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life is a manifestation of where you
direct your energy it truly is and what
we should really start with is to
actually look at energy the same way we
look at water if I took water if I took
a watering can and I watered a garden
bed with the weeds grow the flowers grow
both right water has no ability to
discriminate between the weeds and the
flowers whatever I water starts grow and
it is the same way as well if I took
energy and I invested it into something
negative it will grow and become more
negative if I took energy invested it
into something positive it will grow and
become more positive energy has no
ability to discriminate between what’s
positive and what’s negative whatever
you invest energy into starts to grow
and manifest in your life right now you
are the sum total of where you’ve been
investing your energy throughout your
entire life so the goal early in life is
to figure out what it is you want right
what’s your purpose in life who and
what’s important your life and be able
to direct energy towards that so that
you can manifest that in your life so
where do we begin with this we begin by
understanding how the mind works I’ll
have to say with you after living 10
years it’s a celibate monk in a
cloistered monastery in Hawaii this was
probably the most important thing I
could ever share with you understanding
how the mind works from a monk’s
perspective of understanding a monk and
experience with our monks objective of
understanding the mind and experience of
the mind in my perspective in my
experience of the mind there are two
things we need to understand awareness
and the mind let’s define what they are
let’s define awareness as a glowing ball
of light so we imagine an orb a glowing
ball of light that can float around
let’s call that awareness and put that
aside now let’s define the mind let’s
define the – a vast space with many
different areas within it one area of
the mind is angry hatred jealousy joy
happiness sex food art science
technology whole bunch of different
things right
yo awareness that ball of light can
actually move to any area of the mind
you want it to go to so if your
awareness this glowing ball of light
goes to the happy area of the mind it
lights up that particular area of the
mind you become you become conscious of
being happy are you
no you’re in an area of the mind call
happiness if this ball of light goes to
the angry air of the mind it lights up
that particular air of the mind are you
angry no you’re in an area of the mind
called anger and by using your willpower
and your powers of concentration you can
actually take your awareness this ball
of light to any area of the mind that
you want to go to and here’s the most
important part where your awareness goes
that’s where your energy is flowing so
if your awareness goes to the angry air
of the mind your energy is flowing there
it’s actually strengthening that
particular area of the mind so this is a
theory of it so let’s do a little
practical exercise to see if this
actually works or just some monk talk
okay so for that I need some audience
participation I need all of you to sit
up straight in your chair okay and put
your feet down on the ground and if
you’re leaning back in your chair sit
forward a little bit keep your spine
straight roll your shoulders back you
can keep your head nicely balanced on
top of your spine your eyes are closed
don’t worry we’re not gonna chant or
hold hands until later just kidding so
take a slow deep breath in with your
eyes closed take a slow deep breath in
slowly exhale and take another slow deep
breath in again and then slowly exhale I
want you to become aware of the chair
that you’re sitting on is it comfortable
is it not comfortable the temperature of
the room is it cold warm what about your
body posture is your spine straight your
shoulders roll back you’re sitting a
little bit forward your head nicely
balanced on top of your spine now I want
you to become aware of the most recent
wedding that you attended do you
remember whose wedding it is were you
happy for the couple getting married try
and think as much detail as you can
about the wedding do you remember what
you wore to the wedding do you remember
what the bride wore did she make a good
choice with her dress how was the food
alcohol did you drink a lot was they
good music did you dance did you do some
crazy wedding dance now I want you to
become aware of the most recent vacation
that you went on what kind of vacation
was it was it a surfing trip yoga
retreat holiday shopping camping
backpacking try and think as much detail
as you can about the vacation what was
the weather like where you went was a
cold rainy hot humid dry snowing do you
remember the favorite Hotel you stayed
in how was the food
bland spicy did you get sick eating the
food did you shop a lot what was one
thing you bought on the trip that you
really liked your eyes are still closed
and want you to become aware of the room
again try and feel the temperature of
the room is it warm is it cold the chair
you’re sitting on is it comfortable is
it not it’s your spine still straight
are you hunching your shoulders roll
back okay slowly open your eyes and you
can lean back in your chat well thank
you very much for doing that exercise
with me that exercise is really to prove
two things to you one is there’s a clear
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
second is you can actually take your
awareness and move it to any area of the
mind you want it to go to well you gave
me permission to do it so I took your
awareness from the room I took it to an
area of the subconscious mind where the
memory of the wedding resided and then I
took you to the vacation area of the
mine and then back to the room again how
do I know you were thinking about the
wedding well I had my eyes open and your
eyes were closed and when I asked
questions I could see the reactions in
your face did the bride make a good
choice with a headdress a couple of un
okay did you drink too much a few heads
went down so I knew you were thinking
about the wedding right so I took
Johannes different areas in the mind
this happens all day all day we allow
people and things around us to dictate
where awareness goes in our mind let’s
do one little exercise again just to
emphasize this point because to me this
is really really important and it’s the
crock of crux of really managing energy
in your life can you remember your first
kiss do you remember who it was to
remember histor her name remember where
it took place back at dad’s car behind
the garage what was the experience so
what was the emotion that was associated
with that experience come on real think
about it wasn’t that long ago come on
are you embarrassed were you nervous do
you remember do you remember the
okay some people are laughing blushing
did you remember the first time someone
you loved someone really close to you
passed away do you remember that
remember getting a phone call being told
that this person that you love has just
how did you feel
what was the emotions associated with
that experience did you have the
blessing of being able to see the body
do you remember standing next to the
body wondering how it felt knowing that
you never see this person again how did
it feel for you do you remember the
emotions isn’t it interesting in the
space of 60 to 90 seconds I took your
awareness from an area of the mind where
all of you is smiling or giggling or
slightly embarrassed to an area of the
mind where all of you are completely sad
on that satirizes feeling the vibration
of the rooms has completely changed
right and I could take your awareness
now to an anger area of the mind where
you all get anger you get up and you
leave and Sarah and a team would be
really upset with me and this happens
all day right all day we allow people
and things to dictate where awareness
goes and because they dictate where our
wellness goes that’s where our energy
flows as well and where our energy flows
is what manifests in our life so really
the goal in life is not really to
control your mind but rather to control
where your awareness is going in within
your mind so don’t control your mind
control where your awareness goes within
your mind how do we do that we do that
by learning how so your spiritual
practice or your homework for taking
away is to control where your awareness
goes in your mind throughout the day and
that’s really it how do we do this we
learn the fine art of concentration
first let’s define what concentration is
I define concentration as the ability to
keep your awareness on one thing for an
extended period of time so if I can keep
my awareness on this lady and hold it on
her I’m concentrating if I allow my
awareness my ball of light to move away
I’m getting distracted
I use my willpower and I bring my
awareness back and I
hold it on her being able to do that
allows me to concentrate most people
can’t concentrate for two reasons
right one is they’ve never been taught
how to concentrate second is they never
practice concentration how many of you
growing up here in school had classes on
concentration every single day that you
the same way you had classes on
geography on math and science anybody I
travel all around the world and I asked
this question and nobody puts their hand
up how many of you when you were growing
up in school were told to concentrate
isn’t that amazing you get told to
concentrate but you never get taught how
to do it right when I was growing up I
got told to concentrate all the time
down the paani concentrate on doing your
homework dhandapani concentrate on
eating your food anybody want to show me
how to do it no how many of you have
kids how many of you tell your kids to
concentrate have you ever showed them
how to no right and then if you don’t
show them how to concentrate how would
they know how to do it and then if you
want to be good at something you have to
practice it if you want to be really
good at concentration you need to
practice it all day people are good at
distraction because that’s what they
practice all day long it’s not that they
don’t have the ability to concentrate
they’ve just practice distraction and
become really really good at it so how
do we concentrate we concentrate by
practicing doing one thing at a time and
integrating this practice into our
everyday life so for me I look at my
average today and I ask myself what’s a
reoccurring event in my life every day I
speak with my spouse every time I speak
with my spouse I give her my undivided
attention I keep my awareness on her it
drifts away I bring it back it drifts
away I bring it back I keep my awareness
on her I give her my undivided attention
now every day I also speak to my clients
I speak with my clients I speak with my
friends family every time I speak with
somebody I give them my undivided
attention
if I’m on the phone I give the person on
the phone my undivided attention
I practice doing one thing at a time by
the end of the day I’ve talked about
maybe six to eight hours of practicing
concentration six months later
I become really good at concentration
twelve months later I’d become really
good at concentration the best way to
become good at something is to take a
tool
and insert it into a reoccurring event
in your life and this is the best way to
become good at something rather than to
create another practice in your life
just take a tool and insert it into the
practice into a reoccurring event in
your life so your homework is to give
someone or whatever you’re doing your
undivided attention pick one person in
your life for the next one month that
you will give your undivided attention
to every time you speak with that person
stay completely focused on them keep
your awareness on them the rest of the
day you can go ahead and be a squirrel
but on just whenever you’re speaking
with that face and give that person your
undivided attention and you need to
practice and bill in incremental steps
the other thing we need to learn to
develop is our willpower right everybody
is born with various levels of willpower
but one thing we never get taught to do
is to actually develop willpower and
willpower is like a muscle I call it a
mental bicep so if I could draw biceps
around my mind there would be my
willpower the three ways to develop
willpower one finish what you begin to
finish it well beyond your expectations
3 do a little bit more than you think
you’re able to do all of these three
ways require effort and that effort is
willpower right so how do I develop
willpower I take these three methods and
I apply it to things that reoccur in my
life what’s something that reoccurs in
my life every day every day I sleep what
a great opportunity to about willpower
before I go to sleep I floss I brush my
teeth put on my pajamas I go to sleep
when I wake up in the morning I finish
the process of sleep how do I finish the
process of sleep I make the bed every
day so every day I wake up in the
morning I make the bed what’s something
else I do every day every day I have
breakfast if have time to make breakfast
I have time to eat breakfast then I have
time to do the breakfast dish and put it
away
right so I finished the process that I
began and I bring this into everything
that I do then throughout the day I
develop willpower the more I practices
the better I get now I have tremendous
amount of willpower after six months
I’ve developed a lot of willpower
every time my awareness drifts away I
use that mental muscle that rope out to
bring my awareness back then I use the
powers of concentration that I’ve
developed to hold my awareness and what
I’m focused on and because I’m focusing
on that
where my awareness goes energy flows in
my now my energy is flowing towards what
I want that starts to manifest in my
life that’s why it’s so important
firstly to understand there’s a
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
you control way awareness goes to
control where your energy is flowing and
you control what’s manifesting in your
life and you use your powers of
concentration your willpower to hold
your awareness on the priorities in your
life the next thing we want to do is to
learn to manage energy in our life right
this is based on the premise that we
only have so much energy each day we
have a finite amount of energy each day
each day we have this much energy we
take our energy and we invest it into
people and things around us we keep
investing investing investing until we
have no more energy left we get
exhausted that’s usually around 11:00 or
11:30 or midnight we go to sleep our
energy builds up again we go out the
next day and we invest our energy into
people and things so we have no more
energy but but the one thing most people
don’t do is we never evaluate who and
what we’re investing I energy and so I
always tell people to treat energy the
same way you treat money it’s a finite
resource that needs to be wisely managed
wisely reallocated and wisely invested
no matter how rich you are you only have
so much money right and before you spend
money most of us think and evaluate what
we’re investing our money in if somebody
asks us for five thousand dollars or
thirty thousand dollars invest into a
start-up or a company we would ask
questions we just wouldn’t hand them 30
thousand dollars we would ask what’s
your plan with it what are you going to
do with this money what’s my return on
my investment because it’s a finite
resource so why don’t we do the same
thing with energy before we invest
energy into someone or something why
don’t we evaluate if that person or that
thing is deserving of energy because if
you only have this much energy in fact
you ten percent on my energy and I gave
it to John that’s ten percent I could
have given to my spouse my business the
things and people that I love remember
the law of thermodynamics energy cannot
be created or destroyed but it can be
transferred or transformed from one
thing to another right so I can’t create
energy if I give 10% to John I want to
know he’s gonna do something good with
it because if it’s just gonna squander
it I’d rather take it and give it to the
people and things that I love so why is
it important
to manage energy for me the greatest
impetus for managing energy is is death
that is the greatest impetus for me to
manage energy I realized that life is
finite that I only have one life as me
and regardless of my beliefs I know I
have one existence and has done the
paani and what happens after death I’m
not quite sure we all have different
upbringing different religious beliefs
some people say when you die you go to
heaven or hell some people say when you
die it’s game over that’s it nothing
happens afterwards
some people say when you die you get
reincarnated as a man or woman another
say you get reincarnated as a man woman
maybe an insect of an animal but no one
really knows we have our beliefs and we
hold strongly to them but no one’s ever
died going to have and taking the selfie
comeback posted it on Instagram and say
look at me here in heaven hashtag pearly
gates right so we don’t quite know but
the one definitive thing is that we know
we’re gonna die and I know I have a
finite amount of life I don’t believe
life is short but I do believe it’s
finite and because I my life is finite I
want to be extremely clear where to
focus my energy there’s no point
learning to concentrate if you don’t
know what to concentrate on so along
with learning concentration it’s really
important to also learn what to focus on
so what I would recommend as a homework
is to be clear what your purpose in life
is one way to do this is to spend five
minutes each morning reflecting on what
your purpose of life is get to know
yourself most people are happy to spend
time with other people and things but
very few people actually make time to
spend time with themselves so when you
wake up in the morning take a shower go
to a quiet place in your house sit down
and ask yourself questions about you
what do you want in life what’s my
purpose in life why am I here what do I
love what am i passionate about how many
people can genuinely answer this is my
say this is my purpose in life very very
few people once you’re clear with your
purpose you know what to concentrate on
and you know what to direct your finite
amount of energy to it right so the next
thing we want to look at is energy
consumers right people and things
two of the biggest consumers of energy
and people and things also give you a
lot of energy since the subject is vast
and time is short let’s focus on the
people that consume energy and how we
can deal with them I call these people
energy vampires all right that’s what a
vampire that’s right bytes Ian and I can
suck the life out of you and some people
consume tremendous amount of energy
essentially speaking there are three
types of people and let’s keep this
simple monk simple there are uplifting
people there are neutral people and they
are not uplifting people okay let’s
define what this is okay well they are
an uplifting person I spend five minutes
with an uplifting person I walk away I
feel great and go like wow that was an
amazing conversation a neutral person I
spend five minutes with them I walk away
I’m still the same a non uplifting
person I spent five minutes with them I
walk away and I go like oh my god that
was exhausting all right and you’ve
probably experienced that in your life
so then the next question is to ask is
are they an energy vampire the two ways
to figure this out one is I can judge or
I can evaluate right
what’s judging and evaluating judging is
this I’m at a party in New York City in
a penthouse they’re 200 people in the
room the door opens this guy walks and
he’s got white shoes a purple suit he’s
got a cane and the top hat he’s wearing
a chain with a big clock hanging off his
chest I look across the room and I go he
must be a pimp or drug dealer
that’s judging right I didn’t get to
know him I just judged he was a pimp a
drug dealer
evaluation is this I spent 50 occasions
with Jon over a period of two years 49
of those I walk away from and I go like
oh my god that was exhausting it’s safe
for me to evaluate that jon is an energy
vampire okay
then there are two types of energy
vampire the next question is are they a
transient energy vampire inherently an
energy vampire right
what’s a transient energy vampire just
say John is going through a hard time in
life because his dad is dying of cancer
for example and for 3 years this
consumes a lot of energy you know he’s
always down you need to uplift him he’s
feeling very sad it’s ok you give him
that energy because he’s your friend and
that’s what we do we express compassion
empathy and love and we support our
friends during difficult times what
someone who’s inherently an energy
vampire someone who’s inherently and
vampires always been this way for
decades theses haven’t changed they’re
just not an uplifting human being at all
so how do we deal with someone who’s
inherently an energy vampire so before I
go there quick question for all of you
how many of you in this room feel like
you have someone who’s inherently an
energy vampire in your life that’s a lot
of people in this room right so how do
we deal with someone who’s inherently in
an g vampire right my guru taught me the
best way to do this is to practice the
art of being affectionately detached but
always kind gentle sincere and loving
towards them what does this mean so just
say John is inherently an energy vampire
I live in New York City I’m walking down
Fifth Avenue I see John walking towards
me what do i do do I cross the street
that’s not very nice
I meet John John meets me what do you
say when two people meet each other I
know what you guys say in Australia
g’day how’s it going might right do I
say that no do you not wait on us how
are you
it’s true you have to understand I’m in
the Munk business when I ask somebody
how are you they tell me the entire life
story
it’s the confession time so I don’t even
ask how are you John asked me how are
you I say I’m doing very well thank you
very much and then I reply what a
beautiful day in Sydney right it’s true
I’m being sincere I’m being kind and
then I say to him please excuse me I
have something really important to do
it’s true my life is finite and I’m very
clear what my purpose is
right I’m not I’m not lying and then
what do people say at the end of a
conversation it was a pleasure meeting
you
actually it wasn’t let’s do lunch why
see you later
not really don’t want to why do we say
the things we don’t mean and ask the
questions we don’t want answers to so at
the end of a conversation I say have a
wonderful day which is true I know he’s
inherently an energy vampire but I do
wish ya it’s a wonderful day
so the concept of being affectionately
detached is to not engage with someone
right is to be kind to be gentle to be
sincere and loving towards them but not
engaging with them what’s another way to
protect yourself from an energy vampire
is to place the burden of responsibility
on them what does that mean I’ll give
you an example I have a client of mine
who’s a expert in social media right so
a lot of people want to get together
with him have a cup of coffee a glass of
wine let’s catch up for lunch
let’s do dinner why because they want to
pick his brain right and get information
from him and he can’t sustained us
because everybody wants a a little bit
of his time and it’s just can’t live
this way so I told him this is what you
need to do you need to you need to tell
this person who wants to meet with you
to read your favorite marketing book
read your favorite marketing book write
down seven key points and email it to
you once you receive the seven key
points from the book tell them that you
know you want to see what sends out to
them in the book once you receive these
seven key points you email them and say
let’s meet up on this day for a couple
hours and we can discuss a marketing
strategy for you strategy for you you
know how many people actually read the
book and email him the seven key points
nobody
as soon as you place the burden or
responsibility on someone they don’t do
it I travel all around the world I speak
people come up to me and want to ask
questions I always give them my personal
email address I tell them please don’t
share it with anybody can you put your
question down on this email and send it
to me one will give me time to reflect
on it and I can give you a proper
response and they always say for sure
I’ll put it all down an email I’ll send
it to you you know many people email me
nobody emails me simple little tasks
right I’m not asking them to do yoga to
meditate to breathe out of one nostril
you just send me an email with your
problems and they don’t do it so place
the burden a responsibility on someone
if you’re somebody who’s developed a
particular skill you’re an expert in a
particular niche in a particular area
and you find that people want your time
they want your energy the one simple way
to protect yourself is to place a bit
and responsibility on them give them a
simple task to do and see if they do it
and if they fulfilled that task and come
back to you then go out of your way to
help them okay another thing I want to
talk about so your spiritual practice is
to every year evaluate the people in
your life so go through a process
evaluation and reallocate your energy
between people who uplift you and people
that don’t about uplift you and this is
something that I do all the time right
another thing I want to talk about and
wrap up with is mental energy vampires
what’s a mental energy vampire mental
energy vampire is a unresolved emotional
experiences that are sitting in our
subconscious right most people how much
subconscious mind looks like this Indian
flower markets just packed with stuff
because people don’t resolve stuff as
they go through life right everything
that is one posture wants passed through
your conscious mind in the form of
experience is resident in your
subconscious mind and all these
experiences have emotion attached to
them all right one simple way to deal
with unresolved emotional experiences to
do this exercise called Avastin aha
Tantra that’s a Sanskrit name for it and
what it really is is to take a piece of
paper and write down the problem on it
every experience has emotion attached to
it and I want to share with you a quote
from Tesla which I think really income
encapsulate the philosophy that I
believe in no that I was
trained in the monastry tesla says if
you want to find the secrets of universe
think in terms of energy frequency and
vibration everything is made up of
energy and it’s vibrating at a certain
frequency so if I have an experience it
has emotion attached to it it’s
vibrating in my subconscious mind my
goal is I can’t do anything about the
experience because it’s already happened
but what I can do to help myself is to
remove the emotion that’s attached to
experience so I take a piece of paper I
write down the problem s I write down
the problem something really interesting
happens the experience moves from my
subconscious mind to my conscious mind
because I’m reliving it the interesting
thing that happens is the energy the
emotion actually comes out of the
experience flows through my hands into
the piece of paper
now I crumbled a piece of paper and I
burn it in a fire it could be a garbage
can a fireplace it doesn’t really matter
does the fire destroyed the emotion no
because you can’t destroy energy but
what it actually does is transform the
emotion in the paper into heat flame ash
smoke and a whole bunch of different
things I remember the first time I ever
shared this exercise was with a group of
entrepreneurs in Perth actually about
five years ago and one of them said to
me look down the ponty I realized that
experiences have emotion attached to
them and I realized as well when you
relive it or you’re writing about it it
goes from your subconscious mind to your
conscious mind but this whole concept
that emotion comes out of the experience
flows through your hands into the piece
of paper it’s find it really hard to
believe I can’t find it that it’s a
little bit too spiritual is it fair
enough so I asked them do you have kids
he says yeah I have a couple of kids now
for Yohan six-year-old I said on
Father’s Day on your birthday did I ever
make you cards they said they do that
all time can you describe the card well
they say usually go to the back of the
house they find an old piece of
cardboard they draw on it they stick a
bunch of things on it stars and and a
bunch of ribbons and then on last day on
my birthday they hand me the card and I
said how does it look the gum wall
doesn’t look that great it’s made by a
foil but I said do you let me ask you
this way if you saw it in the store
would you pay money for it and they go
like no no way
but do you keep it he says he I keep
every single one and asked him why I
said well it’s so full of love so wait a
minute do you know you’re telling me
young your kids no monk magic because
two minutes ago I told you about putting
emotion and a piece of
and you looked at me like I was a crazy
person and now your four-year-old son
knows how to do this right because he’s
taking a piece of paper put his emotion
in it a piece of paper that you don’t
want a cog bought that you didn’t want
put his emotion in it and now he’s
giving it to you and you hold it so you
can actually transfer energy from you
emotion from inside of you into another
matter how many of you have kids and
have one of those not so attractive
drawings at home do you keep them why
you’d never be able to sell it to
anybody nobody want to buy it right you
keep it because they’re so full of love
it’s full of emotion right so you can
move emotion out of you so the exercise
here is really if you ever find that you
have unresolved emotional experiences
sitting in your subconscious consuming
tremendous amount of energy take a piece
of paper write it down and then burn it
in an ordinary fire how many times
should you write well depending on the
emotion if it’s an intense experience
you might have to write about it three
or four times if it’s not so intense
maybe once or twice so just to wrap up
over here to know yourself is one of the
greatest gifts you can give yourself it
truly is right most people don’t really
understand themselves they don’t
understand what they want in life and
therefore find it extremely difficult
what to focus the finite amount of
energy on I want to leave you with two
quotes one from my group
the first one is proceed with confidence
right proceed with confidence believe in
your ability to manifest something in
your life because you can how do you
manifest something in your life you take
your awareness you focus it on that
thing you know how to develop
concentration now you keep your
awareness on it when you awareness is on
it that’s where your energy is flowing
when your energy flows there it starts
to manifest in your life and believe in
your ability to do that and proceed with
conference confidence the next thing is
life is meant to be lived joyously it
truly is and if you’re not happy with
life then something needs to be changed
if you ask most people what do they want
in life they’ll always say most people
often answer I want to be happy
happiness should never be pursued don’t
pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle that
results in happiness and that’s for me
what I do I never chase happiness I
pursue a lifestyle
where the my product or the lifestyle is
happiness in order to find out what the
lifestyle is I need to know what my
purpose in life is in order to do that I
need to spend time with myself each day
to find out who and what’s important in
my life
take that finite amount of energy that I
have each day focus it into those things
that starts to manifest in my life the
byproduct of that is happiness all right
so I want to say thank you and I want to
leave you with a small gift if you go to
this website address you’ll find a
five-week online course on understanding
the mind and also on how to develop
concentration and willpower you’re
welcome to sign up for it you just need
your name and email address and you’ll
receive that every week on email thank
you very much everyone I hope you
enjoyed it [Applause]
life is a manifestation of where you
direct your energy it truly is and what
we should really start with is to
actually look at energy the same way we
look at water if I took water if I took
a watering can and I watered a garden
bed with the weeds grow the flowers grow
both right water has no ability to
discriminate between the weeds and the
flowers whatever I water starts grow and
it is the same way as well if I took
energy and I invested it into something
negative it will grow and become more
negative if I took energy invested it
into something positive it will grow and
become more positive energy has no
ability to discriminate between what’s
positive and what’s negative whatever
you invest energy into starts to grow
and manifest in your life right now you
are the sum total of where you’ve been
investing your energy throughout your
entire life so the goal early in life is
to figure out what it is you want right
what’s your purpose in life who and
what’s important your life and be able
to direct energy towards that so that
you can manifest that in your life so
where do we begin with this we begin by
understanding how the mind works I’ll
have to say with you after living 10
years it’s a celibate monk in a
cloistered monastery in Hawaii this was
probably the most important thing I
could ever share with you understanding
how the mind works from a monk’s
perspective of understanding a monk and
experience with our monks objective of
understanding the mind and experience of
the mind in my perspective in my
experience of the mind there are two
things we need to understand awareness
and the mind let’s define what they are
let’s define awareness as a glowing ball
of light so we imagine an orb a glowing
ball of light that can float around
let’s call that awareness and put that
aside now let’s define the mind let’s
define the – a vast space with many
different areas within it one area of
the mind is angry hatred jealousy joy
happiness sex food art science
technology whole bunch of different
things right
yo awareness that ball of light can
actually move to any area of the mind
you want it to go to so if your
awareness this glowing ball of light
goes to the happy area of the mind it
lights up that particular area of the
mind you become you become conscious of
being happy are you
no you’re in an area of the mind call
happiness if this ball of light goes to
the angry air of the mind it lights up
that particular air of the mind are you
angry no you’re in an area of the mind
called anger and by using your willpower
and your powers of concentration you can
actually take your awareness this ball
of light to any area of the mind that
you want to go to and here’s the most
important part where your awareness goes
that’s where your energy is flowing so
if your awareness goes to the angry air
of the mind your energy is flowing there
it’s actually strengthening that
particular area of the mind so this is a
theory of it so let’s do a little
practical exercise to see if this
actually works or just some monk talk
okay so for that I need some audience
participation I need all of you to sit
up straight in your chair okay and put
your feet down on the ground and if
you’re leaning back in your chair sit
forward a little bit keep your spine
straight roll your shoulders back you
can keep your head nicely balanced on
top of your spine your eyes are closed
don’t worry we’re not gonna chant or
hold hands until later just kidding so
take a slow deep breath in with your
eyes closed take a slow deep breath in
slowly exhale and take another slow deep
breath in again and then slowly exhale I
want you to become aware of the chair
that you’re sitting on is it comfortable
is it not comfortable the temperature of
the room is it cold warm what about your
body posture is your spine straight your
shoulders roll back you’re sitting a
little bit forward your head nicely
balanced on top of your spine now I want
you to become aware of the most recent
wedding that you attended do you
remember whose wedding it is were you
happy for the couple getting married try
and think as much detail as you can
about the wedding do you remember what
you wore to the wedding do you remember
what the bride wore did she make a good
choice with her dress how was the food
alcohol did you drink a lot was they
good music did you dance did you do some
crazy wedding dance now I want you to
become aware of the most recent vacation
that you went on what kind of vacation
was it was it a surfing trip yoga
retreat holiday shopping camping
backpacking try and think as much detail
as you can about the vacation what was
the weather like where you went was a
cold rainy hot humid dry snowing do you
remember the favorite Hotel you stayed
in how was the food
bland spicy did you get sick eating the
food did you shop a lot what was one
thing you bought on the trip that you
really liked your eyes are still closed
and want you to become aware of the room
again try and feel the temperature of
the room is it warm is it cold the chair
you’re sitting on is it comfortable is
it not it’s your spine still straight
are you hunching your shoulders roll
back okay slowly open your eyes and you
can lean back in your chat well thank
you very much for doing that exercise
with me that exercise is really to prove
two things to you one is there’s a clear
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
second is you can actually take your
awareness and move it to any area of the
mind you want it to go to well you gave
me permission to do it so I took your
awareness from the room I took it to an
area of the subconscious mind where the
memory of the wedding resided and then I
took you to the vacation area of the
mine and then back to the room again how
do I know you were thinking about the
wedding well I had my eyes open and your
eyes were closed and when I asked
questions I could see the reactions in
your face did the bride make a good
choice with a headdress a couple of un
okay did you drink too much a few heads
went down so I knew you were thinking
about the wedding right so I took
Johannes different areas in the mind
this happens all day all day we allow
people and things around us to dictate
where awareness goes in our mind let’s
do one little exercise again just to
emphasize this point because to me this
is really really important and it’s the
crock of crux of really managing energy
in your life can you remember your first
kiss do you remember who it was to
remember histor her name remember where
it took place back at dad’s car behind
the garage what was the experience so
what was the emotion that was associated
with that experience come on real think
about it wasn’t that long ago come on
are you embarrassed were you nervous do
you remember do you remember the
okay some people are laughing blushing
did you remember the first time someone
you loved someone really close to you
passed away do you remember that
remember getting a phone call being told
that this person that you love has just
how did you feel
what was the emotions associated with
that experience did you have the
blessing of being able to see the body
do you remember standing next to the
body wondering how it felt knowing that
you never see this person again how did
it feel for you do you remember the
emotions isn’t it interesting in the
space of 60 to 90 seconds I took your
awareness from an area of the mind where
all of you is smiling or giggling or
slightly embarrassed to an area of the
mind where all of you are completely sad
on that satirizes feeling the vibration
of the rooms has completely changed
right and I could take your awareness
now to an anger area of the mind where
you all get anger you get up and you
leave and Sarah and a team would be
really upset with me and this happens
all day right all day we allow people
and things to dictate where awareness
goes and because they dictate where our
wellness goes that’s where our energy
flows as well and where our energy flows
is what manifests in our life so really
the goal in life is not really to
control your mind but rather to control
where your awareness is going in within
your mind so don’t control your mind
control where your awareness goes within
your mind how do we do that we do that
by learning how so your spiritual
practice or your homework for taking
away is to control where your awareness
goes in your mind throughout the day and
that’s really it how do we do this we
learn the fine art of concentration
first let’s define what concentration is
I define concentration as the ability to
keep your awareness on one thing for an
extended period of time so if I can keep
my awareness on this lady and hold it on
her I’m concentrating if I allow my
awareness my ball of light to move away
I’m getting distracted
I use my willpower and I bring my
awareness back and I
hold it on her being able to do that
allows me to concentrate most people
can’t concentrate for two reasons
right one is they’ve never been taught
how to concentrate second is they never
practice concentration how many of you
growing up here in school had classes on
concentration every single day that you
the same way you had classes on
geography on math and science anybody I
travel all around the world and I asked
this question and nobody puts their hand
up how many of you when you were growing
up in school were told to concentrate
isn’t that amazing you get told to
concentrate but you never get taught how
to do it right when I was growing up I
got told to concentrate all the time
down the paani concentrate on doing your
homework dhandapani concentrate on
eating your food anybody want to show me
how to do it no how many of you have
kids how many of you tell your kids to
concentrate have you ever showed them
how to no right and then if you don’t
show them how to concentrate how would
they know how to do it and then if you
want to be good at something you have to
practice it if you want to be really
good at concentration you need to
practice it all day people are good at
distraction because that’s what they
practice all day long it’s not that they
don’t have the ability to concentrate
they’ve just practice distraction and
become really really good at it so how
do we concentrate we concentrate by
practicing doing one thing at a time and
integrating this practice into our
everyday life so for me I look at my
average today and I ask myself what’s a
reoccurring event in my life every day I
speak with my spouse every time I speak
with my spouse I give her my undivided
attention I keep my awareness on her it
drifts away I bring it back it drifts
away I bring it back I keep my awareness
on her I give her my undivided attention
now every day I also speak to my clients
I speak with my clients I speak with my
friends family every time I speak with
somebody I give them my undivided
attention
if I’m on the phone I give the person on
the phone my undivided attention
I practice doing one thing at a time by
the end of the day I’ve talked about
maybe six to eight hours of practicing
concentration six months later
I become really good at concentration
twelve months later I’d become really
good at concentration the best way to
become good at something is to take a
tool
and insert it into a reoccurring event
in your life and this is the best way to
become good at something rather than to
create another practice in your life
just take a tool and insert it into the
practice into a reoccurring event in
your life so your homework is to give
someone or whatever you’re doing your
undivided attention pick one person in
your life for the next one month that
you will give your undivided attention
to every time you speak with that person
stay completely focused on them keep
your awareness on them the rest of the
day you can go ahead and be a squirrel
but on just whenever you’re speaking
with that face and give that person your
undivided attention and you need to
practice and bill in incremental steps
the other thing we need to learn to
develop is our willpower right everybody
is born with various levels of willpower
but one thing we never get taught to do
is to actually develop willpower and
willpower is like a muscle I call it a
mental bicep so if I could draw biceps
around my mind there would be my
willpower the three ways to develop
willpower one finish what you begin to
finish it well beyond your expectations
3 do a little bit more than you think
you’re able to do all of these three
ways require effort and that effort is
willpower right so how do I develop
willpower I take these three methods and
I apply it to things that reoccur in my
life what’s something that reoccurs in
my life every day every day I sleep what
a great opportunity to about willpower
before I go to sleep I floss I brush my
teeth put on my pajamas I go to sleep
when I wake up in the morning I finish
the process of sleep how do I finish the
process of sleep I make the bed every
day so every day I wake up in the
morning I make the bed what’s something
else I do every day every day I have
breakfast if have time to make breakfast
I have time to eat breakfast then I have
time to do the breakfast dish and put it
away
right so I finished the process that I
began and I bring this into everything
that I do then throughout the day I
develop willpower the more I practices
the better I get now I have tremendous
amount of willpower after six months
I’ve developed a lot of willpower
every time my awareness drifts away I
use that mental muscle that rope out to
bring my awareness back then I use the
powers of concentration that I’ve
developed to hold my awareness and what
I’m focused on and because I’m focusing
on that
where my awareness goes energy flows in
my now my energy is flowing towards what
I want that starts to manifest in my
life that’s why it’s so important
firstly to understand there’s a
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
you control way awareness goes to
control where your energy is flowing and
you control what’s manifesting in your
life and you use your powers of
concentration your willpower to hold
your awareness on the priorities in your
life the next thing we want to do is to
learn to manage energy in our life right
this is based on the premise that we
only have so much energy each day we
have a finite amount of energy each day
each day we have this much energy we
take our energy and we invest it into
people and things around us we keep
investing investing investing until we
have no more energy left we get
exhausted that’s usually around 11:00 or
11:30 or midnight we go to sleep our
energy builds up again we go out the
next day and we invest our energy into
people and things so we have no more
energy but but the one thing most people
don’t do is we never evaluate who and
what we’re investing I energy and so I
always tell people to treat energy the
same way you treat money it’s a finite
resource that needs to be wisely managed
wisely reallocated and wisely invested
no matter how rich you are you only have
so much money right and before you spend
money most of us think and evaluate what
we’re investing our money in if somebody
asks us for five thousand dollars or
thirty thousand dollars invest into a
start-up or a company we would ask
questions we just wouldn’t hand them 30
thousand dollars we would ask what’s
your plan with it what are you going to
do with this money what’s my return on
my investment because it’s a finite
resource so why don’t we do the same
thing with energy before we invest
energy into someone or something why
don’t we evaluate if that person or that
thing is deserving of energy because if
you only have this much energy in fact
you ten percent on my energy and I gave
it to John that’s ten percent I could
have given to my spouse my business the
things and people that I love remember
the law of thermodynamics energy cannot
be created or destroyed but it can be
transferred or transformed from one
thing to another right so I can’t create
energy if I give 10% to John I want to
know he’s gonna do something good with
it because if it’s just gonna squander
it I’d rather take it and give it to the
people and things that I love so why is
it important
to manage energy for me the greatest
impetus for managing energy is is death
that is the greatest impetus for me to
manage energy I realized that life is
finite that I only have one life as me
and regardless of my beliefs I know I
have one existence and has done the
paani and what happens after death I’m
not quite sure we all have different
upbringing different religious beliefs
some people say when you die you go to
heaven or hell some people say when you
die it’s game over that’s it nothing
happens afterwards
some people say when you die you get
reincarnated as a man or woman another
say you get reincarnated as a man woman
maybe an insect of an animal but no one
really knows we have our beliefs and we
hold strongly to them but no one’s ever
died going to have and taking the selfie
comeback posted it on Instagram and say
look at me here in heaven hashtag pearly
gates right so we don’t quite know but
the one definitive thing is that we know
we’re gonna die and I know I have a
finite amount of life I don’t believe
life is short but I do believe it’s
finite and because I my life is finite I
want to be extremely clear where to
focus my energy there’s no point
learning to concentrate if you don’t
know what to concentrate on so along
with learning concentration it’s really
important to also learn what to focus on
so what I would recommend as a homework
is to be clear what your purpose in life
is one way to do this is to spend five
minutes each morning reflecting on what
your purpose of life is get to know
yourself most people are happy to spend
time with other people and things but
very few people actually make time to
spend time with themselves so when you
wake up in the morning take a shower go
to a quiet place in your house sit down
and ask yourself questions about you
what do you want in life what’s my
purpose in life why am I here what do I
love what am i passionate about how many
people can genuinely answer this is my
say this is my purpose in life very very
few people once you’re clear with your
purpose you know what to concentrate on
and you know what to direct your finite
amount of energy to it right so the next
thing we want to look at is energy
consumers right people and things
two of the biggest consumers of energy
and people and things also give you a
lot of energy since the subject is vast
and time is short let’s focus on the
people that consume energy and how we
can deal with them I call these people
energy vampires all right that’s what a
vampire that’s right bytes Ian and I can
suck the life out of you and some people
consume tremendous amount of energy
essentially speaking there are three
types of people and let’s keep this
simple monk simple there are uplifting
people there are neutral people and they
are not uplifting people okay let’s
define what this is okay well they are
an uplifting person I spend five minutes
with an uplifting person I walk away I
feel great and go like wow that was an
amazing conversation a neutral person I
spend five minutes with them I walk away
I’m still the same a non uplifting
person I spent five minutes with them I
walk away and I go like oh my god that
was exhausting all right and you’ve
probably experienced that in your life
so then the next question is to ask is
are they an energy vampire the two ways
to figure this out one is I can judge or
I can evaluate right
what’s judging and evaluating judging is
this I’m at a party in New York City in
a penthouse they’re 200 people in the
room the door opens this guy walks and
he’s got white shoes a purple suit he’s
got a cane and the top hat he’s wearing
a chain with a big clock hanging off his
chest I look across the room and I go he
must be a pimp or drug dealer
that’s judging right I didn’t get to
know him I just judged he was a pimp a
drug dealer
evaluation is this I spent 50 occasions
with Jon over a period of two years 49
of those I walk away from and I go like
oh my god that was exhausting it’s safe
for me to evaluate that jon is an energy
vampire okay
then there are two types of energy
vampire the next question is are they a
transient energy vampire inherently an
energy vampire right
what’s a transient energy vampire just
say John is going through a hard time in
life because his dad is dying of cancer
for example and for 3 years this
consumes a lot of energy you know he’s
always down you need to uplift him he’s
feeling very sad it’s ok you give him
that energy because he’s your friend and
that’s what we do we express compassion
empathy and love and we support our
friends during difficult times what
someone who’s inherently an energy
vampire someone who’s inherently and
vampires always been this way for
decades theses haven’t changed they’re
just not an uplifting human being at all
so how do we deal with someone who’s
inherently an energy vampire so before I
go there quick question for all of you
how many of you in this room feel like
you have someone who’s inherently an
energy vampire in your life that’s a lot
of people in this room right so how do
we deal with someone who’s inherently in
an g vampire right my guru taught me the
best way to do this is to practice the
art of being affectionately detached but
always kind gentle sincere and loving
towards them what does this mean so just
say John is inherently an energy vampire
I live in New York City I’m walking down
Fifth Avenue I see John walking towards
me what do i do do I cross the street
that’s not very nice
I meet John John meets me what do you
say when two people meet each other I
know what you guys say in Australia
g’day how’s it going might right do I
say that no do you not wait on us how
are you
it’s true you have to understand I’m in
the Munk business when I ask somebody
how are you they tell me the entire life
story
it’s the confession time so I don’t even
ask how are you John asked me how are
you I say I’m doing very well thank you
very much and then I reply what a
beautiful day in Sydney right it’s true
I’m being sincere I’m being kind and
then I say to him please excuse me I
have something really important to do
it’s true my life is finite and I’m very
clear what my purpose is
right I’m not I’m not lying and then
what do people say at the end of a
conversation it was a pleasure meeting
you
actually it wasn’t let’s do lunch why
see you later
not really don’t want to why do we say
the things we don’t mean and ask the
questions we don’t want answers to so at
the end of a conversation I say have a
wonderful day which is true I know he’s
inherently an energy vampire but I do
wish ya it’s a wonderful day
so the concept of being affectionately
detached is to not engage with someone
right is to be kind to be gentle to be
sincere and loving towards them but not
engaging with them what’s another way to
protect yourself from an energy vampire
is to place the burden of responsibility
on them what does that mean I’ll give
you an example I have a client of mine
who’s a expert in social media right so
a lot of people want to get together
with him have a cup of coffee a glass of
wine let’s catch up for lunch
let’s do dinner why because they want to
pick his brain right and get information
from him and he can’t sustained us
because everybody wants a a little bit
of his time and it’s just can’t live
this way so I told him this is what you
need to do you need to you need to tell
this person who wants to meet with you
to read your favorite marketing book
read your favorite marketing book write
down seven key points and email it to
you once you receive the seven key
points from the book tell them that you
know you want to see what sends out to
them in the book once you receive these
seven key points you email them and say
let’s meet up on this day for a couple
hours and we can discuss a marketing
strategy for you strategy for you you
know how many people actually read the
book and email him the seven key points
nobody
as soon as you place the burden or
responsibility on someone they don’t do
it I travel all around the world I speak
people come up to me and want to ask
questions I always give them my personal
email address I tell them please don’t
share it with anybody can you put your
question down on this email and send it
to me one will give me time to reflect
on it and I can give you a proper
response and they always say for sure
I’ll put it all down an email I’ll send
it to you you know many people email me
nobody emails me simple little tasks
right I’m not asking them to do yoga to
meditate to breathe out of one nostril
you just send me an email with your
problems and they don’t do it so place
the burden a responsibility on someone
if you’re somebody who’s developed a
particular skill you’re an expert in a
particular niche in a particular area
and you find that people want your time
they want your energy the one simple way
to protect yourself is to place a bit
and responsibility on them give them a
simple task to do and see if they do it
and if they fulfilled that task and come
back to you then go out of your way to
help them okay another thing I want to
talk about so your spiritual practice is
to every year evaluate the people in
your life so go through a process
evaluation and reallocate your energy
between people who uplift you and people
that don’t about uplift you and this is
something that I do all the time right
another thing I want to talk about and
wrap up with is mental energy vampires
what’s a mental energy vampire mental
energy vampire is a unresolved emotional
experiences that are sitting in our
subconscious right most people how much
subconscious mind looks like this Indian
flower markets just packed with stuff
because people don’t resolve stuff as
they go through life right everything
that is one posture wants passed through
your conscious mind in the form of
experience is resident in your
subconscious mind and all these
experiences have emotion attached to
them all right one simple way to deal
with unresolved emotional experiences to
do this exercise called Avastin aha
Tantra that’s a Sanskrit name for it and
what it really is is to take a piece of
paper and write down the problem on it
every experience has emotion attached to
it and I want to share with you a quote
from Tesla which I think really income
encapsulate the philosophy that I
believe in no that I was
trained in the monastry tesla says if
you want to find the secrets of universe
think in terms of energy frequency and
vibration everything is made up of
energy and it’s vibrating at a certain
frequency so if I have an experience it
has emotion attached to it it’s
vibrating in my subconscious mind my
goal is I can’t do anything about the
experience because it’s already happened
but what I can do to help myself is to
remove the emotion that’s attached to
experience so I take a piece of paper I
write down the problem s I write down
the problem something really interesting
happens the experience moves from my
subconscious mind to my conscious mind
because I’m reliving it the interesting
thing that happens is the energy the
emotion actually comes out of the
experience flows through my hands into
the piece of paper
now I crumbled a piece of paper and I
burn it in a fire it could be a garbage
can a fireplace it doesn’t really matter
does the fire destroyed the emotion no
because you can’t destroy energy but
what it actually does is transform the
emotion in the paper into heat flame ash
smoke and a whole bunch of different
things I remember the first time I ever
shared this exercise was with a group of
entrepreneurs in Perth actually about
five years ago and one of them said to
me look down the ponty I realized that
experiences have emotion attached to
them and I realized as well when you
relive it or you’re writing about it it
goes from your subconscious mind to your
conscious mind but this whole concept
that emotion comes out of the experience
flows through your hands into the piece
of paper it’s find it really hard to
believe I can’t find it that it’s a
little bit too spiritual is it fair
enough so I asked them do you have kids
he says yeah I have a couple of kids now
for Yohan six-year-old I said on
Father’s Day on your birthday did I ever
make you cards they said they do that
all time can you describe the card well
they say usually go to the back of the
house they find an old piece of
cardboard they draw on it they stick a
bunch of things on it stars and and a
bunch of ribbons and then on last day on
my birthday they hand me the card and I
said how does it look the gum wall
doesn’t look that great it’s made by a
foil but I said do you let me ask you
this way if you saw it in the store
would you pay money for it and they go
like no no way
but do you keep it he says he I keep
every single one and asked him why I
said well it’s so full of love so wait a
minute do you know you’re telling me
young your kids no monk magic because
two minutes ago I told you about putting
emotion and a piece of
and you looked at me like I was a crazy
person and now your four-year-old son
knows how to do this right because he’s
taking a piece of paper put his emotion
in it a piece of paper that you don’t
want a cog bought that you didn’t want
put his emotion in it and now he’s
giving it to you and you hold it so you
can actually transfer energy from you
emotion from inside of you into another
matter how many of you have kids and
have one of those not so attractive
drawings at home do you keep them why
you’d never be able to sell it to
anybody nobody want to buy it right you
keep it because they’re so full of love
it’s full of emotion right so you can
move emotion out of you so the exercise
here is really if you ever find that you
have unresolved emotional experiences
sitting in your subconscious consuming
tremendous amount of energy take a piece
of paper write it down and then burn it
in an ordinary fire how many times
should you write well depending on the
emotion if it’s an intense experience
you might have to write about it three
or four times if it’s not so intense
maybe once or twice so just to wrap up
over here to know yourself is one of the
greatest gifts you can give yourself it
truly is right most people don’t really
understand themselves they don’t
understand what they want in life and
therefore find it extremely difficult
what to focus the finite amount of
energy on I want to leave you with two
quotes one from my group
the first one is proceed with confidence
right proceed with confidence believe in
your ability to manifest something in
your life because you can how do you
manifest something in your life you take
your awareness you focus it on that
thing you know how to develop
concentration now you keep your
awareness on it when you awareness is on
it that’s where your energy is flowing
when your energy flows there it starts
to manifest in your life and believe in
your ability to do that and proceed with
conference confidence the next thing is
life is meant to be lived joyously it
truly is and if you’re not happy with
life then something needs to be changed
if you ask most people what do they want
in life they’ll always say most people
often answer I want to be happy
happiness should never be pursued don’t
pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle that
results in happiness and that’s for me
what I do I never chase happiness I
pursue a lifestyle
where the my product or the lifestyle is
happiness in order to find out what the
lifestyle is I need to know what my
purpose in life is in order to do that I
need to spend time with myself each day
to find out who and what’s important in
my life
take that finite amount of energy that I
have each day focus it into those things
that starts to manifest in my life the
byproduct of that is happiness all right
so I want to say thank you and I want to
leave you with a small gift if you go to
this website address you’ll find a
five-week online course on understanding
the mind and also on how to develop
concentration and willpower you’re
welcome to sign up for it you just need
your name and email address and you’ll
receive that every week on email thank
you very much everyone I hope you
enjoyed it [Applause]
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