good morning all sorted out thank you
for having me here this morning thank
you for coming on a Saturday morning
spending your weekend with us half of
the weekend with us my topic today is
about communication with youth
communication is is a there’s nothing
new about communication communication
has been happening over generations over
period of time
what I want to touch here today is
communication has to evolve over a
period of time because the times are
changing communication has traditionally
been seen as just passing a message but
communication is not that communication
is not is not just passing the message
communication is futile unless we
connect with the other person the person
we are community communicating with if
we don’t connect with that person
it’s simply futile and once you so
another technology hit we’ve got two
is it better or is still the same is it
better now yes I I think it is thank you
very much right so I was saying that
until we connect with the other person
we are not able to inspire trust we are
not able to inspire them to do hard work
and we are not able to generate the
positive momentum that we want and what
happens is most of the time we fail in
connecting and the communication just
remains a one-way passage we communicate
something we’re not even sure what the
other person is hearing see if it was if
it was like speaking on the phone and
we’re talking to someone and the phone
disconnects become too long but it
doesn’t happen in the physical scenario
if you’re talking to someone and if the
other person is not understanding what
we are saying we
don’t even realize that we’ve not
connected thought about generation gap
and what you did something to them did
everything was perfectly fine yeah maybe
I was neither that’s probably ok so
talking about generation gap
communication as I said has evolved over
a period of time and from generations to
generations I believe I am from a
generation where I felt when I was young
that my parents knew more than me and I
believe that my children know more than
me so I’m that transition generation
each person in the family has got a
different perspective each person thinks
that the other person is wrong is not
understanding the point of view so our
communication therefore needs to change
our communication has to change with the
times we say seeing is believing
whatever we see we believe it right so
these two buildings these images do you
see anything different in these images
same images but sight is an illusion
sight is an illusion for these two girls
the distances are not the same even if
the building is the same the landmark
appears to be father with to the person
with the heavy backpack so we create our
own realities even what we see the
realities are what we have created we
create our own illusions we create our
own realities we think that we can’t do
something and we start believing it we
have created a false reality so what we
need to do is we need to get over the
fear of failure most of the things we
don’t even commit I mean this gentleman
just spoke and inspired us in the
morning
he took the first step you had that fear
of failure and with that you might not
succeed you are in a comfortable 9 to 5
job but he wanted to do something he had
that fear of failure but he did it
because fear you have to go through
success go to success through fair
that’s the only way you will fail you
will have off the track struggles but
then ultimately you’re going to succeed
so fair is a prison which we create for
ourselves where we are the jailers and
we are just sitting there let’s free
ourselves from the fair all of you who
would have heard about Abraham Lincoln
right Abraham Lincoln he lost eight
elections he lost in business he lost
his fiancée he had a nervous breakdown
he failed and failed and failed again
but he chose to get up again and then he
became the 16th president of the United
States and he was instrumental in
freeing people from slavery what if he
hadn’t got up after one failure to
failure three failures he chose to try
try try and that’s why he succeeded
Michael Jordan the greatest basketball
player of all times in his own words
what he said is that I have missed more
than 9,000 shots in my career I have
lost almost 300 games on 26 occasions I
have been entrusted to take the
game-winning shot and I missed I have
failed over and over and over again in
my life and that is why I succeed so
failure is something which we need to
embrace don’t run away from failure
that’s the message that we want to give
to our youth today as parents we have to
be very focused on certain areas that we
need to talk about with our children
with the youth today that failure is
something which we are not to be running
away from JK Rowling
everybody knows Harry Potter series
millions of copies sold several awards
one she was divorced unemployed single
mother she didn’t even have money to pay
for a utility bills she got the concept
of writing this book on a train from I
think London to Manchester she moved to
Portugal for some time lived with the
sister she got there was there and came
back to London in Glasgow and she then
thought that she’ll try it some
publishing houses to get a book
published she went to one two three four
publishing houses everyone ridiculed her
12 publishing houses rejected her she
still tried the 13th one and we know now
everything is history so what if she
would have stopped off the first try
second try third try so the point again
Oprah Winfrey Oprah Winfrey famous TV
personality and she was fired from a
first job they said she is not fit for
television can you imagine what she had
faith in her abilities she had
confidence in her abilities and she kept
on trying so if your vision your dream
is great then so is your potential for
success right nobody had thought Oh mom
doesn’t having a racetrack a mother LRT
would be the champion in the Middle East
but he had that dream he had that vision
he had that goal to go for it we go to
parent-teacher meetings at schools as
parents meet the teachers and we get
stressed about good grades the teacher
says your child did very well
ninety-five percent we are not happy
because we didn’t see the 99 percent we
didn’t see the hundred percent we get
stressed over good grades
we are still unsatisfied we need to
remember that all children will not do
calculus organic chemistry robotics
science cancer research
each child is different let’s see the
talent in our children
let’s hone that talent let’s not push a
medical career or an engineering career
and an accountancy career on each one of
them lot of us get into peer pressure
what will the neighbors think what will
the relative sinks think my brother’s
son scored 96% my son only score 95% so
get over this peer pressure
this is creating lot of pressure on the
kids and it is coming in the way of
their constructive development and we as
parents who want our children to succeed
we are the ones who undermine their
self-esteem by putting that honestly
undue stress on them the students are
stressed out they feel less of
themselves and we tend to hear only
right answers we reject the mistakes let
them commit those mistakes and learn
from them don’t be policemen on their
head always we kind of micromanage them
we want to stare them in a certain set
actually we should think we were never
expected to perform at the level of
perfection that we want our chi’lan to
perform today we were good to be just
passing the grades today we want our
children to spur 100% I agree
times are competitive but would this be
the only way to make our children good
for the future every situation is not a
make-or-break situation every quiz in
the class every homework every class
test we want the children to perform at
their best it’s not a make-or-break for
their careers yeah expertise may be
essential you can’t say a doctor that
okay even if you’re not able to do good
enough surgery it’s okay there are
situations where expertise is required
you can’t have the surgeon to perform a
not-so-good surgery but then that is not
always the case
expertise is important competencies are
important but don’t be too much obsessed
with it
watch for the child’s interest rather
than just going to the counselors and
asking them what my child should do to
get into a certain college have you
checked with the child what he or she
wants I just want your wish to be
imposed on the child the children are
not bonsai plants that we cut and trim
them always
they are like wildflowers let them grow
the way they are supposed to grow and
fear of failure definitely has to go out
if you want to be successful you must be
willing to fail and you must be intent
on learning from those failures another
thing that we need to touch upon when we
talk to youth to our children there is
always a right or wrong way of doing
anything in today’s situations it is
very easy to get enticed by easy money
to get the latest gadgets to buy the
latest brands so this is a very delicate
age this is something which we need to
get into a fruitful conversation with
the youth with the pits today but what
is right what is wrong character
importance of character life is more
what you are inside then outside we
should always be doing the right thing
even if it is the hard thing we need to
hold our self accountable for every
moment every thought every act yeah and
again as parents I’m sure each one of us
tries to do the best for ourselves for
our kids but sometimes we don’t realize
we have to be intentional we have to
live our lives so that when our children
think of fairness and integrity they
think about us first that yeah my dad is
a role model and my mother is a role
model rather than thinking about my
so integrity is the key that is
something very very important which I
believe is going away or it is not so
strong in the in the in the youth today
integrity is doing the right thing when
no one is watching that is
important because we are still say Oh
nobody is watching let’s let me drop the
the garbage on the side nobody is
watching
I let me pick up that tenner I’ll note
that somebody dropped nobody is watching
so I think these are the things which we
need to inculcate in the youth that
integrity is so important they need to
understand that you need to keep their
promises even if it is difficult to do
that but if they made a promise they
need to keep up to that pay for
something you forgot to pay for again
these are just examples but just
bringing out the the perspective never
betray trust even if you get in trouble
somebody has entrusted you with
something never betrayed that trust
inform the cashier he gave you too much
change back go back otherwise that
cashier at Lulu would get deductions
from his salary do not gossip I mean
these are not new things that I am
telling you
we all know all these things but
sometimes we just tend to forget the
other thing that we need to engage into
conversation with our youth is that the
importance of discipline and hard work
nothing comes easy the secret of our
success is found in our daily routine
what we are doing day in day out the
performances that we see the concert
players the chess masters they are not
just they just came from home and
performed they have their daily routine
built into that our very own example he
worked so hard for that it’s not easy
so discipline is the key you grow daily
not in a day I mean I will tell you my
own story I come from very humble
beginnings I come from a town 250
kilometers north of Delhi in India we
were in a difficult financial condition
and my father who had a lot of pressure
from his relatives cousins that I should
be sent into a government school which
had like very less fees he chose to
educate me in an English medium school
the feast was like $1 a month about 400
days a month which was a challenge for
the family to pay and my father said
that I’ll miss one meal or I’ll skip my
entire day’s meal but I’ll still choose
my son to go into an English medium
school and I’ve seen that I mean I’m not
saying that I’ve arrived I’m still a
work in progress but the thing is that I
had never imagined when at that time
that would standing in front of this
Auguste audience
I did my Chartered Accountancy I’ve got
like two decades of corporate work
experience across oceans geographies
industries and have been very fortunate
to be where I am today but it’s a
process things don’t happen in a day you
grow daily not in a day so that’s what
is important and that is what again I
believe that we should be teaching our
children today that nothing is easy but
everything will come each one of us has
got tremendous potential everything will
come just that we have to work for it
champions don’t become champions in the
ring they are merely recognized there
and a half an hour fight if you
recognize a boxing championship is it
does it mean that the champion that the
person only fought there he had been
practicing for days and days weeks and
weeks years and years and there are no
overnight successes there is no concept
of overnight success you may become an
overnight success by winning a lottery
but that money would go sooner than it
came or they came to you if you worked
hard for it that would be a sustainable
success talking about Mark Zuckerberg
Bill Gates Steve Jobs are these
overnight successes no they became
overnight success because one day we
came to know yesterday we didn’t know
them and today we know them but doesn’t
mean that the success happened overnight
they’ve been toiling hard for years and
years because success is little like
wrestling a gorilla you don’t quit when
you are tired you quit when the gorillas
died so you have to keep on pushing hard
and then another thing that we need to
talk about is sacrifice sacrifice may
sound to be a very negative word
sacrificing giving away something but I
believe sacrifice is a very positive
word you give something of a lesser
value you sacrifice something of a
lesser value to gain something for
higher value so it’s actually a very
positive word sacrifice is essential if
you have to achieve your goals in life
you have to do lot of sacrifices because
we all have the same 24 hours that we
can spend either watching TV socializing
on social media or sleeping but the same
time we could use for working on our
goals and we need to stop making excuses
I didn’t do it I I couldn’t get up early
because I went to a party last night I
came at midnight so I’ll start my walk
from tomorrow morning I don’t have
enough money I’ll spend when I have AI
mean I’m buying all the luxuries and all
the respect I think that is another do
10 reals in you into you I cannot give
you hundred reals similarly if I have
hate if I have anger if I have jealousy
if I have impoliteness that’s what I’ll
give you so we give whatever we have so
if we have respect for others that’s
what we’ll get from us others if we
don’t respect others nobody is going to
respect us because we need to understand
talent alone won’t work you might have a
intelligent qualified professional and
you hire that person in the company but
if that person doesn’t give you respect
would you like that person would that
person have a sustainable employment in
that organization so respect has to be
sorry another thing that we need to talk
to our youth today is about attitude our
attitude is a choice who makes us happy
any ideas who makes us happy
it is ourselves I was actually
delivering a talk at a forum and the
topic was happiness and me and my wife
both were invited and somebody asked in
the audience to my wife that does
nothing make you happy I was thinking
here she would say yes she said no and I
was like oh my god I’ve been invited to
speak here and she say no so she said
for the first year of our marriage I
always expected that Ian Allen is going
to make me happy and I used to travel so
much my job was like that I traveled
quite a lot so she said I was always
depressed with the fact that but he’s
not bothered about me he’s not making me
happy but then she thought that
happiness is inside me if I choose to be
happy then everything is there and then
when she then she said that when I
decided that her happiness is inside us
then she felt that Ian Allen is also
making me happy what an answer so yeah
so so it is us who make ourselves happy
somebody asked me you worked at various
locations you’ve worked in London you’ve
worked in Singapore you worked in Muscat
which place do you like best I said
wherever wherever I am I like that place
best because happiness is inside me
place is not relevant and our attitude
determines our approach to life there’s
a story about this one person who used
to carry a halloumi cheese sandwich
every day to lunch to his office and
every day when he opened his lunch
packet he said oh my god again that
halloumi cheese sandwich again that
halloumi cheese sandwich so his
colleague said why don’t you tell your
wife to give you a different lunch
tomorrow don’t bring my wife in here I
make my own sandwiches
so aside our attitude matters our
attitude determines our approach to life
our attitude can turn our problems into
blessings I mean there are people you
can take things negatively like he said
there’s no racetrack in Oman is it a
negative thing or a positive thing it’s
all our attitude how we think about the
situation attitude obviously cannot
replace your talents your skills but it
will give you the tools to fight with
life in a better way to approach your
relationships in a better way anybody
has heard about these things symbols are
seen these symbols before is completely
new new for us wonderful at least
somebody could say new for us ok
wonderful so I think again our
communication with the youth has to
focus on this particular area as well we
are so much engrossed with the social
media today that we need to be conscious
how we are behaving or interacting with
others connecting talking texting liking
and commenting and posts we need to make
sure that we are not demeaning others by
our comments we are not hurting anybody
with our comments we are not depriving
anybody of their credible image with our
comments connecting is about compassion
and kindness about expectations let’s
see the intent behind the social media
the social media is there to bring
people together to to spread knowledge
rather than spreading hate and jealousy
use your keyboard strength responsibly
and being kind doesn’t cost anything it
doesn’t cost anything to write a good
comment to somebody rather than writing
a bad comment and people who lift others
don’t wait until tomorrow some other
better day to help people they act now
so it’s not that ok one day a month I’ll
act good the 29 days I like that so make
it your habit make it a habit of being
kind every day and even the smallest
acts of kindness I’m not saying like
Melinda and Bill Gates Foundation donate
millions of dollars and one go
you are able to donate 10 riyals you are
able to do a good Act or somebody
provide a free lunch to someone that’s
good enough any act of kindness and
encouragement will do good to you as
well because they’re in a satisfaction
that you will get is something beyond
imagination now what the strength look
like to you
is strength only physical strength this
is another point that we need to engage
our youth with these days because there
are so many vices this age is very
delicate when we talk about youth the
age is very delicate smoking alcohol
drugs these are things that we need to
engage in conversations with youth in a
way that it is not looking like a
lecture because when you talk to
children they’ll say ok again my parents
are lecturing me we have to engage in a
fruitful conversation because these
temptations are only temporary
excitement and comfort saying no to
temptations increases yes and that’s the
real strength it’s not about physical
strength only saying no to these
temptations because these temptations
might impair you from reaching your
long-term goal you can only say no when
you are true to yourself and your values
so the values are so important
integrity moral values if that is there
if those are the conversations we have
make tough choices rather than
succumbing to negative influences and
more so the most important thing that we
need to tell our children our youth is
that you have to be your authentic self
we have a model hearty we have other
celebrities we have a Bill Gates we want
you with the word nee what the world
needs you so we are where we are and
what we are because of the dominating
thoughts that occupy our minds have
positive thinking always keep moving
forward you are the future aren’t sorry
for lingering on thank you very much [Applause]
for having me here this morning thank
you for coming on a Saturday morning
spending your weekend with us half of
the weekend with us my topic today is
about communication with youth
communication is is a there’s nothing
new about communication communication
has been happening over generations over
period of time
what I want to touch here today is
communication has to evolve over a
period of time because the times are
changing communication has traditionally
been seen as just passing a message but
communication is not that communication
is not is not just passing the message
communication is futile unless we
connect with the other person the person
we are community communicating with if
we don’t connect with that person
it’s simply futile and once you so
another technology hit we’ve got two
is it better or is still the same is it
better now yes I I think it is thank you
very much right so I was saying that
until we connect with the other person
we are not able to inspire trust we are
not able to inspire them to do hard work
and we are not able to generate the
positive momentum that we want and what
happens is most of the time we fail in
connecting and the communication just
remains a one-way passage we communicate
something we’re not even sure what the
other person is hearing see if it was if
it was like speaking on the phone and
we’re talking to someone and the phone
disconnects become too long but it
doesn’t happen in the physical scenario
if you’re talking to someone and if the
other person is not understanding what
we are saying we
don’t even realize that we’ve not
connected thought about generation gap
and what you did something to them did
everything was perfectly fine yeah maybe
I was neither that’s probably ok so
talking about generation gap
communication as I said has evolved over
a period of time and from generations to
generations I believe I am from a
generation where I felt when I was young
that my parents knew more than me and I
believe that my children know more than
me so I’m that transition generation
each person in the family has got a
different perspective each person thinks
that the other person is wrong is not
understanding the point of view so our
communication therefore needs to change
our communication has to change with the
times we say seeing is believing
whatever we see we believe it right so
these two buildings these images do you
see anything different in these images
same images but sight is an illusion
sight is an illusion for these two girls
the distances are not the same even if
the building is the same the landmark
appears to be father with to the person
with the heavy backpack so we create our
own realities even what we see the
realities are what we have created we
create our own illusions we create our
own realities we think that we can’t do
something and we start believing it we
have created a false reality so what we
need to do is we need to get over the
fear of failure most of the things we
don’t even commit I mean this gentleman
just spoke and inspired us in the
morning
he took the first step you had that fear
of failure and with that you might not
succeed you are in a comfortable 9 to 5
job but he wanted to do something he had
that fear of failure but he did it
because fear you have to go through
success go to success through fair
that’s the only way you will fail you
will have off the track struggles but
then ultimately you’re going to succeed
so fair is a prison which we create for
ourselves where we are the jailers and
we are just sitting there let’s free
ourselves from the fair all of you who
would have heard about Abraham Lincoln
right Abraham Lincoln he lost eight
elections he lost in business he lost
his fiancée he had a nervous breakdown
he failed and failed and failed again
but he chose to get up again and then he
became the 16th president of the United
States and he was instrumental in
freeing people from slavery what if he
hadn’t got up after one failure to
failure three failures he chose to try
try try and that’s why he succeeded
Michael Jordan the greatest basketball
player of all times in his own words
what he said is that I have missed more
than 9,000 shots in my career I have
lost almost 300 games on 26 occasions I
have been entrusted to take the
game-winning shot and I missed I have
failed over and over and over again in
my life and that is why I succeed so
failure is something which we need to
embrace don’t run away from failure
that’s the message that we want to give
to our youth today as parents we have to
be very focused on certain areas that we
need to talk about with our children
with the youth today that failure is
something which we are not to be running
away from JK Rowling
everybody knows Harry Potter series
millions of copies sold several awards
one she was divorced unemployed single
mother she didn’t even have money to pay
for a utility bills she got the concept
of writing this book on a train from I
think London to Manchester she moved to
Portugal for some time lived with the
sister she got there was there and came
back to London in Glasgow and she then
thought that she’ll try it some
publishing houses to get a book
published she went to one two three four
publishing houses everyone ridiculed her
12 publishing houses rejected her she
still tried the 13th one and we know now
everything is history so what if she
would have stopped off the first try
second try third try so the point again
Oprah Winfrey Oprah Winfrey famous TV
personality and she was fired from a
first job they said she is not fit for
television can you imagine what she had
faith in her abilities she had
confidence in her abilities and she kept
on trying so if your vision your dream
is great then so is your potential for
success right nobody had thought Oh mom
doesn’t having a racetrack a mother LRT
would be the champion in the Middle East
but he had that dream he had that vision
he had that goal to go for it we go to
parent-teacher meetings at schools as
parents meet the teachers and we get
stressed about good grades the teacher
says your child did very well
ninety-five percent we are not happy
because we didn’t see the 99 percent we
didn’t see the hundred percent we get
stressed over good grades
we are still unsatisfied we need to
remember that all children will not do
calculus organic chemistry robotics
science cancer research
each child is different let’s see the
talent in our children
let’s hone that talent let’s not push a
medical career or an engineering career
and an accountancy career on each one of
them lot of us get into peer pressure
what will the neighbors think what will
the relative sinks think my brother’s
son scored 96% my son only score 95% so
get over this peer pressure
this is creating lot of pressure on the
kids and it is coming in the way of
their constructive development and we as
parents who want our children to succeed
we are the ones who undermine their
self-esteem by putting that honestly
undue stress on them the students are
stressed out they feel less of
themselves and we tend to hear only
right answers we reject the mistakes let
them commit those mistakes and learn
from them don’t be policemen on their
head always we kind of micromanage them
we want to stare them in a certain set
actually we should think we were never
expected to perform at the level of
perfection that we want our chi’lan to
perform today we were good to be just
passing the grades today we want our
children to spur 100% I agree
times are competitive but would this be
the only way to make our children good
for the future every situation is not a
make-or-break situation every quiz in
the class every homework every class
test we want the children to perform at
their best it’s not a make-or-break for
their careers yeah expertise may be
essential you can’t say a doctor that
okay even if you’re not able to do good
enough surgery it’s okay there are
situations where expertise is required
you can’t have the surgeon to perform a
not-so-good surgery but then that is not
always the case
expertise is important competencies are
important but don’t be too much obsessed
with it
watch for the child’s interest rather
than just going to the counselors and
asking them what my child should do to
get into a certain college have you
checked with the child what he or she
wants I just want your wish to be
imposed on the child the children are
not bonsai plants that we cut and trim
them always
they are like wildflowers let them grow
the way they are supposed to grow and
fear of failure definitely has to go out
if you want to be successful you must be
willing to fail and you must be intent
on learning from those failures another
thing that we need to touch upon when we
talk to youth to our children there is
always a right or wrong way of doing
anything in today’s situations it is
very easy to get enticed by easy money
to get the latest gadgets to buy the
latest brands so this is a very delicate
age this is something which we need to
get into a fruitful conversation with
the youth with the pits today but what
is right what is wrong character
importance of character life is more
what you are inside then outside we
should always be doing the right thing
even if it is the hard thing we need to
hold our self accountable for every
moment every thought every act yeah and
again as parents I’m sure each one of us
tries to do the best for ourselves for
our kids but sometimes we don’t realize
we have to be intentional we have to
live our lives so that when our children
think of fairness and integrity they
think about us first that yeah my dad is
a role model and my mother is a role
model rather than thinking about my
so integrity is the key that is
something very very important which I
believe is going away or it is not so
strong in the in the in the youth today
integrity is doing the right thing when
no one is watching that is
important because we are still say Oh
nobody is watching let’s let me drop the
the garbage on the side nobody is
watching
I let me pick up that tenner I’ll note
that somebody dropped nobody is watching
so I think these are the things which we
need to inculcate in the youth that
integrity is so important they need to
understand that you need to keep their
promises even if it is difficult to do
that but if they made a promise they
need to keep up to that pay for
something you forgot to pay for again
these are just examples but just
bringing out the the perspective never
betray trust even if you get in trouble
somebody has entrusted you with
something never betrayed that trust
inform the cashier he gave you too much
change back go back otherwise that
cashier at Lulu would get deductions
from his salary do not gossip I mean
these are not new things that I am
telling you
we all know all these things but
sometimes we just tend to forget the
other thing that we need to engage into
conversation with our youth is that the
importance of discipline and hard work
nothing comes easy the secret of our
success is found in our daily routine
what we are doing day in day out the
performances that we see the concert
players the chess masters they are not
just they just came from home and
performed they have their daily routine
built into that our very own example he
worked so hard for that it’s not easy
so discipline is the key you grow daily
not in a day I mean I will tell you my
own story I come from very humble
beginnings I come from a town 250
kilometers north of Delhi in India we
were in a difficult financial condition
and my father who had a lot of pressure
from his relatives cousins that I should
be sent into a government school which
had like very less fees he chose to
educate me in an English medium school
the feast was like $1 a month about 400
days a month which was a challenge for
the family to pay and my father said
that I’ll miss one meal or I’ll skip my
entire day’s meal but I’ll still choose
my son to go into an English medium
school and I’ve seen that I mean I’m not
saying that I’ve arrived I’m still a
work in progress but the thing is that I
had never imagined when at that time
that would standing in front of this
Auguste audience
I did my Chartered Accountancy I’ve got
like two decades of corporate work
experience across oceans geographies
industries and have been very fortunate
to be where I am today but it’s a
process things don’t happen in a day you
grow daily not in a day so that’s what
is important and that is what again I
believe that we should be teaching our
children today that nothing is easy but
everything will come each one of us has
got tremendous potential everything will
come just that we have to work for it
champions don’t become champions in the
ring they are merely recognized there
and a half an hour fight if you
recognize a boxing championship is it
does it mean that the champion that the
person only fought there he had been
practicing for days and days weeks and
weeks years and years and there are no
overnight successes there is no concept
of overnight success you may become an
overnight success by winning a lottery
but that money would go sooner than it
came or they came to you if you worked
hard for it that would be a sustainable
success talking about Mark Zuckerberg
Bill Gates Steve Jobs are these
overnight successes no they became
overnight success because one day we
came to know yesterday we didn’t know
them and today we know them but doesn’t
mean that the success happened overnight
they’ve been toiling hard for years and
years because success is little like
wrestling a gorilla you don’t quit when
you are tired you quit when the gorillas
died so you have to keep on pushing hard
and then another thing that we need to
talk about is sacrifice sacrifice may
sound to be a very negative word
sacrificing giving away something but I
believe sacrifice is a very positive
word you give something of a lesser
value you sacrifice something of a
lesser value to gain something for
higher value so it’s actually a very
positive word sacrifice is essential if
you have to achieve your goals in life
you have to do lot of sacrifices because
we all have the same 24 hours that we
can spend either watching TV socializing
on social media or sleeping but the same
time we could use for working on our
goals and we need to stop making excuses
I didn’t do it I I couldn’t get up early
because I went to a party last night I
came at midnight so I’ll start my walk
from tomorrow morning I don’t have
enough money I’ll spend when I have AI
mean I’m buying all the luxuries and all
the respect I think that is another do
10 reals in you into you I cannot give
you hundred reals similarly if I have
hate if I have anger if I have jealousy
if I have impoliteness that’s what I’ll
give you so we give whatever we have so
if we have respect for others that’s
what we’ll get from us others if we
don’t respect others nobody is going to
respect us because we need to understand
talent alone won’t work you might have a
intelligent qualified professional and
you hire that person in the company but
if that person doesn’t give you respect
would you like that person would that
person have a sustainable employment in
that organization so respect has to be
sorry another thing that we need to talk
to our youth today is about attitude our
attitude is a choice who makes us happy
any ideas who makes us happy
it is ourselves I was actually
delivering a talk at a forum and the
topic was happiness and me and my wife
both were invited and somebody asked in
the audience to my wife that does
nothing make you happy I was thinking
here she would say yes she said no and I
was like oh my god I’ve been invited to
speak here and she say no so she said
for the first year of our marriage I
always expected that Ian Allen is going
to make me happy and I used to travel so
much my job was like that I traveled
quite a lot so she said I was always
depressed with the fact that but he’s
not bothered about me he’s not making me
happy but then she thought that
happiness is inside me if I choose to be
happy then everything is there and then
when she then she said that when I
decided that her happiness is inside us
then she felt that Ian Allen is also
making me happy what an answer so yeah
so so it is us who make ourselves happy
somebody asked me you worked at various
locations you’ve worked in London you’ve
worked in Singapore you worked in Muscat
which place do you like best I said
wherever wherever I am I like that place
best because happiness is inside me
place is not relevant and our attitude
determines our approach to life there’s
a story about this one person who used
to carry a halloumi cheese sandwich
every day to lunch to his office and
every day when he opened his lunch
packet he said oh my god again that
halloumi cheese sandwich again that
halloumi cheese sandwich so his
colleague said why don’t you tell your
wife to give you a different lunch
tomorrow don’t bring my wife in here I
make my own sandwiches
so aside our attitude matters our
attitude determines our approach to life
our attitude can turn our problems into
blessings I mean there are people you
can take things negatively like he said
there’s no racetrack in Oman is it a
negative thing or a positive thing it’s
all our attitude how we think about the
situation attitude obviously cannot
replace your talents your skills but it
will give you the tools to fight with
life in a better way to approach your
relationships in a better way anybody
has heard about these things symbols are
seen these symbols before is completely
new new for us wonderful at least
somebody could say new for us ok
wonderful so I think again our
communication with the youth has to
focus on this particular area as well we
are so much engrossed with the social
media today that we need to be conscious
how we are behaving or interacting with
others connecting talking texting liking
and commenting and posts we need to make
sure that we are not demeaning others by
our comments we are not hurting anybody
with our comments we are not depriving
anybody of their credible image with our
comments connecting is about compassion
and kindness about expectations let’s
see the intent behind the social media
the social media is there to bring
people together to to spread knowledge
rather than spreading hate and jealousy
use your keyboard strength responsibly
and being kind doesn’t cost anything it
doesn’t cost anything to write a good
comment to somebody rather than writing
a bad comment and people who lift others
don’t wait until tomorrow some other
better day to help people they act now
so it’s not that ok one day a month I’ll
act good the 29 days I like that so make
it your habit make it a habit of being
kind every day and even the smallest
acts of kindness I’m not saying like
Melinda and Bill Gates Foundation donate
millions of dollars and one go
you are able to donate 10 riyals you are
able to do a good Act or somebody
provide a free lunch to someone that’s
good enough any act of kindness and
encouragement will do good to you as
well because they’re in a satisfaction
that you will get is something beyond
imagination now what the strength look
like to you
is strength only physical strength this
is another point that we need to engage
our youth with these days because there
are so many vices this age is very
delicate when we talk about youth the
age is very delicate smoking alcohol
drugs these are things that we need to
engage in conversations with youth in a
way that it is not looking like a
lecture because when you talk to
children they’ll say ok again my parents
are lecturing me we have to engage in a
fruitful conversation because these
temptations are only temporary
excitement and comfort saying no to
temptations increases yes and that’s the
real strength it’s not about physical
strength only saying no to these
temptations because these temptations
might impair you from reaching your
long-term goal you can only say no when
you are true to yourself and your values
so the values are so important
integrity moral values if that is there
if those are the conversations we have
make tough choices rather than
succumbing to negative influences and
more so the most important thing that we
need to tell our children our youth is
that you have to be your authentic self
we have a model hearty we have other
celebrities we have a Bill Gates we want
you with the word nee what the world
needs you so we are where we are and
what we are because of the dominating
thoughts that occupy our minds have
positive thinking always keep moving
forward you are the future aren’t sorry
for lingering on thank you very much [Applause]
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