I want to skip the flattery and the
attaboys because I do know this the
sooner that we become less impressed
with our lives with our accomplishments
with our career with whatever that
prospect is in front of us the sooner we
become less impressed and more involved
with that and these things the sooner we
get a whole lot better at doing them so
I’m going to talk to you about some
things I’ve learned in my journey most
from experience some of them I heard in
passing many of them I’m still
practicing but all of them I do believe
are true now they may be true to me but
don’t think that that makes them mine
because you cannot own a truth so please
think of these as signposts approaches
paradigms that give some science to
satisfaction your steel yours to share
like into your own lives to personally
apply in your own lives in your own way
should you choose to so here we go
number one life’s not easy life is not
easy it is not don’t try to make it that
way
life’s not fair it never was it is it
now and it won’t ever be do not fall
into the trap the entitlement trap a
feeling like you’re a victim you are not
get over it and get on with it and yes
most things are more rewarding when you
break a sweat to get them number two
unbelievable is the stupidest word the
dictionary should never come out of our
mouth think about it to say oh wow what
an unbelievable play it was an
unbelievable book an unbelievable film
an unbelievable act of courage
really it may be spectacular it may be
phenomenal most excellent or outstanding
it’s unbelievable give others and
yourself more credit it just happened
you witnessed it you just did it believe
it what about the other side of
unbelievable you know that that side
when we humans underperform or act out
of our best parrots for instance man
flies a suicide
the World Trade Center millions died
from diseases every day that we have
cures for Bob the Builder swears that
he’s going to have your house built by
Thanksgiving and you can’t move in until
Christmas the next year our best friends
lied to us and we lie to ourselves all
the time
unbelievable I don’t think so
again it just happened and it happens
every day nothing that we Homo Sapien
Earthlings do is unbelievable and if
there’s one thing you can depend on
people being its people so we shouldn’t
be surprised we us are the trickiest
mammals walking the planet I’m not
worried about the monkeys I’m worried
about you and me so acknowledge the acts
of greatness as real and do not be naive
about mankind’s capacity for evil nor be
in denial of our own shortcomings
happiness is an emotional response to an
outcome if I win I will be happy if I
don’t I won’t
it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid
pro quo standard that we cannot sustain
because we immediately raise it every
time we attain it see happiness
happiness demands a certain outcome
it is result reliant and I say if
happiness is what you’re after then
you’re gonna be let down frequently and
you’re gonna be unhappy much of your
time joy though Joy’s a different thing
it’s something else Joey is not a choice
it’s not a response to some result it’s
a constant joy is the feeling that we
have from doing what we are fashioned to
do no matter the outcome now personally
as an actor I started enjoying my work
and literally being more happy when I
stopped trying to make the daily labor a
means to a certain in for example I need
this film to be a box-office success
I need my performance to be acknowledged
I need the respect of my peers
are all those are reasonable aspirations
but the truth is as soon as the work the
daily making of the movie the doing of
the deed became the reward in itself for
me I got more box office more accolades
and respect than I ever had before
see joy is always in process it’s under
construction it is in constant approach
alive and well in the doing of what
we’re fashion to do and enjoying number
four define success for yourself define
success for yourself but check this out
I’m in south of New Orleans a few years
ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had
this wooden partition against the wall
of these columns and in these columns
were all these vials of these magic
potions
right and the headings above each potion
defining what they would give you were
things like fertility health family
legal health energy forgiveness money
guess which column was empty my name
let’s submit it money is king today it’s
what make the work makes the world go
round it is success the more we have the
more successful we are right now I would
argue that our cultural values have even
been financialized financialized
humility is not the vogue anymore two
passes to get rich quick on the Internet
riches 15 minutes of fame world that we
live in and we see it every day but we
all want to succeed right so the
question that we got to ask ourselves is
what success is to us what success is to
you more money that’s fine I got nothing
against money no maybe it’s a healthy
family maybe it’s a happy marriage maybe
it’s to help others to be famous be
spiritually sound leave the world a
little bit better place than you found
it continue to ask yourself that
question and your answer may change over
time and that’s fine but do yourself
this favor
whatever your answer is don’t choose
anything that will jeopardize your soul
prioritize who you are who you want to
be and don’t spend time with anything
that antagonizes your character don’t
drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet
but you will get cavities tomorrow
all right life is not a popularity
contest be brave take the hill but first
answer that question what’s my hill so
me how do i how do i define success for
me myself well for me it’s a measurement
of five things we got fatherhood we got
being a good husband we got my health
I’m body and spirit we’ve got career and
we got friendships these are what’s
important to me in my life right now so
I try to measure these five things each
day I check in with them I like to see
whether or not I’m in the the debit
section or the credit section with each
one a man in the red or I’m in the black
you follow for instance sometimes say my
career’s rolling alright it’s way up
here in the black but I see how my
relationship with my wife maybe you
could use a little bit more of my
attention I got to pick up the slack on
being a better husband get that one out
of the red or say my spiritual health
could use some maintenance it’s down
here but a man my friendships in my
social life they’re in high gear right I
got to recalibrate checks and balances I
got to go to church remember to say
thank you more often something but I got
to take the tally because I want to keep
all five in healthy shape and I know
that if I don’t take care of them if I
don’t keep up maintenance on them one of
them is going to get weak and
it’s gonna dip too deep into the debit
section it’s gonna go bankrupt it’s
gonna get sick died so first we have to
define success for ourselves and then we
have to put in the work to maintain it
take that daily tally tend our garden
keep the things that are important to us
in good shape I mean let’s admit it
we’ve all got two wolves in there so
good one and a bad and they both want to
eat best I can tell we just got to feed
that good here we go number five process
of elimination
hi is the first step to our identity aka
where you are not is as important as
where you are all right 1992 I got my
first job as an actor three lines three
days work in a film called Dazed and
Confused all right all right all right
all right there we go so this director
of that film Richard Linklater he kept
inviting me back to set each night
putting me in more scenes which led to
more lines all of which I happily said
yes to I mean I’m having a blast people
were telling me I’m good at what I’m
doing and they’re writing me a check for
$325 a day I mean hell yeah give me more
scenes I love what I’m doing well by the
end of the shoot I’ve been to the film
those three lines had turned into over
three weeks worth and it was mine it was
wooderson’s 1970 Chevelle that we went
to go get Aerosmith tickets in that yeah
it was badass well a few years ago I’m
watching this film again and I noticed
two scenes that I really shouldn’t have
been in and one of these scenes I
character would Orson I exit screen left
to head somewhere and then I reinter the
screen and to double check if any of the
other characters wanted to go with me
now and re watching the film and you’ll
agree if you know Watterson Watterson is
not a guy who would ever say later and
then come back to see if you were sure
you didn’t want to go
now when Wooderson leaves Wooderson is
gone he does not stutter step flinch
rewind ask twice or solicit do you know
what I’m talking about
Watterson it’s better things to do like
liking those high school girls man cuz I
get older and they say the same aid the
point is I should not have been in that
scene shouldn’t come back should have
exited screen left and never come back
but back then making my first film
getting invited back to the set cashing
that check and having a ball I wanted
more screen time I wanted to be in the
scene longer and more and come back into
the scene right but I should have been
there wood arson shouldn’t have been
there it is just as important where we
are not as it is where we are look the
first step that leads to our identity
life is usually not I Know Who I am
I Know Who I am that’s not the first
step the first steps usually I Know Who
I am not process of elimination defining
ourselves by what we are not is the
first step that leads us to really
knowing who we are you know that group
of friends that you hang out with that
really might not bring out the best in
you
you know they gossip too much or they
kind of shady you really aren’t gonna be
there for you in a pinch how about that
bar we keep going to that we always seem
to have the worst hangover or that
computer screen like a pewter screen
that keeps giving us an excuse not to
get out of the house and engage with the
world and get some real human
interaction about that food that we keep
eating stuff that tastes so good going
down it makes us feel like crap the next
week we feel lethargic and we keep
putting on weight well those people
those places those things stop giving
them your time and energy just don’t go
there I mean put them down and when you
do this when you do put them down when
you put go in there
you quit givin them your time you
inadvertently find yourself spending
more time and in more places at our
health before you that bring you more
joy why because you just eliminated the
who’s the where’s the what’s in the wind
that we’re keeping you from your
identity trust me too many options I
promise you the too many options will
make a tyrant of us all all right so get
rid of the excess the wasted time
decrease your options if you do this you
will have accidentally almost innocent
but in front of you what is important to
you my process of elimination no one who
we are is hard it’s hard give yourself a
break
eliminate who you are not first and
you’re gonna find yourself where you
need to be I’m a six
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don’t leave crumbs and the beauty of
delayed gratification so what are crumbs
or the crumbs I’m talking about are the
choices that we make that make us have
to look over our shoulder in the future
you didn’t pay that guy back the money
that you owed him and tonight you just
saw him three rows behind you
she ate you slept around on your spouse
and you just found out that tomorrow she
and the lady you’re having an affair
with are gonna be at the same PTA
meeting again you drank too much
last night
you’re too hungover to drive your son
does 8:00 a.m. Saturday morning baseball
practice these are the crumbs they come
in the form of regret guilt and remorse
you leave trumps today they will cause
you more stress tomorrow and they
disallow you from creating a customized
future in which you do not have to look
over your shoulder so let’s flip the
script instead of creating outcomes that
take from us let’s create more outcomes
that pay us back fill us up keep your
fire lit turn you on for the most amount
of time in your future these are the
choices I’m talking about and this is
the beauty of delayed gratification I
pee yourself up
do yourself a favor make the choices the
purchase is today that pay you back
tomorrow residuals my business we call
it mailbox money I do my job well today
and that movie keeps rerunning on TV
five years from now I’m getting checks
in the mailbox it’s a heck of a deal so
whether it’s prepping the coffeemaker
the night before so all you got to do is
press the button in the morning or
getting ready for the job interview
early so you don’t have to cram the
night before or choose not to hook up
with that married woman because you know
you’re gonna feel horrible about it
tomorrow and your husband carries a gun
or paying your debts on time so that
when you do see that guy three rows back
tonight you don’t have to hunker down
your seat hoping that he don’t see you
get some ROI
you know what that is return on
investment your investment you customize
your future
don’t leave Trump’s number seven dissect
your successes and the rest of prosity
of gratitude we still often focus on
failure you don’t we we studied failure
obsessed failure we dissect failure in
our failures that’s that them so much we
end up in toxicated with them to the
point of disillusion and when did we
write in our diary usually when we’re
depressed what do we gossip about other
people’s flaws and limitations and we
can dissect ourselves into self-loathing
if we’re not careful I find that most of
the times our obsession with what is
wrong just ends up breeding more wrong
more failure the easiest way to dissect
success is through gratitude giving
thanks for that which we do have for
what is working appreciating the simple
things we sometimes take for granted we
give thanks for these things and that
gratitude reciprocate creating more to
be thankful for it’s really simple and
it worked
and I’m not saying being denial of your
failures no we can learn from them too
but only if we look at them
constructively as a means to reveal what
we are good at but we can get better at
what we do succeed at now personally
I’ve read a whole lot of my bad reviews
i I’ve had quite a few written by the
more talented critics they are the ones
who give constructive
they revealed to me what did translate
in my work what came across what was
seen or what wasn’t
now I don’t obsess on the unfavorable
aspect their youth review but I do see
what I can learn from it because their
displeasure actually uncovers and makes
more apparent what I do do well what I
am successful at and then I detect back
my life suburb we try our best we don’t
always do of this architecture is a verb
as well yes it is and since we are the
architects of our own lives let’s study
the habits the practices the routines
that we have that lead to and feed our
success our joy our honest paint our
laughter our own tears let’s dissect
that and give thanks for those things
and when we do that guess what happens
we get better at them and we have more
to dissect number eight make voluntary
obligations
my mom and dad since we were young they
teach us things as children teachers
mentors the government and on laws they
all give us guidelines for which to
navigate this life rules to abide by in
the name of accountability I’m not
talking about those obligations I’m
talking about the ones that we make with
ourselves with our God with our own
consciousness I’m talking about the you
versus you obligations we have to have
it now again these are not societal laws
and expectations that we acknowledge and
endow for anyone other than ourselves
these are faith-based obligations that
we make on our own these are not the
lowered insurance rates for a good
driving record you will not be fine to
put in jail if you do not gratify these
obligations I speak of no one else
covers these but you they are your
secrets with yourself your own private
counsel personal protocols and while
nobody throws
you a party when you abide by them no
one’s going to arrest you when you break
them either except yourself or some cops
you got to disturbing the peace call at
2:30 in the morning because you were
playing bongos your birthday suit yeah
that was me an honest man’s pillow is
his peace of mind and when you lay down
on that pillow at night no matter who’s
in your bed we all sleep alone these are
your personal jiminy crickets and there
are not enough cops in the entire world
to police them it’s on you it’s on you
number nine from can to want alright
check this out in 1995 I got my first
big paycheck the film ah was almost boys
on the side we were shooting Tucson
Arizona and I had two sweet little Adobe
guest house on the edge of this world
National Park the house came with a made
my first made it was awesome so I got a
friend over one Friday night and we’re
having a good time and I’m telling her
about how happy I am with my setup the
house the maid especially the maid I’m
Jenna look it’s a she cleans the place
up after I go to work she washes when I
closed the dishes put fresh water by my
bed leads me to cooked meals sometimes
she even presses my jeans and my friend
she smiles having happy that I’m excited
over this
she says well that’s great Matthew uh if
you like the jeans pressed I kind of
looked up that or my jock caught hanging
open I stuttered a moment had that
dumbass look that you get when you just
controlled the truth you didn’t think
about it hit me I hate that line going
down the front of my jeans I hate that
line and it was then for the first time
that I noticed it I’d never thought
about not liking that starch line down
the front of my jeans because I’ve never
had a made Dharma jeans before and since
she did now for the first time in my
life I just liked it because I could get
it I never thought about if I really
wanted it well I didn’t want it there
that line and that night I learned
something I’m just because you can yeah
come on it’s not a good enough reason to
do something even when it means having
more be discerning choose it because you
want it do it because you want to never
have my jeans pressed again number 10 a
roof is a man-made thing this may cut a
little close to the bone since the
geography but I think we all were there
and we will all remember where we were
but in January the 3rd 1993 it was the
NFL playoffs and you’re Houston Oilers
for playing the Buffalo Bills the olders
were up 28 to 3 at halftime 35 to 3
early in the third Frank Reich and the
bills come back to win 41 to 38 and
overtime for one of the greatest
comebacks in NFL history
you had the bills want but they didn’t
really beat the others the others lost
that game they beat themselves
I’ll remember now huh why glad to beat
themselves for how is it because at
halftime they put a ceiling a roof a
limit on their belief in themselves
aka prevent defense maybe they started
thinking about that the next opponent in
the playoffs at halftime I mean they
were off then they came out played on
their heels lost the mental edge the
entire second half and voila they lost
in a mere two quarters defensive
coordinator Jim Eddie went from being
called the defensive coordinator of the
year and the man first in line to be a
high head coach next year to a man
without a job in NFL give a joke
nobody’s ever joked I have huh you know
talking about fumbling to go line second
foot in your mouth once you got to the
microphone had a brain freeze on the
exam that you were totally prepared for
forgot the punchline to a joke in front
of 4,000 graduating students at the
University of Houston commencement or
maybe you’ve had that feeling of oh my
god life just cannot get any better than
this moment now what happens when we get
that feeling tense up we have this sort
of outer body experience where we are
literally
seeing ourselves in the third person and
we realize that the moment just got
bigger than us ever felt that way and
it’s because we have created a
fictitious ceiling a roof to our
expectations of ourselves
a limit where we think it’s all too good
to be true but it’s not and it’s not our
right to say or believe it is
we shouldn’t create these restrictions
on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a
score a great idea the love of our life
our euphoric bliss who are we to think
that we don’t deserve or haven’t earned
these gifts when we get them it’s not
alright but if we stay in process all
right within ourselves in the joy of the
doing we will never choke at the finish
line why because we aren’t thinking of
the finish line cuz we’re not looking at
the clock we’re not watching ourselves
on the jumbotron performing the very act
that we’re in the middle of no we’re in
process the approach is the destination
and we are never finished bo Jackson
what do you do used to run over the goal
line through the endzone and up the
tunnel the greatest snipers and marksmen
in the world they don’t aim at the
target they aim on the other side of the
target
we do our best when our destinations are
beyond the measurement when our reach
continually exceeds our grasp and when
we have a more tool finish lines and
when we do this the race is never over
the journey has no port the adventure
never ends because we are always on the
way so do this do this and let them let
somebody else come up and tap you on the
shoulder and say hey you score it let
them run up and tap you on the show and
say mint you want
let them come tell you you can go home
now
let them say I love you too let them say
thank you take the lid off the man-made
roofs that we put above ourselves and
always play like an underdog number 11
turn the page
the the late great University of Texas
football coach Darrell royal y’all
remember him one national champion in 69
he won a couple of national
championships hello Darryl whoaaa he was
a friend of mine a good friend of many
people now a lot of people looked up to
this man one of you who looked up to was
a musician named Larry now at this time
in his life Larry was in the prime of
his country music career he had number
one hits and his life was rolling get it
picked up a bad habit of uh snorting the
white stuff somewhere along the line and
at one particular party after a bathroom
break Larry went confidently up to his
mentor their hall and he started telling
historians coach royal listened and he
always had
and when Larry finished his story and
was about to walk away coach royal put a
gentle hand on his shoulder very
discreetly said hey Larry you uh got
something on your nose there buddy
Larry immediately hurried to the
bathroom near where he saw some of the
white powder that he hadn’t another note
he was ashamed he was embarrassed as
much because he felt so disrespectful to
coach royal and as much because he’d
obviously gotten too comfortable with
the drug to even hide it as well as he
should
well the next day Larry went to coach
his house he rang the doorbell coach
answered and he said coach I need to
talk to you they all said sure come on
in
Larry confessed he purged his sins to
coach he told him how embarrassed he was
and how he had lost his way in the midst
of all this fame and fortune and towards
the end of an hour Larry who was in
tears
he asked coach he said coach what do you
what do you think I should do my coach
being a man of few words just looked at
him and call me said Larry I have never
had any trouble turning the page in the
book of my life Larry got sober that day
he’s been sober for the last 40 years
you ever get in a rut you know I’m
talking about get the funk it’s stuck on
the merry-go-round of a bad habit I have
look we’re gonna make mistakes you got
to own them then you got to make amends
and then you got to move on guilt and
regret kills many a man before their
time so turn the page get off the ride
you are the author of the book of your
life turn that page number 12
give your obstacles credit you know
those uh no fear t-shirts that were out
I don’t know you used to wear them ten
years ago no fear you may remember those
are just me I saw him everywhere all
right I don’t get them and I never did I
mean well I try to scare myself at least
once a day I mean I get butterflies
every morning before I go to work I was
nervous before I got here to speak
tonight I I think fear is a good thing
now why because it increases our need to
overcome that fear all right say your
obstacle is fear rejection all right you
want to ask her out or you want to ask
him out
but you fear that he or she may say no
all right you you you want to ask your
boss for that promotion but you’re
scared he’s gonna think you’re
overstepping your bounds well instead of
denying those fears declara save the
fear out loud admit it give them the
credit they deserve don’t get all macho
and act like they’re no big deal
and don’t get paralyzed by denying that
they exist and therefore abandoning your
need to overcome them
I mean I’d even subscribe to belief that
we’re all destined to have to do the
thing that we fear the most anyway at
some point so give your obstacles credit
and you will one find the courage to
overcome them or you will to see more
clearly that they’re not really worth
prevailing over so be brave have courage
and when you do you get stronger you get
more where you get more respectful of
yourself and that which you fear
number thirteen so how do we know when
we cross the truth thirteen and was
asking why did I pick thirteen that’s
the amount of lucky number
I don’t know when thirteen got the bad
rap in the game of the mongrel of
numerology has never had done me wrong
thirteen in fact thirteen has been a
pretty lucky number for me and I want to
tell you how I’ve always taken these
twenty one day trips by myself to
far-off places where I usually don’t
know the language and nobody knows my
name their adventures one but they’re
also a purge that there are cleanse for
me they’re like a 21-day fast from
attention from all the things I have in
my well-appointed life there a check out
so I can check in with me see how I’m
doing be forced to be my own and my only
company to have a look in my mirror we
all know what can happen when we do that
we see 1996
right after I got famous from the film I
did call the time to kill I I headed out
on one of these 21-day walkabout and
this time to the jungles in the
mountains of Peru the sudden fame that I
just gotten was somewhat unbalancing my
face was everywhere everyone wanted a
piece of me people I’d never met were
swearing that they loved me everywhere I
went there I was on a billboard a
magazine cover it was it was just weird
over a hall you know as I was asked
myself what’s the reality in this and
what’s the did I deserve all
this these are all questions I was
asking myself who was I was another now
there’s always an initiation period with
these trips an amount of time that it
takes for the place to initiate the
traveler the time it takes to disconnect
from the world we just left and become
completely present and the one we’re
traveling
now for me that initiation period
usually lasts about 13 days 13 hellish
days until I am out of my own way well
it was the night of the 12th day in my
21 day trip I’m settling into camp
I’d already hiked 80 miles to this point
and I had a 3 day trek ahead of me to
Machu Picchu and I was full-on sick of
myself wrestling with the loss of
anonymity I was guilt ridden for sins of
my past had a lot of curette I was
lonely disgusted with my company mine
grappling with these demons on this
night I couldn’t sleep
all of these badges and banners and
expectations and anxieties that I was
carrying with me I needing to free
myself from them so I stripped down to
nothing I I took every moniker that gave
me pride and confidence all the window
dressings the packaging around the
product I discarded them all I got rid
of my lucky and faithful American cap I
stripped off all my talismans from
adventures path I even discarded my late
father’s gold ring with an M on it that
he gave to me it was a meltdown of he
and my mom’s class rings and gold for my
mom’s teeth even got rid of that I was
naked literally and figuratively and I
got sick felt clean felt free light long
a muddy path on this walk I turned a
corner and there in the middle of the
road was was its Mirage it’s magnificent
pinks and blues and red colors that I’d
ever seen it was electric glowing and
vibrant just hovering just off the
surface of the jungle floor as if it was
plugged into some neon power plant I
stopped I stared there’s no way around
it the jungle floor in front of me was
actually thousands of butterflies there
in my path it was spectacular
by state a lot and somewhere in my
captivation I heard this little voice
inside my head say these words all I
want is what I can see and all I can see
is what’s in front of me now if that
moment trip I had stopped anticipating
what was around the corner for the first
time I stopped thinking about what was
coming up next what was up ahead time
slowed down I was no longer in a rush to
get anywhere and my anxieties were
greatly ease few hours later I returned
to camp even the local Sherpas I was
traveling that they they noticed calling
out to me so he’s lose my tail so he’s
losing which means you are light in
Spanish see I forgave myself that
morning I let go of the guilt the weight
was on my shoulders lifted my penance
was paid and I got back in good graces
with my God and I shook hands with
myself my best friend the one that we’re
all stuck with anyway ourselves and from
that morning on the adventure was
awesome I was present I was out of my
own way I was not anticipating next I
was embracing only what was in front of
my eyes and giving everything the
justice to the desert
you see I crossed the truth that morning
now did I find it I don’t know I think
it found me why because I put myself in
a place to be found I put myself in a
place to receive the truth so how do we
know when we cross the truth well I
think the truth all around us all the
time I mean I think the answer you know
it’s always right there right there I
think it’s all around us we just don’t
always see it we don’t always grasp it
hear it access it usually because we’re
not in the right place to do so so what
do we do first I believe we’ve got to
put ourselves in the place to receive
the truth
let’s the minute we live in an extremely
noisy world with all kinds of
frequencies coming at us
we got commitments we got deadlines fix
this do that plans expectations and they
all make it hard to get clarity and
peace of mind so we have to consciously
put ourselves in places to receive that
cleared and that may be prayer that may
be meditation that may be a walkabout
that may be being in the right company a
road trip whatever it is for you
schedule that time schedule it so we do
that if we hear it we put ourself in a
place to hear than we do and it’s become
clear truth natural and infinite then
the second part comes which is to
personalize it ask yourself how it works
for you how it applies to you personally
why you need it in your life
specifically and if you do that then
comes the third part have the patience
to internalize it and get it from our
intellectual head thinking about it and
into our bones and our soul in our
instinct man we cannot rush this part it
does take time so if we get that far
we’ve received it we personalize it and
we’ve internalized it I’ve got to have
the courage to act on it to actually
take it into our daily lives and
practice it to make it an active part of
who we are and live it and do that and
if we do that then we have what I
believe is heaven right here on earth
and that’s the place where what we want
is also just what we need I mean that’s
the ticket in it think about it I know
that’s where I want to live while we’re
here and they’re gonna run across the
jumbotron let’s make it a place where we
break a sweat where we believe where we
enjoy the process of succeeding in the
places in ways that we are fashioned to
where we don’t have to look over our
shoulder because we’re too busy doing
what we’re good at
voluntarily keeping our own counsel
because we want to traveling towards
immortal finish lines we write our own
book
overcoming our fears we make friends
with ourselves and that is the place
that I’m talking about
attaboys because I do know this the
sooner that we become less impressed
with our lives with our accomplishments
with our career with whatever that
prospect is in front of us the sooner we
become less impressed and more involved
with that and these things the sooner we
get a whole lot better at doing them so
I’m going to talk to you about some
things I’ve learned in my journey most
from experience some of them I heard in
passing many of them I’m still
practicing but all of them I do believe
are true now they may be true to me but
don’t think that that makes them mine
because you cannot own a truth so please
think of these as signposts approaches
paradigms that give some science to
satisfaction your steel yours to share
like into your own lives to personally
apply in your own lives in your own way
should you choose to so here we go
number one life’s not easy life is not
easy it is not don’t try to make it that
way
life’s not fair it never was it is it
now and it won’t ever be do not fall
into the trap the entitlement trap a
feeling like you’re a victim you are not
get over it and get on with it and yes
most things are more rewarding when you
break a sweat to get them number two
unbelievable is the stupidest word the
dictionary should never come out of our
mouth think about it to say oh wow what
an unbelievable play it was an
unbelievable book an unbelievable film
an unbelievable act of courage
really it may be spectacular it may be
phenomenal most excellent or outstanding
it’s unbelievable give others and
yourself more credit it just happened
you witnessed it you just did it believe
it what about the other side of
unbelievable you know that that side
when we humans underperform or act out
of our best parrots for instance man
flies a suicide
the World Trade Center millions died
from diseases every day that we have
cures for Bob the Builder swears that
he’s going to have your house built by
Thanksgiving and you can’t move in until
Christmas the next year our best friends
lied to us and we lie to ourselves all
the time
unbelievable I don’t think so
again it just happened and it happens
every day nothing that we Homo Sapien
Earthlings do is unbelievable and if
there’s one thing you can depend on
people being its people so we shouldn’t
be surprised we us are the trickiest
mammals walking the planet I’m not
worried about the monkeys I’m worried
about you and me so acknowledge the acts
of greatness as real and do not be naive
about mankind’s capacity for evil nor be
in denial of our own shortcomings
happiness is an emotional response to an
outcome if I win I will be happy if I
don’t I won’t
it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid
pro quo standard that we cannot sustain
because we immediately raise it every
time we attain it see happiness
happiness demands a certain outcome
it is result reliant and I say if
happiness is what you’re after then
you’re gonna be let down frequently and
you’re gonna be unhappy much of your
time joy though Joy’s a different thing
it’s something else Joey is not a choice
it’s not a response to some result it’s
a constant joy is the feeling that we
have from doing what we are fashioned to
do no matter the outcome now personally
as an actor I started enjoying my work
and literally being more happy when I
stopped trying to make the daily labor a
means to a certain in for example I need
this film to be a box-office success
I need my performance to be acknowledged
I need the respect of my peers
are all those are reasonable aspirations
but the truth is as soon as the work the
daily making of the movie the doing of
the deed became the reward in itself for
me I got more box office more accolades
and respect than I ever had before
see joy is always in process it’s under
construction it is in constant approach
alive and well in the doing of what
we’re fashion to do and enjoying number
four define success for yourself define
success for yourself but check this out
I’m in south of New Orleans a few years
ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had
this wooden partition against the wall
of these columns and in these columns
were all these vials of these magic
potions
right and the headings above each potion
defining what they would give you were
things like fertility health family
legal health energy forgiveness money
guess which column was empty my name
let’s submit it money is king today it’s
what make the work makes the world go
round it is success the more we have the
more successful we are right now I would
argue that our cultural values have even
been financialized financialized
humility is not the vogue anymore two
passes to get rich quick on the Internet
riches 15 minutes of fame world that we
live in and we see it every day but we
all want to succeed right so the
question that we got to ask ourselves is
what success is to us what success is to
you more money that’s fine I got nothing
against money no maybe it’s a healthy
family maybe it’s a happy marriage maybe
it’s to help others to be famous be
spiritually sound leave the world a
little bit better place than you found
it continue to ask yourself that
question and your answer may change over
time and that’s fine but do yourself
this favor
whatever your answer is don’t choose
anything that will jeopardize your soul
prioritize who you are who you want to
be and don’t spend time with anything
that antagonizes your character don’t
drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet
but you will get cavities tomorrow
all right life is not a popularity
contest be brave take the hill but first
answer that question what’s my hill so
me how do i how do i define success for
me myself well for me it’s a measurement
of five things we got fatherhood we got
being a good husband we got my health
I’m body and spirit we’ve got career and
we got friendships these are what’s
important to me in my life right now so
I try to measure these five things each
day I check in with them I like to see
whether or not I’m in the the debit
section or the credit section with each
one a man in the red or I’m in the black
you follow for instance sometimes say my
career’s rolling alright it’s way up
here in the black but I see how my
relationship with my wife maybe you
could use a little bit more of my
attention I got to pick up the slack on
being a better husband get that one out
of the red or say my spiritual health
could use some maintenance it’s down
here but a man my friendships in my
social life they’re in high gear right I
got to recalibrate checks and balances I
got to go to church remember to say
thank you more often something but I got
to take the tally because I want to keep
all five in healthy shape and I know
that if I don’t take care of them if I
don’t keep up maintenance on them one of
them is going to get weak and
it’s gonna dip too deep into the debit
section it’s gonna go bankrupt it’s
gonna get sick died so first we have to
define success for ourselves and then we
have to put in the work to maintain it
take that daily tally tend our garden
keep the things that are important to us
in good shape I mean let’s admit it
we’ve all got two wolves in there so
good one and a bad and they both want to
eat best I can tell we just got to feed
that good here we go number five process
of elimination
hi is the first step to our identity aka
where you are not is as important as
where you are all right 1992 I got my
first job as an actor three lines three
days work in a film called Dazed and
Confused all right all right all right
all right there we go so this director
of that film Richard Linklater he kept
inviting me back to set each night
putting me in more scenes which led to
more lines all of which I happily said
yes to I mean I’m having a blast people
were telling me I’m good at what I’m
doing and they’re writing me a check for
$325 a day I mean hell yeah give me more
scenes I love what I’m doing well by the
end of the shoot I’ve been to the film
those three lines had turned into over
three weeks worth and it was mine it was
wooderson’s 1970 Chevelle that we went
to go get Aerosmith tickets in that yeah
it was badass well a few years ago I’m
watching this film again and I noticed
two scenes that I really shouldn’t have
been in and one of these scenes I
character would Orson I exit screen left
to head somewhere and then I reinter the
screen and to double check if any of the
other characters wanted to go with me
now and re watching the film and you’ll
agree if you know Watterson Watterson is
not a guy who would ever say later and
then come back to see if you were sure
you didn’t want to go
now when Wooderson leaves Wooderson is
gone he does not stutter step flinch
rewind ask twice or solicit do you know
what I’m talking about
Watterson it’s better things to do like
liking those high school girls man cuz I
get older and they say the same aid the
point is I should not have been in that
scene shouldn’t come back should have
exited screen left and never come back
but back then making my first film
getting invited back to the set cashing
that check and having a ball I wanted
more screen time I wanted to be in the
scene longer and more and come back into
the scene right but I should have been
there wood arson shouldn’t have been
there it is just as important where we
are not as it is where we are look the
first step that leads to our identity
life is usually not I Know Who I am
I Know Who I am that’s not the first
step the first steps usually I Know Who
I am not process of elimination defining
ourselves by what we are not is the
first step that leads us to really
knowing who we are you know that group
of friends that you hang out with that
really might not bring out the best in
you
you know they gossip too much or they
kind of shady you really aren’t gonna be
there for you in a pinch how about that
bar we keep going to that we always seem
to have the worst hangover or that
computer screen like a pewter screen
that keeps giving us an excuse not to
get out of the house and engage with the
world and get some real human
interaction about that food that we keep
eating stuff that tastes so good going
down it makes us feel like crap the next
week we feel lethargic and we keep
putting on weight well those people
those places those things stop giving
them your time and energy just don’t go
there I mean put them down and when you
do this when you do put them down when
you put go in there
you quit givin them your time you
inadvertently find yourself spending
more time and in more places at our
health before you that bring you more
joy why because you just eliminated the
who’s the where’s the what’s in the wind
that we’re keeping you from your
identity trust me too many options I
promise you the too many options will
make a tyrant of us all all right so get
rid of the excess the wasted time
decrease your options if you do this you
will have accidentally almost innocent
but in front of you what is important to
you my process of elimination no one who
we are is hard it’s hard give yourself a
break
eliminate who you are not first and
you’re gonna find yourself where you
need to be I’m a six
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don’t leave crumbs and the beauty of
delayed gratification so what are crumbs
or the crumbs I’m talking about are the
choices that we make that make us have
to look over our shoulder in the future
you didn’t pay that guy back the money
that you owed him and tonight you just
saw him three rows behind you
she ate you slept around on your spouse
and you just found out that tomorrow she
and the lady you’re having an affair
with are gonna be at the same PTA
meeting again you drank too much
last night
you’re too hungover to drive your son
does 8:00 a.m. Saturday morning baseball
practice these are the crumbs they come
in the form of regret guilt and remorse
you leave trumps today they will cause
you more stress tomorrow and they
disallow you from creating a customized
future in which you do not have to look
over your shoulder so let’s flip the
script instead of creating outcomes that
take from us let’s create more outcomes
that pay us back fill us up keep your
fire lit turn you on for the most amount
of time in your future these are the
choices I’m talking about and this is
the beauty of delayed gratification I
pee yourself up
do yourself a favor make the choices the
purchase is today that pay you back
tomorrow residuals my business we call
it mailbox money I do my job well today
and that movie keeps rerunning on TV
five years from now I’m getting checks
in the mailbox it’s a heck of a deal so
whether it’s prepping the coffeemaker
the night before so all you got to do is
press the button in the morning or
getting ready for the job interview
early so you don’t have to cram the
night before or choose not to hook up
with that married woman because you know
you’re gonna feel horrible about it
tomorrow and your husband carries a gun
or paying your debts on time so that
when you do see that guy three rows back
tonight you don’t have to hunker down
your seat hoping that he don’t see you
get some ROI
you know what that is return on
investment your investment you customize
your future
don’t leave Trump’s number seven dissect
your successes and the rest of prosity
of gratitude we still often focus on
failure you don’t we we studied failure
obsessed failure we dissect failure in
our failures that’s that them so much we
end up in toxicated with them to the
point of disillusion and when did we
write in our diary usually when we’re
depressed what do we gossip about other
people’s flaws and limitations and we
can dissect ourselves into self-loathing
if we’re not careful I find that most of
the times our obsession with what is
wrong just ends up breeding more wrong
more failure the easiest way to dissect
success is through gratitude giving
thanks for that which we do have for
what is working appreciating the simple
things we sometimes take for granted we
give thanks for these things and that
gratitude reciprocate creating more to
be thankful for it’s really simple and
it worked
and I’m not saying being denial of your
failures no we can learn from them too
but only if we look at them
constructively as a means to reveal what
we are good at but we can get better at
what we do succeed at now personally
I’ve read a whole lot of my bad reviews
i I’ve had quite a few written by the
more talented critics they are the ones
who give constructive
they revealed to me what did translate
in my work what came across what was
seen or what wasn’t
now I don’t obsess on the unfavorable
aspect their youth review but I do see
what I can learn from it because their
displeasure actually uncovers and makes
more apparent what I do do well what I
am successful at and then I detect back
my life suburb we try our best we don’t
always do of this architecture is a verb
as well yes it is and since we are the
architects of our own lives let’s study
the habits the practices the routines
that we have that lead to and feed our
success our joy our honest paint our
laughter our own tears let’s dissect
that and give thanks for those things
and when we do that guess what happens
we get better at them and we have more
to dissect number eight make voluntary
obligations
my mom and dad since we were young they
teach us things as children teachers
mentors the government and on laws they
all give us guidelines for which to
navigate this life rules to abide by in
the name of accountability I’m not
talking about those obligations I’m
talking about the ones that we make with
ourselves with our God with our own
consciousness I’m talking about the you
versus you obligations we have to have
it now again these are not societal laws
and expectations that we acknowledge and
endow for anyone other than ourselves
these are faith-based obligations that
we make on our own these are not the
lowered insurance rates for a good
driving record you will not be fine to
put in jail if you do not gratify these
obligations I speak of no one else
covers these but you they are your
secrets with yourself your own private
counsel personal protocols and while
nobody throws
you a party when you abide by them no
one’s going to arrest you when you break
them either except yourself or some cops
you got to disturbing the peace call at
2:30 in the morning because you were
playing bongos your birthday suit yeah
that was me an honest man’s pillow is
his peace of mind and when you lay down
on that pillow at night no matter who’s
in your bed we all sleep alone these are
your personal jiminy crickets and there
are not enough cops in the entire world
to police them it’s on you it’s on you
number nine from can to want alright
check this out in 1995 I got my first
big paycheck the film ah was almost boys
on the side we were shooting Tucson
Arizona and I had two sweet little Adobe
guest house on the edge of this world
National Park the house came with a made
my first made it was awesome so I got a
friend over one Friday night and we’re
having a good time and I’m telling her
about how happy I am with my setup the
house the maid especially the maid I’m
Jenna look it’s a she cleans the place
up after I go to work she washes when I
closed the dishes put fresh water by my
bed leads me to cooked meals sometimes
she even presses my jeans and my friend
she smiles having happy that I’m excited
over this
she says well that’s great Matthew uh if
you like the jeans pressed I kind of
looked up that or my jock caught hanging
open I stuttered a moment had that
dumbass look that you get when you just
controlled the truth you didn’t think
about it hit me I hate that line going
down the front of my jeans I hate that
line and it was then for the first time
that I noticed it I’d never thought
about not liking that starch line down
the front of my jeans because I’ve never
had a made Dharma jeans before and since
she did now for the first time in my
life I just liked it because I could get
it I never thought about if I really
wanted it well I didn’t want it there
that line and that night I learned
something I’m just because you can yeah
come on it’s not a good enough reason to
do something even when it means having
more be discerning choose it because you
want it do it because you want to never
have my jeans pressed again number 10 a
roof is a man-made thing this may cut a
little close to the bone since the
geography but I think we all were there
and we will all remember where we were
but in January the 3rd 1993 it was the
NFL playoffs and you’re Houston Oilers
for playing the Buffalo Bills the olders
were up 28 to 3 at halftime 35 to 3
early in the third Frank Reich and the
bills come back to win 41 to 38 and
overtime for one of the greatest
comebacks in NFL history
you had the bills want but they didn’t
really beat the others the others lost
that game they beat themselves
I’ll remember now huh why glad to beat
themselves for how is it because at
halftime they put a ceiling a roof a
limit on their belief in themselves
aka prevent defense maybe they started
thinking about that the next opponent in
the playoffs at halftime I mean they
were off then they came out played on
their heels lost the mental edge the
entire second half and voila they lost
in a mere two quarters defensive
coordinator Jim Eddie went from being
called the defensive coordinator of the
year and the man first in line to be a
high head coach next year to a man
without a job in NFL give a joke
nobody’s ever joked I have huh you know
talking about fumbling to go line second
foot in your mouth once you got to the
microphone had a brain freeze on the
exam that you were totally prepared for
forgot the punchline to a joke in front
of 4,000 graduating students at the
University of Houston commencement or
maybe you’ve had that feeling of oh my
god life just cannot get any better than
this moment now what happens when we get
that feeling tense up we have this sort
of outer body experience where we are
literally
seeing ourselves in the third person and
we realize that the moment just got
bigger than us ever felt that way and
it’s because we have created a
fictitious ceiling a roof to our
expectations of ourselves
a limit where we think it’s all too good
to be true but it’s not and it’s not our
right to say or believe it is
we shouldn’t create these restrictions
on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a
score a great idea the love of our life
our euphoric bliss who are we to think
that we don’t deserve or haven’t earned
these gifts when we get them it’s not
alright but if we stay in process all
right within ourselves in the joy of the
doing we will never choke at the finish
line why because we aren’t thinking of
the finish line cuz we’re not looking at
the clock we’re not watching ourselves
on the jumbotron performing the very act
that we’re in the middle of no we’re in
process the approach is the destination
and we are never finished bo Jackson
what do you do used to run over the goal
line through the endzone and up the
tunnel the greatest snipers and marksmen
in the world they don’t aim at the
target they aim on the other side of the
target
we do our best when our destinations are
beyond the measurement when our reach
continually exceeds our grasp and when
we have a more tool finish lines and
when we do this the race is never over
the journey has no port the adventure
never ends because we are always on the
way so do this do this and let them let
somebody else come up and tap you on the
shoulder and say hey you score it let
them run up and tap you on the show and
say mint you want
let them come tell you you can go home
now
let them say I love you too let them say
thank you take the lid off the man-made
roofs that we put above ourselves and
always play like an underdog number 11
turn the page
the the late great University of Texas
football coach Darrell royal y’all
remember him one national champion in 69
he won a couple of national
championships hello Darryl whoaaa he was
a friend of mine a good friend of many
people now a lot of people looked up to
this man one of you who looked up to was
a musician named Larry now at this time
in his life Larry was in the prime of
his country music career he had number
one hits and his life was rolling get it
picked up a bad habit of uh snorting the
white stuff somewhere along the line and
at one particular party after a bathroom
break Larry went confidently up to his
mentor their hall and he started telling
historians coach royal listened and he
always had
and when Larry finished his story and
was about to walk away coach royal put a
gentle hand on his shoulder very
discreetly said hey Larry you uh got
something on your nose there buddy
Larry immediately hurried to the
bathroom near where he saw some of the
white powder that he hadn’t another note
he was ashamed he was embarrassed as
much because he felt so disrespectful to
coach royal and as much because he’d
obviously gotten too comfortable with
the drug to even hide it as well as he
should
well the next day Larry went to coach
his house he rang the doorbell coach
answered and he said coach I need to
talk to you they all said sure come on
in
Larry confessed he purged his sins to
coach he told him how embarrassed he was
and how he had lost his way in the midst
of all this fame and fortune and towards
the end of an hour Larry who was in
tears
he asked coach he said coach what do you
what do you think I should do my coach
being a man of few words just looked at
him and call me said Larry I have never
had any trouble turning the page in the
book of my life Larry got sober that day
he’s been sober for the last 40 years
you ever get in a rut you know I’m
talking about get the funk it’s stuck on
the merry-go-round of a bad habit I have
look we’re gonna make mistakes you got
to own them then you got to make amends
and then you got to move on guilt and
regret kills many a man before their
time so turn the page get off the ride
you are the author of the book of your
life turn that page number 12
give your obstacles credit you know
those uh no fear t-shirts that were out
I don’t know you used to wear them ten
years ago no fear you may remember those
are just me I saw him everywhere all
right I don’t get them and I never did I
mean well I try to scare myself at least
once a day I mean I get butterflies
every morning before I go to work I was
nervous before I got here to speak
tonight I I think fear is a good thing
now why because it increases our need to
overcome that fear all right say your
obstacle is fear rejection all right you
want to ask her out or you want to ask
him out
but you fear that he or she may say no
all right you you you want to ask your
boss for that promotion but you’re
scared he’s gonna think you’re
overstepping your bounds well instead of
denying those fears declara save the
fear out loud admit it give them the
credit they deserve don’t get all macho
and act like they’re no big deal
and don’t get paralyzed by denying that
they exist and therefore abandoning your
need to overcome them
I mean I’d even subscribe to belief that
we’re all destined to have to do the
thing that we fear the most anyway at
some point so give your obstacles credit
and you will one find the courage to
overcome them or you will to see more
clearly that they’re not really worth
prevailing over so be brave have courage
and when you do you get stronger you get
more where you get more respectful of
yourself and that which you fear
number thirteen so how do we know when
we cross the truth thirteen and was
asking why did I pick thirteen that’s
the amount of lucky number
I don’t know when thirteen got the bad
rap in the game of the mongrel of
numerology has never had done me wrong
thirteen in fact thirteen has been a
pretty lucky number for me and I want to
tell you how I’ve always taken these
twenty one day trips by myself to
far-off places where I usually don’t
know the language and nobody knows my
name their adventures one but they’re
also a purge that there are cleanse for
me they’re like a 21-day fast from
attention from all the things I have in
my well-appointed life there a check out
so I can check in with me see how I’m
doing be forced to be my own and my only
company to have a look in my mirror we
all know what can happen when we do that
we see 1996
right after I got famous from the film I
did call the time to kill I I headed out
on one of these 21-day walkabout and
this time to the jungles in the
mountains of Peru the sudden fame that I
just gotten was somewhat unbalancing my
face was everywhere everyone wanted a
piece of me people I’d never met were
swearing that they loved me everywhere I
went there I was on a billboard a
magazine cover it was it was just weird
over a hall you know as I was asked
myself what’s the reality in this and
what’s the did I deserve all
this these are all questions I was
asking myself who was I was another now
there’s always an initiation period with
these trips an amount of time that it
takes for the place to initiate the
traveler the time it takes to disconnect
from the world we just left and become
completely present and the one we’re
traveling
now for me that initiation period
usually lasts about 13 days 13 hellish
days until I am out of my own way well
it was the night of the 12th day in my
21 day trip I’m settling into camp
I’d already hiked 80 miles to this point
and I had a 3 day trek ahead of me to
Machu Picchu and I was full-on sick of
myself wrestling with the loss of
anonymity I was guilt ridden for sins of
my past had a lot of curette I was
lonely disgusted with my company mine
grappling with these demons on this
night I couldn’t sleep
all of these badges and banners and
expectations and anxieties that I was
carrying with me I needing to free
myself from them so I stripped down to
nothing I I took every moniker that gave
me pride and confidence all the window
dressings the packaging around the
product I discarded them all I got rid
of my lucky and faithful American cap I
stripped off all my talismans from
adventures path I even discarded my late
father’s gold ring with an M on it that
he gave to me it was a meltdown of he
and my mom’s class rings and gold for my
mom’s teeth even got rid of that I was
naked literally and figuratively and I
got sick felt clean felt free light long
a muddy path on this walk I turned a
corner and there in the middle of the
road was was its Mirage it’s magnificent
pinks and blues and red colors that I’d
ever seen it was electric glowing and
vibrant just hovering just off the
surface of the jungle floor as if it was
plugged into some neon power plant I
stopped I stared there’s no way around
it the jungle floor in front of me was
actually thousands of butterflies there
in my path it was spectacular
by state a lot and somewhere in my
captivation I heard this little voice
inside my head say these words all I
want is what I can see and all I can see
is what’s in front of me now if that
moment trip I had stopped anticipating
what was around the corner for the first
time I stopped thinking about what was
coming up next what was up ahead time
slowed down I was no longer in a rush to
get anywhere and my anxieties were
greatly ease few hours later I returned
to camp even the local Sherpas I was
traveling that they they noticed calling
out to me so he’s lose my tail so he’s
losing which means you are light in
Spanish see I forgave myself that
morning I let go of the guilt the weight
was on my shoulders lifted my penance
was paid and I got back in good graces
with my God and I shook hands with
myself my best friend the one that we’re
all stuck with anyway ourselves and from
that morning on the adventure was
awesome I was present I was out of my
own way I was not anticipating next I
was embracing only what was in front of
my eyes and giving everything the
justice to the desert
you see I crossed the truth that morning
now did I find it I don’t know I think
it found me why because I put myself in
a place to be found I put myself in a
place to receive the truth so how do we
know when we cross the truth well I
think the truth all around us all the
time I mean I think the answer you know
it’s always right there right there I
think it’s all around us we just don’t
always see it we don’t always grasp it
hear it access it usually because we’re
not in the right place to do so so what
do we do first I believe we’ve got to
put ourselves in the place to receive
the truth
let’s the minute we live in an extremely
noisy world with all kinds of
frequencies coming at us
we got commitments we got deadlines fix
this do that plans expectations and they
all make it hard to get clarity and
peace of mind so we have to consciously
put ourselves in places to receive that
cleared and that may be prayer that may
be meditation that may be a walkabout
that may be being in the right company a
road trip whatever it is for you
schedule that time schedule it so we do
that if we hear it we put ourself in a
place to hear than we do and it’s become
clear truth natural and infinite then
the second part comes which is to
personalize it ask yourself how it works
for you how it applies to you personally
why you need it in your life
specifically and if you do that then
comes the third part have the patience
to internalize it and get it from our
intellectual head thinking about it and
into our bones and our soul in our
instinct man we cannot rush this part it
does take time so if we get that far
we’ve received it we personalize it and
we’ve internalized it I’ve got to have
the courage to act on it to actually
take it into our daily lives and
practice it to make it an active part of
who we are and live it and do that and
if we do that then we have what I
believe is heaven right here on earth
and that’s the place where what we want
is also just what we need I mean that’s
the ticket in it think about it I know
that’s where I want to live while we’re
here and they’re gonna run across the
jumbotron let’s make it a place where we
break a sweat where we believe where we
enjoy the process of succeeding in the
places in ways that we are fashioned to
where we don’t have to look over our
shoulder because we’re too busy doing
what we’re good at
voluntarily keeping our own counsel
because we want to traveling towards
immortal finish lines we write our own
book
overcoming our fears we make friends
with ourselves and that is the place
that I’m talking about
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