[Music]
[Applause]
[Music]
[Applause]
I’d like you all to just close your eyes
for a minute all of you and I want you
to imagine a classroom and in that
classroom are many boys and girls
sitting at their desks and there’s a
teacher and there’s a board but in the
corner of that classroom is a child and
that child isn’t facing the class that
child is facing the wall that child has
been told that they’re a failure that
they’re not good enough that they will
be nothing in their life and as the
child turns around and goes back to his
seat where he was told to sit the class
laughs and that child’s confidence is
crushed just open your eyes that was me
and I think there are many little boys
and girls here who have had their
confidence crush don’t you think so I
dedicated the rest of my life to
hand-holding the little boy in the
little girl inside what I thought was
one of the most needed communities the
creative community a community of
phenomenal talented introverts that have
branded and created some of the best
products and services that we’ve all
bought and even fallen in love with and
are critical in our life and those
people really needed it and for my 27
years I defended them I supported them I
gave them ways so that they could feel
no fear
but the confidence in what their
brilliant talent and skill was but in
the last few years as I was doing this
something started to niggle me I was
looking at the news and it wasn’t just
the marketers and the brands and the
products and services that needed the
confidence and the voice of the
creatives that I would work with and the
creatives confidence that I was working
alongside I noticed that the community
was starting to wane in their confidence
we were starting to doubt each other we
were starting to become fearful we were
looking at the world around us with
terror and it scared me what scared me
more is many of the friends around me
who I looked up to and was inspired by
were starting to spin I decided to send
an email to six friends and I was
frustrated because I wanted to help them
and I said guys we’re gonna do a sort
your out weekend they did we all
got together a month later and as we all
gathered and talked the people started
to tell their stories the guys started
to express themselves and it was when
one guy Dave stood up and told what he
wanted to do what he believed he could
do but when he put his head down and
started to cry it held me back and I
said Dave what’s up man
he said I thought it was just me it
thought it was just me that was scared I
know I could do all these things and
what surprised me is Dave has been a six
times published author he’s climbed
several of the highest summits in the
world he’s crossed the Empty Quarter
eating his camel at the end of it to
survive yet he felt he was useless he
felt his background and what he’d done
was not relevant for going forwards and
I was shot and it supported my worry
about
the mental health crisis the suicide
rate of children now going up and I
realized at that point that I had to
stop making products and services look
phenomenal and feel great and I had to
make people look phenomenal a feel great
and give them wings and so I launched a
new venture and I gathered it but I had
to look at myself and work out where was
the confidence in me where were my
mentors and I realized I was looking at
all these mentors in life in fact my
real father who bat died when I was six
months old
was a candy inventor one of the world’s
best candy inventors the licorice y’all
loss stop the the job the jawbreaker
Gobstopper things like this incredible
man and I always looked up to him but I
realized as I decided to start this new
step in life that he was a romantic
mentor because I didn’t know him I
didn’t have that conversation with him
and he was like the books I was reading
on these phenomenal leaders that were
telling me what to do but it was so pure
and so clear and so sterilized by ghost
writers that I realized I needed
somebody to give me real guidance that I
could talk with and I went back and
realized I was given that mentorship and
that guidance when I was 18 years old I
talked about that little boy and losing
his confidence well that little boy when
he was 18 received his slip on how he’d
done in his exams and when I got that
slip and started walking to the car
where my stepfather was now waiting to
support me I opened the slip to see how
I’d done with the exam results and as I
looked down my heart fell through my
legs I had failed everything not bad
terribly
as I walked to the car with legs made of
lead i sat down next to my father and I
said I’m here he said how did you do son
I said I’ve let you down
I failed everything and that weight was
bad enough for a child to share with a
parent but my step father who stood in
for those four children after my father
passed away was a headmaster and I was
the last of the children to graduate and
I was going to be the pinnacle example
of what he dedicated his life in his
career to not only that four months
earlier his wife my mother had died of
cancer as well so now I felt a guilt
there a man already on his knees was
going to have to try and help a boy off
and he stopped he looked forward he
turned and looked at me he says will you
face a wall in life now and this wall is
clouding your vision what we need to do
is we need to pull that wall out so you
can see over it you can see round it you
can see under it
because this wall is just one wall of
many many many walls that you will face
in the rest of your life and our job is
to see this wall as a hurdle you told me
a story he said a few years ago about
the wall around the boarding school you
were in I said yes he said you told me
that once you crawled over that wall you
sneaked out and met a girl and drank for
the first time I didn’t actually
remember I told him that so I was a
little bit in shock at that point I said
yes he said that wall was not an
obstacle then that wall was exciting
that wall was part of your discovery and
fun and this that you have failed all
your exams is just another wall for us
to climb over and get past what you need
is the belief what you need are the
friends around you that are positive
that will believe in you and I realized
that I stood in the room with those
friends that I was starting this retreat
with that they had given me the wings
and the confidence they had made me take
this backpack of 27 years of work and
trying and doing all these amazing
experiences courses expeditions nearly
ayahuasca but I didn’t all these amazing
things yet uh-huh if I go to another
dinner party when somebody asks me if I
thought ayahuasca basically got me to
take this backpack off and take all the
stuff out I was too busy filling the
backpack with all these amazing things
and experiences to stop and realize and
sell
break myself realize how awesome I
really was and those are the real
friends that will help you in life and
I’m afraid if you have your seats around
the table filled with people that may
say you that doubt you that question you
have to kindly ask them to stand up and
bring somebody alongside you that you
need and will support you not just in
your mindset but in the journey forwards
it is those friends that will help you
they will highlight that if the pond
that you’re in is too small that the
river of life that is out there is where
you will go and you will meet new people
you will see new things you just have to
commit that you’re awesome and that you
can get past that wall because you will
meet and do incredible things but you
cannot do it alone I just let you all to
hold hands quickly as I close like two
hands I believe that we’re in a
confidence crisis era I believe there
are too many little boys and little
girls inside of us that are coming out
and I believe that it is only by uniting
together supporting each other
patting each other on the back and
saying you can do this you’re awesome
you’re in the island of the gods you
have wings it is only now if we have
confidence for each other that we can
address the issues in our world and boy
do we need to help our world now thank
you
[Music]
[Applause] [Music]
[Applause]
[Music]
[Applause]
I’d like you all to just close your eyes
for a minute all of you and I want you
to imagine a classroom and in that
classroom are many boys and girls
sitting at their desks and there’s a
teacher and there’s a board but in the
corner of that classroom is a child and
that child isn’t facing the class that
child is facing the wall that child has
been told that they’re a failure that
they’re not good enough that they will
be nothing in their life and as the
child turns around and goes back to his
seat where he was told to sit the class
laughs and that child’s confidence is
crushed just open your eyes that was me
and I think there are many little boys
and girls here who have had their
confidence crush don’t you think so I
dedicated the rest of my life to
hand-holding the little boy in the
little girl inside what I thought was
one of the most needed communities the
creative community a community of
phenomenal talented introverts that have
branded and created some of the best
products and services that we’ve all
bought and even fallen in love with and
are critical in our life and those
people really needed it and for my 27
years I defended them I supported them I
gave them ways so that they could feel
no fear
but the confidence in what their
brilliant talent and skill was but in
the last few years as I was doing this
something started to niggle me I was
looking at the news and it wasn’t just
the marketers and the brands and the
products and services that needed the
confidence and the voice of the
creatives that I would work with and the
creatives confidence that I was working
alongside I noticed that the community
was starting to wane in their confidence
we were starting to doubt each other we
were starting to become fearful we were
looking at the world around us with
terror and it scared me what scared me
more is many of the friends around me
who I looked up to and was inspired by
were starting to spin I decided to send
an email to six friends and I was
frustrated because I wanted to help them
and I said guys we’re gonna do a sort
your out weekend they did we all
got together a month later and as we all
gathered and talked the people started
to tell their stories the guys started
to express themselves and it was when
one guy Dave stood up and told what he
wanted to do what he believed he could
do but when he put his head down and
started to cry it held me back and I
said Dave what’s up man
he said I thought it was just me it
thought it was just me that was scared I
know I could do all these things and
what surprised me is Dave has been a six
times published author he’s climbed
several of the highest summits in the
world he’s crossed the Empty Quarter
eating his camel at the end of it to
survive yet he felt he was useless he
felt his background and what he’d done
was not relevant for going forwards and
I was shot and it supported my worry
about
the mental health crisis the suicide
rate of children now going up and I
realized at that point that I had to
stop making products and services look
phenomenal and feel great and I had to
make people look phenomenal a feel great
and give them wings and so I launched a
new venture and I gathered it but I had
to look at myself and work out where was
the confidence in me where were my
mentors and I realized I was looking at
all these mentors in life in fact my
real father who bat died when I was six
months old
was a candy inventor one of the world’s
best candy inventors the licorice y’all
loss stop the the job the jawbreaker
Gobstopper things like this incredible
man and I always looked up to him but I
realized as I decided to start this new
step in life that he was a romantic
mentor because I didn’t know him I
didn’t have that conversation with him
and he was like the books I was reading
on these phenomenal leaders that were
telling me what to do but it was so pure
and so clear and so sterilized by ghost
writers that I realized I needed
somebody to give me real guidance that I
could talk with and I went back and
realized I was given that mentorship and
that guidance when I was 18 years old I
talked about that little boy and losing
his confidence well that little boy when
he was 18 received his slip on how he’d
done in his exams and when I got that
slip and started walking to the car
where my stepfather was now waiting to
support me I opened the slip to see how
I’d done with the exam results and as I
looked down my heart fell through my
legs I had failed everything not bad
terribly
as I walked to the car with legs made of
lead i sat down next to my father and I
said I’m here he said how did you do son
I said I’ve let you down
I failed everything and that weight was
bad enough for a child to share with a
parent but my step father who stood in
for those four children after my father
passed away was a headmaster and I was
the last of the children to graduate and
I was going to be the pinnacle example
of what he dedicated his life in his
career to not only that four months
earlier his wife my mother had died of
cancer as well so now I felt a guilt
there a man already on his knees was
going to have to try and help a boy off
and he stopped he looked forward he
turned and looked at me he says will you
face a wall in life now and this wall is
clouding your vision what we need to do
is we need to pull that wall out so you
can see over it you can see round it you
can see under it
because this wall is just one wall of
many many many walls that you will face
in the rest of your life and our job is
to see this wall as a hurdle you told me
a story he said a few years ago about
the wall around the boarding school you
were in I said yes he said you told me
that once you crawled over that wall you
sneaked out and met a girl and drank for
the first time I didn’t actually
remember I told him that so I was a
little bit in shock at that point I said
yes he said that wall was not an
obstacle then that wall was exciting
that wall was part of your discovery and
fun and this that you have failed all
your exams is just another wall for us
to climb over and get past what you need
is the belief what you need are the
friends around you that are positive
that will believe in you and I realized
that I stood in the room with those
friends that I was starting this retreat
with that they had given me the wings
and the confidence they had made me take
this backpack of 27 years of work and
trying and doing all these amazing
experiences courses expeditions nearly
ayahuasca but I didn’t all these amazing
things yet uh-huh if I go to another
dinner party when somebody asks me if I
thought ayahuasca basically got me to
take this backpack off and take all the
stuff out I was too busy filling the
backpack with all these amazing things
and experiences to stop and realize and
sell
break myself realize how awesome I
really was and those are the real
friends that will help you in life and
I’m afraid if you have your seats around
the table filled with people that may
say you that doubt you that question you
have to kindly ask them to stand up and
bring somebody alongside you that you
need and will support you not just in
your mindset but in the journey forwards
it is those friends that will help you
they will highlight that if the pond
that you’re in is too small that the
river of life that is out there is where
you will go and you will meet new people
you will see new things you just have to
commit that you’re awesome and that you
can get past that wall because you will
meet and do incredible things but you
cannot do it alone I just let you all to
hold hands quickly as I close like two
hands I believe that we’re in a
confidence crisis era I believe there
are too many little boys and little
girls inside of us that are coming out
and I believe that it is only by uniting
together supporting each other
patting each other on the back and
saying you can do this you’re awesome
you’re in the island of the gods you
have wings it is only now if we have
confidence for each other that we can
address the issues in our world and boy
do we need to help our world now thank
you
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