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Motivation vs Determination | Jamie Douraghy | TEDxCulverCitySalon


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apparently I was at boarding school in

England and this is what they hope I

turn into the reality was a little

different if you look to the far right

that’s me with the red circle that was

reality of boarding school in England

there’s more like Lord of the Flies than

gentlemen’s tennis you have three sports

every year to choose to play it’s

football cricket and field hockey so

doing what they call spring term and

spring is January through March you can

imagine springtime in London cold rain

cold fog cold mud it’s not very springy

we were told to go out and play field

hockey so we did I played it a couple

times and I thought I was getting into

this this is the reality of field hockey

in England needless to say I wasn’t very

motivated to stay out very long so I

took up fencing not this kind this kind

and I’ll come back to it and it’s

interesting story i fenced here 20 years

ago at the Helms Olympic bakery so it’s

very easy to come back full circle here

and be here in this wonderful place so

for me fencing is my constant to say

it’s a central and focal point of my

life and it’s something that I’ve always

been very determined to do and a little

bit about what I’ve learned as a leader

between motivation and determination for

me largely motivation is a state of mind

its emotive and expressive that’s why

you’ve got great motivational speakers

right all those posters I googled

motivational speaking and all this came

up determination is something internal

and deeply personal haven’t heard of a

determination on speaker yet but maybe

someday somebody will create one I want

to share a quote that I found very

useful from John Lewis in his book

walking with the wind some people like

firecrackers kind of that that

motivational type they come in to make a

lot of noise and they leave a lot of

ashes John Lewis went on to say I prefer

a pilot light it’s nothing fancy but

when it’s on it’s always lit it doesn’t

go out

so that really resonated with me and I

researched a little bit more about John

Lewis and I found two very moving

pictures from him here he is in 1965 at

the front of the march to Selma for a

cause he believes in and here he is 51

years later sitting in for a cause he

believes in imagine what his pilot light

is like and how that still burns

brightly and inspires others we all have

that inside of us I’m going to share

another story coming back to the fencing

world and this is a person person who I

compete with continuously we trained

together Gerrard Moreno and Gerrard was

a high school standout athletes in 1981

while he was protecting his family from

a robbery he was shot point-blank in the

chest

when Gerrard woke up later he realized

that he was paralyzed from the waist

down and part of his right lung was

missing after I can only imagine was a

very dark and lonely time Sherrod

decided to live his life on his own

terms

he started downhill skiing downhill

racing scuba diving he rediscovered the

sport of fencing started his own company

and launched a nonprofit to help

wheelchair athletes get more exposure

determination this is where I trained

laif see this is we move to the west

side once this place closed down you can

see it’s a big club lots of space lots

of strips to choose from I can pretty

much offense wherever I want if one air

is crowded I go to the other side this

is where Gerrard trains and trains and

trains Gerrard changed so much that it

took him to four Paralympic Games and

five World Championships what I learned

from Gerrard is that the right kind of

motivation will strengthen your

determination so as a result of changing

with Gerrard I set my mind that I’m

going to compete at the veteran World

Championships first I have to make the

team so in addition to fencing I also

run and then when I turned 40 I ran a

marathon great feeling and I don’t know

if it was the lack of oxygen or

something got to my brain I just said

I’m going to

ten before I turned 50 I was very

motivated to do that after I ran my

seventh and crossing that finish line

with both my brothers and having our

parents welcomed us with this sign my

father’s very clever with words you’ll

see and that desire was gone

III no longer want to run marathons I

said this was a moment it’s not gonna

get any better than this I stopped so

what’s next go back to fencing

I found that discovering an inner drive

and matching it with real-world

activities and requires time and

commitment and I wasn’t putting the time

and commitment to run marathons and I

want to go back to something that I was

I was good at go back and play to my

strengths so as part of a plan and part

of chaining with Gerard was basically

with a national championship on route to

getting to the World Championship and

it’s a little fuzzy there bad scam but

anyway that was my plan one of several

plans a year over year I put together

I’m injured here I’m healthy here this

works this doesn’t work and I just I

just kept at it every year what I

learned is that you have to set your

intent you have to know what motivates

you you have to understand your

determination know why you’re doing it

in the first place

and then for me the link between the two

is discipline this opinion is your link

between motivation and determination

because again discipline is emotional

and determination is a set of mind if

you set your mind to it then you can

move forward these are the three things

I can control every morning when I get

up my mindset my energy and the time

that I get up so that was part of my

plan I went from getting up at 7:00 in

the morning to 5:30 in the morning

day after day month after month maybe

not on Sundays I built a support team

I became accountable to this support

team and I shared my progress so my

support team considered my mentor sports

doctor my coach Okawa like care for him

greatly great man

my fencing club the CEO group I belong

to my family and my spouse I said my a

lot because I own the experience it was

my ownership I’m a

accountable to these people and talking

about motivation determination I just

want to give a quick shout out to the

American sensors that are going to Rio

next week imagine putting everything on

hold for one day

that’s determination that’s motivation

that’s accountability and I just want to

wish them the best and I’m actually

going there to watch them fence in a

couple of days so one of those items

that if you’re determined go and support

people that take you along their journey

with them so for me it took a few more

than it took more than a few attempts to

to get to this national championship

from 2009 to 2014 I went to every single

major tournament for the over 50 I fence

in every single national championship I

went from a low of 17 to a high of

second a couple of times and my pilot

light was on I just kept going I just

kept going I was determined what the

lessons learned was basically accept and

grow from your losses be determined just

as determined the next time because for

as long as you’re in there game in the

game there’s always the next time so

it’s July 1st 2015

I’ve made it to the gold medal bout it’s

a big opponent he had just taken fifth

in the World Championships where I had

flamed out and taken 33rd and that World

Championships that year and that gold

medal bout in fencing you go to ten

touches so I’m up for two two I blink

I’m down six four at the break I’m down

86 so coach comes over says what’s going

on where’s your mindset I that

motivation was leaving me and I felt

okay this is the time to come determined

I’m gonna be determined more than

motivated I tied the score at eight all

he went up nine eight and I said this is

it this is that moment that we all look

for it’s not the Olympics it’s the over

50 national championships it’s 10:30 at

night we start at 4:00 in the afternoon

it’s probably 20 people watching us but

it’s that moment that mattered we’ve all

been there right so what happened next

was I launched an attack at the attacker

because I knew he’s an aggressive fencer

he’s bigger than me tied the score up at

here’s the final touch it was over

Demitri me back needle dancing lesson

for me next time but that’s all that

mattered was that moment ten nine

I was national championship champion

finally what did I learn from that

experience celebrate your wins and build

on your wins good feeling huh not the

same tournament but a great feeling and

since there Nike shoes I think it’s got

to be the shoes so basically build on

your wins express gratitude recognize

and thank those who have been with you

along the journey when you’re motivated

others are along for the ride when

you’re determined they share the journey

with you so the next year my parents we

were in Hungary and there was my brother

again and my wife took the picture she’s

a great photographer that’s why she’s

not in there in everything and we shared

that journey together too in Hungary

just a special moment so bring others

along the journey with you and lastly

imagine where the road less traveled

will take you when you are determined

and have the discipline thank you very much

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