I’m gonna talk to you about some things
I’ve learned in my journey most from
experience some of them I heard in
passing many of them I’m still
practicing but all of them I do believe
our truth life is not easy it is not
don’t try to make it that way
life’s not fair never was it isn’t now
and it won’t ever be do not fall into
the trap the entitlement trap a feeling
like you’re a victim you are not get
so the question that we gotta ask
ourselves is what success is to us what
success is to you is it more money
that’s fine I got nothing against money
maybe it’s a healthy family maybe it’s a
happy marriage maybe it’s to help others
to be famous to be spiritually sound
leave the world a little bit better
place than you found it continue to ask
yourself that question now your answer
may change over time and that’s fine but
do yourself this favor whatever your
answer is don’t choose anything that
will jeopardize yourself prioritize who
you are who you want to be and don’t
spend time with anything that
be brave take the hill but first answer
that question what’s my hill so first we
have to define success for ourselves and
then we have to put in the work to
maintain take that daily tally tend our
guard keep the things that are important
to us in good shape where you are not is
as important as where you are and it’s
just as important where we are not as it
is where we are look the first step that
leads to our identity in life is usually
not I Know Who I am I Know Who I am
that’s not the first step the first
steps usually I Know Who I am not
process of elimination
defining ourselves by what we are not is
the first step that leads us to really
knowing who we are you know that group
of friends that you hang out with and
they’re the it really might not bring
out the best in you you know they they
gossip too much or they kind of shady
you really aren’t gonna be there for you
in a pinch or how about that bar that we
keep going to that we always seem to
have the worst hangover from or that
computer screen right the computer
screen that keeps giving us an excuse
not to get out of the house and engage
with the world and get some real human
interaction how about that food that
would keep eating stuff to taste so good
going down it makes us feel like crap
the next week we feel lethargic we keep
putting on weight
well those people those places those
things stop giving them your time and
energy just don’t go there I mean put
them down and when you do this when you
do put them down when you quit going
there and you quit giving them your time
you inadvertently find yourself spending
more time and in more places that are
healthy for you that bring you more
jewelry
why because you just eliminated the
who’s the where is the ones in the winds
that were keeping you from your identity
but trust me too many options I promise
that too many options will make a tyrant
of us all right so get rid of the excess
the wasted time decrease your options if
you do this you will have accidentally
almost innocent put in front of you what
now one who we are is hard
it’s hard give yourself a break
eliminate who you are not first they’re
gonna find yourself we may be
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instead of creating outcomes to take
from us let’s create more outcomes that
pay us back fill us up keep your fire
lit turn you on for the most amount of
time in your future we try our best we
don’t always do our best architecture is
a verb as well since we are the
architects of our own lives let’s study
the habits the practices the routines
that we have that lead to and feed our
success our joy our honest paint our
laughter our own tears let’s dissect
that and give thanks for those things
and when we do that guess what happens
we get better at them and we have more
to dissect be discerning choose it
because you want it do it because you
want to we’re gonna make mistakes
you got an owner then you got to make a
mint and then you got to move on guilt
and regret kills many a man before their
time so turn the page get off the ride
you are the author of the book of your
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