so thank you for the introduction and
thank you much for having me here today
it means a lot to me my name is Tiffany
and to start with I want to ask if
No
okay so like any lecture that you go to
the first lecture is always about the
definition and so failures here means
lack of success or unsuccessful person
or things and so on so I sure some of
you have faced on failures before like
failures of public exams failure of
driving tests of relationships and so on
and we are very young at this stage so
the good news is we haven’t experienced
devastated failures but a bad news is we
are gonna face them as we grow up so
growing up in Hong Kong
I know failure is a big issue in our
society because we are brought up or we
are trained to be numb to anything but
success and we often hear the auntie’s
or uncle saying oh you fail this because
you don’t get enough grades or you fail
this because you’re not smart or you
fail this because you are not rich at
the you fail at the starting line they
always say this is right and I was so
sad when I saw the news about primary
school kids jumping off the buildings
because they think they are failing
their parents expectations and so today
I’m gonna talk a bit about my failure
and before that I like to introduce
myself for a bit more I am
ladies local Hong Kong girl if you are
wondering for my skin colour I have been
so lucky
grateful for my entire upbringing so
last Christmas holiday I was traveling
with my ex-boyfriend in Japan and when
we were walking down the street in the
cold or cold winter we were talking
about life in suddenly he turned his hat
and asked me have you ever failed so
that moment I was quite shocked and I
tried so hard
searching my entire memory bank trying
to find a piece of failures because I
wanted to emphasize with him but then I
could not find any major failures in my
life so I asked him what about you what
about you and he told me he failed at
getting into the investment banking
industry and I guess that’s a lot of
dream for graduates so at that moment I
look back to my life how am I so lucky I
wanted to study in the UK at the age of
15 and so I did and then I secured all
my summer jobs and internships I got all
my you cast uni offers plus Hong Kong
university offers I passed my driving
test at the first attempt I solo
backpack and I have traveled to 50
countries yeah so life was like so
amazing and it’s like a fairy tale to me
and in this me you will say I’m like the
princess enjoying her life except I
don’t have a prince yet however
something happened and it’s the first
time that things did not go too well in
my life so until a few months before I
guess everyone saw the big event in Hong
Kong
and who has reached Niels who has read
this kind of news so I applied for the
Miss Hong Kong pageant this year and
this happened the reasons I went for it
it’s another story but one thing I was
so sure was that I would be very lucky
that I could go on to semi-final and I
trusted the newspaper and the media so I
thought of yay I’m gonna learn make up
I’m gonna learn catwalk I’m gonna wear
pretty dresses I’m gonna have a fans
girl bah bah bah bah bah but nope
this time is a Hartnell in my face and I
was so disappointed and I felt super
super bad especially when you see your
name was
everywhere literally everywhere on the
news and when you open my what’s up
everyone was sending me news and all
congratulations not a blah as if the
whole Hong Kong knew it so I was so
disappointed now that everyone knows
that so what am I gonna do if I didn’t
get into the semi-final the plan was to
get into the competition for two months
and then see where life will take me but
the bubble suddenly pops and so do I
need to get a job and settle down but I
wasn’t ready at all so the following
days and weeks I spent a lot of time
sleeping
honestly it became my new habit every
day I slept for more than 12 hours
because the next day I had to think of
what to do today I did not want to face
my family because I just feel ashamed
I don’t want to go out even though there
were a lot of long lost friends
invitation and I had a cold wall with my
mom for almost month and I don’t
remember how many nights I cry myself to
that because the next day I had to wake
up pretending to be strong and brave and
independence and stuff a lot of
automatic negative thoughts and they
ruin my days it is very painful to feel
alone while also feeling that you have a
lot to give but no one understands me
that’s high however gradually I fought
my way out so one day I woke up I’m like
now that everyone knows that you want to
be a TEDTalk speaker so are you gonna do
it or not then I jump out of a bat
and the first thing I did was to change
my desktop screen cover to this and it
always works and I keep listening to
songs in the great the greatest showmen
just to cheer myself up I got two job
offers and now happily engage with
hospitality industry oh and in August I
achieved one of my tiny dreams of
visiting the US marking it as my 50th
country adventure right
so today looking back at all the news
and articles and pictures I just feel
really proud of myself that I made a
decision and I have gone so far from it
and if anyone asked me again have you
ever failed I will still say no I did
not because
I just learned from a lot of experiences
and they add up to my life and failures
are not called failures if you based on
your definition in your dictionary
it is not failures that define us but
how we respond to it I set myself up for
that failure because in order to succeed
you have to learn from failure so today
I’m standing right here facing all kinds
of possibilities and I’m not any
researcher or entrepreneurs business
leaders founders whatever with a big
title yet I’m achieving a small dream of
being a title speaker and if there is
one thing that I want you guys to take
away today it will be kill your failures
are gonna make your tech talk longer
thank you
[Applause] [Music]
thank you much for having me here today
it means a lot to me my name is Tiffany
and to start with I want to ask if
No
okay so like any lecture that you go to
the first lecture is always about the
definition and so failures here means
lack of success or unsuccessful person
or things and so on so I sure some of
you have faced on failures before like
failures of public exams failure of
driving tests of relationships and so on
and we are very young at this stage so
the good news is we haven’t experienced
devastated failures but a bad news is we
are gonna face them as we grow up so
growing up in Hong Kong
I know failure is a big issue in our
society because we are brought up or we
are trained to be numb to anything but
success and we often hear the auntie’s
or uncle saying oh you fail this because
you don’t get enough grades or you fail
this because you’re not smart or you
fail this because you are not rich at
the you fail at the starting line they
always say this is right and I was so
sad when I saw the news about primary
school kids jumping off the buildings
because they think they are failing
their parents expectations and so today
I’m gonna talk a bit about my failure
and before that I like to introduce
myself for a bit more I am
ladies local Hong Kong girl if you are
wondering for my skin colour I have been
so lucky
grateful for my entire upbringing so
last Christmas holiday I was traveling
with my ex-boyfriend in Japan and when
we were walking down the street in the
cold or cold winter we were talking
about life in suddenly he turned his hat
and asked me have you ever failed so
that moment I was quite shocked and I
tried so hard
searching my entire memory bank trying
to find a piece of failures because I
wanted to emphasize with him but then I
could not find any major failures in my
life so I asked him what about you what
about you and he told me he failed at
getting into the investment banking
industry and I guess that’s a lot of
dream for graduates so at that moment I
look back to my life how am I so lucky I
wanted to study in the UK at the age of
15 and so I did and then I secured all
my summer jobs and internships I got all
my you cast uni offers plus Hong Kong
university offers I passed my driving
test at the first attempt I solo
backpack and I have traveled to 50
countries yeah so life was like so
amazing and it’s like a fairy tale to me
and in this me you will say I’m like the
princess enjoying her life except I
don’t have a prince yet however
something happened and it’s the first
time that things did not go too well in
my life so until a few months before I
guess everyone saw the big event in Hong
Kong
and who has reached Niels who has read
this kind of news so I applied for the
Miss Hong Kong pageant this year and
this happened the reasons I went for it
it’s another story but one thing I was
so sure was that I would be very lucky
that I could go on to semi-final and I
trusted the newspaper and the media so I
thought of yay I’m gonna learn make up
I’m gonna learn catwalk I’m gonna wear
pretty dresses I’m gonna have a fans
girl bah bah bah bah bah but nope
this time is a Hartnell in my face and I
was so disappointed and I felt super
super bad especially when you see your
name was
everywhere literally everywhere on the
news and when you open my what’s up
everyone was sending me news and all
congratulations not a blah as if the
whole Hong Kong knew it so I was so
disappointed now that everyone knows
that so what am I gonna do if I didn’t
get into the semi-final the plan was to
get into the competition for two months
and then see where life will take me but
the bubble suddenly pops and so do I
need to get a job and settle down but I
wasn’t ready at all so the following
days and weeks I spent a lot of time
sleeping
honestly it became my new habit every
day I slept for more than 12 hours
because the next day I had to think of
what to do today I did not want to face
my family because I just feel ashamed
I don’t want to go out even though there
were a lot of long lost friends
invitation and I had a cold wall with my
mom for almost month and I don’t
remember how many nights I cry myself to
that because the next day I had to wake
up pretending to be strong and brave and
independence and stuff a lot of
automatic negative thoughts and they
ruin my days it is very painful to feel
alone while also feeling that you have a
lot to give but no one understands me
that’s high however gradually I fought
my way out so one day I woke up I’m like
now that everyone knows that you want to
be a TEDTalk speaker so are you gonna do
it or not then I jump out of a bat
and the first thing I did was to change
my desktop screen cover to this and it
always works and I keep listening to
songs in the great the greatest showmen
just to cheer myself up I got two job
offers and now happily engage with
hospitality industry oh and in August I
achieved one of my tiny dreams of
visiting the US marking it as my 50th
country adventure right
so today looking back at all the news
and articles and pictures I just feel
really proud of myself that I made a
decision and I have gone so far from it
and if anyone asked me again have you
ever failed I will still say no I did
not because
I just learned from a lot of experiences
and they add up to my life and failures
are not called failures if you based on
your definition in your dictionary
it is not failures that define us but
how we respond to it I set myself up for
that failure because in order to succeed
you have to learn from failure so today
I’m standing right here facing all kinds
of possibilities and I’m not any
researcher or entrepreneurs business
leaders founders whatever with a big
title yet I’m achieving a small dream of
being a title speaker and if there is
one thing that I want you guys to take
away today it will be kill your failures
are gonna make your tech talk longer
thank you
[Applause] [Music]
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