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How to live life on your terms – a framework for mastery | Vince Fowler | TEDxCanmore


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imagine that someone gives you the

opportunity to live anywhere in the

world anywhere anywhere in nature

anywhere in the wild where would it be

would it be rainforest Costa Rica

what about African plains how about

somewhere near water like big beautiful

lake or the ocean or remote island or

maybe our very own pristine Rocky

Mountains if you were given that

opportunity would you go for it the

second question is if you have no

experience living in the wild you’ve

never lit in a fire you have no

experience working with predatory

wildlife would you dare before you take

this adventure and let’s be clear I’m

not talking about how to survive out

there I’m talking about how to thrive to

live to pursue your passion to get paid

to live life on your terms so barring

any predatory wildlife are you are you

going to do any education at all are you

gonna read a book are you gonna take a

course are you gonna are you going to

seek out advice from people who’ve

already been there and done that are you

gonna watch the Discovery Channel when I

was a young boy I used to go up to my

aunt and uncle’s farm it was really

remote it’s about 200 kilometres from

the nearest hospital and we were just

plunked in the middle nowhere Polly

first neighbor was about we would talk

two miles back then it was five miles

away

my cousins I was seven and we would go

riding on her horses and chase invisible

bad guys cuz we were Texas Rangers we

were heavily influenced by John Wayne

movies so we run we’re on our horses

were chasing bad guys I’m building

spears were throwing them at squirrels

we didn’t get a single one we went

hungry but we had a lot of fun doing it

and it was I mean it was so much fun to

be out there and I always thought what

would it be like to always be here then

I joined the army I’m 19 I’m airborne

I’m infantry I jump out of planes I get

to pick fights with bad guys I get to

build forts in the forest and I

eventually got deployed overseas to

Somalia Africa big Civil War and we

arrived it was like the Wild West there

was no government we got shot at we did

patrol after patrol probably in the

first 90 days my platoon alone did over

300 patrols we worked with the local

authorities to improve security to make

things a lot safer so we could allow our

engineers to rebuild schools to rebuild

roads build a medical clinic and other

infrastructure and largely we were very

successful at that and so when I left

the military oh man I thought this this

um I thought this wild journey was gonna

be over and outside of rugby like Timmy

rugby’s an 80-minute section attack it’s

an 80-minute car accident and it’s fun

but outside of rugby my life was it was

it was fine it was fine it was the big

f-word it was fine but it didn’t have

the same adrenaline I thought I will I

ever experienced that again

until I went into business for myself TV

movies they glamorize how exciting

business is and there’s just a land that

15 years after the military I think I’m

doing a bit of a reset in my life think

okay I’ve been in the military I played

a lot of rugby I’m good at that sales

and marketing I’m good at that I could

be a business coach how hard could that

be

right pretty easy stuff I go to get a

couple certifications and I learn all

the things you would imagine I would

learn I would learn balance sheets and I

would learn income statements in

spreadsheets Excel spreadsheets I love

spreadsheets and I would learn marketing

and how it led to sales and I would

learn I would learn about efficiencies

and I would learn about activity

management and it was exciting and I I

remember I started working immediately

with the clients and I had all these

different clients in different

industries and trades and well then gas

and here and here in hearing I was I was

starting to recognize a couple things

one the people buy or build or grow or

whatever they but they go into business

for a lot of reasons that you could

imagine but probably the most number one

to me was that they wanted to live life

on their terms

you know what are if you’re gonna go

into business for yourself what are

those terms where you gonna live

what you gonna Drive are you gonna live

in Canmore you’re gonna live somewhere

else are you gonna live in the big city

are you gonna what are you gonna sell

what are you gonna grow what are you

gonna what is it your terms what

difference are you gonna make what

changes are you gonna make and they want

to they want to live on those terms and

then the other thing I noticed is they

started you know because I’m standing in

front of multiple clients a day multiple

clients a week week after week month

after month I started noticing a very

familiar behavior that is this we as

business owners we as entrepreneurs we

will focus heavily on a shiny object and

opportunity will also experience a great

deal amount of stress and anxiety when

there’s that feeling of lost I’ll come

back to the opportunity but during that

feeling of lost I’ve been lost before in

the military we get lost actually we

will never admit that we’re lost we are

geographically embarrassed but we get

lost and the first thing we do when we

get lost is we pull in our map we pull

up your compass we orientate it to the

ground we reverse engineer a couple

bearings and we find ourself and we what

I would call we triangulate ourself and

somewhere inside that feeling of loss we

know we’re inside that triangle and so

in times of this anxiety and lost the

client is looking for a certain amount

of clarity right we gotta know where we

are what’s the next step and in the

military we want clarity where are we

and there’s this mission that has

purpose and so we look for this purpose

clarity and purpose and in the military

of course we continue to execute clarity

purpose execute I’m sitting front of

these business owners and I’m handling

all these fires all the time clarity

purpose execute clarity purpose execute

clarity purpose execute over and over

and over again like we did this all the

time in the military but here’s the

difference between entrepreneurs and the

military is that I pay attention to the

result as soon as we execute there’s

always a result it’s big it’s small it’s

happy it’s sad sometimes zero is the

result and zero still result

but they weren’t paying attention to the

result second they weren’t tracking that

relevant data the relevant numbers the

widgets the time the people the money to

do geography you know widgets are your

products and your services the time is

easy how much time did it take us to do

this how much time do we need to ramp up

to do that the money the money that’s

remember the people not just your

customers but your staff your vendors

your relationships inside your your

circle of influence the people that you

can reach out to when you’re stuck and

you’re tired and you’re frustrated I was

gonna say pissed off but I don’t know if

I’m allowed to say pissed off here so we

got to pay attention that relevant data

the other thing is though is we got to

invest a little bit more planning what

would happen if we planned Abraham

Lincoln we’re having coffee last week

and he said to me he says you know if I

had eight hours to chop down a tree

Vince I’d spend the first six sharpening

the saw it makes sense you know to be

deployed overseas my unit trained

planned for four months for a six-month

deployment today they trained nine

months to a year for a six-month

deployment in business just think of how

much time is invested in planning and

let’s just let’s just take business out

of it for a second my wife and I we go

on a holiday 2007 we always wanted to

hike the West Coast Trail and so we we

start planning ten months out West Coast

Trail it’s a seven-day six-night two

days on the front end two days on the

back end for travel so that’s that’s

that’s the time that’s the relevant data

we spend ten months for that what are we

gonna pack we’re gonna pack it out of my

army rucksack uncomfortable too heavy so

we go by these beautiful packs they’re

nice and light we well what are we gonna

cook it in it can’t cook out of a

cast-iron pan that’s silly cuz it’s

self-sustaining along the way you carry

it in you carry it out and it’s seven

days so oh man we’ve the equipment the

food how much food for seven days and

how many jujubes do I need how much

turkey holy crap does jerky ever weigh a

lot and we to pet to to a liter of water

is two pounds and this matters and so in

the end we got it down my wife is gonna

carry 40 pounds I’m gonna pick carry 60

pounds two months so bingo donita’s

once again something that would’ve been

valuable yesterday so we go to the

doctor

hi Google like I find nothing about

pregnant women going anywhere well I

mean the West Coast Trail for example

I’m not saying they don’t do other

things I’m saying so the doctor says she

can’t carry more than 20 pounds think

can be around the waist all right fine

we’re not canceling this

mission-oriented there’s a purpose for

this trail we’re gonna put our marriage

and keep it tight so we go she’s

carrying 20 I’m carrying 80 10 months

planning for a seven-day walk the next

thing is a debrief in the army we

debrief everything from the length of a

tour what happens on on deployment to

the what toilet paper is the best in the

middle of the night when it rains even a

10k 15k run hey how are your feet got

any hot spots you are you got any

blisters those shoes aren’t gonna work

we’re gonna be running 22 more you

better get new shoes heels no you know

like we debrief absolutely everything

and the amount of debrief that I see in

business owners and entrepreneurs it’s

not enough it doesn’t take long it’s

just a couple questions just think about

your day today if you could live today

all over again what would you do

different so you do what would you do

different what mistakes were made what

would we do different what mistakes were

made what lessons did we learn check if

there’s any relevant data let’s Park it

over here great guess what we have more

clarity the next time we do this we know

we know way more than we ever did when

we started but what I see is this

clarity purpose execute clary purpose

execute clarity purpose execute and I’m

saying stop take a pause so I built this

lovely map called the framework for

mastery purpose relevant data plan

execute result and debrief and I said

great does that make sense and they said

yes and then they didn’t execute have

you ever been with anybody who they

apparently know okay you know you have

to raise prices yes check you know why

you have to raise prices yes check great

execute oh I’m afraid

you know what that is story there is

this goddamn story in our head that

tells us that it’s not going to work and

that was the problem with all the

coaching that ever received no one told

everyone gave me mechanics spreadsheets

and this and that strategy but I find

it’s largely story that stands in

people’s way when I started coaching I

was awesome

I was really awesome I signed all these

clients i banked the highest client I

did this I did that and in nine months

it all fricking disappeared none of my

clients were around except for one he

was a friend and he couldn’t pay I’m

like what the hell were you thinking

there’s the story right chirping at me

chirping at me if I could see him I

would give him and it would chirp at me

acid Vince you are you kidding yourself

who thinks you can be a coach you don’t

you got high school then you were a

grunt you you did some sales you sold

some photocopies Whoopi who wants to buy

one of those on a Friday no one like you

don’t even have a diploma you don’t even

have our work you’ve never been taking a

workshop on Finance you got a few days

on this business coach thing Vince

you’re a fraud man my story told me I

was a fraud that I was unworthy of

working with no one’s gonna choose me

you know in athletics you wouldn’t dare

play in a professional sports team that

did not have a sports psychologist on

staff you wouldn’t go to the Olympics

without having access to a sports

psychologist and thankfully when I

played rugby here I went out of my way

to visit a sports psychologist and I got

a lot of head trash out so I could play

the game better and that’s what I did

for me I invested in some psychology

some psychotherapy and I and I revisit

that couple times a year in the

beginning it was a lie there was this

like a lot there’s a lot but

but I knew what I wanted to do there was

purpose and what if I looked at this is

my business I knew I wanted to be a

coach I knew why I wanted to be a coach

I want to help people live life on their

terms but my story said no so I saw this

psychologist you know what’s interesting

in athletics we see we see sports

psychology as an asset and then

certainly in small business not

necessarily in big business guess what

we see psychology as a weakness what’s

wrong with me I suggest to a client hey

we got some challenges we should go see

a psychologist why what’s wrong thing

nothing you’re great I just want you to

be better there’s always a better

version of ourself this story you know a

lot of people say well if it’s not

perfect I’m not gonna do it I get it if

it’s life like there’s this saying has

anybody heard of that saying you know

that’s saying come on who’s heard that

saying before failure is not an option

you know that one that makes sense in

the Army policing medical safety

industry and anywhere else that life is

at risk it does not make sense in

entrepreneurship

I eat failure for breakfast that’s the

new mantra just get over it execute in

spite of failure because it’s the only

way to get around the block it’s only

way you learn new things I get that this

is messy there’s all these moving parts

clarity purpose numbers plans story

execute you know data in it and I’m not

saying go faster I’m just saying slow

down take a breath make sure that

intentionally consciously intentionally

look hey something’s not working right

let’s regain hit the pause button look

for clarity do we know why do we know

what success looks like do we know why

we’re doing this what relevant data any

data matters let’s make sure we look at

it next time invest the next five

seconds in planning anything check your

story you know cold-calling is dead

right who agrees cold-calling is dead

story who thinks cold-calling works

great story it can be good or bad I get

that this is messy business is messy

life is messy and if it’s not that

person is not trying hard enough I get

that this is oversimplified can I just

tell you that simple gets done you don’t

move an entire military division from

one continent to another if it’s not

simple from private to general and on up

simple gets done simple game plans get

executed people win Super Bowls the

business that are succeeding are the

ones that keep it simple your business

your life your career is a vehicle to

live life on your terms and I submit

that this simple little circle of

mastery helps you get there faster it’s

not a map there’s a there’s a ton of

work here

everything has lots of work and there’s

gonna be lots of mistakes but if you’re

not going to build a business to live

life on your terms and why are you doing

in the first place it’s a pain in the

ass if you don’t thank you [Applause]

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