how many of you ever get tired of the
pressure of trying to be something that
you’re not
you focus on trouble long enough it will
develop into more trouble do you want
people to appreciate you then start
appreciating everybody you meet need
motivation watch a top 10 with believe
nation
what’s that belief nation it’s Evan my
one word is believe and this channel is
designed to be a part of your daily
success routine so let’s get your
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believing in you grab a snack and chew
in today’s lessons from a woman who went
from having a difficult childhood and
being abused by her father growing up to
becoming a best-selling author and head
of one of the largest Christian
ministries in the world
she’s Joyce Meyer and here’s my take on
okay let’s kick it off with rule number
one be yourself one of the things that
we have to do if we want to simplify our
life is stop trying to be something
here’s what I want to encourage you in
every area of your life find your level
of skill and gifting which will normally
mean that that’s where you’re
comfortable not that we never stretch
ourselves or go beyond you know what’s
extremely comfortable but we’re all
creative different and we all have
different strengths and gifts and
different things and see here’s the
thing
now listen you don’t have to keep
apologizing for what you’re not you just
need to realize who you are and then do
what you’re good at I don’t have to try
to do a party like somebody else does I
don’t have to try to have the gift of
hospitality if I don’t have the gift of
hospitality but honey I can talk I can
communicate and I’m doing that amen how
many of you ever get tired of the
pressure of trying to be something that
you’re not and don’t you feel a lot of
times that the world pressures you to do
that well you should and you ought they
say I don’t know who they are but
they’re running our lives and we don’t
even know them rule number two don’t
have regrets I want you to just imagine
right now we’re going to the Graveyard
for a minute you go to the Graveyard you
see on the tombstone the person’s name
when they were born a – and when they
died we’re gonna use my life for an
example and I’ve decided to live a
hundred years so there we go
all right now Joyce Meyer 1943 to 2043
well don’t you think it’s interesting
that your whole life from the time
you’re born till you die comes down to a
dash so here’s what I want to ask you
because that’s about how fast you’re
gonna feel like it went by when you get
to be about 75 or 80 you’re gonna go I
can’t believe that it’s all gone don’t
get to that point in life and have
nothing but regrets don’t spend your
life climbing the ladder of success only
to find out that your ladders leaned
against the wrong building when you get
to the top and you know when I talk to
you about time management and not
wasting your time I’m not necessarily
telling you to go find something else to
do so you’re more productive I may be
telling you do a little less so you can
start taking some of the time you’re
wasting and putting it into really
important things like relationships
getting some sleep having some fun
spending time with family rule number
three focus on what you want you know
what you focus on in life is what you
get this a little Polaroid camera takes
the cutest little pictures now look I’m
gonna get whatever I focus on I can get
this pretty lady right down here in the
blue now this has to develop you know
like most things we focus on you focus
on trouble long enough it will develop
into more trouble amen
but if we focus on let’s see who else
can I flip let’s focus on Dave cuz he
[Music]
isn’t that cute
fifty bucks you can just like pictures
of where you go I know you got your
selfies but I don’t do good with those
so it’s just an example you’re gonna get
what you focus on what you focus on gets
larger and larger in your life it grows
and it can grow to the point where it’s
just like totally out of balance it’s
like like if you look at what’s wrong
with your life you can actually get to
the point where you just hate your life
and you think that you’ve got the worst
life ever when really somebody else
might look at your life and they might
actually wish they had your life because
they’re seeing the stuff that you quit
looking at a long time ago because
you’re so busy looking at all the stuff
you don’t like you’ve forgotten what you
do like you might marry somebody and you
might get so focused on what you don’t
like that you forgot what you liked
about them that caused you to want to
marry them to start with
rule number four work your plan and I
don’t think any person listening to me
right now would say well you know Joyce
I just want to waste my life you don’t
want to waste your life you don’t even
want to waste today but our days will be
wasted if we’re not pretty firm about
what we want to do with them so I want
to suggest to you that you have a plan
and then that you work your plan now
obviously anybody who has a plan for
their day and that includes me not
everything is going to happen the way I
had it planned but I can tell you if I
have no plan then nothing happens if I
have no plan if I have no determination
if I’ve not set any goals if I’ve not
set my mind to anything then something
will come along that will literally just
steal my time and steal my day you know
what’s going to happen at the end of the
day I’m going to be pretty frustrated
you know I don’t want to get to the end
of a day and feel frustrated because
once again I wasted another day or even
yet don’t even really remember what
I did with my time I believe that we
need to make a plan a prayerful plan I
wouldn’t do anything any day of my life
if I were you without first saying to
God I want to be led by the Holy Spirit
the Bible teaches us to think and to
make plans but we should always have
those plans available for God to change
if he feels like he needs to do that you
know there may be people that come into
your path on any given day that have a
really desperate need what you may need
to change your plan and help them a
little bit so when I say have a plan I
don’t mean be so dogmatic about it that
you’re not going to change anything but
at the same time I do think that you
need to learn the difference between a
holy interruption a God interruption and
what we might call a demonic
interruption don’t think for one minute
that the devil won’t try to derail you
and get you off your goals and get you
distracted because he definitely will
the devil is a master at distraction
because he does not want us to bear good
fruit but the Bible says that God is
glorified when we bear much fruit
there’s a great scripture in Colossians
3 that says set your mind and keep it
set on things that are above but I think
that principle of setting our mind and
keeping it set is so important you know
if you really want to do something you
can’t just make a decision you have to
follow through with that decision and I
think that’s really what I want to
encourage you about today
stop letting all the circumstances
around you control you and derail you
and get you distracted and and so you
end up frustrated at the end of the day
have a schedule a realistic schedule
have a plan a realistic plan not one
that is so huge that nobody could
accomplish it and you know let’s just
say you have ten things in your plan at
the end of the day you’ve only gotten
four done we’ll be happy about the four
that you got done but look at your day
and ask yourself now could I have stayed
on track better did I do my best
that I let somebody else steal my time
yet I let the devil distract me and just
get me off course and just made an
unwise choice you know the great thing
about the past is we don’t have to feel
guilty about it but we can learn from it
as I encourage you to just get a fresh
start I think there’s people watching
today you have trouble focusing you have
trouble sticking to things and exactly
what the devil would like is for you to
give up but I’m encouraging you today
don’t give up rule number five be a
servant I want to talk today about the
power of serving others thank you for
that grateful for that one human over
there that’s excited the word servant
has it kind of comes across sometimes in
a way that that we don’t like it kind of
has an an unpleasant unimportant even
belittling feeling to us we see it as a
low position perhaps something that you
do if you can’t do anything else but
Jesus said it is actually the greatest
thing of all he that is the greatest is
the servant of all but I don’t believe
that servanthood is just a job that you
go get where you whatever you know
you’re the janitor in the school or you
cook for somebody or you’re doing some
kind of a task that we might term
serving but I believe that no matter
what we’re doing that if we do it with
the attitude of being a servant that
that’s what God’s talking about I am
right now I have full authority in this
room so I guess the way the world looks
at it you could look at it like yeah you
know pretty important up there today she
got the stage he’s got everybody’s you
know looking at her let’s see I have to
always keep in mind
I’m doing this as a servant of God and
so even though I’m the teacher and one
with authority today in my heart I’m
here to serve God and to serve you to
make your lives better so whether you’re
a secretary or you’re raising children
are you working a factory or you’re a
doctor whatever your position is
whatever however you’re expressing your
gifts out in the world you want to
always go out with the attitude I’m here
to serve rule number six take care of
yourself you’re so valuable you’re a
valuable person in the earth I think
that the devil works really hard trying
to make people think that they have no
value and that they’re not necessary and
they have no purpose but you are
valuable you’re special and you have
gifts and talents and abilities that
that we need and it’s very important I
want you to listen because this is what
I want to talk to you about today it’s
very important that you if you’re not
already doing it that you make a
decision that you’re going to take
really good care of yourself
and I think a lot of times people think
that that’s being selfish but I think
it’s being wise because you know what
there’s no greater gift that you can
give to everybody else than a healthy
you what a great gift to give your
family a healthy you healthy emotionally
mentally physically spiritually in every
way God wants us to have good health
let’s talk for a little bit about how
important it is for you to take care of
yourself first of all if you don’t take
care of yourself I don’t know who you
think’s going to and you only have one
chance here you only have one body and
if you wear it out early you can’t go
somewhere and buy another one now you
know today they’re so good at things
that you can’t even get replacement
parts but there are some things that you
can’t replace amen
and so you are important to God and
that’s what I want to say to you
you’re not here just you’re not an
accident you’re not just here taking up
space God has something for you to do
something that is important and you’re
not likely to do it and neither am i if
I feel bad all the time
God wants I’m telling you if I feel bad
I don’t even want to pray I’m sorry
maybe that doesn’t sound very spiritual
but I mean if I feel really bad I don’t
want to study I don’t want to pray I
just want to do nothing and that’s not
the way God wants us to be he wants us
to be energetic and and full of zeal and
able to do things and and being creative
in our thinking and I’m certainly not
implying here that we never have a tired
day or an off day but I’m talking about
as a whole when people say to you how
are you you should be able to say
truthfully I’m great rule number seven
take responsibility whatever we saw we
will ultimately reap if we remain in
that baby stage of Christianity always
just doing what we want what we think of
what we feel we will reap that and we
really won’t like what we reap and we’ll
probably blame the devil and we’ll
probably blame people but the truth is
we just never got around to doing what
we should have been doing to start with
can somebody say Amen I mean if you know
we love to blame all of our problems on
somebody else if we can’t find a person
then it’s the devil’s fault
however the truth of the matter is is
nobody else is in charge of your
happiness except you do unto others we
read this stuff too fast and we go on to
something else and we just don’t get it
what kind of power is this giving us in
our lives do you want people to
appreciate you then start appreciating
everybody you meet you want people to
compliment you then start sowing
compliments everywhere you go when
people give you a gift you you want them
to give you a really nice gift something
you’d really like to have then start
giving nice gifts don’t buy the cheapest
thing you can find
give people good stuff rule number 8
decide to be happy I had a lot of
discouragement and depression and bad
moods in the early years of mine and
Dave’s marriage I had a lot of problems
I’ve been abused and and I had not
learned how to think right yet and my
husband loved me and he tried to help me
but I really wasn’t at a point yet where
I was ready to receive help and I was
unhappy a lot but Dave stayed happy and
his joy made me mad well it’s the truth
you know when you’re unhappy somebody
that’s happy annoys the living daylights
out of you you don’t it’s like it’s just
like well what he’s unhappy about what
you know and so and it would just it
would almost aggravate me that he didn’t
seem to have any problems well it must
be nice that life was so great for you
but you know you didn’t go through what
I went through and but I can also tell
you that in the long run
Dave’s joy was the salt that God used to
make me thirsty
to have what he had so you’re not
helping the person you’re in
relationship with if you let them make
you unhappy all the time you’re actually
only feeding their problems so if you
want to help them are you ready for this
if you want to help them stay happy I
said if you want to help them stay happy
and I’m not talking about being
ridiculous and going around and giggling
all the time and not but I’m just you
know joy is anything from extreme
hilarity to a calm delight and I think
that we have those moments of extreme
hilarity but basically we live in a calm
delight it’s God’s desire that we just
live in this calm delight and that we
can enjoy wherever we’re at whatever’s
going on not that we like everything
that’s going on we don’t and one thing’s
for sure now listen what I’m gonna say
you’ll never be consistently happy if
you don’t make a decision that you’re
going to be rule number nine expect good
things we need to expect something good
to happen expect something good is gonna
happen things can change at any minute
I’m waiting patiently a farmer plant
seed and he waters it and he waters it
and he goes out every day and he pulls
the weeds and he waters it he pulls the
weeds and he waters it he pulls the
weeds and he keeps believing and every
day it goes out to see if anything’s
coming out of the ground yet he waters
it he pulls the weeds and you know what
he is going to keep it up until he sees
some fruit until he sees harvest and
rule number 10 the last one before a
very special bonus clip is embrace the
hard times so I’m going to tell you a
funny story I was on my way to do a
church service and if there’s anything I
can’t stand it’s to be late for my own
stuff
I mean when it starts I want to be right
over there paying attention to what’s
going on because I’m miss responsible
it’s my deal I want to make sure that it
all goes right and we got lots of good
people but I still want to be there and
oh you you should see if I get stuck in
a traffic jam it is like
[Applause]
now you know I’ve I have some
self-control but it’s like it’s
challenge time if you know what I’m
talking about there’s certain situations
that are just more challenging for you
than others well see those are the ones
we want to attack with God and because
you take ground one step at a time okay
I really pretty patient with God now I’m
not I mean cuz I’ve kind of figured out
I’m not gonna make him hurry so I mean
I’m okay with that
you know if he gives me what I want a
week that’s fine if he gives it to me in
25 years that has to be fine because
you’re not gonna make god hurry sob just
I kind of chilled out with that one but
I still kind of try to control other
stuff sometimes so we’re on our way to
this church service we got to pass these
train tracks while the Train thingy
board thing is down and the lights are
flashing and no training no training no
training no training no train no train
no train and the traffic’s backing up
backing up backing up now people start
turning around going the other extras
turn so obviously something was wrong
and the thing was down and there was no
train so we finally did it u-turn and so
now we’re gonna have to take this detour
and go through all these streets we’re
not even sure about and I’m like I’m
gonna be late
I don’t want to be late and so Davis
very generous in his driving in that he
so we’re driving I’m like wanting to get
there and I see this car inching out of
this side street and Dave started
slowing down and out of my mouth comes
he said no we don’t want to be nice
we’re on our way to church
that would not be a good thing to be
and it was so funny
so funny so I want I want to be Who I am
I love my personality I love what I’m
doing I love my aggressive nature so
that means I’m gonna just keep working
with God and see the good news is I know
he loves me anyway I’m not gonna go to
heaven because I’m patient but I want to
be fully patient because here comes the
payoff are you ready for this yeah
consider it holy joyful my brethren
whenever you are enveloped in our
encounter trials of any sort our fall
into various temptations now you know
really that’s a great Scripture but
nobody really does then I mean it’s like
did you notice how quiet you were when I
started reading that nobody cheered
nobody clapped for this consider it
joyful when you’re in all kinds of tests
and temptations and trials well you
can’t be joyful about the trial but what
we’re supposed to be able to do is to
look by faith beyond what we’re going
through to what it’s going to do for us
spiritually
[Applause]
see you have to have the hard times to
now I’ve got a special bonus clip from
Joyce on how to give up pitied that I
think you’re gonna really enjoy but
before that it’s time for the three
point landing question time to move from
just watching another video to actually
taking action in your life or your
business and if you’re feeling bold
write down your responses in the
comments below here we go question
number one what three good things do you
expect to happen to you
number two what hard times do you need
to embrace right now and number three
how are you going to take better care of
when your flesh doesn’t get its way it’s
uncomfortable for a little while has
this little fit going you’ll know how
this works how many of you’ve got a
small child you watch them throw a fit
every time you don’t get their way
[Applause]
do you have any idea of how many days
that I spent doing that I’d go as far
back in the house as I could get into
the very back smallest bathroom in the
house set down the floor in front of the
commode of all places you know if you’re
gonna feel sorry for yourself you might
as well just be in the most pitiful
position you can be in in the most
pitiful place in the house and just if
you’re going to be pitiful just be
really pitiful just think all these
hopeless thoughts nothing good ever
happens to me I just work all week Dave
gets out with people and I’m stuck here
with these kids all the time then he
comes home and watches football and then
he goes off plays golf on the weekend
and I just clean and clean and cook and
clean
hey the bells and count the money and
cook and clean and cook and clean I’ll
tell you what I was one person that
you know how the flesh is how many of
you would just be willing today to give
up pity parties could I get you to go on
a pity fast for the next year come on
well you fast pity for the next year
anybody in for it now you don’t want to
say yes too quick because as soon as you
I’ll just go so far as to tell you this
you know what’s in the natural without a
miracle of God we’re gonna all be tired
tomorrow
and you got to be really careful about
your soul when you’re tired well you
would think that I after as hard as I
work that I could go to one conference
once a year and come home and find this
house in decent shape but I know and you
know some of you have already made your
mind up when you go home and go through
the front door if things are not the way
you said they should be when you got
home that you are going to tell them a
thing or two and then that self-pity is
going to attack you after coming to a
beautiful event like this and all the
glorious amazing wonderful things that
have happened if I don’t tell you this
now some of you but tomorrow afternoon
at 3 o’clock would be sitting in the
floor with your helmet of hopelessness
on having your pity party but not this
I had to give up pity because God said
you can be pitiful or powerful but
you’re not going to be both take your
pick oh yeah the most important work
ever if you had to think of one word
that’s most important to you or that
sums you Apple
that would be collect a little beacon
if you liked this video and you want
more joists check out the top ten rules
vol 1 that I did on her the link is
right there next to me continue to
believe and I’ll see you there bunch of
people all before their times because
they they look like you know there’s 40
and look like they’re 90 because they worried themselves to death
pressure of trying to be something that
you’re not
you focus on trouble long enough it will
develop into more trouble do you want
people to appreciate you then start
appreciating everybody you meet need
motivation watch a top 10 with believe
nation
what’s that belief nation it’s Evan my
one word is believe and this channel is
designed to be a part of your daily
success routine so let’s get your
motivation to attend and get you
believing in you grab a snack and chew
in today’s lessons from a woman who went
from having a difficult childhood and
being abused by her father growing up to
becoming a best-selling author and head
of one of the largest Christian
ministries in the world
she’s Joyce Meyer and here’s my take on
okay let’s kick it off with rule number
one be yourself one of the things that
we have to do if we want to simplify our
life is stop trying to be something
here’s what I want to encourage you in
every area of your life find your level
of skill and gifting which will normally
mean that that’s where you’re
comfortable not that we never stretch
ourselves or go beyond you know what’s
extremely comfortable but we’re all
creative different and we all have
different strengths and gifts and
different things and see here’s the
thing
now listen you don’t have to keep
apologizing for what you’re not you just
need to realize who you are and then do
what you’re good at I don’t have to try
to do a party like somebody else does I
don’t have to try to have the gift of
hospitality if I don’t have the gift of
hospitality but honey I can talk I can
communicate and I’m doing that amen how
many of you ever get tired of the
pressure of trying to be something that
you’re not and don’t you feel a lot of
times that the world pressures you to do
that well you should and you ought they
say I don’t know who they are but
they’re running our lives and we don’t
even know them rule number two don’t
have regrets I want you to just imagine
right now we’re going to the Graveyard
for a minute you go to the Graveyard you
see on the tombstone the person’s name
when they were born a – and when they
died we’re gonna use my life for an
example and I’ve decided to live a
hundred years so there we go
all right now Joyce Meyer 1943 to 2043
well don’t you think it’s interesting
that your whole life from the time
you’re born till you die comes down to a
dash so here’s what I want to ask you
because that’s about how fast you’re
gonna feel like it went by when you get
to be about 75 or 80 you’re gonna go I
can’t believe that it’s all gone don’t
get to that point in life and have
nothing but regrets don’t spend your
life climbing the ladder of success only
to find out that your ladders leaned
against the wrong building when you get
to the top and you know when I talk to
you about time management and not
wasting your time I’m not necessarily
telling you to go find something else to
do so you’re more productive I may be
telling you do a little less so you can
start taking some of the time you’re
wasting and putting it into really
important things like relationships
getting some sleep having some fun
spending time with family rule number
three focus on what you want you know
what you focus on in life is what you
get this a little Polaroid camera takes
the cutest little pictures now look I’m
gonna get whatever I focus on I can get
this pretty lady right down here in the
blue now this has to develop you know
like most things we focus on you focus
on trouble long enough it will develop
into more trouble amen
but if we focus on let’s see who else
can I flip let’s focus on Dave cuz he
[Music]
isn’t that cute
fifty bucks you can just like pictures
of where you go I know you got your
selfies but I don’t do good with those
so it’s just an example you’re gonna get
what you focus on what you focus on gets
larger and larger in your life it grows
and it can grow to the point where it’s
just like totally out of balance it’s
like like if you look at what’s wrong
with your life you can actually get to
the point where you just hate your life
and you think that you’ve got the worst
life ever when really somebody else
might look at your life and they might
actually wish they had your life because
they’re seeing the stuff that you quit
looking at a long time ago because
you’re so busy looking at all the stuff
you don’t like you’ve forgotten what you
do like you might marry somebody and you
might get so focused on what you don’t
like that you forgot what you liked
about them that caused you to want to
marry them to start with
rule number four work your plan and I
don’t think any person listening to me
right now would say well you know Joyce
I just want to waste my life you don’t
want to waste your life you don’t even
want to waste today but our days will be
wasted if we’re not pretty firm about
what we want to do with them so I want
to suggest to you that you have a plan
and then that you work your plan now
obviously anybody who has a plan for
their day and that includes me not
everything is going to happen the way I
had it planned but I can tell you if I
have no plan then nothing happens if I
have no plan if I have no determination
if I’ve not set any goals if I’ve not
set my mind to anything then something
will come along that will literally just
steal my time and steal my day you know
what’s going to happen at the end of the
day I’m going to be pretty frustrated
you know I don’t want to get to the end
of a day and feel frustrated because
once again I wasted another day or even
yet don’t even really remember what
I did with my time I believe that we
need to make a plan a prayerful plan I
wouldn’t do anything any day of my life
if I were you without first saying to
God I want to be led by the Holy Spirit
the Bible teaches us to think and to
make plans but we should always have
those plans available for God to change
if he feels like he needs to do that you
know there may be people that come into
your path on any given day that have a
really desperate need what you may need
to change your plan and help them a
little bit so when I say have a plan I
don’t mean be so dogmatic about it that
you’re not going to change anything but
at the same time I do think that you
need to learn the difference between a
holy interruption a God interruption and
what we might call a demonic
interruption don’t think for one minute
that the devil won’t try to derail you
and get you off your goals and get you
distracted because he definitely will
the devil is a master at distraction
because he does not want us to bear good
fruit but the Bible says that God is
glorified when we bear much fruit
there’s a great scripture in Colossians
3 that says set your mind and keep it
set on things that are above but I think
that principle of setting our mind and
keeping it set is so important you know
if you really want to do something you
can’t just make a decision you have to
follow through with that decision and I
think that’s really what I want to
encourage you about today
stop letting all the circumstances
around you control you and derail you
and get you distracted and and so you
end up frustrated at the end of the day
have a schedule a realistic schedule
have a plan a realistic plan not one
that is so huge that nobody could
accomplish it and you know let’s just
say you have ten things in your plan at
the end of the day you’ve only gotten
four done we’ll be happy about the four
that you got done but look at your day
and ask yourself now could I have stayed
on track better did I do my best
that I let somebody else steal my time
yet I let the devil distract me and just
get me off course and just made an
unwise choice you know the great thing
about the past is we don’t have to feel
guilty about it but we can learn from it
as I encourage you to just get a fresh
start I think there’s people watching
today you have trouble focusing you have
trouble sticking to things and exactly
what the devil would like is for you to
give up but I’m encouraging you today
don’t give up rule number five be a
servant I want to talk today about the
power of serving others thank you for
that grateful for that one human over
there that’s excited the word servant
has it kind of comes across sometimes in
a way that that we don’t like it kind of
has an an unpleasant unimportant even
belittling feeling to us we see it as a
low position perhaps something that you
do if you can’t do anything else but
Jesus said it is actually the greatest
thing of all he that is the greatest is
the servant of all but I don’t believe
that servanthood is just a job that you
go get where you whatever you know
you’re the janitor in the school or you
cook for somebody or you’re doing some
kind of a task that we might term
serving but I believe that no matter
what we’re doing that if we do it with
the attitude of being a servant that
that’s what God’s talking about I am
right now I have full authority in this
room so I guess the way the world looks
at it you could look at it like yeah you
know pretty important up there today she
got the stage he’s got everybody’s you
know looking at her let’s see I have to
always keep in mind
I’m doing this as a servant of God and
so even though I’m the teacher and one
with authority today in my heart I’m
here to serve God and to serve you to
make your lives better so whether you’re
a secretary or you’re raising children
are you working a factory or you’re a
doctor whatever your position is
whatever however you’re expressing your
gifts out in the world you want to
always go out with the attitude I’m here
to serve rule number six take care of
yourself you’re so valuable you’re a
valuable person in the earth I think
that the devil works really hard trying
to make people think that they have no
value and that they’re not necessary and
they have no purpose but you are
valuable you’re special and you have
gifts and talents and abilities that
that we need and it’s very important I
want you to listen because this is what
I want to talk to you about today it’s
very important that you if you’re not
already doing it that you make a
decision that you’re going to take
really good care of yourself
and I think a lot of times people think
that that’s being selfish but I think
it’s being wise because you know what
there’s no greater gift that you can
give to everybody else than a healthy
you what a great gift to give your
family a healthy you healthy emotionally
mentally physically spiritually in every
way God wants us to have good health
let’s talk for a little bit about how
important it is for you to take care of
yourself first of all if you don’t take
care of yourself I don’t know who you
think’s going to and you only have one
chance here you only have one body and
if you wear it out early you can’t go
somewhere and buy another one now you
know today they’re so good at things
that you can’t even get replacement
parts but there are some things that you
can’t replace amen
and so you are important to God and
that’s what I want to say to you
you’re not here just you’re not an
accident you’re not just here taking up
space God has something for you to do
something that is important and you’re
not likely to do it and neither am i if
I feel bad all the time
God wants I’m telling you if I feel bad
I don’t even want to pray I’m sorry
maybe that doesn’t sound very spiritual
but I mean if I feel really bad I don’t
want to study I don’t want to pray I
just want to do nothing and that’s not
the way God wants us to be he wants us
to be energetic and and full of zeal and
able to do things and and being creative
in our thinking and I’m certainly not
implying here that we never have a tired
day or an off day but I’m talking about
as a whole when people say to you how
are you you should be able to say
truthfully I’m great rule number seven
take responsibility whatever we saw we
will ultimately reap if we remain in
that baby stage of Christianity always
just doing what we want what we think of
what we feel we will reap that and we
really won’t like what we reap and we’ll
probably blame the devil and we’ll
probably blame people but the truth is
we just never got around to doing what
we should have been doing to start with
can somebody say Amen I mean if you know
we love to blame all of our problems on
somebody else if we can’t find a person
then it’s the devil’s fault
however the truth of the matter is is
nobody else is in charge of your
happiness except you do unto others we
read this stuff too fast and we go on to
something else and we just don’t get it
what kind of power is this giving us in
our lives do you want people to
appreciate you then start appreciating
everybody you meet you want people to
compliment you then start sowing
compliments everywhere you go when
people give you a gift you you want them
to give you a really nice gift something
you’d really like to have then start
giving nice gifts don’t buy the cheapest
thing you can find
give people good stuff rule number 8
decide to be happy I had a lot of
discouragement and depression and bad
moods in the early years of mine and
Dave’s marriage I had a lot of problems
I’ve been abused and and I had not
learned how to think right yet and my
husband loved me and he tried to help me
but I really wasn’t at a point yet where
I was ready to receive help and I was
unhappy a lot but Dave stayed happy and
his joy made me mad well it’s the truth
you know when you’re unhappy somebody
that’s happy annoys the living daylights
out of you you don’t it’s like it’s just
like well what he’s unhappy about what
you know and so and it would just it
would almost aggravate me that he didn’t
seem to have any problems well it must
be nice that life was so great for you
but you know you didn’t go through what
I went through and but I can also tell
you that in the long run
Dave’s joy was the salt that God used to
make me thirsty
to have what he had so you’re not
helping the person you’re in
relationship with if you let them make
you unhappy all the time you’re actually
only feeding their problems so if you
want to help them are you ready for this
if you want to help them stay happy I
said if you want to help them stay happy
and I’m not talking about being
ridiculous and going around and giggling
all the time and not but I’m just you
know joy is anything from extreme
hilarity to a calm delight and I think
that we have those moments of extreme
hilarity but basically we live in a calm
delight it’s God’s desire that we just
live in this calm delight and that we
can enjoy wherever we’re at whatever’s
going on not that we like everything
that’s going on we don’t and one thing’s
for sure now listen what I’m gonna say
you’ll never be consistently happy if
you don’t make a decision that you’re
going to be rule number nine expect good
things we need to expect something good
to happen expect something good is gonna
happen things can change at any minute
I’m waiting patiently a farmer plant
seed and he waters it and he waters it
and he goes out every day and he pulls
the weeds and he waters it he pulls the
weeds and he waters it he pulls the
weeds and he keeps believing and every
day it goes out to see if anything’s
coming out of the ground yet he waters
it he pulls the weeds and you know what
he is going to keep it up until he sees
some fruit until he sees harvest and
rule number 10 the last one before a
very special bonus clip is embrace the
hard times so I’m going to tell you a
funny story I was on my way to do a
church service and if there’s anything I
can’t stand it’s to be late for my own
stuff
I mean when it starts I want to be right
over there paying attention to what’s
going on because I’m miss responsible
it’s my deal I want to make sure that it
all goes right and we got lots of good
people but I still want to be there and
oh you you should see if I get stuck in
a traffic jam it is like
[Applause]
now you know I’ve I have some
self-control but it’s like it’s
challenge time if you know what I’m
talking about there’s certain situations
that are just more challenging for you
than others well see those are the ones
we want to attack with God and because
you take ground one step at a time okay
I really pretty patient with God now I’m
not I mean cuz I’ve kind of figured out
I’m not gonna make him hurry so I mean
I’m okay with that
you know if he gives me what I want a
week that’s fine if he gives it to me in
25 years that has to be fine because
you’re not gonna make god hurry sob just
I kind of chilled out with that one but
I still kind of try to control other
stuff sometimes so we’re on our way to
this church service we got to pass these
train tracks while the Train thingy
board thing is down and the lights are
flashing and no training no training no
training no training no train no train
no train and the traffic’s backing up
backing up backing up now people start
turning around going the other extras
turn so obviously something was wrong
and the thing was down and there was no
train so we finally did it u-turn and so
now we’re gonna have to take this detour
and go through all these streets we’re
not even sure about and I’m like I’m
gonna be late
I don’t want to be late and so Davis
very generous in his driving in that he
so we’re driving I’m like wanting to get
there and I see this car inching out of
this side street and Dave started
slowing down and out of my mouth comes
he said no we don’t want to be nice
we’re on our way to church
that would not be a good thing to be
and it was so funny
so funny so I want I want to be Who I am
I love my personality I love what I’m
doing I love my aggressive nature so
that means I’m gonna just keep working
with God and see the good news is I know
he loves me anyway I’m not gonna go to
heaven because I’m patient but I want to
be fully patient because here comes the
payoff are you ready for this yeah
consider it holy joyful my brethren
whenever you are enveloped in our
encounter trials of any sort our fall
into various temptations now you know
really that’s a great Scripture but
nobody really does then I mean it’s like
did you notice how quiet you were when I
started reading that nobody cheered
nobody clapped for this consider it
joyful when you’re in all kinds of tests
and temptations and trials well you
can’t be joyful about the trial but what
we’re supposed to be able to do is to
look by faith beyond what we’re going
through to what it’s going to do for us
spiritually
[Applause]
see you have to have the hard times to
now I’ve got a special bonus clip from
Joyce on how to give up pitied that I
think you’re gonna really enjoy but
before that it’s time for the three
point landing question time to move from
just watching another video to actually
taking action in your life or your
business and if you’re feeling bold
write down your responses in the
comments below here we go question
number one what three good things do you
expect to happen to you
number two what hard times do you need
to embrace right now and number three
how are you going to take better care of
when your flesh doesn’t get its way it’s
uncomfortable for a little while has
this little fit going you’ll know how
this works how many of you’ve got a
small child you watch them throw a fit
every time you don’t get their way
[Applause]
do you have any idea of how many days
that I spent doing that I’d go as far
back in the house as I could get into
the very back smallest bathroom in the
house set down the floor in front of the
commode of all places you know if you’re
gonna feel sorry for yourself you might
as well just be in the most pitiful
position you can be in in the most
pitiful place in the house and just if
you’re going to be pitiful just be
really pitiful just think all these
hopeless thoughts nothing good ever
happens to me I just work all week Dave
gets out with people and I’m stuck here
with these kids all the time then he
comes home and watches football and then
he goes off plays golf on the weekend
and I just clean and clean and cook and
clean
hey the bells and count the money and
cook and clean and cook and clean I’ll
tell you what I was one person that
you know how the flesh is how many of
you would just be willing today to give
up pity parties could I get you to go on
a pity fast for the next year come on
well you fast pity for the next year
anybody in for it now you don’t want to
say yes too quick because as soon as you
I’ll just go so far as to tell you this
you know what’s in the natural without a
miracle of God we’re gonna all be tired
tomorrow
and you got to be really careful about
your soul when you’re tired well you
would think that I after as hard as I
work that I could go to one conference
once a year and come home and find this
house in decent shape but I know and you
know some of you have already made your
mind up when you go home and go through
the front door if things are not the way
you said they should be when you got
home that you are going to tell them a
thing or two and then that self-pity is
going to attack you after coming to a
beautiful event like this and all the
glorious amazing wonderful things that
have happened if I don’t tell you this
now some of you but tomorrow afternoon
at 3 o’clock would be sitting in the
floor with your helmet of hopelessness
on having your pity party but not this
I had to give up pity because God said
you can be pitiful or powerful but
you’re not going to be both take your
pick oh yeah the most important work
ever if you had to think of one word
that’s most important to you or that
sums you Apple
that would be collect a little beacon
if you liked this video and you want
more joists check out the top ten rules
vol 1 that I did on her the link is
right there next to me continue to
believe and I’ll see you there bunch of
people all before their times because
they they look like you know there’s 40
and look like they’re 90 because they worried themselves to death
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