have in a couple relationship and that
we have collectively in front of
love are basically something natural and that
besides these behaviors are something
repetitive is why so many of
our relationships are going to have certain
very similar situations throughout
your process
romantic love is based on
an idea or something that as a society
we have also created that is super
important that are the myths
the myths that are basically the way
in which as human beings we explain
the things we feel or do not
we understand how love
they are taking root in our
personal and collective thoughts
as
they suddenly make these feelings
that we do not understand can be understood
as natural an example of the case is
that this idea that love everything
can love forgive everything and
besides this idea that love is something
natural equal
these myths are getting into our
head and generate collective ideas that
basically they make us understand that the
love is something natural but not love not
It is natural
makes romantic love to get in
our thoughts I have found another
concept
romantic love basically
gets in our ours
thoughts through products
cultural
what is a cultural product?
cultural products are basically
all this material that we’re going
consuming throughout our life
consume in what sense for example
we see novels I bet that the
most have seen novels we watch movies
we have music we have art
we have literature all these
materials make us
Let us legitimize certain ideas of
behavior in our daily lives
then to explain well what is a
cultural product I prepared a couple of
examples I want you to look good that
image
in this image is an image of a
novel a Mexican novel called
marimar because it’s like marimar because I
I feel and it is clearly evidenced that
as young people or at least the
generations that we are sitting here
we have consumed many Mexican novels
Obviously this is not something just
the Mexican novels are the
Brazilians are the Turks are in a
heap this scene that is a scene
complicated I would like to tell you funny
but it seems complicated to me basically what
I’m going to tell you what happens
It was a girl in poverty
in marimar obviously
is on the beach is at home
etcetera the typical bad girl appears
because remember that there is always a
bad girl popping a horse and of
suddenly it says good
he starts chatting and says marin
marquez blah blah blah that’s happened
that jose antonio I’m inventing the
name just in case I have not seen it
completely marimar novel that this
passing the NCHR speak and tells you a
very specific phrase if you want
really to josé miguel you are going to pick up
this necklace or this mania I do not remember
well that is of soil and mud
marimar clear that yes like all of us
and we in a very detached act of
love is thrown with the mouth into the mud and what
lift
I have stayed that way because the
reflection of this is that basically no
it matters that it does not matter how far
that we are willing to spend a series
of conflicts and suffering on behalf of
that of love because they have not
taught
another example
I’ll go to the movies is
disney are not the only movies that
legitimize romantic love this image
it’s a terrible same little mermaid resignation
renunciation makes its nature to be
with another person for being in addition with a
specific model of person who already
I will speak well of the
expectations another cultural product
it’s definitely music
I’m going to read them I like older
of those who call gentlemen of those who
They open the door clear and they send you flowers
and I know that with me you’re better all
guti or christian dior I’ll take you
chocolates a baby flower I make you the
sex and love remember this and of
these phrases because they are basically what
that we sing in the clubs in all
the bowling alleys and if they are not in their
spotify playlist remember well
because these are basically the models
that we are following and this is what
we search if we look for a boy that is
super good in bed if we look for a
boy that is super supplier that we
is paying the bills and of course if
the girls implicitly or the boys
they are really looking for girls
that meet the stereotype of
beauty and with other conditions more
Remember this because because
cultural products basically what
what they do is legitimize something that also
is subconsciously regulating us
what are the expectations what role
they play the expectations within love
one very a very very important clear the
expectations basically condition
our behaviors our duty
to be in front of another person and the duty to be
of the other person in front of us what
What we do in a relationship is
basically take us by the hand decide
walk through life and we create a
huge bubble this huge bubble has
a series of cultural charges there
we put all the expectations of him of
me from me to him and the collective and
we generate such a symbiosis
that we basically become people
marginal in this process we renounce
absolutely everything we renounce something
which is transcendental to have a
relationship and is the idea that
basically we have to deliver
50-50 in a couple and we decided
through myths legitimize what is
normal that we deliver more than
our partner and that this also
we can call love but the scenario
It can be a little more complex where
I want to get through this
we as young people are
unfolding us in new areas of
relationship the main clear that
yes they are social networks
how networks are working
social now in romantic love or
how romantic love works in the
social networks
it works in two ways the first is
that basically social networks are
become a legitimator and
amplifier of expectations
then we have people going up the
typical gym photo for example to
boy who uploads the typical photo of the
gym that may not even be his
but if you have to show that you are
loading at least about 45 kilos
have super strong arms remember
what we have to do and the girls
on the other side we are going up
images also already a little more than
our bodies legitimizing the model
of beauty that we have to continue to
make good women within a
relationship of couple
the digital platforms not only
remain in this in this being a new
showcase to reinforce expectations
they go a little further and they’re
strengthening that are possible
different types of violence then
It’s going to be suddenly very normal that the
guys take pictures without consent to
the girls that they have slept with and
send them to your whatsapp groups for
that to legitimize a behavior that
is part of this ideal of love
romantic in this case the virility is going to
it’s very normal for you to have guys that
these girls also that are you
harassing on social networks in the name of
love you have people who are basically
able to lie down capable of blackmailing
you with your nude photos capable of
paralyze your nude photos
suddenly social networks are being
becoming an amplifier
violence
this scenario is complex is complex
from expectations because what happens
when when we really are with a
couple then suddenly we are with a
couple we have believed in all the
expectations pass about three or four
months where you really know yourself and
you know a little more in depth what
is the other person and you hit a hit
so hard that you start to link
the love of suffering
you hit a blow so hard because because
we are complex beings because we are beings
different complexes and not in any
moment we are going to comply with the
expectations that this model of love
has taught that we should seek and by the
other side social networks even
are beginning to become a
space in which we propose to promote
hate speech, that is, we do not stay
it’s not enough for us to grab and
share the naked images of
our girl but we started a
wave of speeches layers we created a
page or something like that to
really give you hard this is not part of
a situation and a logic of
violence a logic of violence that
is being more fluid through networks
social and that can lead to many
cases even in the death of a
person do not forget and remember well
that many of the feminicides in
Bolivia are justified by jealousy
and the jealousy that comes from this idea
dumb
that jealousy is a form of love
I do not want to leave you with this
such a complex scenario and with this
despair that we sometimes feel because
that feels when one understands these
themes hopelessness is this is how
desolation I feel permanently
What I’ve been thinking about is that
it can be done that we can do as
young people to change this situation
a word basically condenses what
I think we can do and in resistance
but resistance that resistance all
clear resistance to the models that we
have imposed resistance to understand that
we have to live under expectations
remember love is something taught and
these expectations clear that yes they have
to be rebuilt resistance to
promote new forms of violence in
digital platforms
the resistance can be made digital
also resistance to believe that love
it’s something natural love is something
learned let’s start through
small actions to change
we resignified the concept of love
understanding it as a weapon of
resistance because if you guys
there’s definitely something I think
love can turn the
thank you system
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