[Music]
[Applause]
fifteen months ago I became a father for
the first time my wife and I had been
blessed with this beautiful baby girl
and the experience made me realize how
important it is that I become a great
father see the relationship that I had
when my father was quite complicated my
father was a hard-working man came to
Denmark as an immigrant from India and
he would work as a truck driver and in
the weekends he would clean the
factories but due to his hard work and
determination he later on became a
successful businessman but my father was
also very strict he was a man who would
often talk with his hands and I’ll
remember how it felt when I got hit by
them hands but what hurt me even more
was his opinion of me I never felt like
I could live up to his expectations I
remember one time when I got my grades
from school and I came home with my
report card and like always I didn’t get
the best grade in class you know I was
probably the one with the lowest grades
and when my father saw these grades he
got so upset that he called three of my
classmates and told him to come to our
home and he told him to bring their
report cards with them so when they came
he took their papers and he lined them
up on the table and then he took my
grades and then he started comparing and
it was clear to everyone that I was a
failure
and I’ll never forget how my dad would
look at me when he was upset he had
these intense eyes and he told me you
are going to fail in your life but thank
God I had my mother my mother she did
everything in her power to remove the
pain that I felt I recall how she would
often tell me that I was beautiful and
unique and she told me I could do
anything in life but she said the only
thing you need
is a vision I want you to have a vision
that’s gonna make you dedicate yourself
like you have never been dedicated
before so I searched and I searched and
I found it I wanted to become a
professional rapper and I had this dream
that I wanted to release my music in
India because I had never heard of any
english-speaking rapper who had ever
signed a record deal in India so I
started working everyday for 12 years
and finally I succeeded along with a
good friend of mine released music in 13
different countries one of them being
India and the crazy thing is that the
album that we put out in India actually
made it to the number one spot in the
but the success was short-lived we were
cheated by the record label by our
management and I was left with nothing
not a dime to my pocket I had no money
and once again I had to look at my
father and say I failed and this time I
got physically ill I was put in the
hospital three times where to put
cameras in my stomach
because I had gotten a bleeding also
from all the stress and the worry I was
a broken guy a broken young man but
thanks to my mother she said son you
don’t give up now you learned how to
succeed in life you make your visions
become reality she said the only thing
you need to do now is find something
that is so important to you that not
even the loss of money can stop you and
once again she reminded me that I was
beautiful and unique so I started
searching and five years ago I found my
call
I wanted to inspire people I wanted to
tell people how to succeed how to make
your dreams and visions become reality
and I wanted to explain to people how
important it is that you chase your
fullest potential and five years later
I’m now living my dream standing here in
front of you and I live my dream full
time I give speaks to kids in the inner
city I speak to universities to
professional sports teams and to some of
the biggest companies in the world next
week I’m talking to a big group of CEOs
and to think that I was just a street
kid with low grades and they even lower
self esteem but I made it once again so
if there’s anything I know in life then
it’s how you can have a vision a vision
that you might think is completely
impossible for you to achieve but I know
how you can make that vision become
reality but I also know that most people
never achieve what they want most people
never go within them
selves and explored their fullest
potential and the reason they don’t do
that is because they’re controlled by
one emotion and it’s the powerful
emotion of fear we all know fear just
the fear of failure what if I invest all
of myself into this vision and this
dream what if I sacrifice my blood sweat
and tears and I still don’t make it it
could be regards to your education your
professional life your social life your
family life I’m dealing with that fear
right now as a father when I look at my
daughter I always think to myself can i
empower this girl can I give her the
strength that she’s gonna need because I
know that she’s gonna grow up in a world
where she’s surrounded by social media
and every time she tech checks her
profile she’s going to be reminded that
everybody else except her is living the
perfect life right and she’s gonna need
but what life has taught me is that it
is when we ask ourselves the big and
important questions that we feel their
emotional fear it is when we add a
crucial point in life and we have to
make an important decision that we hear
the voice of fear telling us don’t do it
you’re not good enough you’re gonna fail
and it’s gonna hurt and what I’ve also
found out is that everybody feels fear
all of us but the difference between
those who succeed in life and those who
do not those who evolve and those who
are stuck the difference between the two
is how they choose to deal with fear see
you only got two options I’m gonna give
you option one the one I do not suggest
that you do see as soon as you hear the
voice of fear telling you you can’t do
it and you obey your fear see that’s the
problem do not obey your fear
if you listen to that fear and say okay
you’re right I’m not good enough
I must stay right here the problem with
that decision of obeying your fear is
that you are going to get stuck in your
comfort zone it might feel comfortable
you might know everything about your
comfort zone but the problem is that
there is no opportunity for human growth
as long as you are stuck in your comfort
zone and the danger about being stuck is
that you’re going to start compromising
on your dreams and your goals and you’re
gonna start compromising on your life
and the danger about compromising is
that you might create the dangerous
venom called bitterness you’ll become a
bitter person
blaming everybody else for your
situation and then you go and vote for
politicians that love to vote that love
to speak about and blame other people
right that bitterness is dangerous but
you have another option the one I would
like you to take see the next time you
hear the voice of fear I would like you
to just have a moment of peace complete
peace within yourself and then I want
you to push that fear side just a little
bit and then I want you to look at your
vision and I want you to ask yourself is
it more important to me that I’ll make
my dreams become reality that I evolved
as a human being or is it more important
to me that my fear controls my life what
I’m hoping is that you will come to the
conclusion that your vision is much more
important to you than your fears and if
that’s the case then I want you to do
what I’ve done through my life I want
you to attack your fears and the way you
attack your fears is by three steps step
one I want you to focus on exactly what
it is you want to achieve or who you
want to become and do not compromise on
that vision and once you have that
vision in your mind and in your soul
then it’s time for step 2 you gotta
analyze you gotta analyze how you gonna
get there what is it you need to do you
gotta analyze yourself your own behavior
you got to analyze the people around you
you got to analyze and you got to have a
game plan and when you have that game
plan it’s time for step number three
it’s time to execute to do something
about it to train every single day make
an agreement with yourself that you’re
gonna make an effort every day to just
step take a step closer your vision
whatever it takes it doesn’t matter if
it’s a small or a big step just make
sure that you take a step closer towards
your vision sounds easy right yeah but
it’s hard I’m gonna tell you why it’s
hard it’s hard because as soon as you
start going down that path towards your
goals and dreams all of a sudden
there’ll be obstacles laid out in front
of you there will be people that you
love and care about that’s gonna try to
talk you out of it and there’s going to
be challenges that you think it’s
completely impossible for you to achieve
or overcome but the reason why this is
happening it’s because you’re being
tested it’s like we’re being tested from
the universe that we have to prove to
ourselves that we really want this
because I’m tired of those movies where
they talk about oh if you think about it
it will happen that it no that’s not
real life you got to apply some action
into your thoughts but here’s the crazy
thing as soon as you take it to the next
level
as soon as you take a step closer
towards your goal everything is going to
start all over once again you will hear
the voice of fear telling you you ain’t
good enough for this level you don’t
have what it takes
there’s no weight that you can be at
this level and be successful and then
once again you gonna have to make up
your mind
are you going to obey your fears or
attack your fears but all this all of
this
comes down to character who are you what
are you made of in my simple mind
there’s only two types of people
there’s the players and then there’s the
spectators see the spectators are those
who sit up in the bleachers and they sit
up there and every time they look at all
the players they boo and they complain
all the time and they’re stuck in life
and they’re bitter and the problem with
them is that they have compromised
through their whole life so everything
is like at fifty or thirty percent of
what they could have done so they’re
really upset about that but the problem
about these spectators is that they
don’t want to analyze they don’t want to
find out what can I do to get out of
this situation and they sure don’t want
to train they don’t want to do nothing
about it they just want to sit there
stuck in their comfort zone but then you
have the players see the players of
those who are on the field
and every time they see an opportunity
to score they shoot and they don’t care
how many times they miss they don’t care
how much the spectators boo they keep on
trying they keep on believing in
themselves and they constantly analyze
themselves what can I do to become
better what do I need to do to move
around this obstacle get around these
people what do I need to do and then
they train every single day and the
thing I love about these players is this
that they are addicted to fear and the
reason they’re addicted to fear why they
want fear so bad in their lives is
because they know that it gives them
strength and you know that too
because here’s what happens every time
you overcome your fears what happens is
that you can look at who you used to be
and say that I am much stronger now
because I overcame this fear and when
you overcome your challenges it’s the
same thing that happens you can look in
the mirror and say I am stronger than I
have
ever been before so the question is now
who have you been until today have you
lived your life as a player or a
spectator see don’t be upset if you
really feel that you have been a
spectator because the most important
amazing thing about being a human being
is that we can change our way of living
our behaviors right here right now if we
really want to the only thing we have to
do is to activate our willpower that’s
the only thing and I’m telling you right
now do not underestimate your willpower
the reason why we built rockets and fly
into the skies and in the universe is
because of willpower the reason why I
keep I countries become free it’s
because of willpower the reason why a
man or woman can climb a mountain bigger
than a country is because of willpower
don’t you ever underestimate your
willpower I’ve had this challenge where
I had to release myself I was stuck in
my life and the reason why I was stuck
was because of the anger that I had
towards my father I was so angry with
him and I knew that it was holding me
back from succeeding and taking those
steps forward in my life and I knew that
the only way that I could move forward
in my life was if I could forgive my
father and I was afraid but I I wanted
it so bad so the first thing I did was I
focused on what I wanted I wanted to
forgive my father then I had to analyze
because I had to understand him why he
had done what he had done because if I
didn’t know why then I couldn’t forgive
him for real so I had to understand why
he treated me this way so as I analyzed
him I found out that my father was
raised the exact same way as me and as I
look deeper
to it I found out that my grandfather
and my great-grandfather was raised the
exact same way as me so now I understood
he didn’t know any better
so when I knew this then I could three
take action I could take these steps
every day towards forgiveness and I’m
telling you today that me and my father
we are the best of friends
we talk all the time we talk about life
and family in the world
and I told him I was coming here and he
said son tell him the truth tell him how
it was and you know what ever since I
forgave him all that fog disappeared and
I now see all the blessings and that
values that my father has taught me my
father has taught me what hard work is
all about my father has taught me what
it means to be dedicated and focused and
beats courageous he’s taught me all that
and I see it now because I’m released
from my anger and of all the people I
speak to there’s one person that I have
to say something to now and I’m doing it
because it’s being filmed it’s to my
daughter certainly I want to tell you
something that life is crazy you don’t
ever know when it’s going to end but
maybe someday you’re gonna need my
advice and I won’t be here but then
hopefully you can watch this talk and be
empowered by my words and I want to tell
you as your father that I can’t promise
you that all your dreams will become
reality I can’t promise you that but
what I can promise you is this that if
you are willing to overcome your fears
and if you’re willing to dedicate your
soul to something that is so important
to you then I promise you that you will
grow as a human being and the light
within you will shine bright and don’t
you ever let anybody pull you down
because you got to remember what your
dad’s telling you right now you’re
beautiful and unique and I love you
thank you so much
[Applause] [Music]
[Applause]
fifteen months ago I became a father for
the first time my wife and I had been
blessed with this beautiful baby girl
and the experience made me realize how
important it is that I become a great
father see the relationship that I had
when my father was quite complicated my
father was a hard-working man came to
Denmark as an immigrant from India and
he would work as a truck driver and in
the weekends he would clean the
factories but due to his hard work and
determination he later on became a
successful businessman but my father was
also very strict he was a man who would
often talk with his hands and I’ll
remember how it felt when I got hit by
them hands but what hurt me even more
was his opinion of me I never felt like
I could live up to his expectations I
remember one time when I got my grades
from school and I came home with my
report card and like always I didn’t get
the best grade in class you know I was
probably the one with the lowest grades
and when my father saw these grades he
got so upset that he called three of my
classmates and told him to come to our
home and he told him to bring their
report cards with them so when they came
he took their papers and he lined them
up on the table and then he took my
grades and then he started comparing and
it was clear to everyone that I was a
failure
and I’ll never forget how my dad would
look at me when he was upset he had
these intense eyes and he told me you
are going to fail in your life but thank
God I had my mother my mother she did
everything in her power to remove the
pain that I felt I recall how she would
often tell me that I was beautiful and
unique and she told me I could do
anything in life but she said the only
thing you need
is a vision I want you to have a vision
that’s gonna make you dedicate yourself
like you have never been dedicated
before so I searched and I searched and
I found it I wanted to become a
professional rapper and I had this dream
that I wanted to release my music in
India because I had never heard of any
english-speaking rapper who had ever
signed a record deal in India so I
started working everyday for 12 years
and finally I succeeded along with a
good friend of mine released music in 13
different countries one of them being
India and the crazy thing is that the
album that we put out in India actually
made it to the number one spot in the
but the success was short-lived we were
cheated by the record label by our
management and I was left with nothing
not a dime to my pocket I had no money
and once again I had to look at my
father and say I failed and this time I
got physically ill I was put in the
hospital three times where to put
cameras in my stomach
because I had gotten a bleeding also
from all the stress and the worry I was
a broken guy a broken young man but
thanks to my mother she said son you
don’t give up now you learned how to
succeed in life you make your visions
become reality she said the only thing
you need to do now is find something
that is so important to you that not
even the loss of money can stop you and
once again she reminded me that I was
beautiful and unique so I started
searching and five years ago I found my
call
I wanted to inspire people I wanted to
tell people how to succeed how to make
your dreams and visions become reality
and I wanted to explain to people how
important it is that you chase your
fullest potential and five years later
I’m now living my dream standing here in
front of you and I live my dream full
time I give speaks to kids in the inner
city I speak to universities to
professional sports teams and to some of
the biggest companies in the world next
week I’m talking to a big group of CEOs
and to think that I was just a street
kid with low grades and they even lower
self esteem but I made it once again so
if there’s anything I know in life then
it’s how you can have a vision a vision
that you might think is completely
impossible for you to achieve but I know
how you can make that vision become
reality but I also know that most people
never achieve what they want most people
never go within them
selves and explored their fullest
potential and the reason they don’t do
that is because they’re controlled by
one emotion and it’s the powerful
emotion of fear we all know fear just
the fear of failure what if I invest all
of myself into this vision and this
dream what if I sacrifice my blood sweat
and tears and I still don’t make it it
could be regards to your education your
professional life your social life your
family life I’m dealing with that fear
right now as a father when I look at my
daughter I always think to myself can i
empower this girl can I give her the
strength that she’s gonna need because I
know that she’s gonna grow up in a world
where she’s surrounded by social media
and every time she tech checks her
profile she’s going to be reminded that
everybody else except her is living the
perfect life right and she’s gonna need
but what life has taught me is that it
is when we ask ourselves the big and
important questions that we feel their
emotional fear it is when we add a
crucial point in life and we have to
make an important decision that we hear
the voice of fear telling us don’t do it
you’re not good enough you’re gonna fail
and it’s gonna hurt and what I’ve also
found out is that everybody feels fear
all of us but the difference between
those who succeed in life and those who
do not those who evolve and those who
are stuck the difference between the two
is how they choose to deal with fear see
you only got two options I’m gonna give
you option one the one I do not suggest
that you do see as soon as you hear the
voice of fear telling you you can’t do
it and you obey your fear see that’s the
problem do not obey your fear
if you listen to that fear and say okay
you’re right I’m not good enough
I must stay right here the problem with
that decision of obeying your fear is
that you are going to get stuck in your
comfort zone it might feel comfortable
you might know everything about your
comfort zone but the problem is that
there is no opportunity for human growth
as long as you are stuck in your comfort
zone and the danger about being stuck is
that you’re going to start compromising
on your dreams and your goals and you’re
gonna start compromising on your life
and the danger about compromising is
that you might create the dangerous
venom called bitterness you’ll become a
bitter person
blaming everybody else for your
situation and then you go and vote for
politicians that love to vote that love
to speak about and blame other people
right that bitterness is dangerous but
you have another option the one I would
like you to take see the next time you
hear the voice of fear I would like you
to just have a moment of peace complete
peace within yourself and then I want
you to push that fear side just a little
bit and then I want you to look at your
vision and I want you to ask yourself is
it more important to me that I’ll make
my dreams become reality that I evolved
as a human being or is it more important
to me that my fear controls my life what
I’m hoping is that you will come to the
conclusion that your vision is much more
important to you than your fears and if
that’s the case then I want you to do
what I’ve done through my life I want
you to attack your fears and the way you
attack your fears is by three steps step
one I want you to focus on exactly what
it is you want to achieve or who you
want to become and do not compromise on
that vision and once you have that
vision in your mind and in your soul
then it’s time for step 2 you gotta
analyze you gotta analyze how you gonna
get there what is it you need to do you
gotta analyze yourself your own behavior
you got to analyze the people around you
you got to analyze and you got to have a
game plan and when you have that game
plan it’s time for step number three
it’s time to execute to do something
about it to train every single day make
an agreement with yourself that you’re
gonna make an effort every day to just
step take a step closer your vision
whatever it takes it doesn’t matter if
it’s a small or a big step just make
sure that you take a step closer towards
your vision sounds easy right yeah but
it’s hard I’m gonna tell you why it’s
hard it’s hard because as soon as you
start going down that path towards your
goals and dreams all of a sudden
there’ll be obstacles laid out in front
of you there will be people that you
love and care about that’s gonna try to
talk you out of it and there’s going to
be challenges that you think it’s
completely impossible for you to achieve
or overcome but the reason why this is
happening it’s because you’re being
tested it’s like we’re being tested from
the universe that we have to prove to
ourselves that we really want this
because I’m tired of those movies where
they talk about oh if you think about it
it will happen that it no that’s not
real life you got to apply some action
into your thoughts but here’s the crazy
thing as soon as you take it to the next
level
as soon as you take a step closer
towards your goal everything is going to
start all over once again you will hear
the voice of fear telling you you ain’t
good enough for this level you don’t
have what it takes
there’s no weight that you can be at
this level and be successful and then
once again you gonna have to make up
your mind
are you going to obey your fears or
attack your fears but all this all of
this
comes down to character who are you what
are you made of in my simple mind
there’s only two types of people
there’s the players and then there’s the
spectators see the spectators are those
who sit up in the bleachers and they sit
up there and every time they look at all
the players they boo and they complain
all the time and they’re stuck in life
and they’re bitter and the problem with
them is that they have compromised
through their whole life so everything
is like at fifty or thirty percent of
what they could have done so they’re
really upset about that but the problem
about these spectators is that they
don’t want to analyze they don’t want to
find out what can I do to get out of
this situation and they sure don’t want
to train they don’t want to do nothing
about it they just want to sit there
stuck in their comfort zone but then you
have the players see the players of
those who are on the field
and every time they see an opportunity
to score they shoot and they don’t care
how many times they miss they don’t care
how much the spectators boo they keep on
trying they keep on believing in
themselves and they constantly analyze
themselves what can I do to become
better what do I need to do to move
around this obstacle get around these
people what do I need to do and then
they train every single day and the
thing I love about these players is this
that they are addicted to fear and the
reason they’re addicted to fear why they
want fear so bad in their lives is
because they know that it gives them
strength and you know that too
because here’s what happens every time
you overcome your fears what happens is
that you can look at who you used to be
and say that I am much stronger now
because I overcame this fear and when
you overcome your challenges it’s the
same thing that happens you can look in
the mirror and say I am stronger than I
have
ever been before so the question is now
who have you been until today have you
lived your life as a player or a
spectator see don’t be upset if you
really feel that you have been a
spectator because the most important
amazing thing about being a human being
is that we can change our way of living
our behaviors right here right now if we
really want to the only thing we have to
do is to activate our willpower that’s
the only thing and I’m telling you right
now do not underestimate your willpower
the reason why we built rockets and fly
into the skies and in the universe is
because of willpower the reason why I
keep I countries become free it’s
because of willpower the reason why a
man or woman can climb a mountain bigger
than a country is because of willpower
don’t you ever underestimate your
willpower I’ve had this challenge where
I had to release myself I was stuck in
my life and the reason why I was stuck
was because of the anger that I had
towards my father I was so angry with
him and I knew that it was holding me
back from succeeding and taking those
steps forward in my life and I knew that
the only way that I could move forward
in my life was if I could forgive my
father and I was afraid but I I wanted
it so bad so the first thing I did was I
focused on what I wanted I wanted to
forgive my father then I had to analyze
because I had to understand him why he
had done what he had done because if I
didn’t know why then I couldn’t forgive
him for real so I had to understand why
he treated me this way so as I analyzed
him I found out that my father was
raised the exact same way as me and as I
look deeper
to it I found out that my grandfather
and my great-grandfather was raised the
exact same way as me so now I understood
he didn’t know any better
so when I knew this then I could three
take action I could take these steps
every day towards forgiveness and I’m
telling you today that me and my father
we are the best of friends
we talk all the time we talk about life
and family in the world
and I told him I was coming here and he
said son tell him the truth tell him how
it was and you know what ever since I
forgave him all that fog disappeared and
I now see all the blessings and that
values that my father has taught me my
father has taught me what hard work is
all about my father has taught me what
it means to be dedicated and focused and
beats courageous he’s taught me all that
and I see it now because I’m released
from my anger and of all the people I
speak to there’s one person that I have
to say something to now and I’m doing it
because it’s being filmed it’s to my
daughter certainly I want to tell you
something that life is crazy you don’t
ever know when it’s going to end but
maybe someday you’re gonna need my
advice and I won’t be here but then
hopefully you can watch this talk and be
empowered by my words and I want to tell
you as your father that I can’t promise
you that all your dreams will become
reality I can’t promise you that but
what I can promise you is this that if
you are willing to overcome your fears
and if you’re willing to dedicate your
soul to something that is so important
to you then I promise you that you will
grow as a human being and the light
within you will shine bright and don’t
you ever let anybody pull you down
because you got to remember what your
dad’s telling you right now you’re
beautiful and unique and I love you
thank you so much
[Applause] [Music]
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