the topic there is such a thing for
today is choosing your own greatness or
being a No Limit person taking charge of
your own life something I really believe
that you are the sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like isn’t working or
it’s mobilizing you is to be looked at
in terms of can I grow rather than why
did I do this wrong see the two ways to
motivate yourself our deficiency
motivation which says where I am I don’t
like I don’t like what I’ve done like
the fact that I can’t do this well or I
can’t do that well so I will list these
things in my own repertoire and then I
will be constantly trying to repair
those deficiencies always assuming that
I’m deficient that there’s something
wrong with me and I’m trying to fix it
and when you do that you spend your
whole life stick around and you never
arrive because your life becomes a
series of trying to get someplace else
and it is if you follow that if you live
that if you behave that then what
happens to you is you become a person
who will always suffer from this disease
called more you always have to have more
because whenever you are getting where
you want to go let’s say you want
$100,000 in the bank and your work then
is from when you deny yourself and you
do all of those things and you finally
finally you get there and here you are
hundred thousand dollars in the bank all
of this stuff will be here of course
your life that is all you know that’s
what you know how to how you are that is
your being that is your way of being so
that when you do get here what you will
do is say this is not enough you must a
No Limit person is never operating from
deficiency or from lack in their life
they’re never saying I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are
everything you’re everything that you
need think of it for just a moment
everything that you need to have total
bliss perfection of your life you
already are go to Hammond you came into
this world with nothing that’s how
you’re going out and the time that you
have here it what you have is your
uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything else
because if you do get something else you
won’t know how to appreciate that either
you’ll just want more or you’ll want it
to be different or you want it to be the
way it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people inner
directed people however you whatever
labels that have been put on them by
great thinkers philosophers and
therapists and people that have looked
at human being
these kinds of people are people who
always have enough there are some people
if you invite them over and you say you
know I’d like you to like you to come
over tonight I’d like you to stay over
if you can instead of having to drive
back and I can you say can you stay yeah
well I don’t know if I can stay or not
well you could sleep on the cot oh no no
I could never sleep on the cot I can’t
sleep on consciousness
I got sciatica don’t you something I
have a high of back pain and the way I
got on cots no that’s out of the
question I couldn’t sleep on a cot and
what about breakfast well we don’t have
any food that we have some old
grapefruit that are in the in the
refrigerator they have a few spots on
them off no I could never eat
grapefruits in some spots no thanks I
can’t eat great food spots I just
couldn’t do that
and these are people who never have
enough they are are not able to be
flexible and to change there are other
people if you say would you like to
sleep over well we got a place in the
sewers hey that’d be great I can handle
that
no problem I’ve slept there before so
all we have is great for all I love
grapefruit well we got to good bottom oh
I really like grapefruit spots those are
terrific uh I’ll go for those there are
some people who can handle anything not
because their circumstances are
different you see your circumstances
have very little to do with your
fulfillment in life very little it’s
it’s how you’re approaching your
circumstances it’s your attitude towards
your circumstances that make all the
difference in the world and taking what
you are and accepting it no limit people
are human being who take what they are
and accepting and don’t tell themselves
that somehow they’re deficient because
of anything about themselves this is a
very crucial
concepts before for me and for virtually
all of us it’s this idea of taking your
life in your own hands and being the
kind of person that you choose to be and
understanding that everything that comes
your way there’s an opportunity is a
blessing and it wasn’t until I learned
how to celebrate virtually everything
that came my way that I was able to
transcend it you see everything that was
given to us by God whatever that is
is perfect no one can deny the mountains
are perfect and the rivers are perfect
and the birds are perfect and the
hippopotamus is imperfect and and so on
this is just what was given to it
everything else that you have on our
planet that we have in our planet comes
about as a result of thinking thinking
spot makes itself
this comes about as a result of thinking
somebody imagines that somebody then
tells somebody else and it’s a creative
the dress that you’re wearing we assert
that on issues that you have the stage
these cameras everything that you see
that wasn’t given to us was created by
man as a result of the way that you
think think so what gets inside of us as
a cell comes about as a result of the
way that we choose to think in our lives
very important principle to understand
because once you get a hold of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes it
so creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you be imagery or an
image that you have on anything in your
life is really like mental behavior it’s
like going out and practicing to go out
and practice for the basketball shooting
free throws over and over again that’s
physical practice imagery is mental
practices mental behavior when you have
an image that you can succeed excel at
something when you have an image that
you can do it rather than that you can’t
do it when you get into your car and you
have an image that you’re going to find
a parking place rather than that’ll be
no place to park so you’re not looking
for no place to find you will start
acting on the image that you have very
much like you will start acting on the
practice that you have when you’re
shooting baskets or when you’re hitting
a forehand ER or working on your soup or
anything else that you’re doing Bucky
fuller who I served with on the Hunger
Project Advisory Council for nine years
who died not too long ago said that 99%
who you are we can’t touch you can’t
leave you can’t smell 99% of you is
untouchable I’m smelling invisible it is
what Ken Kaiser is called your your
conscious awareness it’s your it’s what
looks out behind those eyeballs what is
that it isn’t it isn’t cells it’s some
kind of conscious awareness that you are
and make no mistake about it you’ve
occupied a whole lot of bodies already
now this is not reincarnation talk
although I don’t know about this
reincarnation people ask me if I believe
in it I said well I taught in a junior
high school in the inner city of Detroit
for four years and I saw those dead
bodies come to life every day
three o’clock
so I believe in reincarnation all right
now if what you if 99% of who you are
you can’t touch and you can’t feel and
you can’t smell then where did what is
it who is it where are you what is this
thing called your essence or who you are
and where does it go now think of it you
were in a body I have a little baby girl
who’s the 11 months old and she and we
were all in a body that size was the
only body about this big got fingers
only this long got the tiny tiny little
parts all over the place
I mean she’s owning this all now is that
her is that her essence because I have
other children who are much older and I
am much older than that and I can
remember being free and being in a
different body still me still my essence
they’re different but totally doesn’t
even look anything like when I look was
11 month old and then I was 13 and had a
funny body at 13 but still my essence
was there in a whole new body hairs
growing all over the place that I didn’t
understand all kinds of things happening
to it you know then hairs falling out of
it later on you know looking at those
hairs and fall I would say what held it
in yesterday you know what Donna I don’t
even understand that okay and so it’s
like Who I am has been in many many
bodies already alright and that effort
you see
anything on our planet that is alive can
never die it can never die
life doesn’t die it just transforms it
just moves on to new places and new ways
of being new ways of being and the way
of being that is the most transcendent
of all is this way it comes from seeing
yourself as love and only having that to
give away only having that to give away
let’s say I would have stand up here – I
just visualize for a moment that I have
an orange and I take this orange
what juice kind of juice or apple juice
any chance once in a while come on now
and then though mango juice come out of
an orange one throw on no mistakes right
never no matter what next question
everybody passes seriously okay why when
you squeeze an orange as hard as you can
squeeze it does orange juice come up
because that’s not cuz it’s a noise
because that’s what’s inside isn’t it on
our planet when you squeeze something
what comes out of it is what’s inside
not too difficult alright does it matter
if your mother squeezes the orange
doesn’t matter what instruments you uses
does it matter if you just had your
period and then you squeeze it ours
doesn’t matter if your boss squeezes it
how about if your kids do it your kids
squeezing
does it matter doesn’t matter what time
of day suppose they do it at noon all
right how about it 4:00 in the morning
does that matter
whenever you squeeze an orange the only
thing you get out is what’s inside right
no arguments
same thing
same principle works for you it’s a
principle of the universe all right
someone squeezes you that is someone
puts pressure on you
someone says things about you that you
don’t like someone puts tension on you
whatever your boss says something to you
don’t like and out of you comes anger
and out of you comes hatred and out of
you comes fear or out of you comes
stress or out of you comes tension why
is it because of your boss the way they
squeeze is it because of your mother I
mean she really can be a pain sometimes
right is it because of your children
what comes out of you always when
someone squeezes you is what’s inside
this is the vital principle of being a
No Limit person it’s so crucial to get
this and understand that that if you
have any hatred in your heart for anyone
in this world or any anger or any fear
any of those things it has nothing to do
with the rest of the world it only has
to do with what you put inside now how
does what gets inside of you get there
that’s the key how does it get there as
you think only as you think you see
there’s no anger in the world there’s no
stress in the world there’s no tension
it’s perfect we’ve already a stuff it’s
perfect place it works just fine
it’s all flowing the way it’s supposed
to flow
the evidence board is it is that’s all
the evidence you need just look around
you everything out there’s a bear
everything including you there are no
mistakes it’s all and everything that
happens to you in your life whether it’s
a trauma whether it’s a disease whether
it’s somebody treating you in a certain
way there’s a lesson in all of it
no-limit people understand the lesson in
life and therefore celebrate the lessons
it’s true and when you get to that point
in your life where you’re not cursing
the things that come your way and
blaming the things that come your way
and particularly blaming it on somebody
else and you hear it all the time she
hurt my feelings
how’s that transom how can anybody hurt
your feelings your feelings come from
your thoughts no one can hurt your
feelings without your consent no one can
make a fool of you without your consent
no one can embarrass you without your
consent these are choices that you have
that comes from the way that you think
someone calls you a name a stupid you
turn around
I didn’t even tell anybody I was like
how do they know that huh and then you
blame the person who called you a name
instead of saying that’s just their
opinion that’s just where they are
that’s where they are on the path and
it’s okay all of you are in
relationships right everybody has a
relationship of some kind or another in
your relationship you have any problems
any of you have relationship you don’t
have any problems I’d like you to take
this microphone I want to sit down and
listen to you
everybody in a relationship has problems
okay right now when you say I’m in a
relationship I got problems therefore
there’s something wrong something’s
really wrong now if you’re in a
relationship human problems and
something is wrong
you got to call in a consultant right
you got to call in somebody to help you
with the problems you want the problems
with the line who are you gonna call me
you only got yourself that’s all you got
you might get a therapist once in a
while but they got worse problems than
you did the only consultant who can help
you with your problems is you and who is
that consultant that you’re calling in
we’ve already established that there’s
something wrong with that person right
I’m wrong so now you’re going to call in
a disabled person to deal with your
problem in your relationship right now
this is a really sick approach to curing
your problem
you got somebody that we can approach
you know talk to you you came home late
last week and this week I called you and
you didn’t gone I’m supposed to call you
and then you didn’t do it how could you
do that not as if the consultant your
clients cues know you come in and
helpless oh no no I cannot run anymore
but good that’s the person you got to
deal with your problem all right now
what you can do is you can change all of
that around you can say I’m in a
relationship we got problems there’s
nothing wrong with that that’s the way
things out you know my problem is that
you are different than I am and you
think differently than I do and you
behave differently than I do and you
smell different than I do and you have
all of these attitudes over here that I
don’t have nothing wrong with that
that’s the way it is when two people get
together in a relationship you don’t
have two people becoming one if you do
that then what you end up with there to
have persons who wants a half a person
in a relationship you always are single
even if you’re married and for you know
and involved in relationship Brooke
you’re still always single you’re still
always you your unique special perfect
self that is not trying to love but who
is life
who who is being loved the same as if
you pray to God and say God will you
please help me with my problem and one
God to do it for you never happen you’ve
got to be God not be afraid to carry God
around if you want to get healed you
have got to understand that you’re not
going to get healed if you are asking
someone else to heal you and ask any
doctor if you know any surgeon
particularly who’s taking somebody into
surgery and ask them which person has a
better chance of living surviving a
serious surgery is that the one who has
a will to live or is it the one who’s
just given up and the surgery and the
cases are exactly the same time but the
person who has that will which we can’t
define you can’t go out and get a bucket
full of will and bring it in there it’s
an attitude it’s an approach it’s a
belief that you can do something and
when you have that belief about yourself
then
you’ve got so much better opportunity to
be well in your life and a belief is
everything I don’t know if you’ve ever
thought of that
I watched a little girl five years old
learning how to swim and she holding on
to the edge of the pool and she wants to
get over here to the steps and it’s just
five feet or six feet and she’ll let go
in and she’ll hold on again she’ll let
go and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
goes for it okay you’ve all seen you’ve
seen this with your children Houston and
what you ask yourself is in the moment
before that when she was holding on and
then look at the moment afterwards does
she have any different skills what’s
changed and the skills and the scenery
new skills new learning skills in that
second what she had is a belief that she
can do it when you believe it
when you really just believe that you
can do it that’s what allows you to swim
and when you think about it now do you
not a swim yes so when you dive into the
water you don’t think about that you
just know when you dive into the water
you can swim you don’t have any
necessary swimming skills or anything
like that or when you get on a bicycle
you get on you know that you’re going to
unless you believe you can’t because
you’ve never gone out there and tried
I told a story of a patient of yours who
had that very problem who said she
didn’t know how to ride a bicycle you
know Gayle who came to me many years ago
and you know why she said she couldn’t
ride a bicycle because her mother
wouldn’t let her get on one cop out yeah
absolutely
and she had these beautiful big white
teeth and her mother had always told her
you could fall and break your teeth and
I wouldn’t want that to happen to you so
here she was now under 30 and telling me
that you couldn’t ride a bike and she
was in therapy and I said you’re okay
let’s go she said go where we’re going I
said well I’ve got a bicycle downstairs
and I’m going to show you how to ride a
bike I’m gonna have you teach yourself
how to do this she says look I didn’t
come here to pay you the kind of money
that I’m paying you to have you teach me
how to ride a bicycle I came here to
find out why I can’t I saw well you’re
gonna need another 30 seconds of therapy
easy okay the reason you can’t is
because you never got yourself on a
bicycle and until you do you never will
know and you just believe that you can’t
or that’s the end of that there’s no
more to talk about that now what we have
to do is get you to get out and we went
downstairs was a woman’s bike and I
helped a lot of people to teach
themselves how to ride a bike and what
you do when you teach you help someone
to teach themselves how to ride a bike
because you don’t teach anybody how to
ride a bike okay if you let them do it
all themselves you let them hold it let
them balance it let them move with it
you let them put the pedal down and move
the consult you stand back you know when
you’re ready you know in any movement
and you hold on for a second then you
put your foot back down and you you
practice this in practice and practice
that all yourself you know it was just
someone encouraging you and before long
in just a matter of minutes when I tell
you it was minute and this woman had
never been on a bicycle
she rode like two blocks on her bicycles
couldn’t believe that you she now had a
belief being to me means seeing the
greatness and
neatness in you and never letting
anybody else convince you to the
contrary when people ask me come on
you’re always talking about being up and
you’re always positive and so on you
mean to tell me that you’re always that
way this is like yeah yeah I really am
and it isn’t because I’m out there doing
something in an artificial way it’s an
authentic response to my heaven having
gotten the junk out of me and the junk
is the way that I used to think the way
that I used to think think for a moment
if you can visualize right here a clock
the clock and the hands on the clock go
from 1 to 12 the clock starts right out
here with the minute hand and it goes
over towards the 3-minute area and
that’s the time in your life when you
are moving away from yourselves commit
yourself that’s the time when you are
trying to put other people down trying
to prove that you’re bigger or better
than somebody else trying to make
yourself right all the time as opposed
to being with
it’s like you’re moving away and a lot
of people spend a lot of time moving
away from their true self because your
true self is this little child at this
beautiful little child inside of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of these you move away
towards the three and then you move down
here this one you’re still moving away
from yourself until you hit the six the
six is the point in your life
symbolically metaphorically here when
you are the farthest away from yourself
that you can be at the low point in your
life it’s the point where many people
break down or many people break down
their relationships whether they feel
full of despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals there a lot of people have to
really seek welfare
we’re at density there’s another part of
the clock that goes from 6 to 12 that I
think of as living in the light and this
is when and see this clock hand never
can go back
it can’t go back it can only go this way
it only goes this way as there’s life
that only goes this way forward in this
period this place between 6 and 12
that’s when you start coming back to
here that’s when that’s what
enlightenment is that’s what that’s the
pathway to enlightenment when you send
out that stuff that is destroying you
killing you in one way or another and
you move yourself back over here and
eventually you get yourself all the way
back this is the light over here this is
the place where you can’t go back you be
tempted you might be tempted to steal
you might be tempted to to to use anger
you might even slip a little bit
I can say it not too long ago was we got
a problem with our sprinkler and in my
home one of the sprinkler heads is off
and if you ever seen that happen to get
a gusher going up and I’ve been wanting
to get that thing replaced for the
longest time I’m walking out of the bank
and there’s a sprinkler head right there
it’s by the bank now I practically own
this bank it’s okay so I mean I go there
every day and I do a lot of business
which is banks when I’m looking at this
sprinkler head and I think you know all
I have to do is just unscrew this thing
I wasn’t honoring it don’t replace it
tomorrow morning it’s 98 cents or
whatever so I actually get down there
and I’m and I start turning the
sprinkler and then I start thinking do I
want this karma to you know do I want do
I want to steal do I want to take I know
it’s only a 90 night and I went into the
bank they probably give me one anyway if
I up and I turn and I just turned it
back I said if I want a sprinkler head
I’ll go and buy one for myself this
along surveillance
this is like a flip second of weakness
there or whatever one but it Illustrated
to me that I can’t go back there I could
never and there was a time in my life
when I could have done that I can be
absolutely fine with that
I can’t go back there anymore that’s
where you’re starting that’s the place
to stay because when you get all of that
out when that’s all done and I mean gone
and it only comes about as a result of
the way that you think so it’s just
changing around your approach to life
the way that you think in like when that
starts to go away what you become filled
up with is what your natural self is
which is this loving accepting not
fighting the universe but instead living
in it and going with the flow and all of
the kinds of pieces that you’ve heard
about in time it is that’s the metaphor
and you see every time you try to go
back can’t do it you can’t do it and the
ingredients that make for a No Limit
life are five in my opinion the first is
quality rather than appearance you begin
to change your thinking from appearances
and how things look and how other people
view me okay because every time you find
yourself upset in life about anything
that anyone else has said what you’re
really saying is what you think of me is
more important than what I think of but
you change from appearances to what I
call quality thinking quality what is
the quality of my life rather than how
does it appear to others now do you tell
yourself that because my friends don’t
like me that that means there’s
something wrong with me now that that’s
what you have to learn that another
person’s opinion is just that if their
opinion and that’s all it is every time
you are upset or your children are
because of what somebody else says
including their peers what you are
really saying in that moment and this is
really important what you’re saying is
what you think of me more important than
when I think of myself and you must
never give anybody that kind of power
and control over you because they will
always have it the funny part about
approval for those of you who really
want it Andrea now I’m here to tell you
that I like approval I enjoy it I find
it one of the most exciting things in
the way I like it when people read my
books I love it when people applaud like
it when people tell me nice things and
all I like approval I’m the first one to
admit it what I don’t do is I don’t need
approval there’s a big difference
between wanting approval and needed when
you need approval it means you become
immobilized when you don’t get it
from making other people’s opinions more
important now for those of you who say
yeah but I want approval and I need it
and if I don’t get it and so on
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop needing it you
stop concerning yourself over ask
yourself who gets the most approval in
life think of the person that gets the
most approval and you’ll see that that
person couldn’t care less what other
people are thinking they’re so busy
being they don’t have time to notice
what their neighbors are doing the Rose
said that consider if you advance
confidently in the direction of your own
dreams and endeavor to live the life
which you have
you will meet the basic size
unexpected in common hours what that
means is that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do it isn’t something you get out of
what you do and when you get that and
you learn how to get the junk out and
advance confidently doing what makes the
most amount of sense to you based on
your inner signals and the one issue of
morality which is you never interfere
with anybody else’s right to do the same
each person has their own right to
advance confidently in the direction of
their own dreams and when you violate
that you’re violating the principle of
the universe destined for you which is
cooperation harmony then success will
begin to chase you and it will come into
your life
and arise in your life in amounts that
you never dreamt of before that you
never dreamt up things will start
happening to you that you would never
imagined before I’m working on a book
right now that’s gonna be called you’ll
see it when you believe it
when you start believing
in some of these principles you’ll start
seeing things that we were blind so long
when you were back here in the two and
three and the four and the five when you
were moving away from yourself as long
as you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things will start happening in ways I
never dreamt of Jung called it
synchronicity and we it’s a term that we
use to explain how unexplainable
coincidences sort of happen in our life
and how come these things have I’m going
to share a couple of those with you
before we leave the the quality versus
appearance in your life means that you
get that inner candle flame working in a
way that gives you quality independent
on what other people think of you Maslow
in defining self actualizing No Limit
people that they are independent of the
good opinion of other people of the glue
to think independently they’re so busy
advancing confidently doing the things
that makes sense and bringing success to
changing their baby’s diapers and
bringing success to weeding their
gardens and bringing it to the job they
bring it on the airplane so that when
they run into somebody who is who is
rude to them a stewardess that is rude
they don’t see it as an attack on them
it’s just where they are and they send
them love help them a little bit they’re
kind but somebody wants to get in on the
freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the sixth
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first but
it’s slowed down they don’t have all
that type-a stuff of having to beat
somebody else and having to defeat
somebody it is it’s a new way of being
it’s a way of quality where you’re
harmony allows you to cooperate and you
are a part of what this whole thing is
about
new way of being a quality rather than
appearance another new way of being very
important living your life on ethics
rather than rules ethics rather than
rules all these rules all these ways of
having to do things somebody else
dictates to us do you know that some of
the most immoral acts in the world have
been perpetrated in the name of the
rules these are the laws what do you
think Nazi Germany was all about
everybody doing all these horrible
things to other people I’m only doing my
job was the defense we all heard at
Nuremberg I was just doing my job
if it’s an immoral rule it’s immoral to
obey it and self-actualizing people as
mezzo tells us have rules inside of them
that they could never open never disobey
ever and they have to do with ethics how
you treat people how do you think we get
to where we are now you know who Rosa
Parks was the woman in the south the
black woman in the south and said not
today I’m not going to the back today no
way I know what the rules are the rules
were all over the place if you didn’t
need if you needed a reminder there were
signs everyplace colored in the back
white in the front and she said no I’m
sitting here and that made all the
difference
ethics not rules when your children
start disobeying rules that need to be
disobeyed don’t be surprised when I was
in the service
they had a policy in Guam where I was
stationed which would not allow the
Guamanian civilians to shop in the PX in
the Navy exchanges but they did allow
all other civilians to shop in the Navy
exchanges and vehicles but if you were
Guamanian that is if your skin was dark
and your eyes were saved from the
different then you couldn’t a clear
outright violation I was a service I was
no native the communications have
cryptography they had a newspaper in the
Guam Daily News and it said an
invitation to speak your mind there was
a letter writing contest and they
offered $75 to the first prize winner
$75 this was 1961 that was a fortune to
me that was a month’s pay in the Navy at
that time almost so I entered the
contest and I knew I would win it I had
already written a novel at that time a
whole novel I’d written while I was on
Guam I knew it wasn’t going to be a
contest I felt sorry for the other
people entering I knew I was gonna win
unfortunately I didn’t realize that when
you’re in the service and you have an
opinion and you don’t submit it to the
chain of command that you can be
court-martialed for that so the
headlines on next week’s Guam Daily News
were US sailor
a sales policy of discrimination big hot
stuff all right and I was called before
a Vice Admiral commander naval forces
Marianas Islands and threatened with a
court-martial because I had disobeyed
the rules even though the rule was
immoral there are lots of them like that
and when I went in and they threatened
me with a court-martial I told them this
was my battle plan they didn’t have
Xerox machines in those days so I had to
get a lot of carbon paper I wrote a
letter to the President John F Kennedy
and I wrote a letter to the Secretary of
the Navy and I wrote a letter I was my
hometown was Detroit I wrote a letter to
the Detroit News letter to the Detroit
Free Press telling them what was
happening to me as a result of just
expressing my opinion about an immoral
act that was going on over here on Guam
and I showed the navel vice-admiral my
letters right there but I’ve only sent
the one to the president in the
Secretary of the Navy these letters go
to the newspapers across the country
there’s one there to the New York Times
as well and the Los Angeles town it was
the and I just spread them out before
him I said if you court-martial me
punish me in any way for this then
what’s going to happen is the world is
going to find out about this policy and
I’m prepared I’m ready I can handle it
and I was 20 years old at the time for
21 not only did I get a blessing from
that because all things come in
blessings for you I got out 90 days
early
and they stamped on my record TI because
the president took it up and sent it to
the secretary Muslim and I never heard
from him but I got P I and your record
means political influence and they don’t
like anybody with political influence in
the litter and as soon as they saw that
they said this is somebody we call
giving history there was no book there
was no court-martial and in September of
1962 a brand new policy was initiated on
Guam which allowed any civilian to shop
in the Navy exchanges and it came about
as a result of someone saying these
rules are tomorrow and therefore it’s
immoral to obey them new ways of being
ethics rather than truth and when your
kids want to know why how come these
rules are so stupid how come we have to
do this encourage them to change my
mother always did that she would have to
help me
get out of the out of the messes but I
got myself into it because I did it in
my impetuous youth I was just when they
would say to me what’s more important
your job or school I was just honest at
the top of course that’s how I felt in
those days but what you do put out in
the world
is exactly what’s coming back to you and
if you find things coming back to you
that you don’t like and don’t understand
don’t ask yourself why these things are
coming to you ask yourself what you’re
doing to make them come back to you and
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself you’ll start
seeing dramatic changes dramatic changes
new way of being
instead of ethic instead of rules ethics
a new another new way of being instead
of looking all your life for
achievements and externals try living
your life on knowledge for the sake of
knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge be
in a in a context in which you don’t
have to collect a lot of merit badges
you don’t have to collect a lot of a lot
of other people
judgements that you go to school you go
out into the world or you read or
whatever you do because it makes sense
to you not because what somebody else is
going to put on a transcript or where
you’re going to appear in a class list
we need to help our children to
understand and value the importance of
knowledge for the sake of knowledge and
doing things that make sense rather than
taking the easy way knowledge rather
than always trying to achieve we’re in
an achievement oriented society which
tells us that we evaluate and judge a
human being based upon how many chief
achievements he has but most of the
people who get caught up in that trap
and are always in this circle trying to
get ahead trying to always get ahead
their reward for that almost always is
higher blood pressure ulcers early death
and even things like cancer we’re
beginning to find out are related to
kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress minute there’s only people’s
thinking stress
and when you put that pressure on
yourself to always achieve and get ahead
of the other guy you miss what it’s
really all about nothing wrong with
goals it’s falling in love with them
that’s the problem it’s not being able
to be flexible and be all to them if you
have a goal to get here to get $100,000
in the bank to get to this promotion to
get to cars in your garage whatever it
is that your goal is and you’re on your
way to that and you’re always working at
that goal all of this stuff on your way
to the goal is called striving and
that’s what you learn striving so it is
a very low level place to be when you
get to your goal because all you’ve ever
known is driving you will just always
suffer from this disease called more you
will just upgrade your goal to $200,000
for cars and to houses and another wife
and a younger one and all of these kinds
of things if you have a goal and you
understand that every step along the way
is the present moment to enjoy and to
live then the goal won’t become any
obsession I don’t
people asking where you’re going to be
five years what are you going to be
doing what’s next for you I just
remember what Lincoln said who to me was
like the greatest person who ever sat in
that White House he said I’ve never had
a policy he said I just tried to do what
made the greatest amount of sense each
and every day of my life as I was not
there at the President of the United and
I think there’s something really
significant in that that you don’t have
to get it all planned out and follow a
certain pattern and do it a certain way
if you just sort of trust your inner
instinct and go with that and live each
moment the gold stuff we’ll all take
care if you’re sacrificing and pushing
your life aside and then buffering on
your way to trying to get someplace
you’ll never get there it will always
elude you because once you get there
you’ll just have to upgrade it and
that’s because that’s all you know
nowness is that purest form of sanity
living in this moment and enjoying it
and all the rest of it will sort of work
its way out another new way of being for
me
is to think of yourself in terms of
personal authority rather than being an
authoritarian personal Authority a
person who has Authority never needs to
dominate anyone else ever dominating
doesn’t become necessary in business you
can have a Thor that people have the
most authority are the ones who listen
the most and the ones who are the most
conscientious about what do other people
have to say a person in a relationship
who have to dominate somebody else has
to make the other person submissive
shows that they don’t have authority
because they’re getting their power not
from within for themselves but on the
basis of who they can control and I’ve
never left the only thing that lasts is
having inner power if you will know
thyself so Shakespeare said know thyself
the more you know yourself the more you
and when you become honest with yourself
honestly becomes just a way of life no I
don’t think the world necessarily does
but you can’t run your world you can’t
run your world based upon what the rest
of the people in the world want or don’t
want to me honesty it’s like it’s a
karma that goes out into the world how
people through you in the world is there
kind of how you react is yours and what
when you react to it with dishonesty
that’s what you’re putting out into the
world dishonesty and when you put this
on honesty out into the world that’s
what’s going to come back to you because
what goes out is what comes back at all
as you sow so shall you reap in every
great institution that there is in the
world whether it’s a religion or
philosophy or whatever what you put out
is what comes back whatever you plant is
what you’re going to get back and the
more that you put out honestly just
because it’s what you are because you
are being honesty you’re not trying to
be on it you’re as being honesty then
that’s what will come back to you
regular basis and when it doesn’t you
just be that as another test for your
path and finally a fifth way of being
that is new for me and because become a
way of life
it’s called serenity
instead of acquisitions the more you try
to acquire the more you try to get the
more you try to collect in your life and
evaluate yourself on the basis of that
the less serenity you’re going to have
more is less it’s almost a secret of the
universe
serenity means inner peace
means that you can find joy in every
moment that you have in your life
instead of like always looking for it it
means that while you are driving along
the countryside you know and seeing
instead of saying our business I’m on my
way to this point and you can open your
eyes and see it with new eyes see see
the rolling mountains see the grass
these are deer see the skies you can
just stop wherever you are in this
second wherever you are and just look
around you and you can begin to
appreciate just your and your
surroundings in your environment then
you can begin to appreciate the people
that are in your life and even the ones
that are negative and you’re having the
most difficulty with you can practice a
new way of being with them which is
sending them love letting them flowers
and then book l’anima take send them
something and just see what kind of
reaction that you get super emotional
health it’s just an attitude an attitude
is everything
I want to love summarize these new ways
of being again give you the most
important ingredient on the path as we
leave I said that the quality in your
life to be focusing on president
appearances and ethics president rule
planet’s knowledge rather than
achievement Auditor
and it’s being personally on board here
yourself rather than authoritarian and
trying to be downloaded dominating
someone else or to be dominated and
serenity which is the name of my little
girl my youngest daughter Serena rather
than acquisitions and accumulations and
trying to prove yourself that way when
you get that serenity which comes from
the way that you think always then you
will replace all of the other junk that
keeps you back here between six and one
on that clock and once you pass it once
you get past it you’ll never ever be
able to go back because the light living
in the light is a way of a way of being
that if you’re not there you don’t get
it yet but once you see it and once it
begins to and take over your life you
can never go back to that is your
it isn’t your purpose isn’t to try to be
loving your purpose is to be loved and
only have that to give away well but
there’s one other ingredient and its
really gruesome forgiveness is the vital
ingredient on the path of enlightenment
and if you don’t know how to do it and
practice sending out love take the
person or the people that you’re having
conflict with any place in your life
send them something you don’t have to
even do it physically just send them
something that comes from inside and
what’s inside is how you choose to think
and if you can make that love and do
that and that is to me the test not
whether you can love someone when they
smell good when they do everything that
you’re supposed but whether you could
love someone who has sent you hate or
anguish in your life and send it back
you don’t have to forget you don’t have
to go back
but you better get it out of here
because it is blocking you and holding
you back and when I said you’ll see it
when you believe it all my life I had
wanted to write fiction a parable three
four years ago I decided to go off to
Hawaii to Maui to kind of poly beach and
to write now the books that had met the
most difference in my life were a little
prince candied Siddhartha Jonathan
Livingston Seagull illusions Alice
Through the Looking Glass Gulliver’s
Travels parables teaching parables
stories that can tell a message I went
over to Molly and I sat down on the
beach and I’ve been talking about
writing this I’ve been talking about
doing this and it was something that I
have a little girl and her name is Skye
SK why I decided to reverse the letters
in her name
ey k s
and when I am
my keys I just created this parable of a
woman whose name is I guess who lives on
another planet the planet is Uranus and
it’s a duplicate mirror image of Earth
only hikers can only see things as they
are not as we would like them to be and
therefore people are neurotic on Uranus
because they have to be he gives the
anxiety attack report because I excited
he really does attack over there and
tell us about anxiety coming another
weekend while my visitor in my parable
goes to Uranus meets I guess she cannot
understand as he describes earth why
people would be neurotic my choice on
earth why would anybody be unhappy or
depressed or miserable when they don’t
have one anxiety doesn’t attack and when
elevators really don’t scare you and
when if you want to complex on the
Iranian so you want to give a complex to
your wife you go to the store and buy
one this is what happened well my
husband gave me a complex one it’s two
whereas on earth if you have a complex
it’s because you’ve chosen to have one
she can’t figure it out okay cuz he
comes here observes our people and
begins to see the secrets of the
universe and gives us talks to the top
leaders in our field and that was my
parable and I wrote it it gives all of
these wonderful secrets some of which
I’ve been talking about here today what
I want to tell you is that my wife gave
me a license plate and the license plate
says I kiss okay it’s a vanity plate and
I was pumping gas on federal highway in
Fort Lauderdale Florida and a little man
from the grease came up to me and he
said but means this ftas which is how
you say that in Greek and I said well
that’s just a word it’s my daughter’s
name spelled backwards it’s a parable
that I wrote
he’s been in Greek that’s a word
so what could that be he said it means
best wishes
you’ll see it when you believe a great
big erroneously on the cosmic erroneous
and to get this one you’ll have it and
understand it all
today is choosing your own greatness or
being a No Limit person taking charge of
your own life something I really believe
that you are the sum total of all of the
choices that you’ve made up until now
and anything about yourself or your life
that you don’t like isn’t working or
it’s mobilizing you is to be looked at
in terms of can I grow rather than why
did I do this wrong see the two ways to
motivate yourself our deficiency
motivation which says where I am I don’t
like I don’t like what I’ve done like
the fact that I can’t do this well or I
can’t do that well so I will list these
things in my own repertoire and then I
will be constantly trying to repair
those deficiencies always assuming that
I’m deficient that there’s something
wrong with me and I’m trying to fix it
and when you do that you spend your
whole life stick around and you never
arrive because your life becomes a
series of trying to get someplace else
and it is if you follow that if you live
that if you behave that then what
happens to you is you become a person
who will always suffer from this disease
called more you always have to have more
because whenever you are getting where
you want to go let’s say you want
$100,000 in the bank and your work then
is from when you deny yourself and you
do all of those things and you finally
finally you get there and here you are
hundred thousand dollars in the bank all
of this stuff will be here of course
your life that is all you know that’s
what you know how to how you are that is
your being that is your way of being so
that when you do get here what you will
do is say this is not enough you must a
No Limit person is never operating from
deficiency or from lack in their life
they’re never saying I don’t have enough
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you see you’re never going to get enough
you already are
everything you’re everything that you
need think of it for just a moment
everything that you need to have total
bliss perfection of your life you
already are go to Hammond you came into
this world with nothing that’s how
you’re going out and the time that you
have here it what you have is your
uniqueness your specialness and you
don’t need anything else now think on
this if you don’t know how to appreciate
what you have and where you are in your
life you don’t need anything else
because if you do get something else you
won’t know how to appreciate that either
you’ll just want more or you’ll want it
to be different or you want it to be the
way it used to be or you’ll want someone
else to be the way you think they should
be successful people are no limit people
are self actualizing people inner
directed people however you whatever
labels that have been put on them by
great thinkers philosophers and
therapists and people that have looked
at human being
these kinds of people are people who
always have enough there are some people
if you invite them over and you say you
know I’d like you to like you to come
over tonight I’d like you to stay over
if you can instead of having to drive
back and I can you say can you stay yeah
well I don’t know if I can stay or not
well you could sleep on the cot oh no no
I could never sleep on the cot I can’t
sleep on consciousness
I got sciatica don’t you something I
have a high of back pain and the way I
got on cots no that’s out of the
question I couldn’t sleep on a cot and
what about breakfast well we don’t have
any food that we have some old
grapefruit that are in the in the
refrigerator they have a few spots on
them off no I could never eat
grapefruits in some spots no thanks I
can’t eat great food spots I just
couldn’t do that
and these are people who never have
enough they are are not able to be
flexible and to change there are other
people if you say would you like to
sleep over well we got a place in the
sewers hey that’d be great I can handle
that
no problem I’ve slept there before so
all we have is great for all I love
grapefruit well we got to good bottom oh
I really like grapefruit spots those are
terrific uh I’ll go for those there are
some people who can handle anything not
because their circumstances are
different you see your circumstances
have very little to do with your
fulfillment in life very little it’s
it’s how you’re approaching your
circumstances it’s your attitude towards
your circumstances that make all the
difference in the world and taking what
you are and accepting it no limit people
are human being who take what they are
and accepting and don’t tell themselves
that somehow they’re deficient because
of anything about themselves this is a
very crucial
concepts before for me and for virtually
all of us it’s this idea of taking your
life in your own hands and being the
kind of person that you choose to be and
understanding that everything that comes
your way there’s an opportunity is a
blessing and it wasn’t until I learned
how to celebrate virtually everything
that came my way that I was able to
transcend it you see everything that was
given to us by God whatever that is
is perfect no one can deny the mountains
are perfect and the rivers are perfect
and the birds are perfect and the
hippopotamus is imperfect and and so on
this is just what was given to it
everything else that you have on our
planet that we have in our planet comes
about as a result of thinking thinking
spot makes itself
this comes about as a result of thinking
somebody imagines that somebody then
tells somebody else and it’s a creative
the dress that you’re wearing we assert
that on issues that you have the stage
these cameras everything that you see
that wasn’t given to us was created by
man as a result of the way that you
think think so what gets inside of us as
a cell comes about as a result of the
way that we choose to think in our lives
very important principle to understand
because once you get a hold of thinking
and that it creates everything that you
have in your life you can change and
make it is absolutely perfect as you
want it to be because thought makes it
so creative visualization is what we’re
talking about here you be imagery or an
image that you have on anything in your
life is really like mental behavior it’s
like going out and practicing to go out
and practice for the basketball shooting
free throws over and over again that’s
physical practice imagery is mental
practices mental behavior when you have
an image that you can succeed excel at
something when you have an image that
you can do it rather than that you can’t
do it when you get into your car and you
have an image that you’re going to find
a parking place rather than that’ll be
no place to park so you’re not looking
for no place to find you will start
acting on the image that you have very
much like you will start acting on the
practice that you have when you’re
shooting baskets or when you’re hitting
a forehand ER or working on your soup or
anything else that you’re doing Bucky
fuller who I served with on the Hunger
Project Advisory Council for nine years
who died not too long ago said that 99%
who you are we can’t touch you can’t
leave you can’t smell 99% of you is
untouchable I’m smelling invisible it is
what Ken Kaiser is called your your
conscious awareness it’s your it’s what
looks out behind those eyeballs what is
that it isn’t it isn’t cells it’s some
kind of conscious awareness that you are
and make no mistake about it you’ve
occupied a whole lot of bodies already
now this is not reincarnation talk
although I don’t know about this
reincarnation people ask me if I believe
in it I said well I taught in a junior
high school in the inner city of Detroit
for four years and I saw those dead
bodies come to life every day
three o’clock
so I believe in reincarnation all right
now if what you if 99% of who you are
you can’t touch and you can’t feel and
you can’t smell then where did what is
it who is it where are you what is this
thing called your essence or who you are
and where does it go now think of it you
were in a body I have a little baby girl
who’s the 11 months old and she and we
were all in a body that size was the
only body about this big got fingers
only this long got the tiny tiny little
parts all over the place
I mean she’s owning this all now is that
her is that her essence because I have
other children who are much older and I
am much older than that and I can
remember being free and being in a
different body still me still my essence
they’re different but totally doesn’t
even look anything like when I look was
11 month old and then I was 13 and had a
funny body at 13 but still my essence
was there in a whole new body hairs
growing all over the place that I didn’t
understand all kinds of things happening
to it you know then hairs falling out of
it later on you know looking at those
hairs and fall I would say what held it
in yesterday you know what Donna I don’t
even understand that okay and so it’s
like Who I am has been in many many
bodies already alright and that effort
you see
anything on our planet that is alive can
never die it can never die
life doesn’t die it just transforms it
just moves on to new places and new ways
of being new ways of being and the way
of being that is the most transcendent
of all is this way it comes from seeing
yourself as love and only having that to
give away only having that to give away
let’s say I would have stand up here – I
just visualize for a moment that I have
an orange and I take this orange
what juice kind of juice or apple juice
any chance once in a while come on now
and then though mango juice come out of
an orange one throw on no mistakes right
never no matter what next question
everybody passes seriously okay why when
you squeeze an orange as hard as you can
squeeze it does orange juice come up
because that’s not cuz it’s a noise
because that’s what’s inside isn’t it on
our planet when you squeeze something
what comes out of it is what’s inside
not too difficult alright does it matter
if your mother squeezes the orange
doesn’t matter what instruments you uses
does it matter if you just had your
period and then you squeeze it ours
doesn’t matter if your boss squeezes it
how about if your kids do it your kids
squeezing
does it matter doesn’t matter what time
of day suppose they do it at noon all
right how about it 4:00 in the morning
does that matter
whenever you squeeze an orange the only
thing you get out is what’s inside right
no arguments
same thing
same principle works for you it’s a
principle of the universe all right
someone squeezes you that is someone
puts pressure on you
someone says things about you that you
don’t like someone puts tension on you
whatever your boss says something to you
don’t like and out of you comes anger
and out of you comes hatred and out of
you comes fear or out of you comes
stress or out of you comes tension why
is it because of your boss the way they
squeeze is it because of your mother I
mean she really can be a pain sometimes
right is it because of your children
what comes out of you always when
someone squeezes you is what’s inside
this is the vital principle of being a
No Limit person it’s so crucial to get
this and understand that that if you
have any hatred in your heart for anyone
in this world or any anger or any fear
any of those things it has nothing to do
with the rest of the world it only has
to do with what you put inside now how
does what gets inside of you get there
that’s the key how does it get there as
you think only as you think you see
there’s no anger in the world there’s no
stress in the world there’s no tension
it’s perfect we’ve already a stuff it’s
perfect place it works just fine
it’s all flowing the way it’s supposed
to flow
the evidence board is it is that’s all
the evidence you need just look around
you everything out there’s a bear
everything including you there are no
mistakes it’s all and everything that
happens to you in your life whether it’s
a trauma whether it’s a disease whether
it’s somebody treating you in a certain
way there’s a lesson in all of it
no-limit people understand the lesson in
life and therefore celebrate the lessons
it’s true and when you get to that point
in your life where you’re not cursing
the things that come your way and
blaming the things that come your way
and particularly blaming it on somebody
else and you hear it all the time she
hurt my feelings
how’s that transom how can anybody hurt
your feelings your feelings come from
your thoughts no one can hurt your
feelings without your consent no one can
make a fool of you without your consent
no one can embarrass you without your
consent these are choices that you have
that comes from the way that you think
someone calls you a name a stupid you
turn around
I didn’t even tell anybody I was like
how do they know that huh and then you
blame the person who called you a name
instead of saying that’s just their
opinion that’s just where they are
that’s where they are on the path and
it’s okay all of you are in
relationships right everybody has a
relationship of some kind or another in
your relationship you have any problems
any of you have relationship you don’t
have any problems I’d like you to take
this microphone I want to sit down and
listen to you
everybody in a relationship has problems
okay right now when you say I’m in a
relationship I got problems therefore
there’s something wrong something’s
really wrong now if you’re in a
relationship human problems and
something is wrong
you got to call in a consultant right
you got to call in somebody to help you
with the problems you want the problems
with the line who are you gonna call me
you only got yourself that’s all you got
you might get a therapist once in a
while but they got worse problems than
you did the only consultant who can help
you with your problems is you and who is
that consultant that you’re calling in
we’ve already established that there’s
something wrong with that person right
I’m wrong so now you’re going to call in
a disabled person to deal with your
problem in your relationship right now
this is a really sick approach to curing
your problem
you got somebody that we can approach
you know talk to you you came home late
last week and this week I called you and
you didn’t gone I’m supposed to call you
and then you didn’t do it how could you
do that not as if the consultant your
clients cues know you come in and
helpless oh no no I cannot run anymore
but good that’s the person you got to
deal with your problem all right now
what you can do is you can change all of
that around you can say I’m in a
relationship we got problems there’s
nothing wrong with that that’s the way
things out you know my problem is that
you are different than I am and you
think differently than I do and you
behave differently than I do and you
smell different than I do and you have
all of these attitudes over here that I
don’t have nothing wrong with that
that’s the way it is when two people get
together in a relationship you don’t
have two people becoming one if you do
that then what you end up with there to
have persons who wants a half a person
in a relationship you always are single
even if you’re married and for you know
and involved in relationship Brooke
you’re still always single you’re still
always you your unique special perfect
self that is not trying to love but who
is life
who who is being loved the same as if
you pray to God and say God will you
please help me with my problem and one
God to do it for you never happen you’ve
got to be God not be afraid to carry God
around if you want to get healed you
have got to understand that you’re not
going to get healed if you are asking
someone else to heal you and ask any
doctor if you know any surgeon
particularly who’s taking somebody into
surgery and ask them which person has a
better chance of living surviving a
serious surgery is that the one who has
a will to live or is it the one who’s
just given up and the surgery and the
cases are exactly the same time but the
person who has that will which we can’t
define you can’t go out and get a bucket
full of will and bring it in there it’s
an attitude it’s an approach it’s a
belief that you can do something and
when you have that belief about yourself
then
you’ve got so much better opportunity to
be well in your life and a belief is
everything I don’t know if you’ve ever
thought of that
I watched a little girl five years old
learning how to swim and she holding on
to the edge of the pool and she wants to
get over here to the steps and it’s just
five feet or six feet and she’ll let go
in and she’ll hold on again she’ll let
go and she’ll hold on again and finally
there comes a time when she lets go and
goes for it okay you’ve all seen you’ve
seen this with your children Houston and
what you ask yourself is in the moment
before that when she was holding on and
then look at the moment afterwards does
she have any different skills what’s
changed and the skills and the scenery
new skills new learning skills in that
second what she had is a belief that she
can do it when you believe it
when you really just believe that you
can do it that’s what allows you to swim
and when you think about it now do you
not a swim yes so when you dive into the
water you don’t think about that you
just know when you dive into the water
you can swim you don’t have any
necessary swimming skills or anything
like that or when you get on a bicycle
you get on you know that you’re going to
unless you believe you can’t because
you’ve never gone out there and tried
I told a story of a patient of yours who
had that very problem who said she
didn’t know how to ride a bicycle you
know Gayle who came to me many years ago
and you know why she said she couldn’t
ride a bicycle because her mother
wouldn’t let her get on one cop out yeah
absolutely
and she had these beautiful big white
teeth and her mother had always told her
you could fall and break your teeth and
I wouldn’t want that to happen to you so
here she was now under 30 and telling me
that you couldn’t ride a bike and she
was in therapy and I said you’re okay
let’s go she said go where we’re going I
said well I’ve got a bicycle downstairs
and I’m going to show you how to ride a
bike I’m gonna have you teach yourself
how to do this she says look I didn’t
come here to pay you the kind of money
that I’m paying you to have you teach me
how to ride a bicycle I came here to
find out why I can’t I saw well you’re
gonna need another 30 seconds of therapy
easy okay the reason you can’t is
because you never got yourself on a
bicycle and until you do you never will
know and you just believe that you can’t
or that’s the end of that there’s no
more to talk about that now what we have
to do is get you to get out and we went
downstairs was a woman’s bike and I
helped a lot of people to teach
themselves how to ride a bike and what
you do when you teach you help someone
to teach themselves how to ride a bike
because you don’t teach anybody how to
ride a bike okay if you let them do it
all themselves you let them hold it let
them balance it let them move with it
you let them put the pedal down and move
the consult you stand back you know when
you’re ready you know in any movement
and you hold on for a second then you
put your foot back down and you you
practice this in practice and practice
that all yourself you know it was just
someone encouraging you and before long
in just a matter of minutes when I tell
you it was minute and this woman had
never been on a bicycle
she rode like two blocks on her bicycles
couldn’t believe that you she now had a
belief being to me means seeing the
greatness and
neatness in you and never letting
anybody else convince you to the
contrary when people ask me come on
you’re always talking about being up and
you’re always positive and so on you
mean to tell me that you’re always that
way this is like yeah yeah I really am
and it isn’t because I’m out there doing
something in an artificial way it’s an
authentic response to my heaven having
gotten the junk out of me and the junk
is the way that I used to think the way
that I used to think think for a moment
if you can visualize right here a clock
the clock and the hands on the clock go
from 1 to 12 the clock starts right out
here with the minute hand and it goes
over towards the 3-minute area and
that’s the time in your life when you
are moving away from yourselves commit
yourself that’s the time when you are
trying to put other people down trying
to prove that you’re bigger or better
than somebody else trying to make
yourself right all the time as opposed
to being with
it’s like you’re moving away and a lot
of people spend a lot of time moving
away from their true self because your
true self is this little child at this
beautiful little child inside of you
that has only love and acceptance for
everything in the world and no disease
no absence of these you move away
towards the three and then you move down
here this one you’re still moving away
from yourself until you hit the six the
six is the point in your life
symbolically metaphorically here when
you are the farthest away from yourself
that you can be at the low point in your
life it’s the point where many people
break down or many people break down
their relationships whether they feel
full of despair they feel full of hatred
whatever it may be and a lot of people
die then a lot of people are put into
hospitals there a lot of people have to
really seek welfare
we’re at density there’s another part of
the clock that goes from 6 to 12 that I
think of as living in the light and this
is when and see this clock hand never
can go back
it can’t go back it can only go this way
it only goes this way as there’s life
that only goes this way forward in this
period this place between 6 and 12
that’s when you start coming back to
here that’s when that’s what
enlightenment is that’s what that’s the
pathway to enlightenment when you send
out that stuff that is destroying you
killing you in one way or another and
you move yourself back over here and
eventually you get yourself all the way
back this is the light over here this is
the place where you can’t go back you be
tempted you might be tempted to steal
you might be tempted to to to use anger
you might even slip a little bit
I can say it not too long ago was we got
a problem with our sprinkler and in my
home one of the sprinkler heads is off
and if you ever seen that happen to get
a gusher going up and I’ve been wanting
to get that thing replaced for the
longest time I’m walking out of the bank
and there’s a sprinkler head right there
it’s by the bank now I practically own
this bank it’s okay so I mean I go there
every day and I do a lot of business
which is banks when I’m looking at this
sprinkler head and I think you know all
I have to do is just unscrew this thing
I wasn’t honoring it don’t replace it
tomorrow morning it’s 98 cents or
whatever so I actually get down there
and I’m and I start turning the
sprinkler and then I start thinking do I
want this karma to you know do I want do
I want to steal do I want to take I know
it’s only a 90 night and I went into the
bank they probably give me one anyway if
I up and I turn and I just turned it
back I said if I want a sprinkler head
I’ll go and buy one for myself this
along surveillance
this is like a flip second of weakness
there or whatever one but it Illustrated
to me that I can’t go back there I could
never and there was a time in my life
when I could have done that I can be
absolutely fine with that
I can’t go back there anymore that’s
where you’re starting that’s the place
to stay because when you get all of that
out when that’s all done and I mean gone
and it only comes about as a result of
the way that you think so it’s just
changing around your approach to life
the way that you think in like when that
starts to go away what you become filled
up with is what your natural self is
which is this loving accepting not
fighting the universe but instead living
in it and going with the flow and all of
the kinds of pieces that you’ve heard
about in time it is that’s the metaphor
and you see every time you try to go
back can’t do it you can’t do it and the
ingredients that make for a No Limit
life are five in my opinion the first is
quality rather than appearance you begin
to change your thinking from appearances
and how things look and how other people
view me okay because every time you find
yourself upset in life about anything
that anyone else has said what you’re
really saying is what you think of me is
more important than what I think of but
you change from appearances to what I
call quality thinking quality what is
the quality of my life rather than how
does it appear to others now do you tell
yourself that because my friends don’t
like me that that means there’s
something wrong with me now that that’s
what you have to learn that another
person’s opinion is just that if their
opinion and that’s all it is every time
you are upset or your children are
because of what somebody else says
including their peers what you are
really saying in that moment and this is
really important what you’re saying is
what you think of me more important than
when I think of myself and you must
never give anybody that kind of power
and control over you because they will
always have it the funny part about
approval for those of you who really
want it Andrea now I’m here to tell you
that I like approval I enjoy it I find
it one of the most exciting things in
the way I like it when people read my
books I love it when people applaud like
it when people tell me nice things and
all I like approval I’m the first one to
admit it what I don’t do is I don’t need
approval there’s a big difference
between wanting approval and needed when
you need approval it means you become
immobilized when you don’t get it
from making other people’s opinions more
important now for those of you who say
yeah but I want approval and I need it
and if I don’t get it and so on
understand this the people who get the
most approval in life are the ones who
care the least about it and the ones who
get the least approval are the ones who
are always going after so if you want
approval in this paradoxical way that
I’m talking about it stop needing it you
stop concerning yourself over ask
yourself who gets the most approval in
life think of the person that gets the
most approval and you’ll see that that
person couldn’t care less what other
people are thinking they’re so busy
being they don’t have time to notice
what their neighbors are doing the Rose
said that consider if you advance
confidently in the direction of your own
dreams and endeavor to live the life
which you have
you will meet the basic size
unexpected in common hours what that
means is that you can get in life
success is an inner process success is
something that you bring to everything
you do it isn’t something you get out of
what you do and when you get that and
you learn how to get the junk out and
advance confidently doing what makes the
most amount of sense to you based on
your inner signals and the one issue of
morality which is you never interfere
with anybody else’s right to do the same
each person has their own right to
advance confidently in the direction of
their own dreams and when you violate
that you’re violating the principle of
the universe destined for you which is
cooperation harmony then success will
begin to chase you and it will come into
your life
and arise in your life in amounts that
you never dreamt of before that you
never dreamt up things will start
happening to you that you would never
imagined before I’m working on a book
right now that’s gonna be called you’ll
see it when you believe it
when you start believing
in some of these principles you’ll start
seeing things that we were blind so long
when you were back here in the two and
three and the four and the five when you
were moving away from yourself as long
as you’re moving back towards your
Universal essence your harmony with
yourself your cooperation with the rest
things will start happening in ways I
never dreamt of Jung called it
synchronicity and we it’s a term that we
use to explain how unexplainable
coincidences sort of happen in our life
and how come these things have I’m going
to share a couple of those with you
before we leave the the quality versus
appearance in your life means that you
get that inner candle flame working in a
way that gives you quality independent
on what other people think of you Maslow
in defining self actualizing No Limit
people that they are independent of the
good opinion of other people of the glue
to think independently they’re so busy
advancing confidently doing the things
that makes sense and bringing success to
changing their baby’s diapers and
bringing success to weeding their
gardens and bringing it to the job they
bring it on the airplane so that when
they run into somebody who is who is
rude to them a stewardess that is rude
they don’t see it as an attack on them
it’s just where they are and they send
them love help them a little bit they’re
kind but somebody wants to get in on the
freeway and their one old temptation
when they were on the one to the sixth
was to say oh yeah nobody’s getting in
front of me I’m getting there first but
it’s slowed down they don’t have all
that type-a stuff of having to beat
somebody else and having to defeat
somebody it is it’s a new way of being
it’s a way of quality where you’re
harmony allows you to cooperate and you
are a part of what this whole thing is
about
new way of being a quality rather than
appearance another new way of being very
important living your life on ethics
rather than rules ethics rather than
rules all these rules all these ways of
having to do things somebody else
dictates to us do you know that some of
the most immoral acts in the world have
been perpetrated in the name of the
rules these are the laws what do you
think Nazi Germany was all about
everybody doing all these horrible
things to other people I’m only doing my
job was the defense we all heard at
Nuremberg I was just doing my job
if it’s an immoral rule it’s immoral to
obey it and self-actualizing people as
mezzo tells us have rules inside of them
that they could never open never disobey
ever and they have to do with ethics how
you treat people how do you think we get
to where we are now you know who Rosa
Parks was the woman in the south the
black woman in the south and said not
today I’m not going to the back today no
way I know what the rules are the rules
were all over the place if you didn’t
need if you needed a reminder there were
signs everyplace colored in the back
white in the front and she said no I’m
sitting here and that made all the
difference
ethics not rules when your children
start disobeying rules that need to be
disobeyed don’t be surprised when I was
in the service
they had a policy in Guam where I was
stationed which would not allow the
Guamanian civilians to shop in the PX in
the Navy exchanges but they did allow
all other civilians to shop in the Navy
exchanges and vehicles but if you were
Guamanian that is if your skin was dark
and your eyes were saved from the
different then you couldn’t a clear
outright violation I was a service I was
no native the communications have
cryptography they had a newspaper in the
Guam Daily News and it said an
invitation to speak your mind there was
a letter writing contest and they
offered $75 to the first prize winner
$75 this was 1961 that was a fortune to
me that was a month’s pay in the Navy at
that time almost so I entered the
contest and I knew I would win it I had
already written a novel at that time a
whole novel I’d written while I was on
Guam I knew it wasn’t going to be a
contest I felt sorry for the other
people entering I knew I was gonna win
unfortunately I didn’t realize that when
you’re in the service and you have an
opinion and you don’t submit it to the
chain of command that you can be
court-martialed for that so the
headlines on next week’s Guam Daily News
were US sailor
a sales policy of discrimination big hot
stuff all right and I was called before
a Vice Admiral commander naval forces
Marianas Islands and threatened with a
court-martial because I had disobeyed
the rules even though the rule was
immoral there are lots of them like that
and when I went in and they threatened
me with a court-martial I told them this
was my battle plan they didn’t have
Xerox machines in those days so I had to
get a lot of carbon paper I wrote a
letter to the President John F Kennedy
and I wrote a letter to the Secretary of
the Navy and I wrote a letter I was my
hometown was Detroit I wrote a letter to
the Detroit News letter to the Detroit
Free Press telling them what was
happening to me as a result of just
expressing my opinion about an immoral
act that was going on over here on Guam
and I showed the navel vice-admiral my
letters right there but I’ve only sent
the one to the president in the
Secretary of the Navy these letters go
to the newspapers across the country
there’s one there to the New York Times
as well and the Los Angeles town it was
the and I just spread them out before
him I said if you court-martial me
punish me in any way for this then
what’s going to happen is the world is
going to find out about this policy and
I’m prepared I’m ready I can handle it
and I was 20 years old at the time for
21 not only did I get a blessing from
that because all things come in
blessings for you I got out 90 days
early
and they stamped on my record TI because
the president took it up and sent it to
the secretary Muslim and I never heard
from him but I got P I and your record
means political influence and they don’t
like anybody with political influence in
the litter and as soon as they saw that
they said this is somebody we call
giving history there was no book there
was no court-martial and in September of
1962 a brand new policy was initiated on
Guam which allowed any civilian to shop
in the Navy exchanges and it came about
as a result of someone saying these
rules are tomorrow and therefore it’s
immoral to obey them new ways of being
ethics rather than truth and when your
kids want to know why how come these
rules are so stupid how come we have to
do this encourage them to change my
mother always did that she would have to
help me
get out of the out of the messes but I
got myself into it because I did it in
my impetuous youth I was just when they
would say to me what’s more important
your job or school I was just honest at
the top of course that’s how I felt in
those days but what you do put out in
the world
is exactly what’s coming back to you and
if you find things coming back to you
that you don’t like and don’t understand
don’t ask yourself why these things are
coming to you ask yourself what you’re
doing to make them come back to you and
when you start putting the
responsibility on yourself you’ll start
seeing dramatic changes dramatic changes
new way of being
instead of ethic instead of rules ethics
a new another new way of being instead
of looking all your life for
achievements and externals try living
your life on knowledge for the sake of
knowledge knowledge instead of
achievement for the sake of knowledge be
in a in a context in which you don’t
have to collect a lot of merit badges
you don’t have to collect a lot of a lot
of other people
judgements that you go to school you go
out into the world or you read or
whatever you do because it makes sense
to you not because what somebody else is
going to put on a transcript or where
you’re going to appear in a class list
we need to help our children to
understand and value the importance of
knowledge for the sake of knowledge and
doing things that make sense rather than
taking the easy way knowledge rather
than always trying to achieve we’re in
an achievement oriented society which
tells us that we evaluate and judge a
human being based upon how many chief
achievements he has but most of the
people who get caught up in that trap
and are always in this circle trying to
get ahead trying to always get ahead
their reward for that almost always is
higher blood pressure ulcers early death
and even things like cancer we’re
beginning to find out are related to
kinds of stresses that we have and
remember it’s a perfect universe there’s
no stress minute there’s only people’s
thinking stress
and when you put that pressure on
yourself to always achieve and get ahead
of the other guy you miss what it’s
really all about nothing wrong with
goals it’s falling in love with them
that’s the problem it’s not being able
to be flexible and be all to them if you
have a goal to get here to get $100,000
in the bank to get to this promotion to
get to cars in your garage whatever it
is that your goal is and you’re on your
way to that and you’re always working at
that goal all of this stuff on your way
to the goal is called striving and
that’s what you learn striving so it is
a very low level place to be when you
get to your goal because all you’ve ever
known is driving you will just always
suffer from this disease called more you
will just upgrade your goal to $200,000
for cars and to houses and another wife
and a younger one and all of these kinds
of things if you have a goal and you
understand that every step along the way
is the present moment to enjoy and to
live then the goal won’t become any
obsession I don’t
people asking where you’re going to be
five years what are you going to be
doing what’s next for you I just
remember what Lincoln said who to me was
like the greatest person who ever sat in
that White House he said I’ve never had
a policy he said I just tried to do what
made the greatest amount of sense each
and every day of my life as I was not
there at the President of the United and
I think there’s something really
significant in that that you don’t have
to get it all planned out and follow a
certain pattern and do it a certain way
if you just sort of trust your inner
instinct and go with that and live each
moment the gold stuff we’ll all take
care if you’re sacrificing and pushing
your life aside and then buffering on
your way to trying to get someplace
you’ll never get there it will always
elude you because once you get there
you’ll just have to upgrade it and
that’s because that’s all you know
nowness is that purest form of sanity
living in this moment and enjoying it
and all the rest of it will sort of work
its way out another new way of being for
me
is to think of yourself in terms of
personal authority rather than being an
authoritarian personal Authority a
person who has Authority never needs to
dominate anyone else ever dominating
doesn’t become necessary in business you
can have a Thor that people have the
most authority are the ones who listen
the most and the ones who are the most
conscientious about what do other people
have to say a person in a relationship
who have to dominate somebody else has
to make the other person submissive
shows that they don’t have authority
because they’re getting their power not
from within for themselves but on the
basis of who they can control and I’ve
never left the only thing that lasts is
having inner power if you will know
thyself so Shakespeare said know thyself
the more you know yourself the more you
and when you become honest with yourself
honestly becomes just a way of life no I
don’t think the world necessarily does
but you can’t run your world you can’t
run your world based upon what the rest
of the people in the world want or don’t
want to me honesty it’s like it’s a
karma that goes out into the world how
people through you in the world is there
kind of how you react is yours and what
when you react to it with dishonesty
that’s what you’re putting out into the
world dishonesty and when you put this
on honesty out into the world that’s
what’s going to come back to you because
what goes out is what comes back at all
as you sow so shall you reap in every
great institution that there is in the
world whether it’s a religion or
philosophy or whatever what you put out
is what comes back whatever you plant is
what you’re going to get back and the
more that you put out honestly just
because it’s what you are because you
are being honesty you’re not trying to
be on it you’re as being honesty then
that’s what will come back to you
regular basis and when it doesn’t you
just be that as another test for your
path and finally a fifth way of being
that is new for me and because become a
way of life
it’s called serenity
instead of acquisitions the more you try
to acquire the more you try to get the
more you try to collect in your life and
evaluate yourself on the basis of that
the less serenity you’re going to have
more is less it’s almost a secret of the
universe
serenity means inner peace
means that you can find joy in every
moment that you have in your life
instead of like always looking for it it
means that while you are driving along
the countryside you know and seeing
instead of saying our business I’m on my
way to this point and you can open your
eyes and see it with new eyes see see
the rolling mountains see the grass
these are deer see the skies you can
just stop wherever you are in this
second wherever you are and just look
around you and you can begin to
appreciate just your and your
surroundings in your environment then
you can begin to appreciate the people
that are in your life and even the ones
that are negative and you’re having the
most difficulty with you can practice a
new way of being with them which is
sending them love letting them flowers
and then book l’anima take send them
something and just see what kind of
reaction that you get super emotional
health it’s just an attitude an attitude
is everything
I want to love summarize these new ways
of being again give you the most
important ingredient on the path as we
leave I said that the quality in your
life to be focusing on president
appearances and ethics president rule
planet’s knowledge rather than
achievement Auditor
and it’s being personally on board here
yourself rather than authoritarian and
trying to be downloaded dominating
someone else or to be dominated and
serenity which is the name of my little
girl my youngest daughter Serena rather
than acquisitions and accumulations and
trying to prove yourself that way when
you get that serenity which comes from
the way that you think always then you
will replace all of the other junk that
keeps you back here between six and one
on that clock and once you pass it once
you get past it you’ll never ever be
able to go back because the light living
in the light is a way of a way of being
that if you’re not there you don’t get
it yet but once you see it and once it
begins to and take over your life you
can never go back to that is your
it isn’t your purpose isn’t to try to be
loving your purpose is to be loved and
only have that to give away well but
there’s one other ingredient and its
really gruesome forgiveness is the vital
ingredient on the path of enlightenment
and if you don’t know how to do it and
practice sending out love take the
person or the people that you’re having
conflict with any place in your life
send them something you don’t have to
even do it physically just send them
something that comes from inside and
what’s inside is how you choose to think
and if you can make that love and do
that and that is to me the test not
whether you can love someone when they
smell good when they do everything that
you’re supposed but whether you could
love someone who has sent you hate or
anguish in your life and send it back
you don’t have to forget you don’t have
to go back
but you better get it out of here
because it is blocking you and holding
you back and when I said you’ll see it
when you believe it all my life I had
wanted to write fiction a parable three
four years ago I decided to go off to
Hawaii to Maui to kind of poly beach and
to write now the books that had met the
most difference in my life were a little
prince candied Siddhartha Jonathan
Livingston Seagull illusions Alice
Through the Looking Glass Gulliver’s
Travels parables teaching parables
stories that can tell a message I went
over to Molly and I sat down on the
beach and I’ve been talking about
writing this I’ve been talking about
doing this and it was something that I
have a little girl and her name is Skye
SK why I decided to reverse the letters
in her name
ey k s
and when I am
my keys I just created this parable of a
woman whose name is I guess who lives on
another planet the planet is Uranus and
it’s a duplicate mirror image of Earth
only hikers can only see things as they
are not as we would like them to be and
therefore people are neurotic on Uranus
because they have to be he gives the
anxiety attack report because I excited
he really does attack over there and
tell us about anxiety coming another
weekend while my visitor in my parable
goes to Uranus meets I guess she cannot
understand as he describes earth why
people would be neurotic my choice on
earth why would anybody be unhappy or
depressed or miserable when they don’t
have one anxiety doesn’t attack and when
elevators really don’t scare you and
when if you want to complex on the
Iranian so you want to give a complex to
your wife you go to the store and buy
one this is what happened well my
husband gave me a complex one it’s two
whereas on earth if you have a complex
it’s because you’ve chosen to have one
she can’t figure it out okay cuz he
comes here observes our people and
begins to see the secrets of the
universe and gives us talks to the top
leaders in our field and that was my
parable and I wrote it it gives all of
these wonderful secrets some of which
I’ve been talking about here today what
I want to tell you is that my wife gave
me a license plate and the license plate
says I kiss okay it’s a vanity plate and
I was pumping gas on federal highway in
Fort Lauderdale Florida and a little man
from the grease came up to me and he
said but means this ftas which is how
you say that in Greek and I said well
that’s just a word it’s my daughter’s
name spelled backwards it’s a parable
that I wrote
he’s been in Greek that’s a word
so what could that be he said it means
best wishes
you’ll see it when you believe a great
big erroneously on the cosmic erroneous
and to get this one you’ll have it and
understand it all
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