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To Want, To Dare, To Soar: Innovating your Future | Fiona Darmon | TEDxEilat


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so just two words in Hebrew before we

get going with the presentation lilsalt

layer is layer Marilla oof very nice at

voley Mejia Shubham like shovelin

so totem Bella so totem besides him

so for me at the end of the day it all

comes back to where we begin from I was

born forty-three and two months or years

ago in England and I grew up in the

South of France I grew up in Monte Carlo

a very typical childhood that is

absolutely nothing you think of and

everything you can’t imagine it’s early

memories of mine and this was a very

fond moment in my life is going wanting

to go out on a bicycle all of us ride

our bikes it’s a symbol of freedom it’s

a symbol of childhood for me riding my

bike meant taking my bicycle from the

back of the apartment and going down in

the service elevator crossing the street

delicately at the zebra crossing going

down the marble elevator shaft crossing

the tunnel coming out of the other side

going down the hill all this of course

with a guidance and then coming to this

round circular after about 25 minutes

walk where I was allowed to ride my bike

when I finished riding my bicycle and

had a nice cold drink I then walk my

bicycle back now to some of us that’s a

very strange situation because that is

ultimately a box we all live and start

our lives in confined it’s different

kinds of confines it’s different

boundaries everyone views them

differently but what’s important to

understand we all come from different

confines in our life these are comfort

zones these are what we believe in this

is what we lean on as we spend our days

and go through our life but what about

those that want to come out of these

confines

and break the box that is the moment in

life when you are actually starting to

dare a box is a comfort zone a box is

guidelines a box is what we know but at

the end of the day it’s about daring and

taking opportunities to go to the next

level so as I mentioned I had this

unique childhood I loved my childhood

just don’t get me wrong it definitely

defined a lot of my character but I

remember a very special moment when I

was 8 years old when I was 8 years old I

knew what I wanted I wanted to try

something new and I wanted to go to

boarding school too many of us that

sounds pretty crazy why does an

eight-year-old want to make such a

difference but I wanted to try something

new

my confine had been too narrow for me so

I wanted to do something else what is

important with wanting before you dare

is knowing what you want because you

have to have a clear idea in mind if you

want something new if you want something

different that is fine but that is an

understanding that you are embarking

upon something that he’s gonna take you

out of your box so at 8 years old I went

to but child to boarding school for a

year and that was an amazing experience

in itself for those of you that have

read Harry Potter it wasn’t quite like

that but it did have many similarities

but if we press forward a little bit

with my life when I was 20 I did another

stage in my career and I had finished

the army which is something you do

naturally here in Israel and I had been

interviewing to be a an executive

assistant remember I’m 20 years old I’ve

not yet started my life and as part of

the interview this great gentleman came

up to me with a piece of paper and that

piece of paper was all in Hebrew and the

first test that I was given was

translate this please fine I don’t know

if any of you of you and being yet in

administrative roles it’s a natural role

that first test in the job and I spent

the next 15 minutes

manually remember I’m a little bit older

than some of

manually translating the document this

gentleman comes back into the room with

a felt-tip pen at the end to test me and

of course everything was ticked

perfectly because I’m a natural English

speaker but then when he nodded his head

I took the pen from him and I said if I

may be so bold I would do this

differently I’m 20 remember I’ve been a

week in my career and I rewrote his

document I said that should be the

heading that should be the footer and to

be quite honest this is a bit boring

I would snazzy this up now I remember

that his only comment to me was but I

have a Harvard MBA and I turned around

to him and I just smiled because I

didn’t know differently I was trying to

make a difference

well fast forwards a week I of course

had the job but what I’m trying to get

at here with you is when you’re given an

opportunity every step of your life is

ultimately an opportunity so grasp it

six months later I already had a

different boss and I remember he gave me

this document and I had typed it all up

nicely for him in English a little bit

of linguistic Corrections a bit of

grammar and I came to him and I gave him

his document back and he nodded and he

was very happy with the document but

then I went like this and I gave him a

second document and I said your document

is fantastic but this is how I would

have done it what’s changed whereas

before I was recommending now I’m being

proactive I’m taking the initiative and

I am in essence creating my own future

what is important to understand from all

of this is that everything that you are

going to do in life is actually going to

be an opportunity a few years forward I

was on maternity leave I have two

fantastic children and I was came into

the office as many of us do as mothers

to show off our children to our peers by

now I think I was already more senior in

the investment world and the CEO called

me into the room and said to me I want

to promote you to be vice president when

you come back when you’re more than

ready you will be a vice president

our firm and I want to give you a new

position now there’s a lot of great

stories behind that in itself but the

basic point was is I needed to go home

and decide how to take control of my

future because at the end of the day

when you’re on maternity leave you are

this form of intersection and I took

that position not only that I also went

on and did my MBA at night while during

the day to continuing my job so that’s

another point I’d like to be taken away

here is along the way you’re gonna reach

many junctions that your mind and your

heart are going to speak in totally

contradicting fashion I personally am a

huge believer that your instinct is

always right your first decision with

regards to any step of the road you’re

gonna take along the way is actually

probably gonna be the most correct one

and if it’s not you can change no

decision is not reversible especially in

today’s society it’s a world of

opportunities so you need to grasp it to

the maximum today I love talking about

sawing because at the end of the day

it’s about enjoying what you’re doing

it’s about taking that initiative

following it through and when you’re not

feeling you’re riding high then that is

the exact moment that you need to move

on but what is the most important part

of sowing it’s the people you saw with

as you move up to your path in life you

are going to be surrounded by people at

the end of the day it’s about the people

that you ride with and chooses your

running mates they’re gonna define a

large part of what you’re going to

become they’re gonna define who you’re

gonna be and they’re going to define

your success when you start a position

in life you have a business card the

business card has a title upon it the

more you’ve changed the boundaries of

that role expand and grow it then you

will become even more but an even more

important point which comes now to

solving is every time you meet someone

take a moment and think what can I do

for that person

instead of moving forward with your hand

and saying what can I take from him if

you move into a relationship a new

interaction or new contact from the

place of I want to be part of this I

want to help you but when that person in

years to come

needs to reach back out and you need to

ask him something he will always want to

help it is always better to someone to

be indebted to you rather than you being

indebted to someone so at the end of the

day choose some amazing running mates

even some funny ones on this visual

there my dear friend Lily pulled

together for me and the running mates

are those that are gonna make you the

success you aim to be I love this

picture because this is the picture of

some entrepreneurs around a bout of an

event that we recently hosted all these

people decided to make a decision they

came out the box they decided what they

wanted they dared coming out of that

comfort zone they most probably failed

they came back into their comfort zone

and started the whole cycle again and

they are on their way to becoming some

of the most dynamic entrepreneurs out

there an entrepreneur is not someone in

a box

it’s someone that pushed his way out of

it and is leading a future and as I said

it’s also about the team you build

around you it’s about the people to work

together on the way to helping you go so

thank you you

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