The argument in relationships is mainly regretted, in addition to being often bitter, it is normal
Hopefully – when we are more mature – we will go through them once and always, but for
For humankind, it seems an unwise decision to make it our goal: hope can not be
To eliminate the argument between the adversaries, but we have to find better ways and new methods
To argue, discussions tend to start when we are confronted
But what appears to us from the partner, seems selfish, stubborn, and rude. A fundamentalist failure
It is very tempting, to be an equal reaction we do not want to be in the end
The weak opponent. We have hurt and want to hurt. We will learn to suffer
What made us suffer. There will be differences in the way this suffering is shown
Maybe, a lot of yelling. Or to break the door or even that we isolate and insist on the problem alone
But the basic principles are the same: we have been hurt and we have to respond
Punishment. But at this point, we have to ask ourselves what to look for. In the end
We do not want to dominate and to do justice or to be punished just for justice. this is
It is not a crime in court. What we are looking for is really in the emotional relationship nearby
It is more concrete: we want the other person to love us properly, and to be
The nicest. For this reason we slap the door and let them know the lack of “fuckwit”
We pretend they have not been there since breakfast. Surprisingly the last thing we do
When we have really hurt, is that we say it. It is shameful
To show our wounds to the partner who has hurt us, to show ourselves that we are weak
In front of the individual who has hurt our senses.
This is all very understandable but it does not help us
We are not in a relationship to be emotionally safe, we are there to find the connection and the link.
The punishment may give us for a moment a sense of immunity,
But it will not increase our chances of getting love and understanding between the parties.
Let’s consider a different way, we probably
The moment you hurt our feelings, instead of trying to respond
We can express the extent of harm and fear. Instead of getting angry,
We try to show how painful we are by double recognition.
We can say, first: I feel the pain of the person who gave me my emotional confidence to say or do it to me
Second, (this needs the appropriate courage), we can add: I
So scared that I must be emotionally attached to someone who hurts me this way
This should give pause to the other party to think.
You did not insult or hurt them again in the usual way – which leads to disobedience
And a vicious cycle of attack and counterattack. I wanted to be honest.
Not to attack or beg. Do not be too strong, nor too weak.
You remain steadfast and express the real thing
Sadness, fear and tone of ownership often make the self, that the debate becomes endless
For outsiders, it is just folly and absurdity because both people refuse to admit that they are
Sad and not sad.
The reason is not when to go to the airport or who should clean the dishes
The reason is that both parties feel that they do not love and that they understand and refuse to express this sentiment
In a more wiser society, you are supposed to learn the methods of discussion at school for at least four years
It’s as complex as math and more important but we can all get better results by recognizing and expressing feelings honestly
Hopefully – when we are more mature – we will go through them once and always, but for
For humankind, it seems an unwise decision to make it our goal: hope can not be
To eliminate the argument between the adversaries, but we have to find better ways and new methods
To argue, discussions tend to start when we are confronted
But what appears to us from the partner, seems selfish, stubborn, and rude. A fundamentalist failure
It is very tempting, to be an equal reaction we do not want to be in the end
The weak opponent. We have hurt and want to hurt. We will learn to suffer
What made us suffer. There will be differences in the way this suffering is shown
Maybe, a lot of yelling. Or to break the door or even that we isolate and insist on the problem alone
But the basic principles are the same: we have been hurt and we have to respond
Punishment. But at this point, we have to ask ourselves what to look for. In the end
We do not want to dominate and to do justice or to be punished just for justice. this is
It is not a crime in court. What we are looking for is really in the emotional relationship nearby
It is more concrete: we want the other person to love us properly, and to be
The nicest. For this reason we slap the door and let them know the lack of “fuckwit”
We pretend they have not been there since breakfast. Surprisingly the last thing we do
When we have really hurt, is that we say it. It is shameful
To show our wounds to the partner who has hurt us, to show ourselves that we are weak
In front of the individual who has hurt our senses.
This is all very understandable but it does not help us
We are not in a relationship to be emotionally safe, we are there to find the connection and the link.
The punishment may give us for a moment a sense of immunity,
But it will not increase our chances of getting love and understanding between the parties.
Let’s consider a different way, we probably
The moment you hurt our feelings, instead of trying to respond
We can express the extent of harm and fear. Instead of getting angry,
We try to show how painful we are by double recognition.
We can say, first: I feel the pain of the person who gave me my emotional confidence to say or do it to me
Second, (this needs the appropriate courage), we can add: I
So scared that I must be emotionally attached to someone who hurts me this way
This should give pause to the other party to think.
You did not insult or hurt them again in the usual way – which leads to disobedience
And a vicious cycle of attack and counterattack. I wanted to be honest.
Not to attack or beg. Do not be too strong, nor too weak.
You remain steadfast and express the real thing
Sadness, fear and tone of ownership often make the self, that the debate becomes endless
For outsiders, it is just folly and absurdity because both people refuse to admit that they are
Sad and not sad.
The reason is not when to go to the airport or who should clean the dishes
The reason is that both parties feel that they do not love and that they understand and refuse to express this sentiment
In a more wiser society, you are supposed to learn the methods of discussion at school for at least four years
It’s as complex as math and more important but we can all get better results by recognizing and expressing feelings honestly
Please follow and like us: